71: 4 Energy Nuggets to End the Year Resourced

Do you dream about getting to the end of this year feeling calm and clear and resourced instead of exhausted, stressed out and stretched thin? Do you long to start living in a way that honors the cycles of your energy more? You want to be done ending the year in survival mode and spending January to recover from December, but you can't see how that is even possible. 

In this episode, I'm sharing four nuggets on how you can start resourcing yourself so that you don’t need to recover from your life. Tune in to discover practices  that help you move through year-end with more capacity, and more space to actually enjoy the people and moments that matter. 

What You Will Learn in This Episode

• Why running at 150% is costing you more than you think
• How listening to your body becomes your built-in GPS for wellness
• A bold morning shift that pulls you out of survival mode

Key Takeaways

1. Why “body first, head second” changes your entire day
2. If you want more capacity, your standards must shift.

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Tertia [00:00:00]:
Do you dream about getting to the end of this year feeling calm and clear and resourced instead of exhausted, stressed out and stretched thin? Do you long to start living in a way that honors the cycles of your energy more? You want to be done ending the year in survival mode and spending January to recover from December, but you can't see how that is even possible. In today's podcast, I'm sharing four nuggets on how you can start resourcing your energy to do just that. Welcome to the Feminine Embodiment Podcast. This is your space to awaken your feminine energy, rise into confidence, and live from your most embodied and authentic self. I'm Tertia Riegler, Feminine Embodiment Coach, and I'll be your guide as we travel to the heart of your truth and the fullness of your magnetism while you remember the innate power that is already inside of you. I was speaking to a friend at my son's school the other morning about how she's one year end away from snapping and this time of year always feels like someone has pressed the fast forward modes on the remote control. Everybody wants something from you. The deadlines are so important. All of a sudden there are school concerts that pile up and your inbox grows as secondhand. It reminds me of when I was a kid in South Africa. The school year runs with a calendar year, so we start in January and finish in December. And in the last week of school in December, we would watch a movie on one of those big old film projectors and at the end they would rewind the film so the whole film would race backwards, the people would run in reverse and everything would happen in reverse. And we all loved Movie Day for this highlight and that's sort of what life feels like to me now, only it's not so much fun and it's going forwards instead of backwards. So in full transparency, these nuggets that I'm sharing with you today aren't only applicable to use and at the end of the year I use this throughout the year. Now I've been experimenting with this over the past few years since starting to live and work in a more embodied way. And now is as good a time as any to start taking on these new skills because there isn't ever a right time. So before we get into this, perhaps you are listening to this thinking, oh, this sounds good. I want some nuggets on how to be more resourced. But I don't know if this is going to work for me because I have so many responsibilities and deadlines and people who depend on me. And I don't think it will work. So I want to ask you, but what if everything just feels harder for you now than what it needs to be? And I deeply understand how hectic things feel with all of the responsibilities and the deadlines we have. But what if those things that feel so overwhelming now can start to feel a lot more manageable, like you have space for that? And what if these nuggets are the answer so that you can be well and so that you can have the energy for the things that really matter to you, like being present with your family instead of being stuck in your head and having a good night's rest without running through your to do list the whole night in your sleep. Would you be interested in that? If your answer is yes. Without any further ado, here are my four nuggets to to resource your energy at year end and actually for every damn day of the year. Nugget1 is to reassess your standards. Now I'm a busy mom of two. I have a business to run and there's always something on the calendar in my house. There are appointments and play dates and doctor's visits and football games. And I also have high standards. I have a work ethic and those are things about myself that I love. And I'm sure that if you are regular listener here on the podcast, then you have high standards too. And I know that for me, my high standards can put a lot of internal pressure on me to do things in a certain way and I can easily fall into perfectionism if I don't pay attention. Now quarter four this time of year is usually the busiest time in business. With all of the deadlines that we have, we coming up towards the end of the year. And for me, I'm batch recording some podcast episodes. Now. This is one of the episodes that I'm batch recording so that I can take time off over the holidays. And in order for me to be able to do this in a way that I don't run into walls and break myself, it means I need to let go a bit somewhere else. I can't have everything running at 150% and use all my resources because if I do that, then I don't have any resources left for creativity. So yesterday the sun was out. Now where I live in Austria, we're in the northern hemisphere, it's winter and the sun hasn't been out for a few days. So yesterday when the sun was out, I went for a walk. I went for this walk in the beautiful sunshine. And I took the time to ponder and to dream. So I didn't listen to podcasts, I didn't play any music that might not look very productive. But I got some ideas and I was re energized. And yes, in terms of the way that we think about what productivity looks like, going for a walk doesn't look productive. But the return on investment is so worth it for me every time. But it took some internal work and some internal unraveling inside myself about what productivity means and what my standards are. I had to reassess and I'm not there yet 100%. This is something that I'm still working with, but I am reassessing my standards that I have given myself permission to not be perfect. I've given myself permission to not be the best at everything that I do, which is that internal driver that has me running at 150%. I found it helpful too. Before I sit down and do tasks or even when I'm in a project or if I'm busy doing something. And I notice that getting into this tendency of pushing myself harder than what I need to is to ask myself, why am I doing this? What is my why? What is the reason behind me saying yes to this? So here is a question for you. Where are you spreading yourself too thin? Where are you saying yes or putting demands on yourself that is not supporting your wellness? Where can you give yourself permission to not be perfect? So what task can you do? What agreements can you get into? What piece of creative writing can you do? What content can you put out where it doesn't have to be perfect, just good enough energy Nugget number two, listen to your body. Modern life really has us living from the head up. We have become so habituated in sending our awareness and our attention up into our heads, into our minds and out into the world. We're sitting in front of computers, many of us, and our attention is focused outwards. Now our heads are only 10% of us, the rest of the body below the neck. That 90% has so much information to share with us. But we have trained ourselves to not even notice the obvious, the superficial messages of our body. Perhaps because it's inconvenient, perhaps because we don't have time right now. So let's do a check in right now. And as you are listening to this podcast, wherever you are, check to see if you are feeling hungry. Do you need something to eat? Are you thirsty? Do you perhaps need to go to the bathroom? If we have trained ourselves to not even listen to these obvious messages of our body. It makes it very, very hard to hear the subtle nuances. So why do we want to listen to our bodies? Why do we want to tap into that 90% below the neck? The reason is because that is your GPS for what you need to be well, to feel more alive, to feel more resourced and to make good decisions. This 90% below our necks.

That holds the data from not only our physical body and our physical sensations, but also our mental body, our thoughts. Our thoughts aren't independent tethers of information that's just floating above our heads. Our thoughts can actually be traced through our body. So the way in which we think of things, the perspectives that we have, the opinions that we have, all of that has got landing place inside our body. And our thoughts are often caught up in external ideas, external demands, the external things that are expected of us. And our thoughts can confuse us, our thoughts can loop. And so if we are only living from the head up, we can get caught in spinning around our own tails with these thoughts and our mental body that you can trace inside your body, that you can find the root texture of inside your body. This is a more truthful anchor and reflection of showing you how your perspectives and your opinions might support you or might go against giving you the wellness and the aliveness that you crave. The same can be said about our emotional body. Our emotions can also, yes, we feel them. We feel the obvious emotions like sadness or anger or excitement. But our emotions also have a more subtle and deeper rooted texture that can give us information to support us to be well. It is also true that this world that we live in and the sense of time that is speeding up, it's causing us to live more disembodied. It's causing us to, as I said earlier, view our bodies perhaps as something that's inconveniencing us. Like when we have an injury or when we're sick or the cramps that we get when we're bleeding, or like in my case right now, the exhaustion and the flashes that come with me being in peri menopause, this season of life that I find myself now in. But for us to be well, when we listen to our bodies, when we become more embodied instead of being disembodied like so many of us are, what happens is we stop needing time to recover from our lives because we can use this built in GPS that we have, but we need to listen to our bodies in order to begin to read that GPS nugget. Number three is to soften your body. And I often use this when I have had an intense day at work. I noticed yesterday I was working on a big project for a few days now, so I've been in front of my laptop and my shoulders last night was super, super tight. So I put a hot bean bag on my shoulders. Plus I did this practice of softening my body. So let's do a quick check in with you right now. Just quickly scan your body, wherever you are, and notice if you are holding any part of yourself in place. So is there any part of your body that is maybe feeling a little bit tense or hard or braced right now? So for me in my body, I notice that my upper arms is feeling or are feeling tense and also my, my belly is feeling a little bit tight. And if you have identified a spot in your body or an area in your body where you are holding yourself in place or where you bracing, perhaps you want to place a hand on your heart. And if it's safe for you to do so, you can close your eyes. And this is simply to help you turn your awareness inwards. But of course, if you're driving or if you are anywhere where it's not safe to close your eyes, please don't do this. Just take a few breaths here, wherever you find yourself and just let yourself slow down as all of us listening to this episode are starting to slow down collectively.

And then just feeling into your heart, breathing into your heart space space. So if you have a hand on your heart space, just breathing into the space beneath your hand.

And then just softening your body.

5% on the inside, making your body a little bit heavier and rested into the support that's underneath you.

And if you can do it a little bit further, you can maybe go 10%, even 20%.

And just notice and feel how your heart softens, how your heart opens, how your base softens, perhaps your jaw softens, just letting your whole body soften all the way into your tailbone.

And then just notice, how does this feel in your body?

Now what we tend to do is we tend to tense up this front area of our bodies quite a lot and we protect ourselves in this way when we go into the world. And there's absolutely nothing wrong with that, but we forget to take these shields down and when we are in, and I'll put this in quotes in work mode, like output mode, productive mode, we can also tend to put these shields and these structures in place to help us move forward. And this keeps us in our go energy but if you have finished work and you walking into your kitchen, six o' clock at night, and you want to be with your family, you want to be present to what your kids have to share with you or your partner, you don't want these shields around you. It also takes up a lot of our energy to always hold these shields in place. And so you'll notice that when you get into this practice of softening your body, of bringing those shields down, of breathing into your tailbone and letting the front part of your body soften, the this also sends a message to your nervous system that it is safe to relax. So in effect, you basically retraining your nervous system to show that it's not necessary for you to be always tightly wound up. It's not necessary for you to always be on alert. It's not necessary for you to always brace, it is safe for you to also soften and to relax. And when we are soft and when we are relaxed, when we can lean back, this is also how we can better receive all right? And this is what helps us feel more alive. This is what helps us be really, really well. And then the fourth energy nugget is to change up your mornings. So I have a motto, and my motto goes body first, head second. Now, our nervous systems are super, super efficient, and it's always going to allocate energy where it's needed. So if you are always going to first thing in the morning, pull your awareness and your attention into your head, you are training yourself. And I alluded to this in the previous section, you're training yourself to go into your head. And what we want to do is we want to train ourselves to go into our bodies. And in my experience, the best time of day to do this is to do it first thing in the morning. I always find that if I go into my head first thing in the morning, it's quite difficult for me to get back into my body. So I like to go body first. One of the practices that I do to help me with this, and you can try this out for yourself, is as soon as I get out of bed, I move my hips, I trace figure eights, sometimes I trace circles, sometimes I do a little jig. I just sway my hips from side to side. I do this for at least a minute. It doesn't take a lot of time and it wakes up my hips and my pelvis first thing in the morning, so it doesn't take away from my day. I have enough to do already that I don't want to pile extra things onto my day and I'm sure that you are exactly the same. But when we link a small little action to something that we already do. So, for example, I stand up out of bed and then I immediately start moving my hips. It seamlessly incorporate into my morning routine without me having to sacrifice anything. Although, you know, making time for yourself and really connecting into your body is not a sacrifice at all. Something that I know so many of us are guilty of. And I put my hand up because I used to do this for a long time before I took on the motto of body first, head second is I used to reach for my phone to see what was on my email, look at my calendar, check my to do list first thing in the morning. And that just used to put me in this masculine planning, go, energy state. And I don't want that for myself because that is not how I feel and do really, really well. So I've started doing this practice of moving my hips. And what I also do is I check in with my body to see what do I need in this moment. And I sometimes do this while as soon as I wake up, before I even get up and do my hip circles, and sometimes I do it afterwards and it's really, there's no right time to do this, but I do make sure that it happens before anything else. I serve myself first, I honour myself first and my needs so that there is more of me available to bring into my life so that I am more resourced. And even if you only have 10 minutes between the kids and breakfast and your first call, you can still do this, check in and it's simply just putting your hands somewhere on your body and you can even do that with me now if you want to. So putting your hands on your body, closing your eyes again, if you're not driving, so that you can bring your awareness inwards. So closing the eyes, if it's safe to do so.

And then just noticing how is your body feeling in this moment, noticing what's happening with the energy in your body.

Noticing how your breath feels as you are breathing.

And then just simply asking, what do I need?

What do I need in this moment based on how I'm feeling, Is there something that I need?

What do I need to be really well and to be really resourced, and then just trust whatever comes up for you. So here is the final question that I will leave you with today, and that is, are you willing to change up how you do mornings, what you do first thing in the morning, so that you can become more resourced. If you have found these four nuggets that I've shared with you helpful then I would be so grateful if you could share it with a friend who needs to hear. And actually if you found any of my other episodes helpful to please share that with someone who needs to hear it with someone that you think will benefit from hearing this. This is one small way in which you can support me and help me to let this podcast grow by sharing those episodes that are helpful to you. Thank you so much for tuning in today. Let me know which of these nuggets either only one or all four you are going to take on to support you so that you can get out of survival mode and stop spending a lot of your time recovering from your own life. You can send me a dm, you can send me an email and the links to that are in the show notes. Thanks for tuning in and I will speak to you soon. Bye.