OUTGROWING PEOPLE IS NECESSARY FOR PERSONAL GROWTH!!!

Have you ever felt the weight of someone else's expectations tethering you down? That's where I found myself, trapped until I learned the freeing power of choosing myself. Join me as I share my intimate journey through the trials of setting personal boundaries and the subsequent victories that come with putting oneself first. Amid the backdrop of a challenging post-breakup period, I illuminate the strength found in distancing from negative influences and the courage it takes to sometimes say 'no.' The conversation isn't about severing ties for good; it's about carving out the necessary room for self-growth and the supporters who respect that space.

Chapters

• 0:00 Choose Yourself and Make Sacrifices
• 2:34 Choosing Yourself and Letting Go
• 8:46 Choose Yourself First

Transcript

Speaker 0: 0:00

So I don't know why a lot of y'all, you guys let people around y'all dictate y'all life. Why do you guys do this For a lot of y'all that really want to level up and y'all want to elevate y'all life and y'all want to do what's best for you. I'm always going to continue to say this, but people around you majority of them is not going to like it. When you want to level up and you want to do what's best for you and you choose yourself, you got to sacrifice. You got to put certain people to the side. You got to put certain priorities to the side. Your kids will always come first, but if you really want to go somewhere in life and it means that you have to sacrifice like hanging out with your friends every single week, you know going on dates that is meaningless, that is costing you your wallet, that you're always being mentally drained because you always gotta waste money going through these birthday parties or going to events. If you wanna get to a certain position or a certain place in your life, you're gonna have to do a lot of sacrifices. You're gonna have to just put certain things to the side. You're gonna have to say no a lot, and that's why I always say always choose yourself and always do what is best for you. And if your family and if your friends are not going to like it, then oh well, the truest people that really love you for free, they're going to respect it, they're going to accept it. I'm not saying that you got to cut people off for your life forever, but I'm just saying for me, when I was at a bad place in my life, when I was just leaving and exiting a breakup, I had to remove myself from certain people, people that were not bringing me peace, people that were so detrimental to my mental health, people that just weren't for me, people that would just gossip and just bring bad energy around me. I know they feel some type of way because I don't be around them anymore, but I don't care because they don't ever look at it like, oh, I have to protect my mental peace. I had to do what's best for me. I had to put myself first. I had to choose distance over disrespect.

Speaker 0: 1:48

People are not going to like it. When you choose yourself first, people are not going to like it. When you do what is best for you and sometimes to get to the next level, to go up. You're going to have to make sacrifices. You're going to have to say no. When you say no, when you do what is best for you, that's when you're going to really see who is there for you, who really loves you for free and not trying to take advantage of you, not trying to benefit you. Stop trying to live your life letting other people control you, because other people should not control you and other people should not own you. God is the one who owns you. You should fulfill your life. You should do what it is that you want to do, and if that means that you got to create some distance over people, you got to create some distance over friendships. You got to say no to certain events. You got to just stop showing up. You got to show up for yourself.

Speaker 0: 2:34

Another thing is that when you say no to things that do not serve you, when you're saying no to people that does not align with who you are, you are saying yes to you. People that does not align with who you are, you are saying yes to you. When you are distancing yourself from things that does not serve a purpose in your life anymore, you are getting closer to who you are. You are getting closer to your blessings because you are removing yourself from things that do not serve you. You are removing access from people and situations to things that do not benefit you. That does not bring any value into your life anymore. So when you do that, not only are people who are going to feel some type of way, but that's how you're going to know who's really there for you. You are choosing yourself. You are getting closer to what is best for you.

Speaker 0: 3:18

You are stepping into a version that you are meant to be and sometimes, when you got to evolve from the version of you right now, that means you're gonna have to leave certain people behind. It sucks to say this, but to get to the next level and to become a better version of yourself, you are gonna have to leave some people behind. A lot of people are not meant to be in your next path. A lot of people are not meant to be in your next version of yourself. Some people are not meant to be in your journey. Why am I now where I want to be in life is because you're still holding on to people that was meant to be let go of. You have to let go of certain people. I know a lot of us. We want to take certain people with us because we want everybody to win around us.

Speaker 0: 4:02

But if these people not only that they're not good for our growth, but they're also distracting us from our purpose, but if these are the kind of people that they don't inspire you, they're not feeding into your goals, they're not feeding into your visions, they're always the ones to shut it down. You're not going to get blessed because you got too much negative energies and negative entities, their projections like their failures. They're putting that out onto you and then you're not going to feel inspired, you're not going to feel motivated, you're not going to feel like is it even worth it? You're going to feel like all your goals is useless because you got people around you that gave up. You got people around you that settled in their life, so they're going to put their projections onto you. You're going to have people that are not going to believe in your vision. You're going to have people that is not going to believe in your goals. They're going to try to humble you. They're going to try to minimize your goals and who you are.

Speaker 0: 4:55

And another thing I want to say is that when you lose people along the way of your path to greatness. You did not lose anybody. You didn't lose anyone. That's just god clearing the path for you. Like I've noticed that in my journey for me to get to where I want to be and I'm still currently going through the process I'm still currently going through a journey I realized, realized that I didn't lose anybody. God just removed people that were not for me. God removed people that needed to be let go. God removed people that were a distraction, that was just bringing bad energy to my life, that was just hurting me from my growth. And that's how y'all gotta look at it. Don't look at things like you're losing and all these bad things is happening to you. No, god is processing you. He's preparing you for what you ask for. He's preparing you for what you want in your life, to get to where you want in your life, whether it's success, whether it's wealthy, whether it's to be happy, whether it's to be joyful, whether it's to have peace. You're gonna go through some things. It's not an easy path. It's not an easy journey. You're going to go through some things In order to add to your life. You're going to have to subtract For y'all that really want to be successful and you guys have a vision you can't be telling everybody, because what I noticed is that people, especially like your friends or even family, they keep you boxed in, they settled in their life or they don't believe in themselves to reach their potential.

Speaker 0: 6:17

So they will project that onto you. People will try to dim your shine, people will try to shut down your goals and that's why I always say you got to keep it to yourself. But you cannot be having these people around you because these people are going to feed negativity into you and you're going to start to believe it People that you surround yourself with, whether you believe it or not. But you start to become like that. If you around people that are lazy, if you around people that are broke, if you around people that are just drama, you start to attract that type of energy into your life. When I was around a friend that she always had drama, she always played victim. That energy was always coming into my life because I was always around her and, like when I was around her, I was mentally drained, I was exhausted, I was so depressed like she would bring my vibration so low. So that's why I'm saying like you gotta put yourself first, you gotta choose yourself.

Speaker 0: 7:10

And when you choose yourself, when you choose you, when you do what is best for you, a lot of people's not gonna like it. When you want to do what makes you happy, when you want to climb the ladder, recognize that god is going to clear the path for you. You're going to lose people along the way, and it's not that you're losing people because these people weren't really meant for you. If you weren't losing them, that means that they would appreciate, they would support you, they would celebrate, they will make you happy. But if they're not doing that, god is gonna remove them from your path because they're gonna hurt you from growing, they're gonna hurt you from succeeding. In order to add to your life, you're going to have to subtract, and that means people. Maybe that's the environment that you're in, maybe that's the friends that you surround yourself with, maybe it's the mindset that you're so used to. Everything is all about energy, everything is about mindset, and whatever you continue to be around or whatever you continue to believe, that's exactly what you're going to be.

Speaker 0: 8:00

And another thing I want to say is that stop trying to fit in with the crowd. If you don't fit in. You weren't meant to fit in. You were meant to stand out. You were meant to be different. I don't follow the crowd. I'm the one that I will separate myself from me. I will do whatever is best for me. I will continue to believe in my vision. No one is going to stop that.

Speaker 0: 8:19

If you got people around you that is just dreaming and they have such a scarcity mindset, that's what you're going to continue to believe. You reap what you sow. If you around people that are really not good for you, you're going to sow negativity into your subconscious, into your life, into your habits. So don't let people around you silence you. Don't let people silence your power. Don't let other people dim your light. Don't let other people control you. Don't let people silence your power. Don't let other people dim your light. Don't let other people control you.

Speaker 0: 8:46

If you want to go somewhere in life, if you have a vision for yourself, if you want to do what is best for you, then continue to do that. Don't let other people block your blessings. Don't let any hater or any naysayer stop you from you becoming what you're meant to be. A lot of that is just projection, but that ain't got nothing to do with you. That's the life that they chose. Don't mean that you have to settle because everyone around you has settled, and it's the same in relationships, because other people around you are toxic relationships Don't mean you got to copy. Don't mean you got to follow. Do what is best for you. Always choose yourself first. And that's all I got to say. And if you like this content, please like, comment and subscribe. Also, check out my Amazon storefront. It's going to be linked in the description below and I'll be back for more videos.