Confidently Beautiful with Ciera
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Confidently Beautiful with Ciera
Daily Habits for Greater Self-Confidence
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Everyone wants to feel more confident, but few of us know exactly how to get there. What if the secret wasn't complicated self-help programs but simple daily habits that gradually transform how we see ourselves?
After asking countless podcast guests "What do you do every day to feel more confident?", I've compiled their most powerful answers into this special episode. The beauty of these responses lies in their accessibility – these aren't grand, unattainable gestures but small, consistent actions that anyone can implement starting today.
From the guest who wakes up early to exercise before her children rise, to another who faithfully keeps a "proof log" documenting one daily accomplishment, these practices reveal a common thread: confidence comes from honoring commitments to yourself. Some find confidence in outward actions, like one guest who makes it her mission to make someone else smile every day, discovering that this generosity circles back as personal confidence. Others build confidence through stillness – taking time to quiet their minds, ask intentional questions, and patiently wait for inner wisdom to emerge.
Morning routines emerged as particularly powerful confidence boosters, with multiple guests emphasizing how getting dressed and prepared each day – even when no one else would see them – provided energy and purpose. Self-care, whether through enjoying preferred foods, taking time for personal interests, or using techniques like Mel Robbins' 5-4-3-2-1 countdown, proved equally essential.
Which of these confidence practices might work for you? I'd love to hear what daily habits already help you feel your best. Find me on Instagram @confidentlybeautifulpodcast and share your own confidence rituals – your insight might just inspire next week's episode!
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you're listening to, confidently beautiful with sierra a podcast to help you stay confidently beautiful, because we all have confidence inside us. We just need to bring it out and I'm here to show you how body image, dreams, parenting, style, personality and more here we cover it all. Get ready to stay confidently beautiful. One question that I ask every guest that I have on this podcast is what do you do every day that helps you feel more confident? I love to ask this question and I love all of the different answers that I get. There are things I never had even thought of doing before and some things that I can totally relate to that I myself do. While every day we can't do things exactly 100%, perfectly like we would like to, I do find that we all have some things that we try and do as often as we can that helps us to feel like our best self, and so this is why I love this question, because I think it can be something that can be fun, to spark ideas on what we can do something simple, something easy that we can do every single day to help us love ourselves a little bit more and feel a little bit more confident in our abilities.
Ciera:So for today's episode. I wanted to pull all of the answers from our guests that we have had on episodes in the past and compile all of their answers into one episode on what people do every day to help them feel more confident. I hope that this episode can spark something in you and maybe give you some ideas of thinking of things that you can do every day to help yourself feel more confident, and I would love to hear what you are already doing every day that brings out your confidence. So find me on Instagram at confidentlybeautifulpodcast and let's talk about the things that you are doing every day, and then maybe next week I can come here and share some examples from our listeners of things that you are already doing to help you feel more confident. Enjoy this episode and do something for yourself today that makes you remember how amazing you truly are and what is one thing you try and do each day to bring out your confidence. It can be anything.
Kim:For me, I would say complimenting others. When I see something that I love about someone else, I make sure that I say it, send them a text, give them a smile, whatever it is, and then, okay, maybe I have two. The other one is I really try to write in my gratitude journal. I feel like that really helps me just be thankful, and I feel like being thankful has a lot to do with confidence.
Kim:So, yeah, that's something that I do every day.
Kim:What is one thing you do each day to help with your confidence? It can be mom related or anything.
Jacquelyn:I'm crazy now when I get up at five in the morning and I work out before my kids are awake. Sometimes they get up and sometimes I think to myself this is my time and you're watching me go back to bed.
Jacquelyn:Go back to bed, but I do. I've been trying to get up early, work out, get myself ready for the day and then when I emerge from my room, I feel like if I'm put together, I'm ready for anything. I just always feel better and like I can take on anything if I'm dressed and ready to go. I've never been a really early bird. I would probably prefer to stay up late, but I don't always have that luxury because I got people in my house that want to get up really early in the morning.
Jacquelyn:So now I have to get up even earlier than they do. But I do that and I'm also a list maker and a box checker. I have a little planner and I have little boxes that I have things that I do every day or if it's just one thing for the week. I like to check a box when I get home. I'm checking the box that I recorded the podcast.
Jacquelyn:I love it and that kind of keeps me on track. It gives me a boost when I can. I don't know why it's so fun to check a box and I'm as neurotic as I have on my list that I make my bed and I drink, you know, half a gallon of water at least every day when I work out and just think my kids homework If my kids did their homework, I checked the box because I was there for the homework. So I think those things help me feel like I can do it, I can, I'm getting something done and then I can continue to do more. And I never would have thought that that would give me confidence, but I guess the more I think about it, yeah, that does make me confident in just being a living, breathing human being. That mostly feels like a living, breathing human being and not a zombie. All the time You're just going through your day.
Ciera:I love it. I like to end all of my interviews with this question, and it does not have to be motivation related, just whatever it comes to you. But do you? What is one thing you do each day that helps you to stay confident and bring your confidence?
Camille:out.
Camille:Yes, what a good question.
Camille:I think a really good sense of confidence is knowing who you are, and so, for me, I really love to surround myself with people that know who I really am, where I have kind of built this public persona, where I create so much online that I feel like I need to filter that space and really give myself time to remember who I am. So, for me, building that confidence I mean I feel like it's a lot of little things that I do every day, but probably one big one is staying connected with God and having a source of that inspiration that I'm perfect at it. But I think just having a sense of like people who really surrounding yourself, with people who know you, and that you know you, you know like really investing that time in your, your value and your worth, yeah, um, and I feel like people around you can be a mirror for you, and so just surrounding yourself in that positive light is where I build that confidence, because I really try to create a sense of who I am that way. I love that. Thank you so much.
Ciera:I like to end all of my interviews with one thing that you do every day for your confidence. It doesn't need to be related to anything that we've just talked about, just something that you do every day to help you feel confident. What do you do?
Bobbi:Oh man, there's so many things I do every day. I really try to make someone smile every day and you're good at that. I feel like when I make someone else smile or give them a compliment, it actually in turn does more for me than it does for them. Yeah, and to change someone's day or hour or minute in their life that could be going wrong or them feeling down about themselves, and to see them smile and be like, oh, thank you, it does so much more for your confidence, I think, than it does for them.
Bobbi:And then I probably would say I always, and I wouldn't say every day but to do something for your own self-care, to be selfish sometimes, whether that is taking an hour to watch your favorite TV show or turning on music and dancing around the house, going to work out, getting ready for the day, going to get a massage, a massage, something that makes you feel whole, and taking that time and being selfish and taking just that sliver of time away from everybody else, I think that that is what is the key to the confidence. Yeah, I think it's so easy to lose yourself in being a mom, in being a wife, in being a friend, in serving in your church capacity or in your community or in your job, that it's easy to lose yourself in that and I think just taking a moment in your day to be selfish and to do self-care I think is probably the biggest key.
Ciera:That's really kind of key being confident yeah. You can't know who you are if you don't spend time with yourself. You're right Take care of yourself. I like to end all of my episodes with this one question, so it doesn't have to be related to anything we've talked about, but it probably will be just knowing you. But what's one thing you like to do every day to help you with your confidence?
Laci:Goodness, we just talked about this right, yeah, all the things.
Laci:Confidence is my word of the year.
Laci:Let's see one more thing maybe that I haven't mentioned. I exercise 5, 4, three, two, one, the Mel Robbins, the Mel Robbins. I've been really implementing that, I've been really implementing that and I just and that gives me the, the, the like, the confidence, yeah.
Ciera:Well cause, when anxiety comes, it's hard to, it's hard to move Like yeah.
Laci:Yeah, so it's usually usually like I have a different, I have I have many different tools, so it's really it's like really listening to my intuition yeah, listening to my intuition and and reminding myself that I'm loved, yeah, I love that.
Ciera:If you're not familiar with that, Mel Robbins, she has the thing that like, if you want to, if you want to do something, then you just and you're scared to do it or think you need to get out of bed, but you don't want to, you just go five, four, three, two, one and then you do it. And like I've been starting to do that with my kids, Like if they don't want to do something, I'm like five, four, three, two, one, and then they like just like you, just got to do it, and so it kind of reminds me when you're a kid and you're like you don't race me to the race.
Laci:Yeah yeah, you do every day to help you with your confidence, oh yeah.
Teresa:I am still learning to trust myself. Listen to myself. You know, sometimes when you've had past trauma, you doubt yourself more than anything Like you've had. People tell you what you should be thinking, and it's very hard, especially in a world where there's a lot of thought leaders out there and here's what you should be thinking. Right that getting quiet has been a real journey for me. And so, with ADHD, I'm like Ooh, squirrel, shiny, oh, look, it's like I wonder what's in the fridge right now. You know, and you know, using my brain to help myself has been a huge eye opener, because when you ask intentionally, you will receive the answers. You know ask and ye shall receive. It's a real thing.
Teresa:But we are not good receivers, we're good askers, but we don't stop and wait for the answer. We don't trust that the answer will come on time. We just forget that we asked and just troubleshoot life on our own. Come on time. We just forget that we asked and just troubleshoot life on our own. So, for me, building trust and confidence with myself is sitting still, sit a little longer, breathe and keep asking what would you have me do today? How can I serve today? What's the most important thing I can do today and then wait for that answer to come up, because if my brain's really busy it's very hard to hear the answer. But if you get into your heart and take your brain to your heart it's like, okay, I need you brain to help me in my heart hear the answer. Okay, so you turn your brain into the helper, yes, and you get really quiet and you just ask and then be willing to receive.
Teresa:That builds trust and confidence and that has changed my coaching immensely, because when I go into a coaching session so my profession is benefited, my family has benefited, like all the benefits are coming when I'm asking, cause, when I, when I ask, especially before a coaching session you know, please only let me hear what you would have me hear and please let me only speak the words that need to be spoken. And please help me know your will for this person that I say things I've never said before. You know the intuition comes through the. You know being able to channel the spirit into a conversation that changes both of our lives. There's gifts for everybody there. It's amazing and that's what brings confidence that I don't have to have all the answers, same as you in parenting, you don't have to have all the answers. But if you ask, watch and the answers will come and you'll say things you've never said before. You're like was good, where'd that come from?
Teresa:it wasn't you, it was you know control zilla your brain it wasn't her, it was literally your spirit was leading you, and that will bring you more confidence than anything else in the world what is one thing that you try and do every day for yourself, to bring out your confidence?
Amy:that's's a hard question, especially like as a stay at home mom. You sometimes feel like you don't do anything for you. All you do is just keep children alive and hope they don't scream at you for the majority of the day, right, yep? And so for me I have. The thing that I have tried to do every day for me is make a dinner that I enjoy, because I also really love food, and so, lately, even I will make things that I know my kids and my husband are not going to like. But I love and you're a good cook and that brings out your confidence and I just say, do you know what?
Amy:I don't care, yeah, that I'm actually making two dinners, because I'm gonna heat up some chicken nuggets and some frozen french fries for my husband and my children and I'm going to enjoy this giant salad with pesto dressing and sun-dried tomatoes, and all of this because they're not going to like it, but I will, and that little piece of joy is going to make me happy. I love that.
Ciera:What is one thing that you like to do every day to just help you bring out your confidence? It really is playing the piano.
Emily:That, to me, is just the most grounding, centering thing that I do and, in all honesty, part of why I love yoga so much is because it just seems like an extension of that and something that I carry with me when I play the piano anyway, but what is one thing that you do every day to help you feel confident?
Nicki:Get up and get ready. I feel like getting up, showering, doing my hair, doing my makeup, making my bed that morning routine. When we moved here we were newly married. We'd only been married just over a year. I knew nothing about ranching and this ranch has been in my husband's family for like a hundred years and we moved out here to run it not really knowing what we were doing.
Nicki:And I remember my mom saying just because you live in the middle of nowhere doesn't mean you should turn into a hag Always got ready. My mom was a stay at home mom. Most of my childhood Wasn't until I was in high school that she went to work, but she always got up and got ready and she was like you still need to get up and get ready, do that for you. And I really took that to heart and was like you know what? There's? No, I shouldn't get up and get ready.
Nicki:And I have a friend that lives on a farm on the other side of the town close to us, and unless she's leaving the house, she doesn't. She's like no one's going to see me. Why should I have more energy? I have more, you know. Just drive to get things done in the day. If I don't, if I stay in my pajamas and I don't get ready, I don't want to do anything. And so I feel like that is a huge, a huge confidence boost for me to just feel good about myself and just give me the boost to, you know, get things done. So that's something I do every day.
Ciera:I some days it takes me a little longer to get there, but I I get up and get ready every morning, and so what is one thing that you do every day, or try to do every day, that helps you to feel more confident?
Lyndsey:Oh, okay, I feel like there's a few things, but one of the things that ties in with what we've been talking about is I try to keep what I call a proof log. So on a daily basis, I have like a little app that I do this through, but on a daily basis I write down one thing from my day that gave me proof of my capability or my resilience or my growth or whatever it might be. It's like a CBT based skill, but maybe it's like sometimes for me it's like I remembered every single appointment I had booked today, or it's like I was able to not yell at my kids when I felt super, super frustrated. So it's just writing down one piece of proof that I am competent or I am resilient or I am capable.
Ciera:Thanks for listening. Connect with me on Instagram at confidentlybeautifulpodcast and share this episode with someone in your life who could use a little reminder of just how amazing they already are. Stay confidently beautiful.