LET GO OF TOXIC TIES: THE UNEXPECTED GIFT OF SELF-LOVE AND PEACE!!!

Walking away from a relationship that no longer serves you is like removing a weight you never knew you were carrying. In our latest episode, I unfold the chapters of my life where letting go of toxic ties was not a loss but a profound gain. It's a candid confession of self-discovery, recognizing the courage it takes to pour love into oneself and the transformative power of being selective with who we share our journey. As you listen, you'll understand why self-love isn't just about solitude; it's about creating space for relationships that truly matter—those that uplift and support us through thick and thin.

Chapters

• 0:00 Navigating Self-Love Journey and Relationships
• 7:11 Navigating Self-Love and Toxic Relationships

Transcript

Speaker 0: 0:00

So I really wanted to talk about something. I really don't like the fact that, just because in your self-love journey you're losing people along the way, relationships are starting to fizzle out, people are starting to fade away from your life. It's not always a bad thing. It's really not a bad thing. It's actually very necessary. When a lot of you guys are going through a self-love journey and you guys are pouring so much love into yourself and you're focusing on you and you all about wanting to protect your peace, the people that you lose along your way. It's not a loss. It's actually a gain. Maybe you're losing people along the way because it's for you to be better, it's for you to grow, it's for you to get to where you want to be, it's for you to elevate, and everybody that comes with you on your journey does not leave with you on your journey because you are meant for more. You're meant to level up, you're meant to elevate, you're meant for so much greater. And, unfortunately, a lot of people that starts the journey with us, a lot of people that we be doing life with, people that we surround ourselves with, people that we call our friends, people that we call, you know, maybe family, maybe family, maybe relatives. They cannot be with you along your entire journey because they be the ones holding you back, holding you back from growth, holding you back for more.

Speaker 0: 1:12

When I got out of a toxic relationship and I just had time for myself, I just had time to really hear my thoughts, you know, turn all the voices off I really realized, like who wasn't really there for me, who wasn't really for me. A lot of the times, when you're going through your self-love journey, when you lose people along the way, it's not about beef, it's just about outgrowing people. It's just about realizing that not everybody is really for you. Don't question god's path for you. Like I'm always gonna say, I'm always gonna say this but god heard conversations that you can't hear. God saw things that you didn't see. You know god witnessed things that you did not witness. God heard conversations that you was not a part of. God sees things that you cannot see. God hears things that you cannot hear. You know what I'm saying. So don't ever question god's journey.

Speaker 0: 1:59

Oh, why am I losing people along the way? But what I really want to say is that it may get lonely. You may feel alone. Be around people that really support you for you. Be around people that want to see you win. Be around those that they respect that you want to protect your peace. They respect that you want to prioritize yourself. Sadly, that's not always the case. Unfortunately, that's not everybody. You know it's hard to be around people like that.

Speaker 0: 2:23

I'm still trying to find like-minded individuals. I'm still trying to find my tribe and it's hard. It's really hard because I separated myself from so many people, especially relatives, people that just was hindering my peace. The main reason why I removed myself from so many people, especially that do not serve me, is because one, I wanted peace. Two, it was for my mental health.

Speaker 0: 2:49

When you're going through a self-love journey and you feel like you're alone and you feel like you're losing so many people along the way, what I truly believe is that do not let poisonous people get back into your life. Because you're way too impatient, because you want connection, you want to be around people so bad. I'd rather be by myself and have peace and connect with God and maybe have like a small little intimate circle, than be around people that are just no good for me. Be around people that are not good for my growth, not good for my mental peace, not good for my well-being again. I know healing and I know being in your self-love journey is hard like it is, so hard, especially when people just started falling off your path. When you don't resonate, you don't relate to the people that you once used to be around with anymore. You know you don't relate to them anymore. The vibes isn't the same and it doesn't always have to be beef. It doesn't mean that there's dramas. Just you are on your own path and they're on your own journey and sometimes they're not gonna understand, they're not gonna get it. They won get it.

Speaker 0: 3:53

When you elevate and when you rise up, you're going to have more people mad at you than happy for you, and those be the people that you know. Those be your loved ones. Don't ever be too impatient to find the people. That is good for you. That you settle for poisonous people. You settle for people that really can affect your mental health, your mental peace, people that drain your energy.

Speaker 0: 4:14

I know certain people in my life that they will rather settle with people that just brings trauma, people that just brings negativity, people that are really not authentic, genuine people, because they don't want to be by themselves. And when you don't want to be by yourself. That's really a scary place to be. Because you have to be by yourself, you have to be alone. You have to really love who you are. You got to enjoy your own company. You really got to get to know yourself and love on you before you could just give your energy away to other people. You don't want to be codependent on friendships. You don't want to be codependent on family or relatives or coworkers or the or the outside world. You got to make sure that you are whole and you have peace within yourself and that you truly love yourself and that you bring good energy.

Speaker 0: 5:01

Before you just be around other people and settle with people. That just brings you poisonous, brings you poison and brings you toxicity. And it's the same in relationships. Just because you are way too impatient, attract the right person or wait on god's timing, why would you settle for someone that is no good for you? You're actually doing more damage than good to yourself. Ladies and gentlemen, especially women, don't stick with a relationship that's no good for you, that's always tearing you down, that's always belittling you, just because you're too impatient and you don't want to do the work within yourself. You don't want to heal, you don't want to grow.

Speaker 0: 5:36

Imagine you actually cut off toxic people from your life. You level up, you elevate, you focus on God. You're doing what's best for you. Imagine God really blesses you, because that's what happens most of the time. But you have to go through that journey where it's going to feel alone. You're going to feel lonely. You're going to feel like you don't really have anybody. You're going to feel like you're losing people along the way. And you're not losing anyone along the way when you're leveling up. Let me tell you something you are never losing people along the way in your path, in your journey. When you choose yourself, you're not losing anybody along the way. When you want to do better for yourself, you're not losing anyone friend, no family, no relative, no hater, no relationship. When you want to level up, when you want to protect your peace, when you want to protect your mental health, when you want to just do what's best for you, when you want to just better yourself, you're never losing people along the way. That's just God revealing who's really there for you and who really loves you for free.

Speaker 0: 6:34

The reality is a lot of people, unfortunately, they cannot handle the truth. They cannot handle what God reveals to them. But why stick around people that are poisonous to you? Why stick around people that are toxic to you? I'd rather be by myself and have peace and have sanity than be around fake people, then be around toxic people, then be around people. That's just going to drain my energy, because what does that do for me? My mental health is at risk. I'm such in a negative, bad mood all the time. You know I'm always in a funk, I'm always disappointed, and then that just brings more stress and then that just brings more burdens. Why would I want that for myself and I would not want that for God?

Speaker 0: 7:11

So when you are in your self-love journey, it is hard, it could be very discouraging, but do not, do not let toxic, poisonous people back into your life because you feel alone, because you feel like you don't have anybody. Focus on the people that loves you for free. Focus on the friendships. Focus on the family members that want you to do better for yourself. If God took people away from your life whether it's a relationship, a lover, a friendship I don't know a coworker you know whatever he took away from your life, he took it away from you for your own good, and you may not realize it in the process, when you're going through things. You're not going to realize it. You're going to feel like, oh my God, why is this happening to me? Why am I losing so many people along the way? You're never going to realize it when you're in the path, but sooner than later, god is going to reveal it to you. Oh, I had to lose this person for my peace. I had to lose this person to get to this place to focus on myself, to focus on healing, to focus on loving myself.

Speaker 0: 8:10

People come around you for a season, a reason, a blessing, a lesson, and you gotta just focus on that. Like people in your life, they have expiration dates. Just because you feel lonely, don't isolate yourself too much where you're not making healthy, genuine connections. Go be around people that are supporting you. Go be around people that are rooting for you, but don't settle for people that are poisonous to you and like like you're not alone in this.

Speaker 0: 8:33

I go through this too. I be going through moments and I'm like damn, I feel by myself, you know, and then I be, but I have so much peace. That's why I don't complain. Like the peace that I have now. I did not have this before, like I'm telling you, I did not have the peace that I have now. I had to get rid of people that I love, people that I wanted to do life with. Talk to God about your problems, journal, meditate, be around family that really love you, be around friends that love you for free, and I hope you guys like this content and, if you did, please like, comment and subscribe and I'll be back for more videos.