Breaking Free from Burnout with Rebekah Brumfield: Boundaries, Self-Care & Bold Life Changes

In this episode of the Bella Grace Podcast, we dive deep into the realities of burnout, self-care, and bold life changes with the vibrant and multifaceted Rebekah Brumfield – entrepreneur, media consultant, foodie, and passionate advocate for living authentically.

Rebecca shares her journey from high-functioning depression to becoming a thriving businesswoman managing multiple ventures in Baton Rouge, Louisiana, all while being a devoted mom. Together, we unpack the power of boundaries, why saying "no" is crucial, and how to recognize when it's time to change your environment and social circles.

We also get real about the physical signs of burnout, the importance of finding the root cause, and why professional support can be a game changer. Plus, we explore morning routines, mushroom coffee, and simple daily rituals that help reclaim peace and productivity.

Whether you're a high achiever juggling too much or someone ready to reclaim your energy, this episode offers honest insights and actionable tips to help you break free and thrive.
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Chapters

• 0:00 Introducing Rebecca Brumfield
• 7:35 Setting Boundaries for Mental Health
• 12:30 Navigating Burnout After Life Challenges
• 19:46 Small Changes for Better Well-being
• 31:15 Getting to the Root Cause
• 36:40 Three Keys to Self-Care

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:06

Hello and welcome to another episode of the Bella Grace podcast, where we are helping high achievers break free from mindsets, behaviors and addictions that are holding them back from reaching their true potential. And today we are doing that by talking to Rebecca Brumfield. She is a dynamic entrepreneur shaking things up in the Baton Rouge Louisiana area Love Louisiana. As the engagement and outreach director for a prominent New Orleans nonprofit and a sought after media consultant, rebecca collaborates with some of the biggest names in the industry. Her journey began as a respected social media journalist, laying the foundation for an impressive career. Her behind-the-scenes work.

Speaker 1: 1:09

Rebecca is the creative mind behind Jean Ellen Home and Lifestyle Collection and the visionary behind Ophelia's Creole Razzle Dazzle Seasoning. Ooh, I want some of that. She's also known for conducting compelling interviews with national figures and for shaping digital content at BLK News Network. Is it black? Is it Okay? Black News Network, okay. Recently, rebecca expanded her business ventures by launching Chrysalis Did I say that right? Chrysalis, chrysalis, chrysalis, chrysalis, chrysalis, chrysalis, chrysalis Media and Emerging no, chrysalis Media and Entertainment. Sorry guys. I'm reading her bio. It's so good I don't want to miss a single piece of it. Chrysalis Media and Entertainment, where she manages emerging local music artists. Emerging local music artists, a proud foodie and devoted mom to her teenage daughter, sasha, isabella Rebecca still finds time for family, church, social justice advocacy and cheering on her alma mater, the Southern University Jaguars and the Indiana Pacers.

Speaker 1: 2:22

Yes, welcome to the show. We have a lot in common. So I have a teenage daughter, okay, who is obsessed with everything Creole and I always say like Cajun. She should have been born Cajun because she loves Cajun food. She loves, like when I was pregnant, I craved Cajun food. She loves, like when I was pregnant, I craved Cajun food all the time. It's just a different flavor, right, like it's a different flavor palette. And so I'm reading this and I'm like, oh, you're speaking to my heart and I'm the same way I love we go to New Orleans, louisiana, once a year, every year, because we just we love the culture of Louisiana and the history. So, anywho, all right, tell us a little bit about yourself and how you got to where you are today. I've read a little bit, but I want to dig in.

Speaker 2: 3:17

Yeah, for sure, for sure. So, hi everyone, I am Rebecca. I grew up here in Louisiana. I was born in New Orleans. I moved around a little bit but I consider Baton Rouge home because this is where I've been the longest out of everywhere that I've lived.

Speaker 2: 3:36

As Teresa mentioned, I have a 16-year-old and that has been an interesting journey navigating bad teenage emotions, all of this that's happening with technology and all the things that we have for our teenagers now. That was not present when I was a teenager and so you know it's just a little different, it's a different ride. And you know, owning and operating and managing and doing all of these business ventures that I have, you know, I just I try my absolute best to practice some self-care, to be as intentional and present at all times, whether I'm with family, friends or whatever. I just try to dial in and you know, if it's something that I'm able to connect in and be present in and be there, I'm there. If it's something that's going to take too much out of my mental social meter, I'm just kind of like, no, I'm not going to make it. So that's where I am with that. That's how I got here.

Speaker 1: 4:39

Yeah, that's so important. So we were talking about this earlier. This episode is going to air around the end of the month, but right now it is earlier in the month and I'm actually doing a series right now on breaking free from burnout on my Facebook those boundaries that you're talking about and I was doing all the things like I went back to college when my daughter, when I found out I was pregnant with my daughter, so her entire life I was juggling undergrad, master's programs, work for family, friends, all that yeah, I was burning out. I was, even though, like, I love being around my family, I love doing social things. I was burning out because I was. I was giving away way too much of myself.

Speaker 2: 5:40

Yes.

Speaker 1: 5:40

Yeah, yeah, and it wasn't until I adopted your mindset of if it takes too much from me, I have to say no or whatever.

Speaker 2: 6:06

And so that is your social meter. Like, if you get to a space and you literally have to sit in your car to hype yourself or prep yourself to go into that space, it's costing you too much, you're expending too much energy. If you're excited to be there, you can't wait to get there, you're hopping out the car, you know then that's the place that you want to be, because you're going to naturally just have a good time and it's just not going to take so much out of you to be present and engage with people. And so I think a lot of times we, out of obligation, show up for these events, whether it's family or whatever. We're just there because this is my aunt, this is my grandma, this is my mom, my whoever, and we're dying on the inside. We're so mentally exhausted that we're just like no good being there. Yeah.

Speaker 1: 6:53

And that's something that I struggle with my clients with all the time. Well, I have to go, you don't have to go. Correct, correct. Is anybody going to die if you don't show up?

Speaker 2: 7:07

Maybe, but if they do, what can you do? It was their time, right.

Speaker 1: 7:12

It was their time to go. I tell my clients, if it's not a hell, yes, then it's a hell no, exactly, I agree 100% and I got to a phase of burnout.

Speaker 2: 7:30

So a little backstory I went through a highly functional depression late 2021. It was a lot of things that happened back to back in my life that I just was not mentally prepared for. My best friend passed away from cancer, I had a relationship that ended kind of abruptly, and then one of my parents had gotten very, very sick and it was just like a long road of recovery. So in the process of trying to process all of those emotions and all of those things and the ups and downs of all of that, I just was in a space where I still had to show up for work, I still had to be mom, I still had all of these social events and people invited me to come and do this and do that. So I'm smiling and I'm laughing and I'm having a great time, but on the inside I'm dying. I get home and I'm falling apart. I'm in my car, crashing out, falling apart, you know. And so once I was in a space where I had to tell someone what was going on with me and be honest with myself about my feelings and trying to navigate where I was, I did seek a therapist. That kind of helped me to put some things into perspective. And so, from there, dealing with all of that, I started all of these businesses and so I'm doing all of this stuff and I'm moving, I'm moving, I'm moving and I got to 2022 and I'm exhausted because I'm like, oh my gosh, I've started this business, I've taken on this client, I'm doing this, I'm doing that, I'm working, I'm showing up here.

Speaker 2: 9:01

And so the burnout came to where I didn't want to do anything. I didn't want to do podcasts, I didn't want to go to these events, I didn't want to get dressed up and go to dinner. I did, you know, I just want to be on my sofa. And it slowed me down enough to realize and recognize I have to be accountable for my feelings, I have to be accountable for my mind, because if I continue to go insane, it's not helping anything, it's not helping anyone.

Speaker 2: 9:31

And so the burnout helped me to reevaluate what's important, what do I need to put my time and energy to, and how can I redirect some of these businesses to where I can combine them, or either just let them go. You know, if it's meant for me to have or meant for me to do, it'll circle back and so, fortunately, here in 2025, a lot of things have just come back to me, naturally, to where I'm able to now put into different spaces and compartmentalize and be more organized and be more present and not have that. Do I have to be there? Hell, no, type moments I'm like hell, yeah, I'm gonna be there, like I'll be there first, I'll open the door.

Speaker 2: 10:13

So that is where we have. As humans, we have to take our mental health seriously. We have to know when enough is enough and we have to know when we're getting to that burnout to at least trust someone. Enough to say this is too much for me. I can't handle all of this and I need you to step in for me and hold me accountable for my self-care.

Speaker 1: 10:35

Yeah. So I don't know if you have read we Should All Be Millionaires by Rachel. I forget her last name. I'm going to pull it up on my Facebook because I follow her and so she's always like the top of my page, but there she was. Literally Rachel Rogers wrote a book called we Should All Be Millionaires and I've been telling everybody about it. A business coach actually suggested that I read it, and Rachel is a biracial woman. She's half black, half white.

Speaker 2: 11:11

Okay.

Speaker 1: 11:12

And her primary focus is making millionaires out of women, but especially minority women, and in her book she talks about quit making broke ass decisions versus million dollar decisions. And one of the broke ass decisions that she talks about is not prioritizing our self-care, not delegating she talks about is not prioritizing our self-care, not delegating. She talks about delegating. She's like I know you think you can't afford it right now, but you can't afford not to. Yeah, and she was specifically talking about like house, having a housekeeper, having a someone come in and clean your house once a week, twice a week week, or once every two weeks or once a month, something. She's like if you sit down and look at how much time you are spending doing the dishes, doing the laundry, mopping the floor, like that is, if each one of those takes an hour, that's three hours a week, or you know, seven hours for the dishes, if you do them every single day and it takes you an hour. She's like think about it. Like you, you aren't asking for help and that's why you feel like shit all the time.

Speaker 1: 12:35

She cusses a lot in her book but it's true Like we aren't recognizing the symptoms or the signs of burnout until we're hitting the wall like you did, and that has got to stop. Like and that is. I'm so glad that people like us, who are high achievers, who are doing a lot, are talking about. Hey, I was burned out. I'm still doing a lot, but I am in a much better place because I stopped, paid attention to the signs that my body was sending me the signals my body was sending me and did something about it.

Speaker 2: 13:21

Absolutely, and I mean, you know we go through moments of you know I'm just tired because you just need a nap. You know, or you just may have had a lot on your plate that day and just you need it from time to breathe. Emotional maturity comes with, you know. Instead of sitting at the laptop at a table all day, take your laptop outside for a little bit. Or, you know, maybe you just need to take a lunch break, go sit outside, get some sunshine, have a drink or whatever. Whatever. Just prioritizing yourself and not allowing what your work schedule or what you have to do to dictate how you feel throughout the day.

Speaker 2: 14:02

The last couple of weeks, I've been in a space where, when I get up in the morning, I do my gratitude, I thank God for what I have I've started to do. On YouTube, it's a playlist called Cozy Cafe, where it's just like lo-fi music and a background. I just found out yesterday that it was all AI generated, which blew my mind. I had no idea because I was like man, this is a great song, like, let me add them to my playlist, and it's like AI generated. That's crazy to me, but even with that, that was something that was small.

Speaker 2: 14:34

It was significant to me because it was like the mind thing like oh, wow, I really enjoyed this and I wanted to add it to more of my routine. But outside of that, just sitting outside with my laptop with my lo-fi playing, and I was so productive and I got a lot done and I sat outside till almost 8.30 last night and so it was just like this was a good day. I was productive, I did everything I needed to do. Whatever I couldn't finish, it's okay for tomorrow. I don't feel pressure, and that's where the burnout and the overwhelming and the crash out come, because we get too caught up in our minds about what we have to do today.

Speaker 1: 15:15

Yeah, and I love that. I love that you brought that up. The Cozy Cafe is one of my favorite playlists During the winter. The graphic is like a fireplace and I don't have a, so I work in my front living room. This is my office, so I don't have a fireplace in here, but I have a fireplace in the back living room, but everything my whole setup is in here. So when I can't go work on that couch, I put on that cozy cafe and have the ambiance of the fire and I get my hot chocolate or my coffee or my hot tea and I work here.

Speaker 1: 15:56

It is amazing the difference that small changes like that can make to your day. Like you said, go outside and work. I took my old dining room table that I had had since my daughter was in kindergarten and she's a senior now and we were going to get rid of it. We were going to. We got a new table, we were going to get rid of it and I said, no, you know what? We've been wanting to create an outdoor eating space in this house since we bought it and we bought the house in 2017, but my husband's very frugal.

Speaker 1: 16:30

So, splurging splurging on patio furniture was not at the top of the list, so we hadn't done it. So I went to Home Depot and I got spray paint and water sealant and I got plastic wrap and I wrapped the cushions in plastic, I sealed, I paint spray painted the entire table to match my value awning, I water sealed it and now my daughter and I actually eat breakfast out there every morning. So we have a new routine, like you do, and this is part of my self-care, and I tell people unless it is blood, fire or flood. This is what I'm doing. I'm waking up at six o'clock in the morning, I'm going for a walk with my daughter because she goes to college in August, so I'm not going to have her anymore.

Speaker 2: 17:22

Yes, yes.

Speaker 1: 17:23

So I'm soaking up the time we go for a 30 minute walk. We come back, I make breakfast, we go sit out on that table and eat breakfast and talk or watch a show on her phone or whatever we want to do for 30 minutes and then we go get ready and that makes me feel like a million bucks, it makes me feel like I am winning and it is a small change that I made and it helps me walk into the day not already overwhelmed by the to-do list absolutely, yeah, absolutely.

Speaker 2: 18:02

I love that I may have to incorporate that I highly suggested.

Speaker 1: 18:10

It has been a game changer and our walk is just a leisurely walk, like we're not out there to lose weight. We, we are literally, and if both of us are exhausted and we don't really feel like going out for the whole 30 minutes, we just make sure we go around our block, maybe one more, and then come back and we take it easy. It's not no pressure, but it makes me feel successful because for years working in corporate, I longed for the ability to be like the full house family that had breakfast together in the mornings before everyone went running you know, off for the day and this gives me that and it's not big.

Speaker 1: 18:56

I mean, sometimes we just have yogurt and granola. It's something and it's not big, I mean sometimes we just have yogurt and granola.

Speaker 2: 19:00

It's something and it's creating memories. It's creating that I remember sitting outside with mom, like that type of moment, and it creates nostalgia when she gets older. Oh, I love that.

Speaker 1: 19:13

Yeah, but it's little tweaks that we've been able to make. And you talked about having lunch outside. Same thing when I was working at corporate. Like you, go in at eight, nine o'clock and you don't get out until five, six o'clock.

Speaker 2: 19:28

Yes, yeah, and you're eating at your desk, probably. Yes, understandable, yes.

Speaker 1: 19:36

Yes, that's what I try to get my clients. That's the first little change I try to make with them is can you stop eating at your desk?

Speaker 2: 19:45

Yeah, I'm guilty of that. I was guilty of that. I worked in state government for about six years before I transitioned to the nonprofit space, so I'm very familiar with that. 8 to 4.30. You go to lunch at maybe 11.30, eat and then you're still working, eating and you're not taking that time to just stop and decompress. It's the rat race. Like I said, it's the on the go, on the go, on the go.

Speaker 2: 20:21

I'm in a space that I pray for and I ask God for this space of you know, somewhere I can work remotely anywhere in the world. I have the flexibility to be more present for my family. My parents are getting older so I want to be able to spend more time with them and help them with some things. And so once the Lord saw fit to bless me with it now I'm like okay, I got it, let me get routine going so I can be productive and manage all the things that I need to do. And so that's when incorporating those small changes, like you mentioned, happened, and since I've been doing that, it's just been a lot smoother of a day for me.

Speaker 2: 20:53

I'm not so on edge. I'm not waking up in a panic like, oh my God, I got to check my email. I know I'm just like all right, I've made my mushroom coffee, I got my cozy cafe going. Let me sit, let's, let's get the day going. So it takes. It takes the, the tweaks, and you have to be dedicated to those tweaks because it's not going to be immediate results but it's going to eventually give you some results that you're going to feel better about as you go for sure, sure, I do mushroom coffee too.

Speaker 1: 21:20

That's why I was like I do. I just started which brand do you use? Um rise, okay, okay, I use brain hack cafe, um, and I I really like it. It doesn't taste like dirt, because I found that some of them do taste like dirt. I haven't tried rise. That's the only one I haven't tried yes, yes, I like it.

Speaker 2: 21:48

Like I said, I like it. Um, it's been about two and a half, maybe almost three weeks. Um, I did kind of ask around you. You know some people, you know what brands and stuff, and there's so many out there now and I said, well, I'm just give them a shot and see what happens. So far, I like it.

Speaker 1: 22:03

Yeah, and this is totally off topic, but kind of not, but I didn't. So I have a torturous bowel, which means my large intestine is wavy. If you're not watching the camera, I'm kind of making a wave sign with my hands, but my large intestine is not flat Like most people's is like the inside of a straw. Mine is like the inside of a bendy straw, you know the little little bit of crick on the bend.

Speaker 1: 22:37

Yeah, so I struggle with constipation, bloating, inflammation, all the crap, like all the bad things. Right, and so for years I've and this is TMI, but maybe it'll help somebody out there, because we don't talk about digestive issues enough, especially in minority cultures yes, absolutely. But so I would have bouts of constipation and then bouts of diarrhea, like that was my whole life. So I for a while, like my stomach was hurting, I had pain in my side of my stomach. I thought I was dying of liver cancer, like I was like, oh God, like something is wrong with my liver or my pancreas, cause it was that side of my stomach, like I was freaking out and I started taking stuff out of my diet. And then I took out the coffee oh wow, and started just doing like herbal tea or Earl Grey tea or English breakfast because I still needed that, like something warm, little kickstart in the morning.

Speaker 2: 23:48

Yeah, yeah.

Speaker 1: 23:49

Yeah, and my stomach issues got better. Okay, I was really looking for something that I could drink that was coffee, but that would have other benefits like brain health, because Alzheimer's runs in my family on my mom's side, so I want to take care of my brain and then my gut. I wanted something that would also care for my gut, and that's how I found mushroom coffee.

Speaker 2: 24:16

Yeah, yeah, that's it. That's everything there that you just mentioned Digestion, brain health, energy, also like a metabolism booster, just something that kind of helps you to feel full but not like, oh, I cannot eat for six days. You know, just something that overall just made you feel better and got you through the day until the next. Um, I'm a new coffee drinker like it's been probably like four or five years, because I am an avid tea drinker. I like hot tea, cold tea, sweet tea, unsweetened tea, whatever, and um, so I'm still new to the coffee space, and so what made me decide to get towards the mushroom coffee is I'm trying, I was trying to get away from the creamers, like the flavored creamers, because they have so much preservatives and additives and all of that stuff that's actually terrible for you, and so I was like, okay, I'm not gonna get it.

Speaker 2: 25:10

And then it's in my Walmart cart, then I'm drinking, I'm still drinking it. And so the mushroom coffee you know just, of course, social media and you know when you think about it it keeps popping up. So just watching people talk about you know they didn't have the bloating and they, you know, really enjoyed their cup of mushroom coffee and then they still was able to function throughout the day. I was like, okay, I can dig that, so here we are.

Speaker 1: 25:35

Yeah, yeah. So Brain Hat Cafe I don't know if Rise has this, but Brain Hat Cafe has a latte version and so when you scoop it out and add the water, it looks creamy like a latte and it's a little sweeter. I do the black version because I add soy milk, because, yeah, that's part of my plan. But I brought all that up to say that a lot of times we have symptoms but we're not paying enough attention to realize what that root cause is. Yes, absolutely yeah With me. With the coffee it was causing me all these digestive issues. I was cranky, I was not able to sleep well because I was drinking espresso at like two in the afternoon, like, yeah, I had all these symptoms and signs but I wasn't paying attention to the root cause, so I couldn't fix the problem. Couldn't fix the problem. And I think there's a lot of mamas, dads, men, women, whatever, who are also struggling and they haven't quite figured out why.

Speaker 2: 26:55

Yeah, you said exactly the correct thing. It's the root cause of identifying the issue. How do we get to the source of the problem so we can treat the problem? Digestion, headaches, stress a lot of that is from something. What is holding you hostage, you know? Is it being overwhelmed with work? Is it a family issue? Is it a personal issue? Is it something that you can manage, something that you can make a change? You know, like we both said, we wanted to still have that boost of morning routine with a coffee or tea type beverage, but we also knew that what we were drinking was harmful for our bodies, and so we make a change to do something different. So we have to kind of take accountability and look at everything. What are we doing? Is it our social circles? Is it the places we frequent? Is it our job? And you know, and I know, in this economy, in today's time, jobs are kind of, you know, a soft spot for some people, but sometimes your job can literally be killing you and you have to be real with yourself to say I have to make a change and I have to do better, because if you die, they're going to replace you in two to three days. Your position is going to be posted on Indeed or wherever you know very soon. So you have to prioritize yourself. What's more important this job or your health and your long-term ability to take care of your family, your friends, the people that love you and support you?

Speaker 2: 28:21

I know, some years ago I was like very, very in a weird space, like I was very overweight. I look like a meatball. I'm only five feet, so you know a person that's five feet, that's 230 pounds. I look like a meatball in my eyes. And so I just got to the point where there were things in my house that I was just like everybody's unhappy, we're all miserable. I need to make a change. If I make the change, then the changes will come. And so I joined a gym. I started walking around my neighborhood. The boyfriend that I had at the time got rid of him. I went to a different church, like you know, just different things that I had to do to bring a level of peace into my home, not just for myself but for my daughter.

Speaker 2: 29:04

And so once I made those changes, like everything just seems to just kind of open up and it was like, wow, this, that. But that was holding me back. This relationship was holding me back, this church was holding me back and I made those changes and everything just started to fall into place and you know it got better from there. So I think we have to I keep saying hold yourself accountable, because it's you you have to make the decision to say I want to change this, I want to change that, and sometimes in those changes people's feelings will get hurt. But you have put yourself first. That's a part of your self-care. You have to think about you and what you want, and how is it going to make you feel at the end of the day and you want to look back five years from now when you're a millionaire or you're you know wherever you in your life. You look back and you're like, wow, I'm glad I took that small step to make that change and look where I am now.

Speaker 1: 30:01

Yes, yeah, that is so powerful, it's so true. I try to tell my clients all the time Self-care is not selfish, it is necessary, it is a absolute necessity. I was trying to say necessary and necessity at the same time. And in my brain, all of it, all of it. Yes, but it is an absolute necessity, because how are you going to be your best anything if you're not putting yourself first? I yeah, I used to get crap from my family all the time because I was a single mom.

Speaker 1: 30:39

Nine months after my daughter was born, I was in school full time, working at the time part time as a waitress, and then ended up having to go full time because her dad got sentenced to 15 years in prison, and so people used to always get give me crap because I would take her to daycare even if I was off.

Speaker 1: 31:03

Yeah, because I needed time to myself, because I had one day off during the week and one day off during the weekend. That was it. So on the weekend, daycare was it so on the weekend, daycare was closed, so that meant I had to have her. I had to have her with me, of course, and so on that weekday when I was off, I took her to daycare and I would go sit at a coffee shop and study, I would go sit in the park and read, I would go meet up with friends for coffee or lunch and people would be like that's so selfish, you need to have her with you and I'm like, no, I can't take care of her if I don't have some me time to refuel myself, refresh myself and feel like more than just a worker, a student and a mom absolutely, absolutely, absolutely.

Speaker 2: 31:56

And that's interesting. You say that because our stories kind of parallel each other, minus the 15 years in prison. But the point is is like I did the same. My daughter's father and I we were together for a while and you know, of course, like some relationships they don't work out, and so in that process, um, becoming a single parent, um, I was in grad school, I was still teaching, I'm trying to raise her, and so when it was time for me to have a day off, or it was spring break for the kids or whatever, she was still at daycare. Like I'm already paying for this service, like why disrupt her routine because I have nothing to do? So let me have nothing to do today, because when I pick her up from daycare, I'm back into mommy mode and it's okay.

Speaker 2: 32:43

And, like you said, it's okay to be selfish for yourself. You have to find that balance of putting yourself first. You have to find that balance of just saying I don't feel like doing that today and be okay with it, like don't let other people pressure you into what your idea lifestyle is going to be. I do feel that a lot of people, if they had opportunities to get that break to put the kids with the grandparents or with the daycare or wherever. They would absolutely take that, they would absolutely love that. And I've also noticed where a lot of people will say things because they're projecting what they want to do and they're not able to. And that is usually where the truth is. It's like you really want to be able to do what I'm doing but you can't. So you kind of you know, give a little jazz or state like you know it's making me.

Speaker 1: 33:38

I know that's right. No, and I think it is. We have to start looking at, paying attention to what our mind, our heart and our body is telling us, because the signs are there? If you're, if a nap doesn't help you recover from the exhaustion, the tiredness, then that's a cue that there's something deeper going on. Yeah, if you know a good cry session in the shower doesn't make you feel better, then it might be time to seek some professional help.

Speaker 2: 34:14

Absolutely.

Speaker 2: 34:15

You know, but sometimes you need more dialed in, professional, trained, certified help. I love my girlfriends they're the best. I love my best friends, I love my boyfriend, I love all these people. But sometimes they can't quite get to the bottom of it. It's more like a band-aid or like a paddling to say, oh, it's okay, it's going to be okay, it's going to be fine, whatever. But you're still not getting to the root of the problem and that therapist or that counselor is going to be able to kind of navigate those emotions to help you find out why you're feeling this way. So I agree.

Speaker 1: 34:58

Yeah, I totally agree. So what do you do these days?

Speaker 2: 35:05

Oh, my gosh for myself is for self-care or just in general.

Speaker 1: 35:09

Well, ok, so let's do in general, and then I want you to leave the listeners with three self-care tips.

Speaker 2: 35:17

So, in general, like I said, I found where I will, so just outside to my back patio. I live in southern Louisiana, so right now it's like 75, 80 degrees in early April, so it gets warm, so the weather, you know, it's nice right now and so finding spaces to where I can get out of the home, get out of my area, you know, like you said, maybe a coffee shop, maybe lunch. I will also add the small little tidbits, like I mentioned about the cozy cafe or, you know, just taking a break to do a podcast or do a break to do some content or something and then go back into whatever else is on my task to do. But the three main components that I want to share is that number one you have to be honest with yourself. You have to find what is bugging you, what is something that you absolutely know you have to change, you have to let go of. And if it's a struggle for you, then that is something you need to dial in a little bit more and find out why is it so hard for me to let this go? Whether that's, you know, a person, a place or a thing, you have to find out what is the hold, that, whatever this is that is taking over your life, that's draining you so much, why the next thing would be definitely finding some professional services that can help you to dial in. You know, if you're having back pain and you never go to a chiropractor, you're always going to have back pain right. So you have to go to a specialist or someone who specializes in this particular area to help you get to the root cause so you can get better, so that you can be better.

Speaker 2: 37:01

I believe we all want to live a fabulous life and so if we're still in spaces where we're stuck and we're not happy and we're not getting the results that we need, you're not going to get to that next level, still holding on to things that are holding you back. And then, lastly, I would say, change your environment. If you're surrounding yourself with people that don't believe in you, that don't pour into you, that don't just want to see the best in you, that's not taking from you, then that's not your people, that's not your community. I believe that you know, as humans, we are created to have community and to be with one another and to have relationship. But if that relationship is not fulfilling and it's not as impactful and encouraging and empowering.

Speaker 2: 37:45

That's not your community. You need to find another group. It's easier said than done because we're creatures of habits, so we like routine, we like our people, but sometimes you have to expand. So if that's going to a networking event, if that's going to a happy hour somewhere, at a restaurant or a hotel or somewhere that you're not familiar with, that's how you grow and that's how you get to meet people that can, you know, help usher you into your next level of life.

Speaker 1: 38:16

I love that you tapped on. All of the things that I I try to tap on to is like accountability, recognition, recognizing what's really going on, digging in to get to the root cause, changing your people, places and things like that is so important. I think that's amazing. So where can people find you if they want to connect with you?

Speaker 2: 38:45

Oh, absolutely. You can find me on Facebook at Rebecca E Brumfield, Instagram at Rebecca with a K. I always just tell people it's easier just to type in my name in Google. Something will come up, whether it's a foodie review, maybe my LinkedIn page, something from YouTube, whatever. That's how you can find me. Or you can just go to my webpage, which is RebeccaBrumfieldcom.

Speaker 1: 39:10

Awesome, and what kind of content do you put out? One last question.

Speaker 2: 39:15

So it's like food lifestyle travel. I am a foodie, I love food and drink. I love to explore new places, new restaurants, so it's typically going to be something that's here within the area of Louisiana. I do travel to Michigan pretty frequently to visit family there, so sometimes it is a bit travel, but it's more so like food content, just things going on, things that I like to do. It's authentically me. I like to always say that who I am online, my social media presence, is exactly who I am in person.

Speaker 1: 39:51

I love it. Well, I'm going to go follow all your things because I think we're already friends on Facebook, but I am a fellow foodie and a traveler and I love your energy, your personality. You brought such good information today and I appreciate it. It's real, it's raw, it's actionable. I think we left the listeners with some things that they can actually do. They can go out and they can start making these changes. Do they can go out and they can start making these changes. And if you get to the root cause, or what you think is the root cause, and you are struggling to make those changes, reach out to me. This is actually what I specialize in is helping you figure out why you can't break free from those things. But go follow Rebecca, go look at all her foodie stuff, and I'm sure her content is inspirational. Because you are inspirational and you've been an amazing guest, I appreciate it. All right, Well, everybody, until next week, be well, be kind and may you find some joy this week. Bye.