How to Stay Calm When Your Child is Not With Devon Kuntzman

Episode Highlights With Devon 

• What is happening mentally and biologically when a child is not calm and feeling triggered
• The lower part of the brain is more developed in young children and they aren’t as strong in impulse control and other skills yet
• All parenting moments are opportunities for learning and growth
• How to start asking questions from a place of a growth mindset vs a fixed one
• Awareness is the first step in creating change and how to cultivate it in parenting
• Learning the pause and why it is easier in theory than in practice, plus, what to try instead
• How to disrupt the stress response and create safety physically and emotionally 
• Ways to validate our own emotions and find inner calm again 
• How to ground yourself in stressful parenting moments
• Holding space for your child’s emotions and not sending subtle messages that their emotions aren’t ok
• Why not to punish a child for feeling upset or not having control of their feelings and not to distract with screens when they get upset either 
• A subtle thing to think about before encouraging a kid to stop crying and how to help them put words and context while accepting the feeling (not always condoning the action)
• Her recipe for effective discipline and how to align discipline with their development 
• How to create a connection with children at all ages and connection is the balm that can soothe feelings 
• Ways to create awareness as a parent

Resources Mentioned

• Transforming Toddlerhood by Devon Kuntzman
• Follow Devon on Instagram