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117. Disrupt the Hidden Codes That Run Your Life (Candice Lyn)

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Candice Lyn - disruptor of subconscious programming, and founder of The Frequency Lab - joins The Quiet Warrior Podcast to explore the hidden codes that quietly run our lives — the subconscious beliefs formed in childhood that shape how we show up, love, and seek safety. Drawing from her book Awaken and her own healing journey, Candice reveals how awareness, nervous system regulation, and curiosity can help us break free from survival mode and live from embodied truth.


In This Episode

  • The invisible codes we live by: How subconscious beliefs about worth, love, and safety are encoded in early childhood — and how they influence our adult behaviour.
  • People-pleasing and fawning: Why many introverts and “good girls” learn to stay small, keep the peace, and seek validation through perfection.
  • Recognizing your survival response: The four responses — fight, flight, freeze, and fawn — and what they reveal about your nervous system’s default programming.
  • The four stages of transformation:

       Spot the code – noticing patterns and triggers

       Disrupt – choosing to make a new decision

       Regulate – calming the nervous system

        Reclaim and Embody – stepping into your power from a grounded place

  • Curiosity over shame: How curiosity opens the door to healing, while self-judgment keeps us stuck in old loops.
  • Breaking the burnout cycle: Identifying “I’m not enough” and “I’m unworthy” codes that fuel chronic overwork and emotional exhaustion.

  • The power of rest: Reclaiming rest, stillness, and self-nourishment as radical acts of self-love.

  • Spiritual bypassing and toxic positivity: How avoiding pain and focusing only on “good vibes” blocks real transformation.

  • Returning to your essence: Remembering the childlike curiosity, imagination, and potency that existed before the world told you who to be.

Key Takeaways

  • Awareness is the first step toward freedom — you can’t heal what you don’t see.
  • Regulation is not a luxury; it’s a pathway back to your truth.
  • Celebrate every moment of self-awareness, no matter how small.
  • True awakening is not about perfection — it’s about remembering your innate wholeness.


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SPEAKER_00

Welcome to the Quiet Warrior Podcast. Today my guest is Candace Lin. Candace is the author of Awaken, disruptor of subconscious programming, and someone who got tired of pretending everything was fine while quietly unraveling. She helps people spot the belief systems running their lives and rewrite the script. She's not here to sell affection. She's here to talk about deconstructing the matrix of people-pleasing, spiritual bypassing, victimhood mentality, and generational survival codes with humor, depth, and full-body truth. Candace has lived through deep loss, life traumas, religious deconstruction, codependency, identity crises, and the pressure to keep the peace no matter what it costs her. Welcome Candace Lynn to the Quiet Warrior Podcast.

SPEAKER_01

Thank you. Thank you for having me.

SPEAKER_00

Candace, could you take us back to your journey and how you come to do the work that you do now?

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, so you know, I would say it started early on, learning people pleasing, um, you know, getting getting that as my identity as the people pleaser. Um, and then just being a mother and a wife and going through normal struggles, right? And hard times in marriage, as as we all have, and really we getting some coaching and working on that, and I I recognized that my people pleasing wasn't really my identity, right? The closer I got to me as I unpeel the layers and get to my truth, it was a survival mechanism. Um, it would it came from having codes of I'm unworthy, I'm unsafe, and constantly trying to source my safety and my worthiness by keeping everybody happy. And once I found realized that it was freedom, right? Now I get to choose, you know, if I if I'm I am a nurturer, of course, that never went away, but doing it from a space of coming from my safety and my worth being sourced internally is a whole different ballgame.

SPEAKER_00

Thank you for sharing that. When you say we're living by code, what is this code and where does it come from?

People-Pleasing As A Survival Code

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, I'm referring to those subconscious beliefs that we have that you know tell us to stay small, um, or that we're not enough, or we have to earn love, right? These things that have been coded into us, I say they come from everywhere, right? Our our external, our perception of the things that are happening around us, and we create a belief and a story to make it make sense, you know, traumas, um, different religions and things like that just encode us with these boxes that we try to fit ourselves in that aren't really in alignment with our truth.

SPEAKER_00

So, what is the way that we find out what our own truth is?

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, that's that's the deconstruction part, right? And so first we have to recognize, and that's chapter one, is that we are we're living by these subconscious codes and learning to spot them. And the way I spot them is looking for what I call the symptoms of a code when I've been triggered. Uh, my nervous system, its poison of choice was freeze, and so I started recognizing, oh, I'm in freeze right now, and kind of taking it back, right? Maybe I heard a covered slam in the in the kitchen, right? And instantly I'm frozen, and I'm still I'm waiting for something external to help me know what to do next, right? Maybe somebody just slipped, but my survival mechanism is I'm not safe, so I'm gonna freeze. And so learning to notice when our when we go into fight, flight, freeze, you know, when we get angry without cause, our feelings are hurt, it's just time to go internal and see what's really, really in there, trying to get your attention.

SPEAKER_00

So you're saying that there is a message for us in all these triggers, and perhaps the way in is to explore with curiosity.

Childhood Coding And Early Shame

SPEAKER_01

Yes, curiosity is the key, right? It cannot be, as I learned really early on, it can't be shame. I cannot be shaming myself or passing judgment on these codes because that's just gonna get you stuck back into guilt, victimhood, that cycle that we're trying to stop. And so curiosity is absolutely the key.

SPEAKER_00

Interesting you bring up shame because I'm thinking of times when parents shame children into behaving a certain way or not behaving a certain way. For instance, you know, if you're crying, oh, you know, shame on you, oh, boys don't cry. And, you know, all these um messages, these codes that we get fed from a very young age. And I think a lot of people do say that by the age of seven, we've already absorbed all these codes that then determine how we respond to other people, how we talk to ourselves, how we show up in the world, our thoughts about money, about in all kinds of things. And those are already in place by seven.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, yes, and that's it's usually, you know, a little piece of you that in that moment had a big emotional response, didn't know how to make sense of it, and you know, we have the ego and everything trying to sort itself out. And oh, okay, well, if I cry, I get yelled at. I better, I better be quiet, which we follow take that into adulthood and we don't express our feelings, we hide when we cry.

SPEAKER_00

Yes, and then we then internalize all that frustration, all that you know, feeling of injustice, and it we also we swallow it down and we think we're being good, that that's the right way to be, that's how the good girl behaves. You know, we don't trouble anyone, we don't rock the boat, we don't show our feelings, we don't air our dirty laundry, all those sayings, right? Which just serve to reinforce this pattern of when there is trouble, when there is pushback, I keep it quiet. I I'm dignified about it. I don't let anyone know about it, and I don't ask for help.

SPEAKER_01

Yes, absolutely, absolutely. And so when I started really practicing getting in touch with my truth, my essence, my potency, it everything that wasn't that I realized wasn't me, right? And these codes didn't, they weren't that. When I feel these codes in my body, I don't feel my truth and my potency. And so I was able to just start recognizing, oh, that's a that's a code because I don't feel powerful right here. I don't feel my potency right here.

Spotting Triggers And Reading Symptoms

SPEAKER_00

So how do we flip that? Having identified the code, how we how do we then rewrite it or what can we do to to change the way that we show up?

SPEAKER_01

So that was that was what I noticed when after my transformation. I'm a journaler. I I write everything. I started going back through my journals, and I said, wow, there's a process here. There's a process. And that's so chapter one is spotting the code, and then next we need to what I call disruption. We need to be able to say, I want to make a different choice, even though we don't know what that choice is yet, right? We all want that magic pill. We want to go from being coded to being free, but that there's a few steps between. That's where we really grow in our strength. And so choosing, okay, I don't know what I'm gonna do. I'm frozen here and I don't know what to do instead. But all I know is I don't want this code to run. I don't want to be taken over, I don't want to be hijacked. And from there, after the decision is made, we need to get neutral, and that's where regulating our nervous system comes in. Because we're not going to be able to know what to do next if we don't come from a regulated space. And so, you know, there's lots of ways to regulate your nervous system. When I'm frozen, I feel my feet on the ground and I start breathing. And as I let, you know, the fears don't just magically go away, but you're sitting in neutrality and you're saying, okay, it's happening. My heart's beating faster, my muscles are tensing, but I'm gonna breathe and I'm gonna sit with this. And those feelings pass, right? I think they say an emotion lasts about 90 seconds. So as long as we don't get taken off in story mode and we stay in our body, we can stay neutral. And the next is is what I refer to as reclamation. From that neutral place with that regulated nervous system, you can choose what to do next. You know, the cupboard slammed. Okay, I'm regulated, I can walk out there and see what's going on. But making the decision what to do next, and then and then embodying it is the last step. We want to embody that that decision that we made when we were regulated and locked into our truth.

SPEAKER_00

For those of us who are not familiar with nervous system regulation, why is it important to know this, to learn this? What happens otherwise if we're not regulated?

Curiosity Over Shame

SPEAKER_01

So your nervous system can go will go into fight, flight, freeze, or fawn within a nanosecond. They've they've um done studies and it's within a nanosecond. And once that's happened, you know, your amygdala takes over, you're in survival, the prefrontal cortex shut down, decision making has left the building. We're in survival. We all of a sudden we think we're being attacked by a tiger. And for me, I was sick of living in survival. I was I was sick of feeling like there was a tiger every around every corner, right? Every time something happened. And so regulating my nervous system was was key in this because I'm not going to be able to stay embodied, which is my goal. I want to be embodied, I want to be free if my nervous system is constantly within a nanosecond taking off and shutting off my decision-making capabilities.

SPEAKER_00

And I think it's important also for people to recognize that they might react differently. So, in your sense, in your case, it's free. Someone else might go numb or dissociate, someone else might get into flight mode and want to run away, and some people want to fight back. And I think there's also the fawn element where people, you know, just give up and think that as long as I make this person happy, this thing that is a threat in front of me right now, as long as I placate them and they they get what they want, then I'll be safe. I can survive, I can live on for another day.

SPEAKER_01

Yep, yes, and I think the fawning and people pleasing go right hand in hand, right? As soon as I was unfrozen, I was fawning and just trying to ex source that external safety because internally I didn't feel safe. And so taking that moment to breathe and get neutral and help myself feel safe, I'm safest in my body. When I'm disassociated, I'm not running the show, right? And so before we go fawn and do all those um different types or fight or for flight, we just take a moment and it's really it's not before because your nervous system takes off before you. So the practice is recognizing when you're in it and regulating from there.

SPEAKER_00

Which means a tremendous amount of self-awareness. Because I think a lot of us function in default mode where we're not thinking it's automatic, it's a reflex action, it's second nature. So to be able to catch ourselves in the moment and realize what's happening, what's actually happening, I think that takes a lot of self-awareness.

SPEAKER_01

It takes a lot of self-awareness and grace for yourself, right? Because this is, you know, I lived 38 years in autopilot. And it would be crazy for me to think I'm gonna fix it. You know, I still, it's been it's been six months, I think, since I published the book. I'm still working, I'm still catching myself from time to time. And when I catch myself, I celebrate like no other and teach myself this is what we want. Um, not rather than focusing on, oh, I let myself fawn again. It's oh my gosh, I caught it. Oh, how amazing, right? And start building those new neural pathways, telling our nervous system this is the direction we want to go in.

From Codes To Potency In The Body

SPEAKER_00

That's powerful. I'm glad you brought that up, Candace, because we can be very hard on ourselves, and particularly introverts, quiet achievers, the good girl, um, the ones who have been conditioned to perform in order to earn approval. It feels like, you know, when I don't get it right, or when I get it even slightly wrong, then it's me that's wrong. There's nothing wrong with me. But what you're saying is let's celebrate, let's go in the other direction, let's send ourselves a new message that this is where we want to go. And then the subconscious can't take over and you know, pick up that signal, pick up that new message, embed it, and reprogram it. I think the reprogramming is actually the part where the magic happens because we're running on these scripts and these codes, and we're not even thinking about it. We are like you mentioned the matrix, yeah? So we are inside the matrix, but we're not seeing the zeros and ones, we're not recognizing that we are inside. We think we've got it all, we we figured it all out, and we can just use our brains and think ourselves out of things.

SPEAKER_01

Yes, and you know, the it's the body where where we can get out of that mental trap, right? The thoughts are your cage, I talk about in the book. It just takes off on you and it's chattering and it's telling you you're not enough, or this person. Usually, a lot of times, you know, we're justifying it externally. And a code is always internal. When I started recognizing, oh, I'm I think this is happening, but really on the inside, I believe I'm not enough. I believe I'm not enough. And start loving the parts of me that think I'm not enough, right? Now it's whose version of enough have I been chasing? That's that's crazy to think somebody's not enough. Enough of what that's so subjective. And so it is, it's a lot of catching yourself and coming in and loving the parts that have been and crying and crying out for attention.

SPEAKER_00

So there is that in a child, there is that version of ourselves, a younger version who maybe in in a time in the past was hurt or was neglected or was abused or didn't receive the love and the assurance that they needed, and so didn't feel safe. And we are still carrying that part, that little girl with us into our present. And we are reacting from that point of view. So, what you're saying is go back, you know, be kind, be loving, give ourselves the perhaps the parenting that we did receive then.

SPEAKER_01

Yes, absolutely, right? And we're constantly, you know, the un I'm unworthy is a very common one, feeling worthy and again, so subjective. But it comes out in jealousy, right? You know, getting jealous. My husband is super kind and funny and charismatic, and you know, parts of me, if he's super kind, leaves the doitress a big tip, right? There's a part of me that's like, okay, is he being kind or or like what's going on here? And that was such a signal to me. Like, my jealousy is me needing to be loved by me. Right. And as I start to love myself, I can see my husband is just the kind human being that he is, because I've healed my worthy unworthiness.

The Four-Step Process: Spot, Disrupt, Neutral, Reclaim

SPEAKER_00

So the core of us has to be steady and able to hold us through whatever emotions, whatever circumstances externally are happening, that core needs to be solid. And that's what you're talking about. That nervous system regulation, the loving, those parts of ourselves that feel hurt or neglected. And that is internal work. That is something we can't call on an external person for to boost us.

SPEAKER_01

Yes, yep. It takes total, complete self-honesty, you know, um, and really going internal. And like I mentioned earlier, understanding that we're not gonna go from being coded our whole life to embodied and free with a magic pill or a magic, you know, it is literally that middle process where you learn who you are and you find your truth and your essence as you're you slow that middle part down, you're learning who you are, what makes you tick, what you need, what you're missing. That's really the beautiful part of the journey that people kind of want to skip over.

SPEAKER_00

Yes. We do want things very quickly and we want them, you know, tomorrow or maybe even yesterday. And so we don't we don't take on that long-term commitment of really doing that work of getting to know ourselves, reconnecting, remembering and reclaiming, as you put it in your book, reclaiming who we are or who we want to be. And you said also to embody and all those other parts that the foundation has to be set in a certain sequence, isn't it? Before we can live and embody who we believe we are meant to be.

SPEAKER_01

Yes, yeah, unfortunately that is the case because we live by these codes, right? We have such and such wounded belief systems and things like that that we do. I mean, I haven't met somebody yet that hasn't had to heal something to be able to really be embodied. There's times that, you know, you turn on your favorite song, and there's ways to get into your body, but to stay rooted and regulated, it it takes practice.

SPEAKER_00

What are some of your rituals for staying rooted and regulated on a daily basis?

SPEAKER_01

Uh, I try to make sure that I wake up before my girls and give myself some time to journal and drink some coffee or well, matcha or chai. And um I but that's you know, that just kind of give pours into my cup for a minute, but really staying regulated is a moment-to-moment thing. It's remembering, oh, oh, breathe, breathe, right? Those fluctuations. And so I guess I've just become very aware of my fluctuations and gotten good at saying, hey, I I want, I want to make a different choice here. And I'll, like I said, feel my feet on the ground, breathe. I go put my feet in the grass often. Um, journal. Journaling is definitely a part of my practice. Whatever I can do to just it kind of varies, you know. Sometimes I need loud music, sometimes I need to go play the singing bowls but that practice of getting back to me and seeing what I really need in the moment.

Why Regulation Beats Willpower

SPEAKER_00

And that again takes self-awareness at a very deep level and self-honesty. But also, I think not judging the things that we feel are rising up in us, you know. If your body says, I I want to get connected with the grass today, I want to go for a picnic, I want to be barefoot, I want to be romp, you know, and enjoy this beautiful weather. And then it's it's not it's also not having that other voice come in and say, Oh, that sounds so silly, you know, who would do that? Or that sensible adult voice that then tries to override the thing that came up that was the first thing you wanted, which is the truthy.

SPEAKER_01

Yes, absolutely. And a lot of the times, you know, maybe it's rest. That's such a hard one for people to say, I genuinely need some rest right now. Especially, you know, being an introvert, if I'm out kind of an advert, but if I'm out in the middle of social stuff, it's whoa, my social battery is drained. And honoring that I need to go rest without shaming or guilting myself because it's just what I need, right? But we are so trained that rest is lazy, you know, rest is sluggishness, and so that's a really hard one for people to unpack is when they need a nap, go take a nap.

SPEAKER_00

Yes, yes. Naps are one of the best gifts. And I think um for women, especially getting older, um, perimenopause, menopause, and all that. The the thing about rest and sleep is I think it's underrated. We've been carrying around this burden of you know, hustling and being on the go all the time and too many things to do, and oh, I've no time, I've no time to just sit down. Um, and I've even heard someone say, I'll rest when I'm dead. And I thought all that, oh my goodness. Where are these colds coming from? You know, what is this? And perhaps some of it is just, you know, those wounds and traumas we inherit from ancestors, and that has a historical context. It has a time frame. Because at that time, perhaps they were going through something that was so. Significant that changed everybody's lives, that upset the whole routine. There was no time to rest. Rest. You have to survive first in order to get to the luxury of resting. And then somehow we've taken on that those wounds, those traumas, those memories, and we've taken them into our current time. So even if we're not technically in survival mode, we still think we operate as though we are. And then we have no right to rest.

SPEAKER_01

Yes, absolutely. That's definitely been had our hustling grain culture all the way back, you know, because surviving was a full-time job. Right. Back back. But I heard somebody say once that if you um have the thought, you know, I'm just going to live in the moment, we don't in our society, we don't realize what a luxury that is. You know, that just goes to say that you're not out surviving every single day trying to figure out where you're gonna sleep, where you're gonna eat, you know, and not everybody has that luxury. And when I heard that, I am not gonna take that for granted anymore.

Fawn, Freeze, And Self-Awareness

SPEAKER_00

Yes, even five minutes to ourselves could be a luxury to someone else. And it's yes, it's a luxury, it's a privilege. And I wish everyone could have that, whatever the definition of five minutes looks like.

SPEAKER_01

Oh, absolutely, absolutely. So, yeah, that's a really hard one for people to decode, is giving themselves permission to rest and learning to listen to what our body's asking for. We've we've quieted, we've muted our bodies and lived in our heads our whole life. And so it's actually is a practice, even you know, when I was a people pleaser, I didn't know what I liked. You know, somebody would ask me, What do you want to do? What do you want to eat? What do you want to? I don't know. What do you guys want? You know, I had no relationship with myself. So getting to learn who I am has been a lot of fun.

SPEAKER_00

It's about time to, especially for women who are very accustomed to giving others precedence over themselves, and we are taught to do that. We are, you know, it's reinforced, it's like a virtuous thing for a woman, especially a mother, to prioritize family first, children first, everybody else first, and yourself last. That's that's the way we are taught. That that's the right way to be as a woman when you have a father.

SPEAKER_01

Yes, it's tragic. It's tragic. And once you start filling your cup and giving from the overflow, it has a total different vibration to it, right? When you're when you're centered and you're regulated and and you've done the work and you're loving yourself and you have all this excess to give, has a completely different vibration than I'm unsafe, I'm not enough, I'm trying to extern, you know, externally source everything. It lands different. It lands different.

SPEAKER_00

And with chronic people pleasing, how do you know when a line has been crossed? Because chronic people pleasers, they they have no sense of, oh, I'm doing this for some other purpose. It's like that that's the identity. I want to make people happy. I'm the one that's always useful, I'm the one that's always there to solve problems. How do you know when you're wanting too much to help? What's you know, where's that line between being helpful and being too helpful?

Celebrate Catching Yourself

SPEAKER_01

For me, I notice when I've slipped back into people pleasing because that my nervous system is in fun, or you know, it's it's in an unregulated state, like somewhere I feel unsafe somewhere. When I'm doing it from a regulated space, my body's relaxed, if it fills my cup, you know, and so it just feels different in the body when and you know that you're doing it because you want to, right? It's a totally different feeling than when you're trying to be safe and you're trying to keep everybody happy.

SPEAKER_00

So the energy feels different. Yeah. How do you manage your own energy as an ambivalent?

SPEAKER_01

I rest my rest. Um, well, just today we went out and walked around a few stores. My daughters are the same as me, and we got through about three or four stores, and we're like, okay, we're ready to go home. And so just recognizing and learning where my boundaries are when I'm depleted, when I want to socialize, and when I want to retreat, and back to never shaming myself for it. Right. I feel like is the introverts have kind of been shamed, and you know, you you don't want the it's kind of been split to where being an extrovert's better than being an introvert, which I don't believe is true. And so honoring, you know, I'm I'm awesome, and sometimes I just need to be alone.

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SPEAKER_00

So you talked about spiritual bypassing. Can you talk to us about that? Because I I believe a lot of our listeners will not be familiar with that term.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, so that is when you use anything external, which a lot of the time is spirituality and religion, to bypass what's really going on. And so you have this external life, right? That you are righteous or or even spirituality, right? You go to yoga every day and you meditate and you do your singing bowls, but internally you're not you haven't done the work, you're still uneasy, right? And so you're just using all these external things to numb what's truly going on, not meaning you want to call the shadow self or your or your traumas or your wounded, not processing what's truly going on and using those external modalities to just bypass the pain.

SPEAKER_00

So that's like a shortcut or one of those popular life hacks. We don't want to do the painful internal work that takes a long time, that takes a lot of honesty, and it's probably quite messy while we're going through it. We just want the beautiful, perfect looking outcome.

Inner Child, Worthiness, And Jealousy

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, yeah, there's it's there's not an alignment, right? You can they look very peaceful and happy, but but on the inside, you know, I've got to get really close to a lot of coaches, you know, that who on the outside looks like everything's going great and they're and they're guiding people down these sessions, but internally, as you get to know these people, they're struggling, which there's nothing wrong with that. We all struggle, right? But when you're you're creating this external reality that doesn't match the internal reality, you're bypassing all this all the stuff that's there for you to work through.

SPEAKER_00

So that's that toxic posity, I think, that gets toxic.

SPEAKER_01

That's right in there. Yeah, yeah, just just toxic posity, everything away, just anything that keeps you from actually going on the inside and understanding what's going on, what needs to be felt, what needs to be healed, released, what needs to be understood, and what needs to be loved by you, right? It's just it's to me, it's sites on the external or sites on the internal where you're truly doing the work and the lasting change.

SPEAKER_00

What about for people who are feeling stuck or burned out? You know, what what codes do you think are in them? What do you see?

SPEAKER_01

For me, that was um not enough. So I just I just ran and kept doing, kept doing, kept doing. I'm unworthy, trying to prove my worth, um, and just keeping my head down, blinders on. This is what I'm doing. I'll be happy in five years, you know, when I get done with this. Um, it's not sustainable, right? But it's covering up that you feel maybe unworthy or not enough on the inside. And so, again, all the focus is on the external, you know, we'll enjoy our life in in 20 years. We just got to grind now. I've hit burnout twice in my life in in different settings. And there's always been signs, right? You notice it, but you just you just keep going and going. And this last time when I hit burnout was when I finally came on the inside and realized, wow, I feel not enough, I feel unsafe, I feel unworthy, did that transformation and and wrote the book.

SPEAKER_00

So your book would be the beginning, the first step, I think, to to helping people awaken and then, you know, proceeding through those steps of eventually reclaiming and embodying the person that they want to become.

SPEAKER_01

Yes, yep. Getting people back, you know. I talk a lot about the that essence we felt when we were a kid, right? A lot of people, you know, I'm gonna be the president and and change the world, or I'm going to whatever it is, we were trying to find whose life out there looked big enough to match the potential that we had on the inside before these codes dimmed that. And so my goal is to always get people back to that potential, embodying the essence and potential of who you are and who you have everything inside of you to be who you were meant to be. And we just need to get reacquainted with that.

Daily Rituals To Stay Rooted

SPEAKER_00

Yes, so we've forgotten, we've become disconnected. This is about the path back to remembering, becoming that self that was before we return the seven. And I remember in the book you mentioned seeds of potency. You said potential comes from being potent, and potent is about power, isn't it? It's about the ability to be something bigger than what we can see in that tiny thing.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, yeah. They both come from the Latin root potencia, which means power, might, force, um, and the ability, the ability to become something, like you said. And so that's what I refer to as I feel like that's the essence of who we are, that's who we were meant to be, right? Before all these codes started watering us down. So that's the goal is you get back to embodying that and through curiosity. That's how we we tapped into it so much as a child through cure curiosity and play and pretend and imagination and getting curious with ourselves can take us back there. Yes, and asking why and listening. Yeah, why did that upset me? Why did that hurt my feelings? Why, you know, and and first during the early in the practice, that mental cage as well, because they did this, because they did that, and and though there can be clues in there, right? If you listen to it, you can get neutral and let that thing just run off. Um, you can find clues to it's always like a flashing neon sign to a part of you that feels unworthy, unlovable, not enough, unsafe. And so just getting down to underneath that is the goal.

SPEAKER_00

Yes. So we start at that external part. We start with looking outwards for where is the problem? What's the problem that I need to fix? Whose fault is it? And then we realize, you know, moving through all that, that maybe it's not about fault, maybe it's about beliefs, maybe it's about these codes that are running our lives and where did that come from? And then being honest, but also loving ourselves, I think, through that messy process of figuring how all this works and how do I heal it, you know, which part of me needs some extra love and tenderness and being okay with it all, because you know, that process is never linear and it there's no timeline to it either. It's not gonna happen tomorrow or even next year. It could happen very quickly or it could take a lifetime. And I think we need to be prepared that it's going on a journey, it's not like you know, getting on a plane and arriving somewhere in 17 hours, it's it could take the rest of our lives.

SPEAKER_01

Yes, yep. But what it does is because before we have the awareness, right? Awareness is always the first step in healing. It's like a loop. You know, we always talk about being stuck in a loop. But once we have the awareness of, oh, I have a code that I'm unworthy. Now we're on a spiral because every time we come back to that space, whether it takes five minutes or three days, eventually we can be like, oh, oh, that was my own work. Oh, I felt unworthy. And you're coming back to it with a new awareness every time. So you've broken the loop, and now you just get to heal it each time you come to it.

SPEAKER_00

What is the best way for listeners to connect with you and to buy your book?

Rest, Culture, And Generational Survival

SPEAKER_01

So the book is on Amazon, Awakened by Candace Lynn, but everything is housed on my website, the frequencylab.to. There you can, you know, it's linked to Amazon to get the book. You can join the wait list for book two. I'm actually dropping a course um this week on everything we just talked about. And so you can join the wait list for that, or um, depending on when this airs, it might be ready. Or you can also book a disruption session with me. You know, sometimes we need a human witness to help us unravel all of this. And I'm also on TikTok and Instagram, Candace LynnAwaken.

SPEAKER_00

Beautiful. So Candace LynnAwaken and the frequency lab.to. So thank you so much, Candace Lynn, for sharing your time and your wisdom with us today about what it takes to awaken, about the hidden codes that are running our lives, how we can overwrite these codes, how we can reclaim our lives, and how we can embody the higher version of ourselves that we are disdained for. Oh, thank you so much.

SPEAKER_01

It was such a pleasure.

SPEAKER_00

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