Choosing Well-Being over Toxic Attachments

What if the very people you trust with your dreams are the ones holding you back? In this eye-opening episode, I explore how toxic relationships—be  with family, friends, —can stifle your ambitions and impede your personal growth. Remember, it's never too late to choose your well-being. Don't forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more empowering insights on personal growth and achieving your dreams.

Chapters

• 0:00 Avoid Toxic Environments, Pursue Personal Growth
• 8:09 Choose Growth, Let Toxicity Go

Transcript

Speaker 0: 0:00

If you really want to kill a dream, you really want to mess up your goals, tell it to someone who's very small-minded. You know how you really mess up your goals in life is being around people that you know. You know you should have outgrew a long time ago. It's being around people that keeps you stuck. It's boxing yourself in into an environment that do not serve you, that does not serve your highest good. Is settling for less because you think that there's nothing better out there. I really feel like fear keeps us stuck. It's so normalized to stay in relationships or even friendships or to be around toxic family members because a lot of people have that fear not meeting new people, of not attracting somebody that they want. You pay a price for settling for less. You pay a price for settling for less. You pay a price for being around toxic environments that no longer serve you, or you pay a price just by being around people where you feel like you don't fit in, where you feel like you are minimizing who you are. Forget about trying to fit in. How about you stand out? I'd rather be by myself, right, and have so much peace in my life and not block my blessings and have amazing opportunities come to me and have so much good in my life than be around people that I know is not going to serve me. If you want to kill a dream, I'm telling you. Tell it to someone who's very small minded. Tell it to someone who's very bitter, tell it to someone who regret not going after their goals, not going after their dreams. This is why I truly believe in when you have things that you are trying to obtain in your life, whether it's a dream, it's a plan, it's a vision, whatever it is, I truly believe that you just got to keep it to yourself. You've got to keep the silence. You do not need to be telling everybody One, it's nobody's business. Two, that's between you and God, that's not between you and everybody else. And also, once you're already telling people your goals and your vision, it's like a lot of people are not going to believe in you because they don't believe in themselves, and a lot of people out here they already gave up on their goals. So what you think that they're going to do to you, they're going to project their own insecurities onto you.

Speaker 0: 2:03

I remember I was around a family member the other day and I was just having a conversation with him on the phone. I'm not going to lie, this person has like a dark mentality, meaning like he went through so much things in his life to the point where he just doesn't believe in hope, he doesn't believe in faith. And that kind of personality, that kind of um energy was just, it was just putting a dark cloud over me. You know, and I really love this person, but this is the kind of person that doesn't take accountability or responsibility for their actions and they, they will never grow up and they will never change. And I'm telling you, this person is way, way, way above my age. You know, this person is in their 50s.

Speaker 0: 2:46

But when you talk to like family members, or when you talk to people that are just such in a dark state of mind, or people that just don't believe in themselves, or people that just you know they don't have joy or they don't have peace, anything that comes out of their mouth is always something negative. It's always something that's going to put you down. Being around people like this is always going to minimize who you are. You're never going to want to feel yourself. You're always going to feel like you have to be a version of yourself that can resonate with them. Because if you're around people and you want to talk about your goals, you want to talk about that. You want to do better in life. You want to talk about that. You, you want to be the best version of you, that you want to level up, that you want to elevate. You know they're not going to be happy for you, they're not going to give you that positive, um energy, they're not going to uplift you. You know they're going to always try to tear you down. So that's why I always believe that if you want to kill your dream, your and you shrink yourself being around other people. That's how you kill a dream. Instead, like, remove yourself from things that do not serve you. And I'm gonna just start trying to know if you guys got like toxic family or you guys got people in your life that you can't really get rid of them like that, because y'all related to them or y'all work with them.

Speaker 0: 3:59

There is a thing where you do have to keep your distance. You can keep your distance. There is a thing called boundaries and I truly, truly, truly believe in boundaries. I don't believe in just because you're related to people, just because you know them your whole life. I don't believe in the history got to keep you in the misery. I don't believe in having unconditional love for people that do not want the best for you, that does not uplift you, that does not want to see you doing well in life. I truly don't believe in that. I feel like I don't care if I'm related to you. I don't care if I've known you for so many years. I don't care if we have history together. I'm not going to be miserable because of you.

Speaker 0: 4:38

I feel like nowadays, a lot of people, a lot of y'all, got to just put yourselves first. Stop putting these friendships before y'all If these friendships is not serving you. Stop trying to minimize yourself for who you are. If you are a person and you want to do something in your life and you want to do a specific thing in your life and you want to go about it a certain way and the people that are around you they don't resonate, they don't really understand, then keep your distance Doesn't mean that you got to have drama with them. Does not mean that you got to cut them off. But what are these people doing to inspire you, to motivate you Instead? These are the kind of people and environment that's going to distract you from your purpose. They're going to distract you from your mission, from your goals, and that's why I'm saying if you want to kill your goals, be around people where you know you don't fit in. That kind of environment is really going to hurt you.

Speaker 0: 5:28

I had to remove myself from certain friendships because I just got tired of being around females that all they do is complain, make excuses, be bitter. I just can't stand that energy. I understand we're going through dark times. I understand life is hard. I understand we're all in the struggle like, trust me, I understand. But to keep complaining about it, keep making excuses about it, like that energy really drains me, it really like stresses me out. And then I'm the type of person where I carry people's burdens, you know, and I lose sleep at night because of it. So when you truly be yourself and you choose yourself, everything else will choose you too.

Speaker 0: 6:06

And when you are living authentically, you being genuinely yourself, you free yourself from so many burdens. You free yourself from things that are so unnecessary in your life. You know it's like God separates you from things that should not be in your path. It's like God separates you from things that should not be in your path, and that's just what it is. He transitions you to something that is better for you, to something that is greater for you, or even people that is better for you, people that are going to help you in your path, people that are going to inspire you, people that are going to help you move to the next level.

Speaker 0: 6:37

I just feel like a lot of the problems that people have nowadays being distracted, not being themselves, not feeling free is because of the environment that they surround themselves in. And I am here to tell you like, stop following the crowd. This is a time for you where you kind of got to be selfish, where you got to put yourself first, where you got to put your mental health and your priorities Number one, like no friendship. No other family member besides your kids can go before that. If you really have goals and you really have vision, don't let anybody distract you from that, because you're the one who's going to be living in regret and resentment later. You know you're the one who's going to be bitter about it later. When you wasted all this time. You know following people that you should have been left go a long time ago.

Speaker 0: 7:22

When god wants to bless you. That blessing is just for you. It's not for the people around you, it's not for your friends, it's not for your significant other, it's not for your family, it's not for your neighbors, it's not for your co-workers like sometimes, that blessing is just for you. When you want to take everybody along with you, you block your blessings. You miss out on what God has got for you, because that was just meant for you, not for anybody else.

Speaker 0: 7:47

So, instead of shrinking yourself, instead of minimizing yourself, following the crowd, doing what everybody else is doing, put yourself first, choose you. And, like I said, I've been there. I've been there before when I'm just hanging around people and I'm just like, why, why am I here? Like, why do I subject myself to this? Like, why do I allow this? You get treated the way that you are allowed to be treated.

Speaker 0: 8:09

Life hands you what you give. What you give is what you get you around toxic people. You're going to get toxic energy back. You're not doing enough on your part and you're going to see why the results that you wanted never came through. You got to just start locking in on your goals and on your dreams. It's never too late to get back to you. It's never too late to choose yourself. Don't ever limit your potential. Don't ever box yourself in.

Speaker 0: 8:33

I've noticed that when I let go of certain relationships in my life or friendships that even I just outgrew, it was never a loss, it was just all a lesson learned. These people had to leave out of my life so I can grow, so I can evolve, and maybe vice versa. Maybe you gotta leave certain people's life. If you're the one who's really trying to get things done, you're the one who's mature headed, you're the one who's more wise. You just gotta let these people go, because they need to learn how to grow without you. And I hope you guys like this content and if you did, please like comment and subscribe and I'll be back for more videos.