Hedonism Review - Part 4 Spa and Poolside Issues

It's not all fun and games in paradise. Phoebe and I discuss the challenges of pool time when trying to connect and flirt when both partners aren't right next to each other... We try out the Italian restaurant, hit the spa, and dance our butts off at a glow party. We also discuss the challenges of how desire is fluid, so matching up with others can be tricky.

00:00 - Start
02:36 - Spa Services
04:23 - Pool Time Issues
06:50 - Italian Food
07:48 - Glow Party!
10:50 - How Desire Changes

Transcript

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[Unknown] Here we are at day four for hedonism. We had some friends come in late from our area which was[Unknown] nice to greet them and welcome them to hedonism. We did a workout by the pool. Normally there's[Phoebe] yoga three days of the week but Nadi Jim stepped in and took over. Oh my god. It was so fun. So let's[Ed] describe it. I think every trip that we go on, especially swimmer vacations, we bring workout[Ed] clothes, we bring workout shoes, we bring you know all the the things that we would need to be able[Ed] to hit the gym and I think I ran once on the cruise and we did go to the gym once. It was too[Ed] crowded. Yeah it was the swingers like to workout and even the gym here we heard this morning was[Guest] very crowded. If you expect to work out that may or may not actually happen. Just be prepared.[Ed] Get there early. We went down to the beach at the the prude side pool. So if you're familiar with[Ed] hedonism, there's a pool on the other side of the resort. There's a little bar there right on[Ed] the beach. So you can see the ocean in the background. It's beautiful. It was shady. Not too[Phoebe] not too hot. Goodness because it was hot at yeah nine in the morning. Yeah it warms up pretty quick[Ed] around here. There are little cabanas with beds around the pool and we move them the mattresses[Unknown] off to the side and we did a little bit of a team high intensity interval workout. It was a fun[Ed] workout. It wasn't hard. It was 20 minutes long. We did a little bit of a warm up some jumping jacks[Ed] some you know up downs and then we dipped into the pool twice did six up downs and then we did[Ed] step ups and then we tagged and Phoebe did her round. You really did get a good workout and it was[Ed] fun because it was team based. You got to see what other people were doing so it was a little bit[Ed] of a competitive element and how many people work out with their pool and do like body weight work[Ed] out at the same time. And their partner. Yeah we do body weight workouts in our living room. We[Ed] don't have access to a pool there in the living room which would be fun. I know. I'm totally[Ed] different level of living. That could be where the fire pit is. Yeah I'm feeling a little pool[Ed] in there. A little plunge pool. That would be messy I think. You know what I mean? It was different.[Ed] It was nothing like the one of us had said had done before and it was fun. We had a good time.[Ed] There was another one today which we missed but that's because we were dancing all night long.[Phoebe] One of the other free surfaces that the resort has on site is a Kama Sutro workshop. That's[Phoebe] very popular. We tried to get in. Yes we arrived 15 minutes early and they had already locked[Phoebe] the doors. So hopefully maybe we could try and get into that today. I really want to check that out.[Phoebe] In addition they have a Kama Sutro massage. Somebody described what this was the other day and I had[Phoebe] no idea. The therapist uses their entire body to give you a massage so it's kind of erotic without[Phoebe] the happy ending. They did a little description on it and you know the hair drag that you know[Phoebe] crossed your body. Use their own body on your body so I was I was thinking I might want to try[Phoebe] that. It could be fun. Right? So I'm going to ask a few more questions and then I might have to[Phoebe] book that because I want that experience. So not knowing that I got till afterwards I got a regular[Unknown] massage. I really like the deep tissue massages and I did need that because after a day of travel[Phoebe] and sweet sleeping eye different bed etc. neck tension back dancing doing things that you normally[Phoebe] don't do. Right? So it was well worth it and I will say for someone who's been receiving massage[Phoebe] for about 40 years and I'm not kidding you because I started getting them when I was about age 15.[Unknown] This was one of the best masseuses I have ever had massage my body. She was amazing. She got[Phoebe] she really worked the knots in here and I left feeling quite awesome. So I would I would highly[Phoebe] encourage you to take advantage of that services and they have other services to hair and nails.[Phoebe] Do you know that waxy just like an almost box. We headed over to the pool afterwards and[Ed] I get in the pool most of the time because I don't have a lady part issues and dealing with chlorine[Ed] and all the fun stuff so I can bob around in the water for the whole time. But it does kind of set us[Ed] up at a strange disadvantage when we were having some issues with that yesterday. Yeah.[Phoebe] There's another couple that sit together on the side of the pool every day because she doesn't[Phoebe] want to get in the water either because the chlorine really messes with her vaginal pH as it does[Unknown] with mine and honestly when I look at the pool it's pretty cloudy with a lot of sunscreen so I[Phoebe] just really don't want to stand in that and that's just my preference. A lot of people don't[Phoebe] mind. I just don't like that for myself. Ed was doing a lot of the hunting for us that day and a[Phoebe] lot of flirting and making connections however as an unanticipated side effect I was starting to[Phoebe] feel laughed out. Right. Right. And I couldn't figure out why and I thought oh because he's not[Unknown] here with me on the sidelines because I thought oh me no problem and just go out there do some[Phoebe] hunting flirting there and bring people back. People weren't coming up to me to talk to me I think[Phoebe] because you weren't there so people didn't feel like they could approach me without you there.[Unknown] Yeah. I think. That's our theory. It's kind of like a thing. I'm not sure. I'm not sure what it was.[Phoebe] But anyway I left and decided to go and have some quiet time on the beach which was very lovely[Unknown] and then we had a conversation about that but we're going to try a new strategy today where he's[Phoebe] going to sit on edge of the pool with me and see what happens. This is a bit of a social experiment[Phoebe] and we're going to try something different. Who comes up to talk to us because when you're not[Phoebe] in the pool making things happen you rely on people coming to you. Yes. So that's more challenging[Ed] because the activity is all in here and you are literally on the sidelines so we'll see how it[Ed] works out. It seems to be working fine for our super cute hot couple that sits on the side of the[Ed] pool. It kind of holds chords. They don't seem to have any problems but we are not the same people[Phoebe] so we'll see. Yeah. Somehow they weren't directing people my way but I'm going to have to start.[Ed] Yeah like overflow right? Yeah I know we're busy and so we'll see. We'll see. We always[Phoebe] greet them too which is fun. Yeah yeah they're super nice. For dinner we tried a different restaurant.[Phoebe] We tried the pasta restaurant that night. I do not eat pasta but I was happy to find something[Phoebe] that I really enjoyed there that was not curved based and it was amazing. I would say I like that[Phoebe] better than the Habachi place and we will definitely go to that place again. And I'll pick something[Ed] different than what I had because it didn't sit well with me. There's a lot of rich food here and if[Phoebe] you're not used to eating rich food it might play a little bit of havoc with your stomach.[Ed] Yeah and I'll say too if you're not used to drinking regularly or consistently that will also[Unknown] wreak havoc with your diet so it's one of those things. You're on vacation and so your body is[Ed] not going to react the same way so bring extra stuff like tons and what not so that you are prepared[Ed] to continue your vacation even if there are unforeseen circumstances. The theme party for that night[Phoebe] was glow party. Let me tell you it was pretty epic. They set up this big massive structure like[Phoebe] in a concert type of scaffold and all the glow fabric black lights people dressed great. Yeah they[Phoebe] had a fun time. They also provided us with like bubble head glow ball and glow bracelets,[Unknown] blinky bracelets, little LED foam like rave sticks. And they flew in at someone from a different[Phoebe] group that does events here. Yeah they're a big group that we've heard about them in the past[Ed] and they do their own week here at Hito. So it was nice to hear a different DJ and kind of change[Ed] things up a little bit. The music mix was a little bit different and because it was a glow party[Unknown] they kind of did more than EDM theme and so even even the music they were blend genre so there[Ed] was like a Metallica song that they blended with something else. Lady Gaga I think. Yeah it was[Phoebe] pretty. It was super cool. It was insane. I was like oh my god I would never thought of this mashup.[Phoebe] Yeah but he was able to really read the crowd well and started with some 80s mashups with modern[Unknown] and then he the middle of the set was a little more or hip hop. At the end like a good sandwich[Phoebe] he brought it back around towards more of that 80s with modern and that was more my jam so in the[Phoebe] middle I got to rest and rehydrate and then dance my pants off at the beginning and dance my[Phoebe] pants off at the end and then everyone was a hot sweaty mess. Oh my god Clare was everywhere. I[Phoebe] would say people really split up at that point. They put on a soundtrack for people to continue[Phoebe] partying up there. Some people jumped in the pool like I know 20 feet to their left. Right because[Ed] they opened the pool at night which they don't normally do the upper pool right next to the dining[Ed] room. Right. A group stayed. A group split off and did carry okay at the piano bar and then another[Phoebe] group came down to the nude pool. This is where we went. And yeah and what was interesting too is[Ed] that people spent a little bit of time at carry okay and then when that was done then they filtered[Ed] back down to the nude pool so by the end of the evening things were just getting started. We[Ed] were going to bed because it was already to something. Yes. And apparently people were down here[Ed] till like four or five in the morning till the bar actually closes at five. Yes. So it was it was[Phoebe] hopping last night. It was the night. It was pretty epic. I would say that night and Easter night[Phoebe] the bunny night those those those parties were pretty pretty rockin. Yeah. I liked it. Yeah.[Phoebe] Made a lot of connections. Had some really great intellectual conversations with people and now[Phoebe] we've got about what three people on our list. We started with one solid couple on our list.[Phoebe] It went to five. Now we're down to three solid couples that we think we will end up playing with[Phoebe] today. But it's funny how day to day kind of changes and the couple that we thought we would[Unknown] definitely play with has now fallen off the list. So this is the life of a swinger. Yeah. You[Unknown] got to you got to roll with it right. People change. People change. People change. The circumstance[Ed] change. So be flexible. Have fun and be open to new opportunities. You never know who's going to[Ed] roll in. People we had breakfast with today made the list from nowhere. Came out of left field.[Unknown] Yeah. So wishless luck. Oh one last thing before you go. If this episode[Guest] helped you in any way, the single best thing you can do to support the show is leaving a rating[Guest] and review. It takes 60 seconds and helps new people find us when they're searching for[Unknown] relationship education. And we've made it easy. Visit swingeruniversity.com forward slash review.[Guest] All the instructions are there. Thank you for being part of this community. We'll see you again soon.