Keepin' It Real!

We're real life friends who discuss real life problems in a real life way. As you listen to this podcast we celebrate the good, support you through the bad and point you to a real life God who has the answers. We invite you to join us at our table, where together we'll laugh, sometimes we'll cry, but most importantly, our promise is to show up and do real life together! Kim Haar is a licensed professional counselor and licensed marriage and family therapist with over a decade of experience helping others find healing and wholeness in life. Kim Spence is all about story. Whether it's through ghostwriting, book coaching, podcasting or legacy stories, she is all about helping others bring their story to life.

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When Boundaries Become Walls

February 02, 2026 • Kim Haar and Kim Spence • Episode 72

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Cutting people off has quietly become one of the most common forms of "self-care" in our culture.

In this Part 1 episode of Keepin’ It Real, we take an honest, compassionate look at boundary-setting and where it can slowly shift into emotional cutoff.

As Christian women, we’re called to guard our hearts…but we’re also called to love well, pursue peace, and walk in truth.

So how do we know the difference between a healthy boundary and a wall built from hurt, fear, or unresolved pain?

In this conversation, we explore:

What emotional cutoff actually looks like in real life
Why “cutting people off” can feel empowering—but often leaves deeper wounds
How boundaries sometimes become confused with bitterness or avoidance
A faith-centered way to think about protection, distance, forgiveness, and wisdom

This isn’t a conversation rooted in judgment. It’s rooted in discernment, grace, and healing.

If you’ve ever been cut off…or if you’ve wondered whether distance was necessary, or just easier…this episode is for you.

Our KIR Question: Have you ever experienced being cut off—or do you know someone who has?

🎧 This is Part 1 of a multi-part conversation.

This episode is intended for reflection and conversation, not diagnosis or one-size-fits-all advice. We recognize that some relationships require distance for safety and healing. Our heart is to explore this topic thoughtfully, through a Christian lens, with wisdom, grace, and prayerful discernment.

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The conversations you hear on Keepin’ It Real are the same kind of honest, faith-centered conversations women everywhere are longing to have. If your church, women’s ministry, leadership group, or conference is looking for speakers who bring authenticity, wisdom, and encouragement, we would love to join you.

Through storytelling, biblical insight, and open dialogue, these gatherings invite women to reconnect with God, rediscover courage in their faith journey, and walk forward with renewed hope.

If you’d like to invite us to your event, gathering, or conference, reach out and start the conversation. kim@thewomensfellowship.com or kim@kimberlyhaar.com