LET THEM TALK SHIT ! (how I applied the LET THEM THEORY)

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So, I don't know if you guys read the Mel Robbins book, The Let Them Theory. I love that book. I could relay so much to it, and I applied a lot of those steps in my life. Basically, it's about like freeing yourself from people's burdens, opinions, perspective, and other people's opinions about you. It should not matter. And you know, it is none of your business. Which we like to think that because people be talking about us, or people are judging us, or people think that they know us, that it is our business, but it really isn't. A lot of the people that talk about you, judge you, don't really know who you are, they do not pay your bills, and they're not gonna matter. Like I applied it to my life and my relationships because ever since I've turned into a mom, I really wanted to break so many cycles that just wasn't serving me anymore. And you know, one of those cycles was basically not keeping people around me that does not serve me anymore, or that doesn't bring me peace, or that doesn't want the best for me. And I was such a people pleaser, I always wanted to please the people around me, I always wanted to make everybody around me happy, I wanted to feel supported, I wanted to feel validated, but most importantly, I always wanted to fit in. And now I'm at a season ever since I became a mom. You know, my daughter is about to be seven years old. But when I became a mom, I'm like, fuck fitting in. I want to stand out, I want to be different, I want to do better, I want to have better energy around me. I want my life to elevate. When I realized is that the better that I do for myself, putting my peace, putting my peace of mind first, prioritizing me, it bothers a lot of people. At first, it bothered me that it bothered people that my happiness, my peace comes first. Even if that means I have to like let you go and remove myself, you no longer serve me and you're bringing negative toxicity into my life. Like it used to bother me, but now I'm just like fuck that shit. If doing what makes me happy and being at a better headspace and doing what's right for me and for my family makes other people upset, then fuck them. You just gotta let them. People are always gonna perceive you in the way they think fits their narrative, fits their mind, and you just gotta let them let them talk about you, let them think differently about you because you wanna elevate, because you want what's best for you, you want best for your family, you wanna do what's right for you, you wanna do something different, you wanna be a part of people that are so fake and phony that doesn't want to see you win. Let them talk about you, let them think however they want to feel about you, whatever helps them sleep at night, but you just gotta keep focusing on what is best for you. I love that book. I feel like you guys should check it out. The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins. I haven't really been paying attention a lot to my content, like I haven't been posting consistently because I've been really like burnt out and I've been going through like a depression. It's gotten to the point where even when I stopped creating content, it's just got to a point where I just don't want to keep living the same life I've been living. I always just had this goal where I wanted to leave my hometown and I wanted to create a better life, a fresh start for me and my daughter, and that's just more what I'm focusing on. I love that I'm at a place in my life where I'm not begging for friendships, I'm not begging people to support me to feel validated because when I started my podcast, you know, I wanted the people that I was around to support me, to you know, show up for me, to show their support, but they wasn't doing that. So, you know, that's when I had to remove myself. And I'm just at a place in my life where I don't care to lose a friendship, I don't care to lose somebody that is not meant for my highest good. You know, some people really be bothered by it, they be like, oh my god, the history we had, it just bothers me, it breaks my heart, and I don't live my life like that. I feel like if that relationship has ended, then God just wanted something better for me, and maybe something better for that person. And even if it comes to relationships, don't chase people that are not giving you the same effort. Stop showing up for people that are not showing up for you. Don't be supporting people that's not supporting you. A lot of y'all may not even know it, but y'all be around people that is low-key competing with you, and you don't even know it because while you're out here showing love, showing support, want them to win, they're out here praying for your downfall. I love keeping things to myself because anytime I tell somebody something, it never happens. Like I self-sabotage myself because I tell the whole world. Like, I used to tell like my closest friends, like, oh, I want to do this, I want to be this, I want to get here. When I tell them, it never happens. And but they will watch everything that I do. In my 30s, I just love being private. I love keeping my milestones to myself, and maybe you should too. If you feel like you carry a lot of people's burdens and you're worrying about what other people is thinking about you, or just let them let that shit go. Let people be however they want to be. Do yourself a service and get rid of people that are not meant to be in your life. Period. I'll be back for more videos.