FRIENDS YOU MUST LET GO IN 2024!!!!!

Wave goodbye to draining friendships and welcome the ones that enrich your life! In our first episode of 2024,I unpack the art of curating a circle of friends who nourish your soul and align with your aspirations. It's time to step away from the drama magnets and energy vampires, and instead, build relationships with those who uplift you, share your values, and contribute positively to your journey. Get ready to discover the power of positive companionship and how to create a thriving environment for your personal growth and success.

Chapters

• 0:00 Choosing Healthy Friendships in 2024
• 9:29 Toxic Friendships and Personal Advice

Transcript

Speaker 0: 0:00

Happy New Year, beautiful people. I just want to wish you guys a very happy, peaceful, prosperity, abundance, new year. But now that we're in the new year, you know, in order to add value into your life, in order to add peace and joy into your life, you got to subtract some things, and when I mean some things, you got to subtract some people. So these are the types of friends that I will stay away from 2024, especially if you want to have more peace in your life, if you want to get to your purpose, if you want to fulfill your mission, if you want to get to your goal, you don't want people distracting you, as, especially these kind of people, you just got to stay away from them. 2024. You got to stay away from them, period.

Speaker 0: 0:36

So the types of friends that you should stay away from, or at least keep at a distance, is the ones that always have drama in their life. You know the kind of people like every time you'll be going outside, or even go to the store, or you play in a trip with them, and they're always arguing with someone. Like you can't go nowhere without them, without them being drama, without there being drama. Like you go to the grocery store they're arguing. Everywhere you go, they're always arguing with someone. They don't know how to act in public. They don't know how to act in a restaurant If you go out to eat in a restaurant. These are the kind of friends that they will be nasty or you know, they'll just make a drama out of thin air, because drama is what fuels them. Drama is their life. Like, you don't want to be friends with people that always got drama, especially when you follow each other on social media and all you see is them posting drama. All you see is them talking about their business.

Speaker 0: 1:25

These kind of people drain your energy and they always have negativity and they always got drama and guess what that's going to be around you. That's what's going to be your energy. You're always going to be mentally drained. You're always going to feel like you're in a bad mood or you're in a funk because you have someone that's just so dramatic, so drama, so negative, and this is what their life is about. Like, these people are like vampires. They mentally drain you. They carry bad energy. They're not good for your life right now. Like where you trying to be, you trying to be over here, and where they trying to be, they trying to be down there.

Speaker 0: 1:57

These people are not the kind of friends that you should really be surrounding yourself with. You should not be telling your goals to. You shouldn't be telling your business to, because if they just always carry drama, imagine what they're going to do to you when you're not around. They're going to be talking bad about you. They're going to be making drama bad about you. They're not going to be happy for you. You know these are the friends that be jealous of you. They be low key hating, because if you're doing good with your life and you got plans and you got goals, they're the ones who's going to try to downplay you Nine out of 10 times.

Speaker 0: 2:25

People that always got drama. They be the ones to try to stab you in the back because now that you trying to do better for yourself and you putting yourself first, they're going to be looking at you different. They're going to be looking at you weird. These are not your friends, like. I hate to break it to you, but they're not your friends. Get around people that is like minded. Get around people that pours into your cup. Be around people that have good energy, like, first of all, we getting way too old, we're way too grown to be arguing over what, to be having drama over what. Like you telling me, every time you hang around this person, this person always has some type of drama. This person is always complaining. This person is always making excuses. This person don't take accountability or responsibility for their actions. Like, get away from these kind of people. They're not going to help you grow. They don't want to grow. They're going to hurt you from your growth.

Speaker 0: 3:13

Number two I remember when I was in college I was working at a retail job and I was really friends with mostly everybody there. You know I was cool with everybody. We will always be laughing, we were mad cool. We formed a bond. I had this one friend she was sleep with married men, or she was sleep with guys that are taken. That always bothered me because I would always tell her like why would you do that? He's in a relationship, why would you mess up a home like that? Like how can you be a home wrecker? And her attitude, her mindset, was like well, females do it to me, so I'm gonna do it to them. You know that always bothered me, like it was always something about her that I wouldn't trust.

Speaker 0: 3:48

Yeah, shouldn't be friends with women that sleep with married men or men who are in relationships. Just because they not doing it to your man. It's because they probably don't find your man attractive. That's probably why you know they're not trying to sleep with your man. They're not trying to flirt with your man, but if they was to find your man attractive and there was a moment where she could try and test the water, she will like I can't trust females. If I'm friends with you and you sleeping with married men, you sleeping with men who are in relationships, I could only imagine what you're going to do to me behind my back or what you're going to do to me if we're not friends anymore.

Speaker 0: 4:22

Just because your friend don't find your man attractive or your husband attractive, don't mean she won't do it to you. Wait till you date someone that is actually in her league or you dating someone that she really finds attractive. Wait till y'all break up or y'all fall out or y'all going through some things. Watch how she acts. You can't trust females like this. Just because they not doing it to you Don't mean it's not your turn yet. I've seen this happen especially, especially in my friend group. Y'all already know the story. I had a best friend growing up when our friendship was really really ending and it was coming to an end, she got with my ex. The minute your friend has the opportunity with your ex or your man, as soon as they mess around or whatever, your friend will always be like oh, but we was never friends. It's always that story, but me and her was never friends. So I don't feel bad dating her man or sleeping with her ex.

Speaker 0: 5:12

You have to really be careful with type of woman. Y'all really bringing around your energy, y'all bringing around your household, your family, your relationships. Because let's say you have a faithful man and I pray that you do but you don't know what kind of energy that woman carries. Maybe she just wants to break you up, maybe she just wants to sabotage you because you're happy because you got a faithful man, because you got a loyal man. I remember when I was in college I was dating a guy. He was so loyal, he was faithful, he was like the best boyfriend I've ever had. I messed it up, I'm the one who cheated on him, I played him. But when I was dating him or my other friends, they was in relationships and they were all getting cheated on and they were all telling me oh, he's going to cheat on you. He's going to cheat on you Like he's loyal to you now. But watch, they was just hating because I had a good dude and they all had bad dudes.

Speaker 0: 5:59

So imagine if you are with a friend. You can't trust her because she going around breaking up people's relationships and she said that you got it so good and that you got someone loyal, even if she may not be attracted to him. She's probably going to try and sabotage your relationship because she's jealous. She's jealous that you're happy, she's jealous that your relationship is thriving and she's jealous because you got someone that's going to treat you really, really good. But my point is if you're hanging around with friends that can break up other people's homes just because they not attracted to your partner, it just means it's not your turn yet. These are the kind of friends and individuals that you got to trust from afar. You got to keep at a distance. They will be the first ones to betray you behind your back and then they will act like y'all was never friends to begin with.

Speaker 0: 6:45

So the other types of friends or people you should not be hanging around in 2024 is, you know, when you have people talking about about you. You know that I got that one friend who's very new, true, and she'll be like yo. They was talking about about you yesterday, but I didn't say nothing. But I'm here to tell you what they said. Yo, if you can defend me in the room when I'm not around and I feel like I can't trust you, I feel like you just listening to them gossiping about me and you can't hold me down. You can't have my back. You shouldn't be my friend. You should not be these kinds of people's friends. You may think they're not talking about about you. You may think that they're defending you, but when you're not around, they're talking about about you just like if they could come to you and they could tell you that others is trashing you. They're doing the same thing to you when you're not around. The person that brings the bone is the person that carries the bone.

Speaker 0: 7:32

As I'm getting older, I'm learning that it's so rare it's so freaking rare to have genuine friendships, just like it is so rare to find real romantic companionship relationships. It is so rare to find someone who's very genuine and loyal. It's cool to have friends, but me, I'm fine if I don't have friends. I'm okay if I don't have friends, because I've been around friends that I thought that I was going to do life with. I see them do some grimy things to each other, to each other. I'm just like damn. If I could do this to each other, I could only imagine what I could do to me. It's very interesting with having friends.

Speaker 0: 8:08

Use your discernment. You got to pray about it, you got to talk to God about it. But you can't trust everybody as someone that could come into your life and they seem so trustworthy, they seem so nice, they seem like they'll do the most for you, they seem like they will always show up for you. You got to be careful with that too, because someone could may look good, someone may smell good, someone may talk to you nice, but you don't know their intention behind that. You don't know if they got a hidden agenda behind that. People be friends with each other for years and years and they don't know after a whole decade, or they don't know until they got older and have kids, that they realized that they weren't really really truly friends. There was some secret animosity. There was always some type of jealousy. You just never know If you really want to have a peace of mind in 2024, you don't want your energy drained.

Speaker 0: 8:54

You don't want drama to just follow you. You don't want negativity to constantly consume you. You don't want to be around people and then your spirit feels bad, you feel something disruptive in your spirit because you were on the wrong energy. Cut these people out of your life. You be around people that always got drama, that just loves drama, that loves to make arguments out of thin air, because they have nothing to lose. They don't have no goals, they don't got no visions, they don't want better for their life. So if making someone else feel below makes them feel better, it's cause they fucking losers. It's cause they're losers.

Speaker 0: 9:29

And then don't be around people. You know that could sleep with other people's relationship, that could tear up a happy home or can tear up someone's marriage. That's messy, that's just drama and that's messed up. Like if I'm friends with someone and I was, I was friends with someone and she's messing up people's homes Like I would lick at her. Like what are you doing? Like what's wrong with you? Are you that miserable with your life that you? You don't know how to respect yourself, you don't know how to respect other people.

Speaker 0: 9:52

And then also, you shouldn't be friends with people that they're always constantly telling you what other people are saying about you, but they can't defend you. Because if you constantly coming to me and you telling me people talking bad about me, are you telling me something that happens at work when I'm not around? What are you saying about me when I'm not around? Like, who are you telling my business to and why can't you defend me? If our friendship is real to you and you care about me, why can't you defend me? Why can't you hold it down and why are you hanging out with my frenemies or enemies? Why are you hanging out with my haters? No, it's just things like that that I always be thinking about. This is my personal advice and I hope I could just help at least one person. And if you guys have any other stories that I wanna share or if this resonates with you, please write your comments in the comment below and I'll be back for more videos.