My first solo podcast! - How I practice getting out of my own way.

In this episode I practice what I preach and step out of my own comfort zone to record my first-solo podcast. 

I speak about the fears that held me back, the years she spent waiting for the “perfect moment,” and the transformative power of taking small, consistent steps toward the life you want. I speak about how our nervous system often confuses growth with danger, why discomfort is actually valuable data, and how self‑leadership is built through tiny daily reps,  not giant leaps.

This episode is an invitation to meet your own edge, choose courage over comfort, and take one small action today that moves you closer to the version of yourself you want to become.

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Transcript

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Hello and welcome to the Tune in podcast. I'm your host, Kavita Golia, and today is actually the first time I'm recording my solo podcast. All honesty, I've been wanting to do this for quite a while, and although I'm always teaching people to come out their comfort zones and something that I really do, do now and face the fear, this has been something that's been quite edgy for me. Of course I've had my podcast with other people and done lots of talks and trainings, but this is something that's new and that's what I want to speak about today. So again, this is me pushing out my comfort zone and I have to say I'm completely just free sty this and seeing what comes up. And. I really want to share my story, and I hope that it really just inspires you and encourages you because I spent so many years waiting for things to be perfect before I did them. I didn't come from a, you know, just like a typical corporate background like a lot of people in the wellbeing industry did, and I had a lot of the time when I didn't really have. Confidence in myself. It was a lot of self doubt, and I went through quite, oh, a real, really intense journey actually, from my first yoga teacher training in 2015 to really coming back to myself because I spent so many years of my life partying. Hard, um, and completely just connect disconnected from my body. Not that I even knew that at the time because I thought I was having a great time and like I was living life and I was in a way, but I wasn't really living life from the fullness and from the authenticity of who I really was as a person. And this is what I really try to. Lean into every single day. Now, there's one thing that I love doing now, which is leaning into these edges, and the reason being is because I know, I know that every single time something feels scary, I am growing. And today it's felt scary. I, I procrastinated for days, uh, had all the equipment out and um, I was like, oh, I really need to do this. And I promised myself I would make sure I did it today. So that is just really me encouraging you to make that move. Okay. Because if you are in a place in your life, even if you feel that. You have so much. You know, I'm feel so lucky. I have an amazing husband. I have a beautiful family and friends, and I love my job. I love where I live, and so many people have less than that. So we can fall into the trap of being like, okay, well other people have got it way worse than me. I, I will settle with this, but I really want you to ask yourself. Is this all there is? Is there anything else? Is there any more liveliness? Is there any more of you that you can bring into this one life that we have? Right? This one life. And it goes so fast and we get so caught up with getting things right and waiting for things are perfect and before we know it, years can go by and I did this for years and I don't want to be. I don't really like saying, oh, I wish I did this, because I know that the version of me who made the decisions that she did and the version of me, he didn't get out of her own way, and the version of me who waited for everything to be perfect was a version that was doing the best you knew with what she had. Okay, I didn't know any better. Better then. When we look back and you know, hindsight is a beautiful thing, we can then say, oh, okay, this is how I would do things differently if I knew then what I know now. But that's where I come in and this is why I'm doing this work. Because if anything, I just want to share my story, share my journey so that it hopefully inspires you and gives you confidence to do that thing because. Discomfort shouldn't be something that makes you stop. It's a signal that sometimes a nervous system, a nervous system that looks after us and is doing its job so, so well to look after you and make sure that you are not in danger. It does an amazing job, but sometimes a nervous system can't tell the difference between what's dangerous for you and what is growth, because growth feels dangerous. It feels like a threat to our nervous system. So whenever we feel that fear or that flutter in our bellies before we do something new, and that can be that same feelings, excitement. We label it as fear. It's something real is happening and our comfort zone either expands or it's going to contract. And let's be honest, we don't want our comfort zone to contract. We want to allow it to expand and we need to learn and we need to train it. It's like a muscle to expand. So if we are not pushing now, it doesn't have to be a huge push. It could be one small thing every day, and this is something that I really love doing, whether it's your health, whether it's your body, whether it's your, you know, your dream, or your work or your relationships. Find that one thing that. It might feel really small, but something that's going to expand your comfort zone. Something that's going to help your nervous system learn that, okay, we can go there. Because every time you avoid something, rather than expanding, that wall moves in a little. And honestly, that really ends up being. A slow, invisible loss. And a lot of the time we are not actually scared of the failure, right? And by the way, I say failure, there isn't failure. We learn from every single experience, and this is why I'm really passionate about failing fast. You know, if you keep failing, you're like, okay, I learned from that and we are just accelerating our growth. But I digress. A lot of the time we're not scared of actually failing. We're scared of how we feel when we fail, and that's because it can cause shame. We can feel a bit shit about ourselves. We can, you know, it's our identity as well, right? It can affect our self identity. But if you really think about it, what is the worst case scenario? You might feel embarrassment, you might feel a little low, but you are going to survive this. Okay? So I spent so many years being a perfectionist and having a lot of self-doubt. Probably not best combination, and I did all of these courses save your course junkie. Just feeling like, okay, when I've done that, I'll feel better when I've done that. I'll feel better when I've done that. Then I'll be more credible when I've done that, then people will trust me more. And when I go back now through all of my trainings, they're absolute gold. And a lot of the time at the, at the time, I wasn't really using them. You know, I was scared of going out there and not looking like I had all of my shit together. I was scared of doing practice coaching calls because I wouldn't know what I, I was doing. And now I put my courses out there, I put my, you know, everything that I offer out there and I co-create, which is such a beautiful process. And yes, it's not perfect straight away, but. It's co-created and then I improve it, and then I tweak and I improve, and I tweak. I could not do that if I didn't put it out there first. Okay. Waiting to until you are ready is basically just staying still, right? I had that feeling today. And as I'm speaking, I'm completely like, okay, I'm just gonna put this out there. And because I feel that I want to lean into my authenticity. And I also, to be fair, I don't think people really want all the polished stuff anymore. We are human. We wanna feel and hear and experience and share the actual. Experience of being human. We fall, you know, to our level of preparation sometimes, and sometimes we're not prepared. Of course I do prepare, but sometimes we're not fully prepared, right? Because we are gonna feel the discomfort and we procrastinate with that. And it is sometimes courageous to, you know, well, not, sometimes it is courageous to take that step and do that thing, but the real courage and the real confidence is going to be built in a small daily reps, right? Just like, just like a muscle choosing that slightly harder thing. And even if it's a 0.5%, even if it's a 1% harder, it's still movement. And I really want to share that as well because it doesn't have to be these huge jumps. I promise you and I have learned this, the slow and the hard way, that it's the tiniest little things that compound over days and weeks and months and years. And do you know what other people aren't as worried about you as you think you are. Other people have got busy lives. They're probably not judging you as much as you think they are. We always overestimate how much others notice and care about, you know, our stumbles and our mistakes. I can guarantee, okay, so say for example, I put an Instagram post up today. I used to be really like perfectionist and I noticed that, you know, I said two twice. Do I think that somebody is sitting there? They might have noticed it. I notice it in other people sometimes. And. I was like, I really don't think that anyone's going to be sitting there dwelling on the fact that I put two twice, let's be honest. So I left it. It's gonna go down the, down the scroll. It's, it is gonna be forgotten whether, it doesn't matter. People are too busy worrying about themselves than worrying about us. So every single person is unique. Okay. We all have very different nervous systems just because of the way that it's formed as we grow up and our childhood experiences and the way that it shapes through that. So we are all very unique. There isn't a, just one thing I can say to everybody in with the lens of how your nervous system works. Everybody will have different, the ways that they self-sabotage. And as I mentioned before, mine was perfectionism and self-doubt. But have you seen those, that meme when it's at the universe and that you are there? This is you. If you think about the world and you think about everything that's happening, you think about the universe and here's us worrying about. If someone's going to think that something doesn't sound right or if we do, if we have a spelling mistake. So this is discomfort that we sometimes have, a lot of the time we have isn't danger. It's amazing data and never wait until you are ready because. I promise you, you are never gonna be ready. There's never gonna be the right time. There'll probably be a better time, but there's never going to be the perfect time. Always, always start with the beginner's mind, your beginner with something new. And that's absolutely fine. And. Another example today I was in the gym and there was obviously like a new trainer, bless him. He was, quite young, really nervous. I feel that he might have just been put on the spot and one, one of the trainers was like, this is your chance. Let's put you doing this circuits class. And he felt, he was so nervous. And I just remember looking at him thinking, oh wow. And I, I made sure I acknowledge him afterwards'cause I know what it's like. When I first, I wasn't a yoga teacher per se, but when I was doing talks or teaching a class or doing my first workshops and I wanted to acknowledge him and say thank you, because sometimes when people leave a class or they leave a talk, you're oh my gosh, did anybody enjoy it? No one said anything. I, everyone hated it. You start going in your head, and I thought to myself. Do you know what? It's a perfect example. He's just been thrown in the deep end and I thought to myself in a few years time, if he keeps doing that and he doesn't get scared and he doesn't, shrink, then he's going to be so confident and I'd so love to see. What he's like in two or three years time, I can, and there's two choices there, right? You are either gonna shrink or he is gonna hide and not do it anymore and wait until he's better. How are you gonna do check if you're better? How are you going to do that if you're not practicing or he's gonna just harness. Those, take those opportunities and roll with it and be really good in a couple of years time or less than that. So getting out of your own way is a practice. It's not a one-time event. So my invitation to you is think about. The one thing that you really, it could be anything. It could be learning an instrument, it could be sport, it could be work, it could be relationship, absolutely anything. And just feel into where you want to be and try not to think about the end result. Okay? Because that's when you're gonna get scared. That's when you're gonna start thinking, how am I gonna get from here to there? But just think of one thing that you can do today, one thing to move you closer to your goal, and then the next day. And then the next day, and just look back even in a month's time if you do that, how much you have grown. And that's going to give you the confidence that's going to give you the momentum and that's going to exercise that muscle. And not just that, it's gonna really start to. Help you anchor into your self-leadership, because nobody else can do this for you. You can be guided, you can have mentors, you can have coaches, but it's you and only you who's going to really change your life. Only you, and I speak about this a lot, about self-leadership because it's something that I really had to learn the hard way. I couldn't lead. I could lead myself to. To party lead myself to being with lots of people'cause I couldn't be with myself. Now I'm so proud of how far I've come and it's been a long road. But if was anything that you take away today, and I'm just gonna say by the way, that I'm really enjoying, I, I thought I was gonna get stuck with what to say and yeah, it's not perfect. But I want you to be here on this journey with me. This is about community. This is about me also growing in front of you, growing with my community, and we are all human. So I will leave with you with that today. Think of just one way that you can move yourself out, your comfort zone, something where you feel in your body. That feels edgy, that feels a little bit scary. And do that one thing. Maybe try it over the next few days, next few weeks, and yeah, just connect with me. I'm on Instagram at Cat golia. I'll have my info on this podcast. I have a monthly. Masterclass at Art of Self Leadership and Courses. But yeah, I would love for you to connect with me and let me know what you've been doing, what your plans are, what your goals are, and if there's anything that really resonated with you today. And thank you for being here at the point where I really push myself out of my comfort zone and meet my edge. Thank you for being here.