Choose Joyy Podcast
Based on the mood and habit tracking Joyyful Planner, the Choose Joyy podcast is focused on self alignment for those who struggle with anxiety. Through these unpredictable times, we’ve all experienced moments of self-doubt and uncertainty. By making a conscious effort to choose joy daily, we allow ourselves to heal and grow into the path destined for us. Join me weekly to unpack, affirm, and choose joy.
Choose Joyy Podcast
Spilling Over
What if you could transform your mood during the darkest months of the year by filling your inner "cup" with joy? This episode of the Choose Joy podcast promises to equip you with powerful strategies to navigate the challenges of seasonal depression and the trap of negativity that steadily looms over us.
Please see metaphor below:
You are holding a cup of coffee when someone
comes along and bumps into you or shakes
your arm, making you spill your coffee
everywhere.
Why did you spill the coffee?
"Because someone bumped into me!!!"
Wrong answer.
You spilled the coffee because there was coffee
in your cup.
Had there been tea in the cup, you would have
spilled tea.
Whatever is inside the cup is what will spill out.
Therefore, when life comes along and shakes
you (which WILL happen), whatever is inside
you will come out. It's easy to fake it, until you
get rattled.
So we have to ask ourselves...
"what's in my
cup?" When life gets tough, what spills over?
Joy, gratitude, peace and humility?
Anger, bitterness, victim mentality and quitting
tendencies?
Life provides the cup, YOU choose how to fill it.
Today let's work towards filling our cups with
gratitude, forgiveness, joy, words of affirmation,
resilience, positivity; and kindness, gentleness
and love for others.
Affirmation of the week: "I fill my cup with joy, and when life shakes me, joy spills out."
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Speaker 1:We have made it to the segment of the year that I like to call the embers September, october, november, yeah, and this is when it gets colder outside and inside. If you know what I mean, this is for my seasonal depression. Baddies, my guys, that like the outdoors and the sun and how it directly affects our mood, our emotions and the way that we go through life. Sometimes things just seem a little bit darker when the time changes. It just gets a little bit darker when the time changes. Okay, it just gets a little bit colder. We feel that breeze in the air and in our life. We're going to navigate this upcoming season together. So, to start us out, episode 15, we're calling this Spilling Over, and I'm going to start from this excerpt that I found and I cannot, for the life of me, find the author. So if you hear this and you know who to give credit to, please do so, okay.
Speaker 1:So the metaphor says you are holding a cup of coffee when someone comes along and bumps into you or shakes your arm, making you spill your coffee everywhere. Why did you spill the coffee? Because someone bumped into me? Wrong answer you spilled the coffee because there was coffee in your cup. Had there been tea in your cup, you would have spilled tea. Whatever is inside the cup is what will spill out. Therefore, when life comes along and shakes you which will happen whatever is inside of you will come out. It's easy to fake it until you get rattled. So we have to ask ourselves what's in my cup? When life gets tough, what spills over? Joy, gratitude, peace, humility, anger, bitterness, victim mentality and quitting tendencies? Life provides the cup. You choose how to fill it. So I definitely wanted to touch on this today. What is in your cup?
Speaker 1:Our inner state and emotions shape our reactions, more so when we're under pressure, and I know that. We know that we can't always control what happens to us in this life. But we do have control over what we invite into our lives and how we prepare ourselves mentally and emotionally in tackling them. And it's better to focus on what you can control versus what you can't. We must learn how to separate our emotions from our behaviors. We've talked about this before, but your emotions are always valid.
Speaker 1:Never allow someone to discredit your truth. How you feel is what you feel and there's nothing anyone can do or say to deter that your feelings are valid. However, your behavior and how you act because of said emotion is not okay. Example your anger is valid. Screaming, yelling, being aggressive it's not okay, and sometimes we lash out due to something that we're struggling with personally. It has nothing to do with the other person, but think about the fairness in that.
Speaker 1:I'm pretty sure that we've all had an encounter where you are talking to somebody or you're interacting with an individual and you sense something in their tone that kind of triggers you, that an attitude or anything and it literally has nothing to do with you. It could be that that person had a bad day. They just woke up on the wrong side of bed this morning. It has nothing to do with you, but you remember how that made you feel, and I want to share a few strategies to avoid spilling negativity into other people's lives just because your cup is filled with it. So, for one, identify your triggers, okay. This is why I believe journaling is so important, because it allows you to literally backtrack. It's like a snapshot of your brain in that moment in time and allows you to go back and read and see clearly, see what triggered you.
Speaker 1:Pause and breathe. The power of breath work is amazing. I'm sure we've all heard of the saying count backwards to 10, or count to 10 whenever you feel angry or emotional, and it actually really, really works. There's science behind it. So, pausing and breathing, also practicing empathy I feel like in this day and age we really lack empathy, just seeing things from other people's point of view and perspective.
Speaker 1:My mom always told us seek first to understand. Seek first what the other person might be thinking, feeling, to understand the situation, understand how to communicate. Think about if you were them receiving whatever it is that you're spilling out. How would you feel? How would you react? How would that in turn, affect whatever is in your cup, and vice versa. And then I statements. I statements are important because it keeps you from blaming others and puts the focus back on your own experience. I feel frustrated when I am angry because. And then, lastly, developing healthy outlets. And then, lastly, developing healthy outlets. These are just productive ways to channel your emotions, such as exercise, journaling, developing a new hobby, my personal favorite voice diaries. Okay, for my people out there that are not too keen on writing, voice diaries work y'all. Open that voice app, open the voice the voice, what's it called? Voice recording app on your device and literally talk to yourself and play it back to you. Like, how do you sound? Like, listen to you, listen to yourself, okay, and it really helps you better assess the situation because you are literally having a self-to-self conversation and finding different hobbies definitely works.
Speaker 1:Um, the past couple of months have not been the easiest for me and I've have been a victim of literally allowing my cup to be filled with so much negativity that when life starts to rattle me, which girl? Life has been shaking me like a leaf trying to fall off, and I have noticed that negativity spilling over into my conversations with others, the way that I my outlook on life and I had to come to my senses and come really back to myself and to my core and hone in. Because we just discussed ways to empty that cup. Let's talk a little bit about how to feel that cup back up with joy, gratitude, peace, so that you are giving that to whoever comes in contact with you. Someone can bump your cup and rattle you, or life can just be like an earthquake, shaking you all about. But let's make sure that whatever is spilling out is positive, is love, is gratefulness, is joy, is peace. It's all of run up. So here are some different strategies.
Speaker 1:Engage in activities that genuinely make you happy. Okay. Hang out with your friends. Connect with others. Incorporate humor and playfulness into your life. People should never laugh. Yes, we've all heard the same, but it's not true. It's okay to laugh a little. It's okay to live a little. Okay, so Find ways to enjoy yourself and genuinely make yourself happy. Engage in activities that wake up that child inside of you. I mean, when is the last time that you've had a bellyache from laughing so much? When is the last time you heard yourself actually laugh? Not the cute little laugh that we put on when you know what I'm saying, we're talking to others. No, a genuinely happy moment in your life.
Speaker 1:Get back to that Gratitude. Keep a gratitude journal. I encourage it, I push it. It is amazing when you start waking up and just write out one or two things that you're grateful for. Watch how your life changes and it might be in a small way or a big way. Just do it this week. Just do it for the rest of the week and see how much it impacts your life. I mean, and see how much it impacts your life. I mean we are always so focused on what we don't have right and what we lack. I want this, I wanna be this, and when you keep saying want, you're literally acknowledging the lack of it. You want something because you are already lacking it. So again, you are focusing on what you don't have. Let's be more grateful for what we do have. If you have a roof over your head, food in your stomach and clothes on your back, you're already richer than 55% of people in this world. So be mindful of that. Take heed of that and give God thanks for waking you up this morning and starting you on your way and, believe me, your life will be so much brighter. So do this this week and then go over to our site and text me. Text me and let me know how it worked out for you, because, yeah, I need to know.
Speaker 1:And lastly, I would say a way to fill your cup with peace would be to do some mindful movement. That always brings me peace Just walking, meditating, simplifying your life by decluttering things around you like. One of my favorite ways to invite peace in my life is one Clean up. Okay, clean that mess up, get all that junk out of your life, and I mean literally and metaphorically. Okay, so, clean your space, give yourself time and room to think, and the more organized you are, I just feel like the less hectic life seems. You know.
Speaker 1:And what's another way to bring peace in your life? Setting boundaries, no is no is no, no is a complete sentence, and you don't always have to be a people pleaser all the time. Please yourself, okay, make sure that you Are taken care of before you then try to take care of everybody else. Okay, we're not trying to empty our cup by pouring into everybody else's. Okay, we want to make sure that our cup is filled so that if somebody bumps into us and needs a little bit of jesus juice, we have it to give. Okay. So the overall takeaway and affirmation this week, I fill my cup with joy, and when life shakes me, joy spills out. So ask yourself, what is in your cup. Thank you for spending a moment with me today and for all of your continued support.
Speaker 1:Take a look at our website, because great things are coming. Y'all. I know that we've been having some spaced out episodes, but that's because your girl's been working. I've been working on some content, I've been working on some deliverables for you guys. So please stay posted on our website, stay posted on our Instagram page, choosejoycom. Choose Joy podcast. We got some great things going, so keep engaging, keep texting. I love seeing your texts to Choose Joy podcast. It is just amazing to see just all the contribution from everybody and really doing the work to grow this community. And yeah, we're all a family here, y'all. So watch what's in your cup and choose joy.