Single Moms Deserve Respect and Abundance

Ready to find your inner strength as a single mom? Join me for an empowering journey, where I focus on the vital importance of self-care and personal well-being. Discover how simple activities like getting your nails or hair done and spending quality time with friends can make a world of difference. Learn practical advice and hear personal experiences about reaching out to trusted family members or friends to avoid feeling overwhelmed. 
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Chapters

• 0:00 Support and Encouragement for Single Moms
• 3:03 Support and Self-Care for Single Moms
• 6:26 Empowering Single Moms Through Self-Love

Transcript

Speaker 0: 0:00

All right, single moms, you got to really give yourself some grace. Seriously, I know it's hard out here and I know it's not easy, but single moms, I really want you to know that, especially when you're doing it all by yourself, you are doing the best that you can as a single mother. Okay, if anyone hasn't told you today that you're not doing enough, if anyone hasn't told you today that you're not a great mom, you're doing amazing. You are a great mom. I know so many of us got it hard because we're doing it by ourselves and we are picking up the pieces, but just know that you got this and these are some tips that maybe can help you as a single mom going through motherhood.

Speaker 0: 0:39

Single moms, please try to practice self-care. Please pour that love onto yourself, even if that's getting your nails done, maybe your hair done, even going out with certain friends. Please prioritize your wellbeing. Prioritize yourself, because you need to be the best that you can to show up for those kids, to show up as a better mom, as a better person, to show up for your job, to show up in all aspects of your life. You need to have time for yourself. So if that means reaching out to certain family members that you trust or certain people in your life as friends or relatives that you really trust, then reach out to them for help, because being a single mom it is not easy. You're going to need people along the way that's going to help you, that's going to support you so that you can always fall back on, so you know that you're not doing this journey by yourself. So if you have family that is very supportive, that is there for you, reach out to your family. There's nothing wrong with you having a day just to yourself, just to get back to you, just to release all your stress. We need that, we really need that. And if the fathers are involved, ladies, please reach out to the dads and be like listen, I need a day to myself, I need a day to just get my nails done. Even if you want to go out with your friends, tell them like I need a day to just go out to have fun, to enjoy.

Speaker 0: 1:58

Because, just because you're a mom, your life does not have to stop. And I hate it when people be like oh, you're a mom, like your whole life is your kids. Yeah, your whole life is your kids, but your life is about you too. Your life doesn't stop just because you're a mom. Don't let people make you feel like, just because you're a mom, that's it. Your life is over. Your life is not over. Your life is just beginning. You can live for you and you can live for your kids.

Speaker 0: 2:22

Reach out to family members, reach out to people that you really trust and that your kids love, so that they can help you and always know that you are doing your best, always know that you just showing up, even if you're doing it by yourself, that is enough, and one day, your kids is going to look back on you and they're going to be like Mommy was always here for me. Mommy never abandoned me. Mommy never neglected me. Mommy never neglected me. Mommy never left my side. Your kids are going to see that, especially when they're older, they're going to love you, they're going to appreciate you, they're going to celebrate you all the time, because they know you as their mom. While you're doing it by yourself, they know that you never left them, that you made sacrifices for your kids. So, moms, keep it going.

Speaker 0: 3:03

I'm a single mom. Sacrifices for your kids. So, moms, keep it going. I'm a single mom. But of course, her dad is involved and he is a very present, active dad and I live with my daughter, so I'm a full-time mom.

Speaker 0: 3:11

Sometimes it gets overwhelming. So, me, what I do, I always call my parents. I call my parents or sometimes I just drop her off to my parents, just so I can have some time to breathe and just so I can have some time to myself, like to go hiking or to go on a workout or to hang out with someone that I love or love being around. It's needed sometimes. And then it's sad because I know a lot of us moms, especially single moms, we don't have that. We don't have that support, we don't have that family, we don't have people that can help us along the way. So if you don't have anyone that can help you, find a community of moms that you can trust, that you can have this support group, that you can have this support system so that you don't feel alone.

Speaker 0: 3:54

It's rough when you're a single mom and you're doing everything by yourself. If you don't have a support system, if you don't have anyone that's going to help you. Try to find mom groups online on Facebook. Try to find a community, build your community of single moms that's going to help you so you don't have to go through this motherhood journey by yourself. And I actually follow this girl on Instagram. Her name is single black motherhood and she is a single mom and she builds a community of single moms and they go on retreats and for the ones that don't have support with their kids, she makes it very accommodating for her, for her kids, like there's support out there, there's someone out there that can help you, that can support you, that can be there for you.

Speaker 0: 4:38

You don't have to do this alone. And I know it's hard because you don't want to trust everybody and you shouldn't trust everybody. I know so many women that are struggling and they have a support system, they have help and they're still struggling. So you got to find that balance between you and your children and yourself. You got to have time to really make yourself happy. You got to, and your children and yourself. You gotta have time to really make yourself happy. You gotta have time to celebrate yourself, celebrate your small wins.

Speaker 0: 5:01

I just know it's hard, especially when you are a single mom and you don't trust anybody and you shouldn't trust anyone. But I don't think that you should do it by yourself. I don't think that you should struggle and go through this motherhood journey alone. There is so much people that is going through what you're going through. I confide in the most with my sister, because me and my sister we're single moms and we're going through things a lot similarly. But I have my sister to fall back on and I feel it breaks my heart and I feel bad for the people that don't have that healthy support. But there has to be that one person that you could just reach out, that can just be there for you, that can just come and help you out and take some of the load. You know whether it's a family member, or maybe it's a close friend, or maybe it's even, maybe it's a neighbor. You got to have that one person that you trust and that's there for you and that could probably show up for you.

Speaker 0: 5:52

I just really want y'all to prioritize your well-being because this is hard. You know it's not easy. This is a struggle that woman goes through every single day. Celebrate that you are a mom and that you are blessed to be having these kids and you got to take some time out your day to really focus on who you are. Don't lose yourself in motherhood. So when my daughter goes to sleep. That's the time I like to journal, that's the time I like to pray. I don't want to just be a mom. I want more to my life. I want to serve more as a woman in this world.

Speaker 0: 6:26

I want to impact my audience. I want to impact my followers. I want to encourage women, especially single moms. My target audience is mostly single mothers. Yeah, I can get out of this toxic relationship.

Speaker 0: 6:38

You guys can break generational curse. You can do it while you're in poverty. You can do it while you have no backbone, you have no support, as long as you truly believe in yourself and you find a way when maybe there is no way, when maybe the odds are against you, and you break the cycle of trauma and you're building generational blessings and you're breaking generational traumas. That is what my channel is about. It's about self-love, it's about personal development, but it's my main audience is for single moms, because I'm a single mom and I know how hard that is and if you don't take care of yourself, you're not going to show up as a better mom, as a better person for yourself, for your kids, for your job, for your work, for anything.

Speaker 0: 7:23

Don't forget about yourself just because you prioritize your kids, and your kids are first. Don't lose yourself in your children. Remember who you are, always, find support, because there is support out there, and know that you are doing your best. You know, and sometimes your best. It may look like just getting through the day, sometimes your best may look like maybe coming off a little bit short, but if that is your best, that is your best. That's more than enough, cause it's hard. No one is going to understand our struggle.

Speaker 0: 7:45

So, single moms, just please, my heart really goes out for y'all. Like when I be talking to God, it's so crazy, cause when I talk to God, I'd be like yo God, all these single moms that are out here and they have no support, they have like no type of help. You be letting these dudes get away with it, like these deadbeat dads get away with it. Please bring a strong, healthy, loving, respectful, loyal man to these single moms out here. Like these single moms deserve it all. We deserve everything, and I pray that upon single moms. I pray that y'all get everything that y'all deserve and y'all create abundance and y'all create generational wealth for you and your kids. That is the goal. So I hope y'all like this video.