56: When You’re Doing Everything Right And Still Not Making The Money You Want: Rebuilding My Business From The Nervous System Up

Ever feel like you’re pouring your heart into your business, but the results just aren’t matching your effort? 

We’re all told to get strategic, that we must post more, we need to sell differently, we need to try harder. But no one is talking about what happens when you’re running on empty inside. 

When you wake up and go to sleep with your business looping in your mind. When every social post that flops gnaws away at your self-worth. When you’re doing all the prescribed things but the results don’t match that, and all you feel is stuck and totally disconnected from the work you're doing.  

In this episode, I take you behind the scenes of my own experience navigating that uncomfortable place in business where the money you get just doesn’t reflect the amount of effort you’re giving. 

I share how I ended up in a cycle of panic and throwing spaghetti against the wall, and why that eventually led me to rebuilding my business in a completely different way. 

This is part 1 of a 6 part mini-series where I’m sharing how I’m building my business in an embodied way so that I can have a soulful and profitable business that makes me money, without burning me out.  

What You Will Learn In This Episode:

• Why being stuck in constant problem-solving mode in your business takes a toll on your nervous system.
• The danger of chasing every strategy and tip when you’re not seeing the results you want.
• How feminine embodiment helped me come back to myself and how I’m using that in my business now.

Key Takeaways:

• Survival mode makes you blind to possibility and creativity.
• The business world often teaches strategies that pull you further away from your truth.
• There’s a real energetic cost to living and running a business out of alignment with yourself.

Take Action:

I’m hosting a free masterclass called The Embodied Entrepreneur, where I’ll guide you through exactly what’s happening beneath the surface when you feel stuck in your business and how to start dissolving that tension so you can start making money without burning out. 

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Transcript

Tertia [00:00:00]:
Something that's nearly not enough being spoken about in the online business world. In fact, for a very long time, there was no information about this is the role that your nervous system plays. When your nervous system is in survival mode, no amount of strategy or tactics is going to fix your business, how you feel inside your business and the results that that you get. When your nervous system is in survival mode, you lose access to your creativity, you lose access to your clarity and your ability to see what is possible. And at the most worst is you lose the sense of aliveness that your business gave to you when you just started it. I don't know about you, but that's not the way that I want to feel anything in my business. And that is where I was. So in this episode today, I'm going to take you behind the scenes. I'm going to give you the background of where I was, what was going on, and why I finally decided to rebuild my business in an embodied way. And in fact, I'm hosting a free masterclass called the Embodied Entrepreneur next week. Week, where I'm going to dive into what is going on beneath the surface that's standing between us and having the business of our dreams that actually makes us money without burning us out. And in that workshop, I'm well, masterclass workshop, because you're going to learn some theory, but we're also going to do some workshopping around a specific challenge that you have in your business. And I'm going to guide you through an embodiment practice so that you can begin to dissolve that. That tension that's held in your nervous system around this challenge in real time. So in order to warm you up for that workshop, what I've done is I have five episodes which are dropping over the next five days together with today's episode. It's six episodes in total. Many little episodes just to wet your appetite and make you see what really is possible. So in today's episode, I'm taking you behind the scenes and setting the stage and then make sure that you follow along every day. Because from tomorrow on, every day, I'm dropping one of the things that I am doing in my business now that I'm rebuilding in an embodied way. And I will also give you little homework activities if you choose to accept the mission to start to play with yourself. So. So that's enough context for now. Let's get into part one. Welcome to Beyond Burnout for Driven Women. I'm Tertia. And this is where we go from burnout to abundance. And we take Your nervous system along for the ride. If you are doing all of the right things but you still not feeling the shift, you are in the right place. Here we explore embodiment nervous system work and how to be magnetic in your business without going into overdrive or burning yourself out. So you're doing everything. You're showing up, you're posting, you're selling. You're constantly thinking about your business but the money still isn't matching the effort. You're putting in so much and you are not getting the results financially that matches how much blood, sweat and tears is going into your business. When you're working so hard in your business and you're putting in so much effort, but the money that you get isn't matching. That's where I was last year. This time I was making money, but not nearly enough money for the amount of energy I was pouring into it. And this is the danger. When this happens, you start feeling resentful and it's the strangest thing. It's like this bug that eats away at your sanity. I would post on social media and then the response wouldn't be what I expected and I'd start feeling resentful. I'd start feeling resentful towards the algorithm that's against me. I'd start feeling resentful towards all the people who didn't even see my post and maybe even the people that saw my post and didn't respond. And that's such a toxic and dangerous place to be in. And I know that I am not alone in feeling that I might name it, but I'm sure that some of you who are listening to this episode today have felt that too. I would go to bed thinking about what I needed to do. How am I going to fix this? I would wake up thinking about how to fix it. Some evenings I wouldn't even fall into a deep sleep. I'd be in this very light doze, dreaming and thinking about my business all the time. The dark side of that is that I stopped being present in in my own life because of the amount of energy and mental effort that I was using to try and figure out my business. I started doubting my abilities. I started panicking. I think this is a normal thing for us to do, right? When we are doing everything that we told will work to help our businesses grow and yet we're not seeing those results. You start panicking and then you start throwing spaghetti against the wall and you try to do everything. So you do more reels, you do more posts, you do more Strategies, you try different things. And I think this is such an important conversation to have. It's important for us to normalize that this flat spin that we get ourselves into happens. And it's important to share the message that there is a way out of this. I was in a phase. Well, not I was, I am, I'm in a Facebook group, a business group, and someone was sharing this exact same thing that I was going through. And I recognized her immediately in that. And that's why I'm talking to you about this. I've decided that it's time to finally speak about how I'm rebuilding my business in an embodied way. The problem that I see over and over is whenever we panic, right, whenever we're not getting the results that we want, we start trying all kinds of different things. And it could potentially, which is what happened with me, it takes us further and further away from what is true for us. So we told if you want to sell, you've got to do this, you've got to post 20 reels and you've got to do this kind of content and you have to show up in this way. And when these well meaning advice and guru tips, when this takes you away from your truth, all that it does, instead of bringing you the business that you want, it activates your nervous system. And the moment that your nervous system is in high alert, you can't see, see possibilities anymore. You go blind. So you effectively go into survival mode, you go into robot mode and in output mode and your creativity shuts down, right? All of your resources go into just trying to survive. And this is exactly the cycle that I was in last year. And I said, I have to stop. This is not why I started my business. This is costing me too much. I couldn't focus when I was with my kids because I was constantly in strategy mode. If they were too noisy, I would feel so irritable because it invaded my thought process. I was literally always scanning my entire life for how I could turn everything that happened to me into a business lesson to use on social media. It was gross. So if you have been in my world for any amount of time, you know that I'm a feminine embodiment coach. And I'll never stop saying how feminine embodiment has completely transformed my life. Learning the skill of embodiment changed my life in a way that years of therapy, mindset work, and a strong dose of willpower and pushing through never ever could. It was through feminine embodiment that I finally healed the relationship with myself and Where I finally felt safe to be me, like, to be who I am and to show up as me so that I could be seen and so that I could be heard in my relationships. Now, as a result of feminine embodiment, I have access to all of me, which means I no longer have to hide parts of myself. And that takes so much energy. It takes so much energy if we hide parts of ourselves. If you don't want people to see the real you because of unconscious fears of being rejected, not being loved, not being accepted, and that usually comes as a result of you not loving or accepting yourself wholly and completely in the first place. And it also takes a huge amount of energy to try and be something that you are not. To live away from your own truth, to live a version of you that you are not yet fully embodying. And this is what drives me crazy in the personal development world, when we talk about next level, when there's so much conversation about embody that next level of you, step into that next level of you. But if you don't have the internal capacity to hold that next level version of you, you are just burning energy. When we come home to ourselves, when we find that safety inside ourselves and we stand as our full selves in our lives, we stop using energy to live as a version of ourselves. And instead, that energy brings us into the present and it allows us to have a rich life. All right? And even with all of this feminine embodiment work that I have done to turn around and transform my personal life and my relationships, I was still running my business mostly from my head. And there's nothing wrong with that. I also just want to normalize that now, because we live in a world that teaches us business strategy as a certain concept. And we also live in a world that is hyper masculine. We have internalized capitalism, we have shame, we have scarcity, we have overdrive. And that's deeply rooted in our being because the world that we live in activates those tendencies in us. All right, so there are some deep rooted. There was. There still is. I'm still unraveling. And I don't know that. That I'm ever going to reach the end of it. Because I always say that these things are like layers of an onion, so there's always another layer to unpeel. And so I have and had all of these patterns that were still driving how I built and ran my business. And in my own defense, I need to say that even though I have brought in many practices from what I learned when I did my feminine embodiment coach training. Like following my cycle, I've done a lot of work around healing and separating my own self worth from my productivity, which is by the way, a direct result of the world that we live in. Even though I have brought these practices in, in many cases, I was still overriding my own knowing in my business. I was still doing things that didn't feel good, creating offers that didn't feel good, selling in ways that didn't feel good, and showing up in social media in ways that didn't feel good. And it happened as a result of the panic that I was hitting because I wasn't getting the results that I wanted. The strategies that I was using and the tactics that I was using wasn't working for me. And in that I kept on moving further and further away from my own truth. So if you are listening to this episode and you are hearing some of your own story in what I'm sharing with you, I'd love to share with you now five parts of what I am bringing to my business now. Five parts of how I'm rebuilding my business in an embodied way so that the money that I make matches the effort. I'm ready to build a soulful and profitable business that makes me money without burning out. And I'm doing this in a very embodied, strategic way. And my intention with this episode today and with the five small short episodes that's dropping from tomorrow is that you will find some tips, advice and inspiration for you to start implementing in your business immediately so that you can start getting the results that you want and that you truly deserve. I'm going to leave that link for you in the show notes, so be sure to sign up and join us. I'd love to have you in the Embodied Entrepreneur Masterclass to join us there. And if you have a business bestie who needs to get in on this, then go ahead and share this episode with her. Thank you so much for joining me today. Make sure that you tune in tomorrow for part two and until then, bye bye.