#75 Creating Change (Part 1) How to Create an Environment To Welcome Change In

We explore why change sticks when the body, mind, schedule, and space align, and why willpower alone fails. We show how decluttering, time edits, blood sugar balance, and calmer inputs teach the nervous system that new is safe, setting the stage for part two’s troubleshooting.

• reframing problems as goal prompts and trackers
• how stress narrows perception and confirms old beliefs
• decluttering home and car as physical proof of space
• editing schedules to restore bandwidth and boredom
• morning and evening rituals that calm the lens
• blood sugar, sleep, light, and cortisol as levers
• nature, movement, sweating, and drainage for flow
• breaking all-or-nothing thinking and perfection loops
• protecting inputs: media, relationships, and self-talk
• using journaling and gratitude to release rumination
• aligning money, time, and attention with stated goals
• preview of part two: self-sabotage and emotional drivers

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Transcript

Setting The Theme Of Change

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Welcome back to Vibing Well with Dr. Stacy. I am Dr. Stacy here to remind you that change and health are found in the things that we repeat the most. So today's episode is no different than that. We're going to talk about change. It doesn't always have to come, you know, hand in hand with health for some of us. We're just trying to seek change in other areas of our life. But that also requires just like health, a specific environment. So today is going to be part one of a two-part series talking about, for one, how to start to work on that foundation, that environment to welcome change in, what our body and our mind does to resist something new, and how to bring balance to the system. So it can be more acceptable to change. And then part two, we're going to come in with a little bit more troubleshooting and that sort of thing. So hang tight. I'll be right back and we'll get started on this creation of an environment that is willing to accept some change in our lives. You know, change for me is one of my favorite things. It's uh really, it is the foundation of everything that I've done in my own life that has brought me so much joy and so much just getting into a completely different place in so many different areas of my life. And it's been so powerful. And my my biggest goal is to motivate and inspire others to do the same, right? And what I find and I have found, you know, I've worked with people for 15 plus years, whether it's been through the fitness industry, nutrition, um, health, whatever that may be. And I change is one of the hardest things that uh people get stuck on. But in this amount of time that I've experienced change personally in so many different levels, but also worked with people one-on-one in so many different ways, I've noticed and recognized patterns. And uh one of my biggest goals today is to help you also notice those patterns or those things within yourself that might be keeping you from creating change in your life, even though it's something you might want so badly. If the body, mind, emotional patterns, habits, behaviors, and an even nervous system aren't all on the same page, that's where we get stuck, right? And that's where we fall into old patterns. And so noticing those things out of a place of I always want to start off of this conversation with um, you know, giving yourself grace and giving yourself empathy and also forgetting the past as far as like all the change you've wanted to create that you haven't really been able to uncover. Everything has led you to a moment where you now are, like you're still wanting that change. And now you're just gonna have different tools walking out of today's episode and next week's episode. So um you sometimes you have to be in the right place, the right mindset. Um, and what we'll talk about next week, the right emotional state to actually intake this information and make sense of it and actually utilize it. And so, like I said, it it comes with making sure that your actions, your habits, your beliefs, all of those things are matching, and then your nervous system is responding appropriately to um all these inputs. So let's kind of start. Um, just like in just like health, we have to make sure that we are even creating space for a new possibility, a new outcome, right? Most people want to change something in their life, right? And they find themselves falling back into old habits, get stuck, and don't aren't really sure why. So today we're gonna talk about how to create a foundational place to welcome some change in. And so, and that's one thing that I noticed like today's society, our minds, our bodies, our homes, our schedules, right? Like everything is packed to the max. And we're sitting here saying, hey, we want something new, we want a new outcome, we want a new this, a new that. And our nervous system and our minds are looking around at our environment internally, externally, and they're like, Yeah, that's not, you don't mean that, right? Like if you really need wanted something to be different, we would at least have space to create something different, right? We don't have that. So let's kind of go through what these different pieces that your body and your nervous system are responding to, and even your emotional state is responding to, and how to find balance and create space in all of these areas to start to create a place where we can even be in a creative state. Um, so like I said, your nervous system is constantly, so we talk about nervous system regulation, which is extremely robotic and like, oh, I'm gonna like do this 10-step process just to like prepare my nervous system for the day. And I'm not dispelling that, but remembering that your nervous system is responding, we're gonna talk a little bit about this later today, but your nervous system's responding to everything, right? Like it's responding to yes, your toxin load and your, you know, Wi-Fi and EMF exposure and your lighting and things like that, but also trying to maintain and sense equilibrium between what you say and what you do, what you believe and what you want, what you say you want, and if you've even defined that and what you're doing and repeating every single day. And if it doesn't see balance and equilibrium within these things, it's going to quickly draw you back to the familiar and the known, no matter how dysfunctional that is. Not only that, but when the nervous system is sensing things being out of balance, it keeps you in that state of uh survival or flight or fight, fight or flight, whatever, um, sympathetic, however, you want to describe that, it's all the same, right? It's one that's not open for something new. It's gonna tag something new as a threat. So, like I said, today we're creating a foundation environment that's receptive to change. We're gonna bring awareness to the programs and beliefs we're running off of. And then next week we'll talk more about self-sabotage, getting stuck, what happens when you think you want something, but you find yourself being drawn back in, um, to even destructive patterns because they're known and they're familiar to the nervous system. So, how we break free from that. Um, we're also gonna talk about how our emotional state, our nervous system, and all those things play a role. And that is all gonna be next week because it's too much to layer into today. Um, and how we can break free from all of these things, right? The the amazing takeaway I want you to have at the end of this, this and next week's episode is that we can change epigenetics, neuroplasticity, all of these things confirm that we are able to change our minds given the right inputs, the right consistency, and you know, things like brainwave patterns, which doesn't have to get overly complicated, but we just know how we have to know how to create an environment. So today we're gonna talk about, you know, um, why we can't think our way out of problems, right? Because when we think about our problems, the more we relive them emotionally in the body, and that keeps us stuck, right? So we really can't think our way out of them. We have to change our lots of parts of our state, or whether that's our emotional state, our physical state, our internal and external environment. And so today we're gonna talk about laying that groundwork down. Um but I just want you to think about uh, you know, before we kind of go into this conversation, we always hear about how we cannot solve a problem with the same mindset that created it. I want you to be kind of thinking about that, like the same for we can't create change in an environment that is replicating the same day over and over and over again, right? Like we can't create change with that. We have to start to change the habits, the behaviors, the thoughts that are driving those and the emotional state that is kind of the end product of those things. Um, if we want an upgraded version of ourselves. And I want to redefine before we talk about creating space in these areas. I want to redefine, sorry, I'm like all over the place, but I just get so excited about this topic because, like I said, it has been life-giving to me to learn how to embrace change and to like just follow my gut and follow my heart, my intuition anytime it's like, hey, shift this. I know it's scary as hell, but do it. You're gonna grow so much. And um, I want that for you. Um, and so I want us to look at problems in a different lens. I want us to think about looking at our problems in life as opportunities to either define a new goal or define a new outcome that we are working towards, right? That's gonna be part of that whole, you know, if we don't have a goal in mind or a set idea of what we're trying to achieve, then how do we know if we're getting there? How do we know what do we track, right? Like there's nothing trackable in that sense. And we have nothing to even tell our subconscious to say, hey, let's look for opportunities and possibilities directed towards this goal, right? We're literally just living in reaction and default if we don't have a designated, like, I want this goal. Um, so that's part of it. And that's what a problem can help us define, right? It's also an opportunity to evolve and grow. When we're under a stressor like that, an acute stressor. We, if we can get out of that state of stress, right, and think clearly and get to a place of, you know, open-mindedness and cognition and, you know, parasympathetic as much as you can in the middle of a problem, then you get really creative and you come up with new ideas and possibilities and you're kind of pushed out of the comfort zone because you can handle it. And that pushing process is it changes your being, it changes your behavior in some way. And it will change your outcome in some way if you don't look at it as always just like, oh gosh, here's another problem, here's another problem. If you start to change how you look at them, it's like, oh, here's another opportunity, like here's another thing I can solve and that will help me grow. It's not a threat. Threats keep us stuck in that sympathetic system, which makes us unwilling to embrace change, right? So just kind of think about how these things are all connected. But if we are um also we'll never gain any wisdom, we'll never evolve if we aren't challenged, right? So we we wanna just kind of think about for one, we wouldn't be presented with something that we weren't equipped to solve for one. We're never gonna be able to solve a problem in a frantic or stressed mindset or two. And um, you know, a problem-free life or a challenge-free life is is also going to be one where you you don't grow, create, or even have new definitions of new goals, a new direction in your life, right? And so um we want to redefine our problems and our challenges uh in a more positive direction. And like I said, even from the mindset of let's help us get out of a sympathetic state of mind into a more balanced nervous system, let's stop firing stress hormones every time we think about a problem, we're reliving it emotionally, and that makes it even more and more of a network or a program that our body just subconsciously runs off of. And, you know, we'll talk about the nervous system in a minute, but it's also always trying to reaffirm your constant state that you exist in. And so if all you think about is all the problems you have in your world or everybody else's world and all the bad, and that's what you're constantly looking at, that is the lens that you will see. That is going to be your reality. That's all you'll see because your subconscious is like, oh, the world's a horrible place. Everybody's out to get me. Good things never happened to me, whatever it may be. And I'm just gonna reaffirm that I'm gonna remind you of all the memories that, you know, are honestly not even real. Um, the way we recount memories, 90% of them are inaccurate, and they're just gonna be based on that distortion of the lens that we're looking through life, for one. Um, but it feels really powerful when it comes from our thoughts, right? Like it feels real. And then we live it emotionally because of the um hormones that these thoughts are putting off of in our body in regards to the emotional state we're in. And so, yeah, it can be quite convincing, but it's not real. And so we have to learn to challenge our thoughts and beliefs, but that becomes easier when we start to create space. So let's get into that, okay? So we talked about some big areas in our life that are constantly, our nervous system's constantly responding to, they're constantly evoking some part of our being, some part of our state. Um, and so let's start with the home. This seems like the the most obvious thing, our external environment, right? So, for one, clutter. You know, we live in a world of overconsumption in every single way possible. It's things, it's information, it's food, it's everything, right? Um, it's hard to break free from that, right? Especially when we are influenced to buy things or we feel like this is something, you know, it's something outside of us that's missing, we're constantly consuming, and then we get overwhelmed because now we have more clutter than we know what to do with. And it's just this uh dopamine loop uh that's kind of running into cortisol from the stress of the overconsumption, and we just keep replicating it over and over and over again. Um, but those keep us stuck in survival. A cluttered home enough is enough to keep us stuck in a state of survival and you know, keep us running on this high stress hormone, high cortisol state. Clutter in the home is quite literally clutter in the brain, in the nervous system, right? Um, everything that we have in our home is energy, right? And so even if we are unaware of it, if there are things that we no longer resonate with that hold memories of things that we don't really want to relive and things like that, those are impacting our current state, whether we realize it or not. And I think I want to focus just on having too much and just really like our nervous system not seeing any open space, right? Because that is super powerful. And once again, it's the mind saying, You don't mean that. You don't want something new, you don't even have room for something new, right? So it really can be this physical manifestation when we choose to like create space in our home and declutter or bring order to our home that will bring order to our nervous system, that will kind of bridge the mind and body together, like, oh, she wants something new, and she like actually cleaned out a cabinet, decluttered a room, and she's creating like this is a physical manifestation of you creating space for something new, and the nervous system will respond positively to that, right? You know, I always say there's nothing quite as, you know, blocking to progress as having thoughts in one direction and actions in another. And so the more we can bridge the gap between what we say we want and what we actually do, the more we can find balance and equilibrium in the system as much as possible. So you have to get the mind and body connected. So, um, so, anyways, nervous systems constantly at looking at your external environment. It's responding. You know, I'm not gonna go too deep into um, you know, Wi-Fi and EMF and all these things that keep our nervous system heightened and hyperactive. And um, I have lots of podcast episodes about those things, but those are also keeping us running in that high cortisol survival state, right? But look at your environment, right? Like just look at it and ask yourself, is this one that is in alignment with this future version I'm trying to create? Do I even have space for something new in my home? Right. Um, declutter one area, right? If, you know, and some people live in shared spaces and things like that, and all you can really do is your space, and that's totally fine. It will still bring some change, right? Um, like I said, it's not just to lower your cortisol levels, which it will do, um, but it's to signal to your body that you're ready, right? It's that physical manifestation, that act to welcome something new into your life. So um I practice this often. I, you know, we try not to overconsume as much as we possibly can. And um if we do bring something in, we're constantly making sure we take something like you know, we're recycling something out. And so um, I think I shared this a few years ago. I finally got to a point with my closet where I was like, I'm gonna buy a certain amount of hangers. When these hangers are full, that's it. I'm not, I'm not gonna have anything that can't hang on these hangers. If so, if I'm bringing something new and I'm I'm getting rid of something, I'm donating something that no longer serves me anymore. And I still, uh I think it's been like three or four years. I've stood very firm on that. And so I'm not overwhelmed with my closet any longer. Um, it's just one space, right? But I try to keep my husband always laughs because like we have plenty of kitchen cabinets, but I'm always trying to keep a couple empty because I like everything to not be jam-packed. I like to see things, I like for things to be in order, but I also like to have empty space to represent like, hey, we have room for something new. Um, so whether you're decluttering your car or your, you know, a cabinet or whatever it may be, it is just for when you're freeing up a lot of energy, those those things that we have lying around that don't have a purpose for us or don't really, you know, they don't serve us are draining our energy. So you are giving uh more energy to your space for sure. And um you're gonna feel so good when you start to clear and create space and declutter because you know, whether you feel that decrease of um that or you feel that increase in energy, the decrease of the drain, um, you're naturally going to come to life more. And like I said, when your brain and your nervous system see order and space, it automatically things start to click, things start to come together, right? Connections start to be made. Hey, this person is serious this time. So it can be as simple as that for some people, right? Just that physical manifestation of like I'm ready for change and like my mind and body are now working together to um, you know, have a physical space for that. So that can be really cool. All right, now let's talk about our schedules because we do, like I said, everything is overdone. Everything is overdone. Kids' sports are year round every single day, you know, it's just there's no downtime. And it, I think I want to invite you to reflect on if that's really what you want and really what your family wants, you know, if that's something that you feel like you're up against. It doesn't just because these things are available year round doesn't mean you have to do them year round for one. You know, I always encourage my kids to not overschedule so they have time to actually be a kid and have time to have time outside, play with friends, go fishing, you know, do the things that they want to do, be creative. Um, you know, my kids are always doing some kind of art project or something like that. They would not have time if we were running around till eight o'clock at night every single day, you know, from the second we hit the ground running. Um, so I would challenge yourself to kind of go through and edit what's not necessary, right? Because a lot of us are doing things that are not necessary. And so we've we've even, you know, my son has even come to me and said, Hey, I don't want I want to take a season off of basketball. Perfect. I do too. Like, perfect. I mean, I want to give them every opportunity, but also we have to help them recognize when it's too much. And, you know, in and bringing that mindfulness to our children is important too because kids do need downtime. They are even More in a creative nature than we are because they don't have like the work and the life stress and things like that. So we don't need to put them into that sooner. We really want to help them connect, right, to what's important and what matters to them, but make sure that they're tapping into their creativity and their boredom, right? Which is important because that's the thing that happens right before we get creative. We have to be bored and then inspired. And if they're never bored, then how will they ever have that creative um ability, right? So are we being busy for the sake of being busy? Are we creating busyness in our schedule and then using that as an excuse to not take care of ourselves? Do we actually carve out time for ourselves? Because honestly, there is nothing selfish as a parent or a um partner or any of the roles that we play. There's nothing selfish about carving out time to take care of yourself. In fact, it is the least selfish thing you can do because when you're the best version of yourself, you can give so much more to everybody else. And when you really take care of your body and your health, then you are giving your family a gift in the future, right? Because you will have the autonomy that you need and you're not gonna be somebody else's burden, you know, as you age and um, you know, you're not gonna require. And that's gonna be a luxury in this generation. It really is, because the way um the elderly are treated, the way we are encouraged to be very sedentary from, you know, retirement on and things like that, we are gonna see a whole generation of people not being able to take care of themselves. And that's not necessarily um the best, right? So giving your taking care of your physical body, maintaining your autonomy, your strength, your mobility um is a gift. And so that is a gift to you, and it's a gift to everyone else around you. So that is the least selfish thing you can do is making sure that you're scheduling time for yourself. Most of my time, um, especially when my kids were younger, but even still now, most of my time is found in the morning before I can be disturbed. And that is a time I'm pouring into whatever routine it is. If I'm taking a course or doing something, um, if I'm meditating, I'm doing my gratitude practice, I'm going to yoga before the sun comes up, whatever it may be. Those are the times that I really try to pour into myself so that the rest of the day I can pour into my clients, my family, all the other roles I play in my life. So sometimes we need to make sure that we are actually putting that on our schedule, right? Like we are committing to it. We're signing up for classes the night before. We're not just waiting to see if willpower is gonna get us, get us there, right? We're reminding ourselves, like, hey, it's really important to take care of ourselves, whatever our routine in that season of life is, that we commit to it and we are pouring into ourselves so that we can be better for everybody else around us. So are we creating space for those things, right? Are we um even just creating, you know, slots on your calendar to hey, we're decluttering once a week? Hey, we're gonna, you know, um, we're gonna do this as a family. We're creating time to make dinner as a family, whatever, whatever is missing in your life right now, put it on an actual schedule and schedule it into your day, just like you would anything else, because there's nothing more important than making sure that you are living as fully as you possibly can and you're taking care of your mental, physical, emotional, spiritual health, right? You have to do all of those. Um, and you have to create the time to do all of those and prioritize it, right? Or life will get the best of you. And um, I know we live in a place that's like, oh, we'll sleep and we're dead, and um, you know, we have to work, work, work, we have to do all these things. But remember that when we pour into ourselves and our physical body, our emotional, spiritual, mental health is up, you know, at the best place possible to optimize, we're gonna be way more productive with way less time. So you will get so much more out of doing these things in the times that we feel the most stressed and the most frantic and our to-do list is building up. Those are actually the times we need to slow down and get our brain back functioning all in one. Remember that those seasons of stress defragment our brain. We're not even thinking clearly, and then we're trying to fix problems. Now that doesn't really work very well, and we're not gonna be very productive in that state. So even if you're taking five or 10 minutes in those seasons of stress and um working on your physical state, bringing your physical state back to a place of balance and then solving those problems, right? And then tackling that to-do list, you're gonna be so much better and you're gonna create a new baseline for your nervous system, right? Um, so really making sure that you're giving that time to yourself. And also, what another thing that I notice is that a lot of people start their day off on their phones, on their screens, they end their day on their screens, and they think that they're winding down because technically it's mindless, but it's not mindless. It's still affecting our emotional state, it's still playing on our emotions, it's still evoking feelings and thoughts. Um, and our nervous systems responding to those. It's actually the exact opposite of winding down and relaxing and really kind of decompressing the day. And I I like to emphasize this because here's the thing: if we don't decompress and we don't just reflect a little bit, then we recreate the same experience, the same day over and over and over again. And then we wonder why we get stuck, right? And so if we're waking up to other people's thoughts and can and situations, and most things on social media are designed to evoke an emotional response. We'll talk way more about that um later. And then we go to bed in that way, and we never reflected on how our actual day went. We're just seeing how other people's days went. Then how could we ever get better? How could we ever just be like, oh, this went really well? I'm so grateful for that. This, I wish I would have reacted differently. And so I'm just gonna like reflect on that and take that into the next day, not out of a place of guilt, but just like, I'm gonna do better. I'm gonna be more aware. I'm gonna be conscious the next day. I'm drawn into those thought patterns or that reactionary state. I'm gonna be better tomorrow and let the rest go. Like, how often are we practicing that? Because that the more we can release going into the next day, the more we can once again create space for a different outcome. And we bring awareness to it on a conscious level, and then we just promise to do better the next day and we reflect. And it's just a constant like editing uh situation that if we're not doing, we're just recreating over and over again, right? So it's really important to go, you know, wake up with not the worries from yesterday, but the wisdom, the wisdom that we had from the day before, and and just try to make sure that we're constantly trying to be a little bit better, a little bit better every single day. So let's talk about the body. Um, there's a lot of ways I could go with this. And I'm not gonna go too deep into the toxin load, you know, situation and things like that. But it is, it's pertinent, right? So getting the body into, I want to focus like on kind of the internal state, right? We were talking about external. So, like our homes, our schedules, like our environment, right? Our external environment, our connection to nature or disconnect from nature, those things are all so pertinent and all affecting our nervous system and our emotional state. But then we have the body. And so you guys know I talk a lot about metabolism, I talk a lot about movement and detox and things like that. But most of my like most of the reason why I talk about that the most is because, for one, it's something that your nervous system is constantly responding to, especially when it comes to a constant input like blood sugar or lighting or something like that. Um, it's constant input, right? And it's one of those things that could keep you chemically stuck in a place of sympathetic survival, fight or flight, right? Whatever we're gonna call it, autonomic imbalance. Um so obviously, blood sugar is a huge thing that we can work on. Cortisol levels, right? So, what's keeping cortisol high? Have whole podcasts dedicated to that. I will link up in the show notes for you guys. Obviously, we want to avoid as many toxins as possible. Um, our food and our water to begin with, our home products, what we can do in our home is gonna have the most impact and the most consistent um input for our bodies, right? Or our environment as much as possible. So thinking about these things without going to the state of fear, right? And that's the thing. It's like, uh, I get a lot of questions about like, well, aren't you scared of this? And aren't no, I don't live in a state of fear. I control what I can. I um create foundational health for myself. I know what my body needs to maintain that state physically, emotionally, spiritually. And um, I let go of the rest. I don't live in fear. There's a lot that I mean, I look out every day and see the chemtrails in the sky, but I'm not, you know, I don't go there. I can't control that. Yeah, I'm breathing it in, but guess what? Like, I'm doing everything else I can do to control that, you know. We're moving to the middle of nowhere because we want peace and more nervous system balance and more and cleaner air, right? Less radiation, um, all those things. Like, I make choices and I shift my life to reflect the things that I want to change without it coming from a place of fear. I'm not moving to the middle of nowhere because I'm scared of radiation or I'm scared of um chemtrails, right? Like it's just that's just the natural next step for me. I want to be in a place of peace every time I walk out my back door. And so for me, it's like that just seems natural to all right, let's do that. We want land, we're gonna buy a house, we're gonna build a house, we want some land, then why are we spending money on things that are not that? Right. And so for me, that's editing, right? Because if we're putting our money into something that is reflective of the actual opposite of what we say we want, once again, mind and body aren't working together, and you're never gonna get the outcome you want. So we had to live in this place that we're at right now to realize, even though we thought it was what we wanted, right? We live in a beautiful gated community. It's safe, the homes are beautiful, but it's not what we want, right? So we no longer can spend our resources on something that doesn't align with where we're at in this season of life. And I'm not saying that's everybody's path, but I'm just saying this is how I control not living in, not making decisions out of a place of fear. I just shift and edit along the way, and that's just how it is. And so I don't worry about every toxin or, you know, everything that I'm exposed to. We make most of our food at home because we want to, because it tastes way better. It's not because I'm terrified of getting food out. I just don't want to spend a bunch of money on seed oil and glyphosate, right? Like, and the food that doesn't taste nearly as good as what I can make at home, it's not fear. It's just like, yeah, I don't want to do that. That doesn't that like your money's also a resource, right? Your time, your money, your attention. Those are your biggest resources. And that's what you that's what you're voting for every single day, is where you're putting those things. And so if those don't align with what you say you want, that's physical manifestations of things that are working in opposition and very confusing to your nervous system and the outcome you're gonna get. So let's talk about the nervous system for a second, because we can't talk about the body without talking about the nervous system because it's constantly responding to our chemical environment inside our body. So whether that is our toxin load, which obviously we could talk for hours about drainage and detox and living a low-tox lifestyle and all those things. I'm not going there right now. Um, but that's part of it, part that our nervous system is responding to. So, how could we create space? Well, we, you know, we detox the body, we sweat, we move, we fast, um, create physical space in the body, right? But let's talk about the nervous system really quick, what it does when it's kind of stuck. So I talked about how your all the different areas in your brain for different functions, right, start to defragment when you're stressed, right? And then you're you're flooding the body of stress hormones. And so you're running off emergency processes. And what happens is your body starts down regulating and picking and choosing which programs it wants to run based on that state of stress. Like what is important? We're not working on optimization right now. Like, what's what do we have to do to stay alive right now? And that's when we start to throw minerals and lots of things. Hormones get out of balance because we're running on stress hormones for too long, blood sugar is hard to regulate, all of those things, right? Um, so the ones of optimization, balance, order, all of those things take the back seat. And so we're living off of incoherence, disorder in the body, chaos, or otherwise known as inflammation, right? And so then our focus from our nervous system becomes very narrow, right? Very narrow. And so that's where where I'm talking about we can't see the big picture, we can't see opportunities or possibilities. All we see is our nervous system reaffirming the state that we're living in. So if we're living in a state of franticness or fear or unworthiness or whatever the negative emotion, anger, the nervous system is just gonna find more reasons for us to be anger, angry, fearful, right? Unworthy, all of these things. It's it's just it's changing the lens through which we see the world. So then we start to blame external circumstances, right? People um blaming my husband. I blame my husband for a long time for a lot of things. And it wasn't until I started working on my internal state that, you know, we were able to address um things in our own relationship. It never, if you're always just playing the blame game, you're never gonna get anywhere. And that's not just my husband, that's other relationships in my family and stuff too. It's it's easy to be like, well, I'm unhappy because when this person comes around, they do X, Y, Z. Well, a lot of that thought process is coming from a nervous system that's stuck in survival, right? Because we don't see how we're all connected. We're not able to read other people's emotional states while we we think that things are the way we assume from that lens, right? That lens of frustration and anger and irritability, that things are a certain way, and we predict they're gonna act the same way every time they're around. And they they may, because they're responding to our emotional state, right? And so if we don't change that, we don't even have an opportunity for them to choose otherwise or react to us otherwise. So, anyways, the whole thing is to remember that the nervous system is gonna start to blame everything outside of us for the reason why we are stuck in these like negative emotional patterns. So we only see and we only filter out what is equal to our emotional state that we are existing in the most often. So, what is driving the world that we see, right? So, and we'll talk that is like week two. We're gonna go deep into that stuff and how that actually works, like physiologically in the body. So we'll talk about that. But stress, just to kind of reiterate, stress in the body, chemical stress, is not a time to create. It's not a time to be productive, it's not a time to see possibilities or even really accept anything new, right? It keeps you in a cycle of blame and reacting, blaming every circumstance and event and person around you. And your nervous system, like I said, is always trying to validate and back you up. Hey, remember when that person did this and made you feel that way? Hey, let's relive that emotionally, right? And then let's let's just think about all these, dredge up all these memories of like reaffirming this state we want to believe in, this this belief that we want to believe in. And um, it's gonna try to validate and prove you right. And we can use that to recreate more of this negative situation we choose to exist in. Or, you know, maybe we're not choosing, but we are living in it by default because we're not choosing otherwise. Or we can use that in a different way, right? Like we can change our emotional state, and we'll talk about that next week, and give our nervous system a new input, a new response, and a new lens to look through so we can reaffirm positive things, right? And that's my whole premise today is like we're not stuck there. Just because we have maybe been stuck there most of our life doesn't mean that we are permanently stuck there. But the first step of that is to bring some awareness into that. What is your filter, right? That you're looking through the lens of the world. Do you look at, you know, people as being mostly good? The world is full of opportunities and possibilities for you, that you're worthy of having those things, or is it mostly, because most of our society is fear-based mentality and low self-worth mentality, which is equivalent to high consumerism, right? Because the lower you think of yourself and the more suggestible you are, and the more you feel like something outside of you is missing, the more you're going to purchase. So the power of the nervous system in this regard is that, like I said, it's always trying to reaffirm where you exist right now. It's trying to always prove you're right, right? And so we can use that to replicate a state that we don't want to be in any longer, or we can change it. And we'll talk about that more. But I want you to understand how this happens because the more we understand like the what and the why, then change also becomes more familiar and welcome to our, you know, when we understand, like, oh, okay, like I'm trying to change this pattern of dysfunctional behavior, but my body's stuck in survival because of XYZ. And so if I change that, then I'll be more receptive to change in other areas. And that's what I want you to bridge the gap to. It's not to like, oh gosh, I've been stuck in this pattern for 30 years. I'm never gonna get out of it, right? Because my nervous system has been responding to that for so long. That's not true. So we can always change it. Um, and then remember that the subconscious. So I've talked about this in the past. I always talk about like setting your goal, setting your GPS, um is really important because that's what sets the subconscious to start looking for things to reaffirm. So we have this process in our in our brain called a reticular activating system. And so I've talked about it in context of like, you know, when you're researching a car and I always use the red jeep thing, because I used to have a red jeep. Um, and before I bought a Jeep, I literally never paid attention to them, never saw them, never ever saw them on the road. And once I had one, I it was all I could see. Everybody, it seemed like everybody bought jeeps at the same time. I did. And so it was all I saw. And that just goes to show you that your subconscious is kind of bringing you, you know, affirmations of the things that you're focused on, right? And it can be as simple as that, or it can be like the world's against me, and I am a piece of crap, and you know, nobody ever appreciates me or whatever it may be. It's the same system. Everything your nervous system can only intake so much. We have so much, so many, so much input coming in that we're breaking down literally hundreds of. Thousands of inputs that come per second through our nervous system to about 50, right? And so that that distortion of that information that the nervous system is selecting to bring into your conscious level, your conscious mind, is based on the lens and the perception that you choose to view the world, right? So that's what I want you to kind of recognize. You can only intake information that's equal to your constant emotional state, your set of beliefs, and also the state and the balance of your nervous system. Because, like I said, when you are chronically um you're chronically stuck in a state of stress, it really narrows our focus. And so we want to make sure that we're going to that place of balance as often as possible. And we'll talk more about tools and things like that, but creating space and in the body, how can we do that? So how can um I want you to reflect on some of these ways that we can bring the body back into balance? And if you need more details on any of these things, I'm sure I have a whole podcast episode dedicated to them. But how can I, even from a simplistic of like, how can I lower inflammation, which is extremely incoherent and chaotic in the body, right? How can I lower inflammation and help my body? Where can I help my body find some balance and space? Um, can I connect to my circadian rhythm a little bit more? Remembering that's signaled by light, food, or sleep cycles, right? Can I regulate my sleep cycle a little bit better just to connect to my body's internal clock, right? Um, blood sugar. To me, it's one of my favorite things. For one, it's been so life-changing and life-giving to me and balancing to my nervous system. I literally thought I was just an anxious person and had debilitating anxiety from literally my earliest memories. And now that I know what I know, it was all blood sugar. It was all blood sugar in my body responding to that, my nervous system responding to that. And I could have gone years and decades of like not having that, but I had to live it, right? I had to live it so I could find my way out of it. You know, my my pain turned into my purpose and it is what it is. But the reason I talk about it so much is because it creates so much change so quickly when you get that part dialed in. But also remember, if your sleep is off, if you are running on cortisol, like either like by default or by choice, because you're addicted to stress hormones, it's gonna make it really hard to regulate your blood sugar too. So there's, you know, there's a food piece of it, but there's also a like, how can I bring my cortisol levels into a place to balance? And so, like I said, I have a whole whole podcast um devoted to that. How can I spend more time in nature, which gets me in a brainwave state that is conducive to change, right? Um, the frequency of the earth is also the frequency of a theta brainwave pattern. It matches. Theta brainwave is where we are neuroplastic. So it makes sense if we're out in nature and we're putting our feet on the earth and connecting to the magnetism of the earth and bringing our body to that heartbeat, the Schumann resonance of the earth, um, to get us into that brainwave state to create some change, right? Lots of things. It's so much more than just like, oh, just go outside. It's pretty outside, right? Um movement. So thinking about how we move our bodies, like even just generating flow. Um, even when we move our body, we generate electrons, which gives our body more energy, more mitochondria. Um, but also thinking flow, detox, lymph, circulation, all of those things. Um, how can we create space by detoxing, you know, sweating to start opening up drainage pathways, things like that? How can I take better care of my physical body so that my nervous system can have a new input, new information to go off of, right? And want to balance so this can elicit a new nervous system response, right? So changing the filter, changing the lens of the nervous system so we have access to new information, right? So no longer bias information or information coming in that came from a very coherent behavior, behavioral pattern, right? Behavioral state, set of beliefs, whatever it may be. We can change that lens anytime we want. It just takes time and consistency because just like water running through a stream, the longer it runs through that stream, the more engroved that pattern is. And so we gotta, for one, stop the water going down that stream, right? So stop the thoughts that are um keeping us stuck in those emotional patterns. And then we lay down new, new pathways, right? We redirect, we refocus those pathways into new ones that are gonna be more productive, more life-giving, right? So the biggest takeaway from, you know, the body and the how the nervous system responds to the chemical states in the body, whether that's our hormones or blood sugar or anything else that could be creating either incoherence or coherence in the body, in our internal environment. Remember that the nervous system is focused on your belief system, right? It's extremely biased. It wants to keep you right. Um, and so it's going to recreate the past until and unless you start to change that state that you've been living in and the things that you believe in, right? If those are keeping you stuck in negative patterns. Um and your mind will only allow you to see what your current, you know, through that lens of what you currently believe. That's why two people could live the same experience and have two completely different outcomes and outtakes of it. You know, I grew up in a big family and we were all raised in the same household in the same way. We all experience the same events, and we all are so different in how we look at those events based on the lens we chose to see, you know, to see them through. And it's just, you know, it's just crazy to me, but it just does reflect back to like our emotional state at the time, our lens, our nervous system, um, and what we were willing and able to even see based on those filters and those deletions and distortions um based on the state of our own nervous system. So it's pretty wild, um, but also really cool that we are all so different in this experience and we all um have a different ability to see through our own lens and our own perception. And that is a gift, right? Like that is why we're here. We're here to experience things and um learn through our our own experience and through others so that we can constantly be growing and evolving. So the last part of creating space I want to talk about is how we create space in the mind. Now we always, you know, we always blame our willpower and our thought patterns for being stuck. And um, you know, it's a it's a lot more than that. So our nervous system, as we know, is responding to a lot more things than just our thoughts. But our thoughts are enough to create chemical pathways, right? And um physiological responses. So I don't discredit that. But there are other more powerful um things that we'll talk about next week than than just our thought alone, which will help alleviate some of that of like, gosh, I'm just not thinking about this enough to fix it, right? Like that is, we have to get out of our head for so many reasons. Uh so and that's another thing that I really see hold a lot of people back is this um black and white thinking. It's a this all or nothing. Um, a lot of us, you know, it's just a personality thing. I'm not that way. I've never been that way. Um, but I I have worked with a lot of people who are. I'm not type A by any means. I'm very like done is better than perfect situation. Cause if I tried to make everything perfect, I would never get anything done. Um, and it's okay. That's a human error, right? It's putting something out there and realizing you had a spelling error on there. And it's like, you know what? That's just that's just part of it. I wanted to get it out there and I wanted to get it done, and at least AI didn't write it for me. Um, that's the way I look at these things. But some people are like paralyzed if they can't, if they put something out there and it's not a million percent perfect, so they just don't do anything, or if they can't go all in and live this super extreme, regimented, routine lifestyle, then they just do nothing. It's literally one or the other. And for one, part of that is um that they have placed their value into perfection, right? And so that can be something that maybe they feel like they have to do to be worthy of, you know, certain things. That can be part of it. Um, you know, another part of it can be that they're stuck in a state of survival. And so that they, you know, they feel like if if I'm gonna completely lose control if I don't do all of these steps every single day, um, I will be lost. I will have no anchor, you know, and so so part of that too is being unable to give yourself grace, unable to go with the flexibility of life, right? Life is very cyclical. We can't expect to eat, live, think, you know, produce the same way every single day. That's just part of life. And so sometimes there's an inability to appreciate that. But part of that is because we've very much been taught to not live intuitively, right? Like everything is we're tracking and measuring every little thing, trying to be these little robots, and we're just not that way. So part of it is an inability to be intuitive, but that becomes easier when we get the body stuck out of um, you know, out of that stuck fight or flight survival mechanism. What can we control right now? So there's a lot of reasons why, like I said, our minds are so full. Our minds are full of more information than we will ever be able to utilize. And remember that information does not equate wisdom. It is literally filling your mind. It's not necessarily making the connections because the connections are only made with experience. And so if you're just filling your mind with a bunch of information that doesn't even necessarily apply to you, or you think it might, but you're kind of like storing it away just in case, and it has no real meaning to you, then it's just filling your brain that like is taking up space for creative possibilities or things that are actually meant for you. And so overconsumption of information, right? It is not just filling our brains with useless stuff, but it's also evoking emotional responses, right? Like our emotions, which we'll talk about next week, are way, way more powerful than our thoughts. And so that's why so many of us get stuck because we rely, we try to outthink our problems and we try to rely on willpower, but it's not enough, right? But um, emotions are way more powerful, and advertising knows this. That's why most advertisements don't have anything to do with the actual product. It's it's designed to elicit an emotion. So whether that's a warm, fuzzy message or like a message of fear. Um and the stronger the emotion, the more it's going to stick in your mind. And so, um, and that's what you see mostly on advertising, social media. Uh, I see a lot of fear-based emotion, um, ones that are like, you know, tailored to lack or like I can't live without this product. Um, this is the one thing you're missing for your healing journey, um, those kind of things, or, you know, or even just a place of fear. Did you know you could have these hidden infections and toxins and all these things? I mean, like, what? How are we ever going to get to a place of homeostasis and balance if we're constantly living in this state of fear of like, you know, these things that could be in our body causing all of this inflammation that we can't get rid of? And like, it's too much, right? Like, it's more than we ever should know, and it's more than we can ever process. And most of it honestly is not even pertinent to us. So, like, how could we ever solve a problem in that lifestyle running off of that fear and that stress emotional state, right? So there's just so much. So it not only is it too much information, but then we get to the point of it being conflicting. So maybe we even have a coach or we're working with a practitioner, we're on a journey, and then we see conflicting messages. And it's not that like sometimes we see something conflicting, we're like, oh dang, I've never addressed that. And like, I think that could be part of my journey. Like, not like out of a place of fear, but like out of a place of, look, I've worked with this practitioner for a long time and we've been on this supplement journey for like years. And now I, you know, now I'm seeing something that is saying, hey, you know, maybe the supplements are not the way, and it's bringing me hope, right? That's different. That versus coming from a place of fear, like, oh gosh, well, I haven't tried this. I guess I should try this supplement. I should try this tool, right? Like, it's completely different. So it's coming from like, does this give you hope? Does this put you in a positive emotional state? Or is it making you feel like, are you acting from a place of lack? You know, um, you're gonna get a completely different outcome with those things. But when we have conflicting information coming in, we start to doubt our own path, right? We're not grounded in what we're doing. Seeds of disbelief have been planted, and that will absolutely affect our outcome, right? Well, this person said this, but this person I really like said that that doesn't work. And what dispels this conflicting information? Bioindividuality, actually bringing in data that is pertinent to your real-time running, working with a practitioner that knows how to decipher that, getting your biofeedback for how your body's responding to these protocols and understanding how to interpret that information and that wisdom and that knowledge, and remembering what works for one person with the same symptoms may not work for you because and it doesn't mean you're broken. It means that you have a different cause. Your system got thrown, you're you're you're knocked out of homeostasis and balance for a different reason than they were. And I promise you that your missing link is not going to be a missing pill ever anyway. So if that's your mindset, we gotta, we gotta get out of that. It's not something that's outside of you. Um, so these influences all affect our inner voice, right? Our emotional state. They're all evoking emotions and thoughts that we are having a response to in the body. Our emotions are causing biochemical responses, right? And then the thoughts make us relive those over and over and over again, especially if we're overthinkers, right? We over-ruminate, things like that. And we tend to do that more when serotonin's low and blood sugar is low and things like that. So there's a lot of ways that we can find chemical balance in the body with the things we talked about. But some people just have the personality of over-rumination. And so if we're constantly rethinking and reliving the thoughts and emotions, just like those grooves in that stream, they're becoming stronger programs. And then eventually we don't even need the external stimuli to create the stress hormones and the in the problem. It's just become part of our nature. And so that's, you know, that's how another way that we are getting stuck, remembering that um everything we are exposed to is influencing us in some way. And that is kind of tailoring this internal algorithm in the nervous system and the brain and the subconscious to filter out and confirm and reconfirm for you what you choose to believe. And the thing is, is like some of us don't have strong belief patterns and beliefs in certain things, and we might just be taking on everybody's belief and thought patterns and not even knowing what makes sense for us, what resonates with us. I mean, that's even more confusing when we don't have a strong stance in anything to be just like completely um overwhelmed, right, with all of the other people's thoughts and opinions and and their realities. So it's not just social media, it's podcasts, it's books, shows, everything. Everything is filling your brain with thoughts and ideas. Not that to say they're all bad, but they are affecting your physiology. They're all evoking some kind of thought pattern, emotional response in your body. So are they conducive to one that's bringing you to a place of balance and being in a higher emotional state as often as you possibly can? Or are they keeping you stuck, right? And your nervous system stuck and keeping your autonomic nervous system in a place of imbalance, you know, because we're running on sympathetic all the time. And really, I mean, even just the lighting alone from the screens and the devices are enough to keep us stuck in a state of fight or flight. But then you add in the emotions, and the stronger the emotion, the more it becomes a part of you and your belief system. So, like I said, you could be taking on emotions and belief states of other people that haven't been your reality but now are because you're constantly exposed to them, right? So, how do we start to create space? Well, you have to think about what you're allowing into your world. What are you allowing to influence you in this moment, right? What kind of people do you surround yourself with? Um, what I find is that most people aren't really surrounding themselves with others, right? And we have these false connections online, not to say they're false, because I've made so many beautiful connections online. Um, but I will say it doesn't replace in person, right? Like in-person connection, shaking someone's hand, giving someone a hug, actually having a conversation in person is different. I wish I could meet with all my clients in person, but you know, there may be a time and place for that. But it is a different connection, right? And when you learn next week's episode, you're gonna understand how that does affect us a little bit differently than um online relationships and communications and things like that. But right now, who do you surround yourself with? Who do you allow even into your energy space, right? Who do you allow to influence you? Do you when you are around your the influences you choose, do they give you life? Do you feel inspired and energetic, or do you feel drained and you know, maybe irritable or emotional and you don't even know why, right? Well, you've just taken on these other person people's emotions and beliefs, and you are going to be triggered by that way that whether you realize it or not. You can't separate yourself from that. If you are constantly taking in negative media, it will change your physiology. And you have to be aware of that. It's not out of a place of fear, out of a place of empowerment. What do I want to allow into my life, right? What do what gives me more life, right? And then reflecting out of a place of love and empathy, of course, the thought patterns and the words and the things that you repeat. A lot of these are passed down to us. They are not even things that we like, we repeat things that we our parents told us, maybe their parents told them. A lot of these are just programs that people have just been saying. And if you like just take a step back and be like, is this why am I saying this? Is this even true? Like, is this even real? Why do I repeat this, right? You're creating your reality with what you choose to repeat, your thoughts, your words, what you say to yourself, what do you say about other people, what you say about yourself, all those things affect your reality. Remember that the filtration of the nervous system alone is is trying to match. It's always trying to match those words that you're saying. I just spent time with a family member that I love dearly, but literally every few minutes would say something. Something so negative, either about herself or the people around her or her state or her health or her finances, and literally just casting spells of, you know, just keeping that reality alive and didn't even realize she's doing it because it's just been such a part of how she lives. And uh I feel like I have people like that in my life to remind me not to go there, you know, um, to challenge that and then also to like replace, you know, these programs because I definitely have lived that for too long. And I've been doing a lot of active work to get out of that place of judgment of myself and others and and just the the mind going to the the negative um always, right? So who can I unfollow or mute, right? Or just create physical space from? You can create, like you can still love people from a distance if you're noticing that you're just not your nervous system is just not strong enough to have those conversations and and feel still energized and inspired after you get off the phone with them, right? Eventually you're gonna build yourself up so much, you're gonna be so resilient, your emotional state's gonna be your new normal that like a little exposure, just like a toxin exposure right like here and there, you're gonna be fine. You're gonna bounce right back and you're gonna remember why you connect back to your, you know, your straight and narrow. But in this acute moment, if you are someone who's stuck, um, it could be too much. And so you either change the way you respond to these people, the way you choose to interact with them. If they start to talk about all the horrible things in the world, you change the subject, or you have to get off the phone, right? There's something that came up, you have to get off the phone. Whatever it may be, you have to change how you interact with people like this and still you can still love them, but how you interact so you're not drawn back in, right? Um, how, and then like I said, unfollowing or muting, because like, you know, sometimes you really respect people, even if they're saying something that's keeping you confused right now, because maybe you're working with your practitioner, you're doing something different. Hopefully, it's based on your bio individuality, because like I said, that's gonna dispel the conflicting information quicker than anything, how your body's responding to what you're doing. So don't wander, you know, if somebody's telling you something that, you know, is not pertinent to you, just mute it for now, right? Till you're stronger and grounded in what you're doing and you're seeing the positive um impact of that. How can you quiet your mind, right? Or do more things that get your mind and body to a place of balance. How can I access a parasympathetic state more often, which is the only place where we can create and be receptive to change? Otherwise, change is a threat. If we're stuck in survival, we're stuck in the sympathetic, change is a threat, right? And we have a narrow focus and a mind that's extremely filtered. Not a good place to try to be productive or fix a problem, right? So, how do I get into the parasympathetic more often? That looks different for everybody. Some people might want to spend more time in nature, some people may want to meditate more, some people, um, you know, may want to bring in more quality relationships, whatever that means to you, how can you just quiet your mind? How can you get to your a place of peace more often, right? How can you react less to what other people are saying and doing? How can you just, you know, listen, but you don't always have to respond, right? You don't have to get emotional about it. How can you react less in life, right? And part of that is by creating more, but remember you can only create in a certain state. How can you respond differently, right? We can't change everybody around us. It's not even a requirement for change, is to change everybody around us because good luck doing that anyway doesn't work. They have to be ready for that change. You're never gonna be that person. Um, they have to be that person. And so, how can you change how you respond to them? And how can you change your emotional state so that if they are in a bad mood or they are in a negative spin, you're not impacted by it, right? And the stronger you get, the more resilient you get, the less you're gonna you're gonna be bothered by that. You're gonna be more unbothered, which is great. That's where we want to be. So, what gives you peace? What gets you to that place where you can, you know, kind of break free of the overstimulation that surrounds us and keeps us distracted and confused and our minds fuller than they ever need to be, right? Um, what gives you peace? Is it time outside? Is it reading? Is it praying? Um, journaling, and I'm not talking about reading like crime novels here. I'm talking about like, let's read things that um, you know, are positive and and keeping us not writing on stress hormones, right? Like what can we read that's going to, or even just like, you know, reading things uh that are empowering to our health, to our mindset, whatever it may be. Um, reading is still a way gentler way of bringing in information um versus an acute hit of a real, you know, a 30-second reel or a podcast episode or whatever it may be. Um, praying, journaling, practicing, gratitude. Those are all shifting the emotional state and impacting your biochemistry and your physiology, without a doubt. Where um, how can I make sure that I spend more time here? Right. So are we scheduling that in? What are we doing? Are we gonna create a new morning routine to make sure we start our day off in this new nervous system baseline, right? What can I let go of? What can, you know, and and part of that I think comes with the like a journaling process because like sometimes when you write it down, you can have freedom from your mind, right? Um, so if it's to-do list and things like that, so you are if you're a ruminating person or you're stressed about that, and um sometimes just having those lists and checking them off, or having a thought journal and writing things down and then letting go of it so we don't keep reliving it over and over and over again, right? Sometimes that's enough because if you were um constantly talking about things that you don't want to repeat, you're making it a stronger program emotionally in your body and you're reliving it chemically over and over and over again, and that's how we get stuck. So, what can we get let go of? What keeps me in a state of frustration, anger, fear, confusion, any of the negative um emotions that we find ourselves in? What keeps us there? Right? Start to notice these things. Like if you are scrolling and you think you're mindlessly scrolling for 30 minutes, and then all of a sudden you are like, gosh, I'm just like super annoyed, super snippy with everybody, then that had an impact on your emotional, you know, state way more than you realize. Or maybe our food, right? Because of our blood sugar swings and we're emotional and things like that. It we have to, even your environment, your lighting environment, right, can have an impact on your emotional state. So finding those triggers for you, everybody's system's a little bit more sensitive to different things, right? So maybe it's your circadian biology, maybe it's your meal timing, maybe it's your hormonal, um, the things that you're keeping your cortisol high, whatever it may be. But if you feel like you are frustrated, angry, irritable, things like that, what makes you feel worse so that you can limit your exposure to those things as much as possible? And then also, what makes you feel good? How can you hang out there more often, right? And it really is just kind of noticing these things so we can we can delegate our time a little bit differently. And the thing is, when you do start to see these negative emotions come into play, what do you do to get out of it? If anything, or are you just reliving it over and over again and then starting the day off in another state of stress? And it just becomes that perpetual cycle, which a lot of us are doing if we're not reflecting and changing. So reflect, edit, notice, notice the thought patterns, the words that you repeat, the feelings that those are evoking, right? Those are all creating your current reality and affecting the lens with how you view the world, right? And also your ability to change, you know, see new opportunities, possibilities, new ways of looking at the world if we're stuck. So recommitting and reaffirming your state is what the nervous system is doing until you're consciously creating space in these areas of your life, right? Along with new inputs, and we'll talk about that next week. This is like the second layer, right? And eventually creating a new state or a new personality, right? We can't solve a problem with the same mindset that created it. We cannot create create change with the same emotions, feelings, behaviors, habits that allow that dysfunction to be there in the first place or the thing that we want to change. So we've got to learn how to do that. So when these things are misaligned, remember that your nervous system is always trying to maintain equilibrium. Your thoughts don't match your emotional state, they don't match your, you know, like if you say you you think you want one thing, but your habits and actions, and like I said, even your level of self-worth is not going to allow you to have this thing that you want. Your nervous system is trying to maintain equilibrium between those things. So we're gonna have to learn to find balance if we want to create something new. And so right now we just need to think about awareness and editing and creating space in these areas so that when we are ready for change, and these will all promote an environment where they're getting us to that place of homeostasis and parasympathetic, which is first and foremost to get into a creative state. And then we'll go into next week, talking about how to build on that once we get there, and then what really is driving the nervous system. It's not what you think. And that's why the state, the personality, the emotional state of the person is so, so, so important. Um, and I'll dive way deeper into that. And we'll talk about troubleshooting and all of those things, why we get stuck, why we self-sabotage, why we know something's bad for us, but keep getting drawn back into it. Why do we do those things? So um that will be next week. So happy new year, everybody. Thank you so much. I feel like this is year three, maybe, of the podcast. I don't even, you know, I just do it for fun. Um and as long as it's fun, I'm gonna continue. But gosh, I appreciate everybody who listens. And I really hope this helps you find clarity and direction in this world of over information. Um, and I appreciate you so much. So please, if you want more from me, head to my Instagram at dr.stacy.nd. And I will link everything up in my show notes. Um, in the meantime, and here we go, 2026. Let's create some change. Let's all get kind of in this momentum and in this place of inspiration and just have the tools to be able to do that, which is the really important thing. So I will be back next week with all of the troubleshooting on this topic of change, and I can't wait to see you then. Have a great rest of your day.