Divorce & Everything In Between
A podcast by coach and author Carla Da Costa for women who are separated and divorced where we get real about the healing and self-reflection journey that happens after a long-term relationship ends and the real self-empowerment journey that lies ahead.
Divorce & Everything In Between
EP 48: Why Strong Women Often Attract Takers In Relationships
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In this episode, I unpack a relationship dynamic I see repeatedly in my coaching: the over-functioner and the taker.
In this episode, I talk about:
- Why over-functioners and under-functioners can be so attracted to each other.
- How your competence can hide a partner's lack of contribution.
- Why constantly stepping forward prevents you from seeing whether your partner would step forward without you.
- The difference between genuine strength and self-abandonment.
- Why receiving can feel so uncomfortable for women who are used to doing everything themselves.
- How stronger boundaries change not necessarily who is attracted to you—but who gets to stay.
- What happens when you stop asking, "How do I make this relationship work?" and start asking, "Is this relationship actually right for me?"
If you recognise yourself in this episode and you're ready to change the patterns you're repeating in love, I'd love to support you.
Please email me here carladacosta@proton.me to book a complimentary 15-minute discovery call with me to explore coaching with me to circuit break this lifetime pattern.
Carla x