Heartbreak, Bad Dates & Being Open to Love Again

A special episode and konversation with @erinzapcic

Join our #LOVETONED challenge at FLK Method to follow Erin's dating journey this February. 

In this heartfelt and hilarious episode, Krys welcomes a very special guest, Erin, to talk about dating, personal growth, and how to navigate relationships in your 30s and 40s. Erin, a long-time FLK Method member, former Medieval Times queen, union organizer, and proud cat mom, shares her rollercoaster journey of love, heartbreak, and self-discovery. Together, they explore how the infamous #LOVETONED challenge helped Krys find success in dating and how Erin is gearing up to take on this transformative experience herself. 

From the importance of dropping judgments in dating to the power of structured accountability, this episode dives deep into the challenges and opportunities of finding love while focusing on yourself. 

Key Quotes:

• “If you’re never uncomfortable, you’re not going to see progress.” – Krys
• “I’m not looking for judgment. I’m looking to get to know myself better through this process.” – Erin

Join the Konversation:
We’d love to hear your thoughts! Share your dating experiences or personal growth stories by tagging @flkmethod on Instagram and using #LOVETONED

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Transcript

Krys [0:00 - 1:24]: Foreign. Welcome back to the Fit Like Chris podcast. Happy Almost February, the month of love. We have a very special guest and we're gonna get into talking about love a little bit and FLK Method's infamous challenge, Love Toned. But before we do, let me introduce her. Oh, what? I'm gonna. I'm gonna talk about these in the order which I think they're the most important, not the order that she sent them to me. She currently stars in Corona Ville. It's now streaming on Amazon Prime. It is so cool. Please look, Google it, watch it, support her. She is a FLK Method member. Since it started, she's been working out with me. Well, before that, 2016. Proud cat mom. That is important. Self identified Disney adult. We're going to talk about that a little bit more in relation to dating. New Jersey born and raised, but she currently lives in la. How I met her, she was the queen at Medieval Times in New Jersey and California for 13 years. Years. 

Erin [1:24 - 1:25]: Yeah. 

Krys [1:25 - 1:34]: Yeah. And then turned a union organizer or the union of Medieval Time. 

Erin [1:34 - 1:35]: Yes. Yeah. 

Krys [1:35 - 1:57]: Okay. And she also is a former prize winning figure competitor, which we talk about a lot when you do training and stuff with me because you have a lot of knowledge about fitness and kind of like how that plays in now, but that's a whole other thing. Anyway, please warm welcome, Erin. Thank you. 

Erin [1:57 - 1:59]: Thank you for having me. This is so fun. 

Krys [2:01 - 2:21]: And I think we're kind of gonna pivot into a bunch of different things, but the overall theme is dating. Yeah. And I thought of you specifically because we're same age and I've been with you through your sort of dating journey and where you are now. 

Erin [2:21 - 2:22]: Yeah. 

Krys [2:24 - 2:26]: Lots of ups and downs which we will go through for sure. 

Erin [2:26 - 2:27]: Yeah. 

Krys [2:28 - 2:36]: And you wore. You were an avid watcher and supporter of the Love Toned. 

Erin [2:36 - 2:37]: Yes. 

Krys [2:39 - 3:18]: And now that Love Toned was a success for me and I have a boyfriend. I was like, I need other people to do this. One, for entertainment. And two, because it works. Yeah. And the reason it works is something we'll get into. But before we get into all of that, I want to start with sort of the big thing. Right. Because I think a lot of people dating in their 30s and 40s, it all starts from a breakup. Right. Because we're dating in our late 30s and 40s because something didn't work out for the most part. 

Erin [3:18 - 3:18]: Yeah. 

Krys [3:18 - 3:43]: Some people are single until then, but most of the time it's because there was like, not a small breakup. Because when you're in your 30s and 40s, it's something that has to Happen right. For you to from again most people. So I kind of want to start there at the beginning of sort of where we are now. So the relationship ending or wherever you want to start with and that's going to kind of start off where we're going. 

Erin [3:43 - 4:19]: Yeah. So I've actually I was a late bloom, so I didn't really like start dating until I was in my like mid-20s. Yeah, I was just like never the girl that like had boyfriends in high school or anything like that and then kind of immediately like jumped into a very serious relationship. Like I didn't know how to date as an adult, honestly. Still don't really know how to date as an adult. But you know, it was, it was the first relationship like where you make all of your mistakes and stuff, which most people have in their teen years. But I had it in my like mid to late twenties. 

Krys [4:19 - 4:21]: So like what kind of mistakes are we talking? 

Erin [4:22 - 6:22]: Well, I mean just like figuring out who you are in a relationship and you know, it was, we also started dating like right before the holidays. So I had never like met someone, started dating and just kept dating. And if I'm being honest, I probably shouldn't have let it go on as long as it did. Like, I knew pretty early on that he was more emotionally invested than I was, but I was like, maybe this is just what dating as an adult is. Like he was a really nice guy and he had like checked all the boxes on paper, he had a really good job, he owned a home, he had a nice car. Like showed up when he said he was going to show up and called when he said he was going to call. Exactly, yeah. Like consistency, you know. And I was like, well if I, you know, like maybe he doesn't make my toes curl but like again maybe that's like not what what dating as an adult is. Right. And then we started dating like the Tuesday before Thanksgiving. So now when most people are kind of like figuring out the early parts of dating, it's like you're meeting my family because it's Christmas and you know, so it got very serious right away. And then like I knew I was moving to North Jersey, like moving out of my parents house, starting the next phase of my life. And he just like kind of came along with me. And so like all of things that I probably somewhere along the line should have been like, maybe this isn't meant to be. I just never did. I didn't have like a really compelling reason to break up with him. And I was too young and too Experienced, inexperienced. To know that feeling that way is a reason to break up with someone. So when that relationship ran its course, it got really ugly, and there was somebody else involved, and there were things that, like, I wish I hadn't done. But again, this is. 

Krys [6:22 - 6:22]: You didn't know. 

Erin [6:22 - 7:35]: Exactly. You're figuring all this out. You're making the mess. And it's even messier because now you're older, you're pushing 30, and you were talking about marriage with someone that you probably wouldn't have if you had met in your teens or early twenties. So that. That was my, like, first experience with relationships. And then I dated the person that kind of, like, interrupted the relationship, and that didn't work out. And then I started seeing someone from work, Medieval Times dating service. And that was not a night. No, no. That is an occupational hazard. But met someone at work, and we were together for a long time, and then I wanted move to California, and in the meantime, we had, like, kind of grown apart, and I didn't think that we should try to save the relationship by moving together. So we made the decision to end the relationship. And then when I moved out to California, I started dating my most recent ex boyfriend, who was the. The person that interrupted my very first relationship. And he. Yes. 

Krys [7:35 - 7:36]: I didn't know that. 

Erin [7:36 - 7:37]: Yeah. 

Krys [7:39 - 7:42]: Um, this is why they say don't recycle. 

Erin [7:43 - 9:11]: You know what? Yes. But he and I started dating pretty much, like, right when I first moved out to Los Angeles. So, like, my point with all of this is that I went from. From one relationship to the next to the next to the next for the better part of 15 years. And everything just always happened. Yeah. So everything just kind of really happened organically. I never. I never had any experience with dating apps. I had no. Like, I just kind of, like, always met people. And he and I were together that last. Jax and I were together for about three years, and we experienced the COVID breakup kind of, like, in delay, because we were living together in a condo that he owned, but we also had two adult male roommates. So, like, whereas most people had that initial experience of this is the first time I'm really alone with you over a long period of time, and, like, kind of broke up right away. During COVID he received an unsolicited offer on his condo in that time when, like, real estate was going crazy and we didn't have any reason to be in Los Angeles, so we moved to Maui for five months. And that was when, for the first time, he and I were really alone together. And you're also in literal paradise. And if you are waking up every day in paradise and you're not happy, that's so. 

Krys [9:11 - 9:11]: Yeah, there you go. 

Erin [9:12 - 9:26]: Yes. So, I mean, I don't want to, like, I was absolutely blindsided when. When he ended the relationship. But. But yeah, I mean, I had to come back to Los Angeles by myself, basically. 

Krys [9:26 - 9:26]: How was that? 

Erin [9:26 - 9:31]: That was July of 2021. So three years ago. Okay. Yeah. 

Krys [9:32 - 10:28]: Yeah. We're on a very similar trajectory. I was not blindsided, but very similar story where it was back to back relationships. One of mine ended up being marriage. And when it ended, I wasn't blindsided, but I. I was blindsided by the fact that I had no idea how to live my life. Not in a relationship. That's what I was blindsided by. I was like, what? I don't even. Who am I? What do I do? I don't know. I don't want to be by myself. Like, this is awful, that kind of thing. So I relate to you in that way. And then sort of the. What com. What happened sort of in the next year, two years, three years now, going on four years sort of after that, after that relationship ended. You're. I think you're maybe. I think you're maybe like at six months or a year behind me in that, but you're, you're on the same. 

Erin [10:28 - 10:28]: Yeah. 

Krys [10:28 - 10:37]: Which is why I'm sort of leading you into. To take the challenge of. Of love tones. 

Erin [10:37 - 10:37]: Yeah. 

Krys [10:37 - 12:08]: So for our listeners who are not familiar with what love toned is. Two years in a row. Actually last year I got a little more serious, but it started two years ago where I essentially shared my dating life with my friends. I mean, like, there were some people that were asking me like, moral questions. They were like, well, do the guys know about this? And I'm like, honestly, like, I'm not doing anything different. I justified it. I was like, I'm not doing anything different. Like, people are literally like, these are my people. I see them every day. They want to know about what's going on. I'm just telling them in a really structured way. So, you know, we had. It was like all you guys knew everything. How tall they were, what they did, where they lived, what they didn't do. You know, like, I just held nothing back. And this past year, the reason why, sort of months after, it actually wasn't initially when I was doing it, it's months after in this year, as I've been talking to my friends who are single, in their 30s and up, especially ones that Want families. I've been talking like more referencing that because I had such a structure to it that similar to a workout routine, if you're like, oh, I really want to get in shape and then you go to the gym one time, nothing's gonna happen. 

Erin [12:08 - 12:09]: Yeah. 

Krys [12:09 - 13:22]: So similar. Like, if it's like, I really want a partner and I really want to be in a relationship. If you go on one hinge date, what do you think is gonna happen? And that's what a lot of people do because a lot of them don't have great experiences. So then you are disheartened and you're like, I. I'd rather just be by myself. Which is also a great option. But again, if you really want to be in a partnership and you really wan somebody. I started to realize there's a little more something to this love toned because the reason that it was successful for me, where I found people that I enjoyed, right. Like hanging out with and like talking to. It's not like I only connected with one person. I just found someone who I connected with the most. Right. But there were actually multiple people who I connected with. And that's also the nice part about the. The structure gave me the accountability because if it was up to me, I would have canceled every one of the. Like, I was moving. I was right. Like it was so many things. So for you, since then, since 2021, right. How has your dating looked? How many dates would you say you've went on and like, from where and like, what does your dating life look like? 

Erin [13:24 - 15:08]: Well, I'm pretty non existent. I met one person organically, sort of right after the breakup and it didn't work out obviously, but it was probably too much for me at the time. You know, the one thing I will say about my last real relationship is that not only did the relationship end, but it really like destroyed my confidence and like, not even like decimated. I was starting from like back like beyond zero. And it took a lot of. I had to go to therapy, I had to get medicated for anxiety. I had to, you know, there was a lot of like personal work that I had to do to even really be at a place. And unfortunately it took sort of dating this person to realize that I still had a long way to go before I was really going to be ready for that. And he was a saint and we're still friends. I don't know if he's listening to this right now. Probably not. But just in case now, you know, and there's a whole lot of things I never told you about. That had absolutely nothing to do with you. But, but, but. So I. So I went to therapy. And really by the time I was starting to feel like maybe I had come out on the other side of the breakup was when I took on the Union project at Medieval Times. So. And that really took up about two years of my life. And then when that was done. Cause that's a whole other conversation. When that was done, I really had to grieve that because not only did that become my whole life for two. 

Krys [15:08 - 15:10]: Years, but it really did. 

Erin [15:10 - 15:10]: Yeah. 

Krys [15:10 - 15:11]: Yeah. 

Erin [15:11 - 15:35]: But my. For 13 years, this was a job that I loved and poured a lot of myself into, so I had to grieve that whole thing as well. So it's really only been in the last few months that I've really felt like, like, oh, okay. Like I'm potentially feeling like I could maybe start to put myself out there. And then it didn't take very long on the apps to get disheartened and everything that you're talking about. 

Krys [15:35 - 15:35]: Right. 

Erin [15:36 - 16:09]: And figuring out how they monetize loneliness and. And all of that. So it. A lot of it felt like kind of scammy to me and, and, you know, but the reality is, is that I live in the city that's consistently ranked the hardest to date in the United States or like one of the hardest. But another one of them is Glendale, which is like part of Los Angeles. So I. It's very funny, but. So there's that. And then I also, I work from home. I work out at home. Like, I, like, most of the time, like, choose not to leave my house. This is. 

Krys [16:09 - 16:11]: Yeah. This is why you are the person. 

Erin [16:11 - 16:11]: Yeah. 

Krys [16:11 - 19:06]: You know, for this. Because I. It's like, you know, our. Again, our stories are so parallel. Literally decimated confidence worked from home. Ton of people I could talk to, but, like, you know, like, didn't have to talk to. Self sustained and contained life literally inside my house. Dogs who I love, cat who you love. Right. It's like, I don't need anything else. This is fine. But it wasn't. I. I've maintained. I mean, there was a time where maybe I wouldn't have said love is the most important thing in my life, but I said it for a long time and I sort of lost that. But now sort of back to. And the only way, you know, kind of through that is through like this very, in hindsight, grueling dating process that I would not have done if I didn't have the accountability. So back to the structure and why? No matter where you are in your dating journey and you don't have to participate in love, you don't have to be someone in love tone to do this. But it's just saying, like, I'm like, these are, you know, 25 people who in the next three weeks, like, I have to go on a date with. Right? And then there was. In my mind, it was like, if this person bails or if I can't do this, I have to have a backup option, right? So there was like, literally a method to this whole thing where I had to get a certain number. And the sort of lesson in it all is the same lesson that's in any area of your life that you're trying to grow in. Like, you have to be uncomfortable. You have to be uncomfortable to see progress. You. If you are never uncomfortable, you're not going to see a change or progress in that area. And dating is the most uncomfortable. It is the worst. So. And because of that, you can get into this, like you just said, you know, like, you can get into this, like, really focusing on the cons. LA is the worst place to date. You know, I've had terrible experiences. I don't. Whatever. They're truths, but they're the cons. There's always pros, right? There's always pros. There's always cons. And I find and found in my personal experience, too, and through talking to women who are single in the 30s and 40s, that the cons are comforting. Right? The cons. With the cons, you don't have to be uncomfortable because they're true, right? LA is the hardest place to date, right? Like, men suck. 

Erin [19:06 - 19:07]: Yeah. Like, sure. Yeah. 

Krys [19:07 - 19:25]: Like, it could be true. And then there's all these other things that are also true that we're just kind of taking out of the conversation because it's convenient. So that's sort of what we find during this process. What? So. Oh, actually, so I want to do my quick fire. 

Erin [19:25 - 19:26]: Okay. 

Krys [19:26 - 19:27]: It's my new thing. 

Erin [19:27 - 19:27]: Ooh. 

Krys [19:28 - 19:47]: This is not the end of the podcast. It's just a part of the podcast. If my timer works, there it is. Okay, so what we're going to do, I'm going to put only. It's only a minute. Okay, so we have a minute, and I'm just going to ask you questions and you're just going to answer them short. It could be yes, no, or just a short answer. Because we only have a minute. It. 

Erin [19:47 - 19:47]: Okay. 

Krys [19:48 - 19:55]: I have to make sure I have my. Okay, here we go. You ready? It's going to start after I asked the first question. 

Erin [19:55 - 19:55]: Okay. 

Krys [19:56 - 20:14]: Because I was just going to ask one. I was like, you know what? This is going to be part of my quick fire. All right, here we go. Get my finger on the start button. Hinge or bumble hinge. Flowers. Like to get flowers from a date on the first date, yes or no? 

Erin [20:15 - 20:15]: No. 

Krys [20:17 - 20:18]: Older or younger? 

Erin [20:19 - 20:20]: Yes. 

Krys [20:25 - 20:32]: What is your. During your healing process? What was your self care? Go to thing. 

Erin [20:33 - 20:34]: Wine. 

Krys [20:36 - 20:43]: What was your worst date? In the shortest way you can say it? 

Erin [20:44 - 20:50]: The only thing I can. The only way I can sum it up is line up, line up. Oh. 

Krys [20:53 - 20:55]: How do you get in your own way? 

Erin [20:56 - 20:58]: Not leaving the house. 

Krys [20:58 - 21:23]: Oh, best date. That's funny. Oh, my God. Wait, what was the one we have to go further into? What did I ask you? Oh, when you said. When I said older. Younger. Does it. So does it matter? Do you date? Yeah. 

Erin [21:23 - 22:00]: No, I don't. I don't have a, like, a particular preference for some reason. I've dated younger, but I feel like that's like, just younger guys in general, for whatever reason, tend to like me. I'm trying to think. My two of my three serious relationships were younger. One really only like a year, and then one was like a couple years, and then the first one was a couple years older. But if we're talking like, older, older, like, I, you know, I probably would not date someone 10 years older, but like five, six years older. I mean, that's usually like my window is like five years above, five years below. 

Krys [22:00 - 22:04]: So now that we're here talking about your window, let's talk about your checklist. 

Erin [22:04 - 22:05]: Oh, gee. 

Krys [22:05 - 22:16]: Because everybody has one of those. Even an opposite of a checklist, right? Like things we don't want. What are some things on your. Must have. 

Erin [22:17 - 22:21]: Must have. No kids. Must not want to have kids. 

Krys [22:21 - 22:22]: Oh. 

Erin [22:24 - 22:39]: I'm. I mean, like, I took care of this ticking time bomb last year. Like, there's no but. Like, I've known since I was 16 that I don't want to have kids and. Yeah, exactly. And, you know, so you've heard it all, like hunches. You just need to meet the right person and blah, blah. Like, no, I don't. 

Krys [22:39 - 22:43]: I need to meet the right person who also loves dogs as much as I do. 

Erin [22:43 - 22:50]: Yeah. Check if they. If they have a cat or they love cats. That's a major plus. But I'm like, totally okay if they have a dog or whatever. 

Krys [22:50 - 22:51]: Okay. 

Erin [22:52 - 22:56]: What's other? What's other? Those are like, that's like the major, major Deal breakers. 

Krys [22:56 - 23:03]: And that in this age group that. That comes up, like, either of the guys gonna have kit. Like, that's actually your pool goes. 

Erin [23:04 - 23:05]: Yeah. Considerably. 

Krys [23:05 - 23:10]: Because not only can they not have kids, but they don't. Can't. Wanna know, don't want kids. 

Erin [23:10 - 23:11]: Yeah. 

Krys [23:11 - 23:12]: Interesting. 

Erin [23:12 - 23:15]: Now you'll find a little bit more of that in Los Angeles. 

Krys [23:15 - 23:17]: What if they have adult children? 

Erin [23:18 - 23:34]: My issue with kids is not about the kids themselves. It's more about, like the ex wife or the ex baby mama. Like, to me, there's always another person in your relationship when there's a child. And I'm not talking about the child. 

Krys [23:34 - 23:40]: Talk about more of that. Okay, so no kids. Can't want kids. What else? 

Erin [23:43 - 23:48]: Please, no ethical non monogamy listed in your. Like, I. I. Yeah. 

Krys [23:48 - 24:01]: What does that mean? What? Actually, when I was on Hinge, all that, that portion, I was like, like, the. What are you looking for some of that stuff. I was like, I don't even know what's happening. Why can't we just be like, what are you doing? 

Erin [24:02 - 24:10]: Here's the thing. Like, I. I know because of my circles, I know a lot of ren faire people. I know a lot of most ren faire people are polyamorous. And like, some. 

Krys [24:11 - 24:11]: What people? 

Erin [24:11 - 24:27]: Renaissance fair. Like, oh, ren fair. Yeah, Ren fair people are like, poly or like in, you know, some ethical non monogamy. And so I'm like, very familiar with E. M. But statistically, the amount of people who actually identify as E and M and parts. 

Krys [24:27 - 24:29]: Can you tell us what E and M is? 

Erin [24:29 - 24:30]: Ethical non monogamy. 

Krys [24:30 - 24:31]: What is that? 

Erin [24:31 - 25:07]: Basically, just people who are in open relationships. That can mean anything from, like, you have a primary partner and then you just kind of like, have hookups on the side. And everybody knows about it. Like, the ethical part is that, like, everybody knows about it. They have established ground rules as part of their relationship and their open relationship contract. And then some people are, like, legitimately polyamorous, meaning that they have multiple partner. They are in multiple relationships and have multiple, like, partners. Maybe one is a primary, but they, you know. And I know a lot of people for whom that's their relationship dynamic. 

Krys [25:07 - 25:08]: Does it work for them? 

Erin [25:08 - 25:09]: They. Absolutely. Yeah. 

Krys [25:09 - 25:10]: Great. 

Erin [25:10 - 26:11]: So absolutely no judgment for people who are legitimately E and M. You know, that's not how I identify. But absolutely no judgment, if that works for you. But statistically, the amount of people who are actually EE and M versus the amount of dudes on Hinge who say they're E and M, what that says to me is you don't want me to be put off when you show up at the wedding ring because you have on your profile E and M like, and it don't come at me like, maybe I'm just making a gross generalization here, but Because I also like about your checklist. Exactly. Like, so if you say that your E and M, like, A, I'm doubtful that that's actually the case, but B, if I don't want to have kids because I don't want to have another person in the relationship, or I don't want you to have kids because I don't want you to want there to be another person in the relationship, that also means, like, not another partner in the mix. And that means I'm not going to have another partner in the mix Again, like, that's. If that works for you. If that's your relationship dynamic, fine. But that's not. 

Krys [26:11 - 26:15]: You're like a one person and we're together and that's what we're talking about. 

Erin [26:15 - 26:15]: Exactly. 

Krys [26:15 - 26:28]: Okay, okay. What else? What about some, like, brass tacks things? Just like, basic things that someone does or doesn't do or looks like or what about physical attributes? Do you have any do's or don'ts? What about height? I. 

Erin [26:28 - 26:36]: You know what? I honestly don't care about height. I know for some people that's a. That's a big. I've dated tall guys, short guys. Like, I don't really have. You know, that's usually a big one. 

Krys [26:37 - 26:37]: That's why I ask. 

Erin [26:37 - 26:47]: Yeah, no, I know I'm five foot three. Most people are taller than face, so doesn't really matter. Oh, this is gonna sound bad, but, like, the guy can't be bald. 

Krys [26:48 - 26:49]: You need a head of hair. 

Erin [26:49 - 26:50]: I need a head of hair. 

Krys [26:50 - 26:51]: It's your personal preference. 

Erin [26:51 - 27:00]: Yeah, but I also. But like, I'm also a sucker for, like, really good hair. Like, if a guy has a great hair, hair is fine, whatever. But if a guy has, like, really good hair, it's like. 

Krys [27:00 - 27:04]: Yeah, that's from all the nights and the long hair. 

Erin [27:05 - 27:08]: Or did I work at Medieval Times? Because there you go. 

Krys [27:08 - 27:12]: Was it the chicken or the egg? Yeah, that's a good question. 

Erin [27:12 - 27:24]: But let's see. I don't swipe on someone. Isn't gonna sound bad. I don't swipe on someone who says that they're moderate because that says to me that they voted for Trump and they don't want to admit it. 

Krys [27:27 - 27:38]: The title of this episode is gonna say is gonna be this is gonna sound bad before you Say everything. You're like, this is gonna sound bad. Okay. So no Trump voters. 

Erin [27:38 - 27:39]: Correct. 

Krys [27:39 - 27:42]: Or, like, in the closet, Trump voters. Okay. 

Erin [27:43 - 27:54]: And then, I don't know, like, looks wise again. It's. It's just mostly the hair is the deal breaker, which in my age group kind of narrows it down. Yeah, yeah, but. 

Krys [27:54 - 27:56]: And men only. 

Erin [27:56 - 27:57]: Men only. Yeah. 

Krys [27:57 - 28:01]: Okay, so men. No kids at all. Hair. 

Erin [28:01 - 28:02]: Hair. 

Krys [28:04 - 28:05]: Democrat. Ish. 

Erin [28:05 - 28:06]: Yes. 

Krys [28:07 - 28:07]: Okay. 

Erin [28:08 - 28:40]: In terms of their job, I don't really. I don't really care. I do have, like, on my. On my profile, it says, like, do not talk to me if you've ever crossed a picket line. And that's just, like, a very personal thing. So I don't know how many people see themselves out because of that. Like, I mean, we're seeing more of a union movement now in the last few years than, you know, you know, the decades before that. So people might not even know if they, A, if they've ever crossed a picket line or B, if they ever would. But, yeah, that's just, like, a moral thing. 

Krys [28:41 - 28:44]: Since you work from home, would you move for love? 

Erin [28:46 - 28:58]: I mean, I have. I mean, like, in terms of, like, physically moving into the space, I wouldn't, like, move to New Jersey from California, but, you know. 

Krys [28:58 - 29:04]: Did you move to, I don't know, Washington state from California? 

Erin [29:04 - 29:06]: Probably not. Washington's cold. 

Krys [29:06 - 29:10]: Would you move anywhere other than California, or do you just love California? 

Erin [29:10 - 29:11]: I love California. 

Krys [29:11 - 29:13]: Okay. California girl. 

Erin [29:13 - 29:13]: Yeah. 

Krys [29:13 - 29:30]: Katy Perry. All right. Okay. And what about X? Like, something that someone might do or say that you. Maybe they had you at first, and then you're just like. Oh, God, no. 

Erin [29:32 - 29:41]: Any kind of, like, microaggression or, like, subtly misogynistic behavior. 

Krys [29:41 - 29:44]: That's an example of a microaggression. I love this. 

Erin [29:44 - 29:46]: I'm just trying to think of just, like. 

Krys [29:46 - 29:48]: Just so that other women can spot it. 

Erin [29:48 - 29:49]: Yeah. 

Krys [29:51 - 29:52]: Or. 

Erin [29:52 - 30:00]: Or massage or, like, hidden, subtle misogyny. Yeah. Trying to think of an example. Like. 

Krys [30:02 - 30:07]: What about. Is it okay if a guy, like, orders for you? Or are you, like, what are you doing? 

Erin [30:08 - 30:09]: I'd be like, what are you doing? 

Krys [30:09 - 30:16]: Oh, wow. Okay. Okay. What about, like, opening a car door for you or that kind of stuff? 

Erin [30:16 - 30:37]: That's. That's nice. Okay. I think, like, chivalry is okay to a certain degree, but also, like. Like, don't take away my agency. So, like, to me. Well, I mean, I guess it would depend, like, if. If we discuss what I was going to order, and the guy just, like, takes it upon himself. 

Krys [30:37 - 30:38]: Got it. Okay. 

Erin [30:38 - 31:15]: That might be one thing. But usually what happens is that the. The waiter comes to the table and, like, starts with the woman anyway, so. But if he was just like, she's gonna have this. And I'm like, what? What are you talking about? I don't know. Thankfully, I've been pretty lucky. Like, I haven't dealt with that, like, too much, but, I mean, like, I can usually tell from their profile, right? So, like, if a guy says in his profile, you better not have any bikini pics on your profile, I'm like, that's a. That's a red flag. Or, you know, like, little things like that where you're just like, yeah, let's. 

Krys [31:15 - 31:30]: Talk about some hinge profiles that you've bypassed. So, like, what's some things that you've looked at and you've been like, absolutely not. Is it. Other than the hair, are there any other things that you're just like, no. What about clothing? What's in the picture? 

Erin [31:30 - 32:11]: Like, if they have a fish, if they. If it's a lot of. Like, this is gonna sound weird. Not bad weird, because fitness is important to me, and. And I, you know, do work out regularly and make it a part of my life. But, like, when a guy's profile is all gym pictures, I'm like, I don't want that to be your whole personality. Because, like, I also, like, I'm not. This was something that came up when I was. When I was competing, because a lot of times I'd meet people at the gym and guys, like. Because that's where they met me, they would, like, want to talk to me about working out. And I'm like, I work out because I have to. 

Krys [32:11 - 32:11]: Right. 

Erin [32:11 - 32:13]: It doesn't really, like, interest me. 

Krys [32:13 - 32:14]: Yeah. 

Erin [32:14 - 33:05]: Or if they. Oh, this used to drive me crazy. My ex used to mansplain dieting to me. Like, I had not been on some diet or another since I was 12 years old and, you know, be like, well. But, like, his version of dieting or eating correctly was intermittent fasting, which literally just meant he didn't eat breakfast and then, like, pigged out at lunch. Well, I lost 10 pounds doing intermittent fasting. Okay, cool. I lost 25 pounds doing whole 30. So you're gonna tell that the way I'm cooking is, like, not gonna work for me when I know that it works for me. So that. That was always something that, like, bothered me. Is. Or like, when. When dudes try to be like, oh, well, you know, like, you have to work out like this or whatever. I'm like, I don't, you know, yeah. 

Krys [33:05 - 33:56]: Also something special. I mean, because every. I. I think regardless of gender, men, woman, anybody telling you what to do unsolicited, like, actually didn't ask for your advice. That's all. That's always hard, especially when you're trying really hard and you're putting in a lot of effort and you have a lot of knowledge in the area. But men, specifically, just because their bodies are completely different. And, you know, obviously they know that, but there's a point that they don't. Same thing. Women. This goes for women, too. Like, this is like when you're telling your husband or your wife, your partner, like, what to do and you're a different gender than them. Like, that's actually. Women and men body require different things. There are some basic things that can align, but it's actually depending on your goals and obviously a lot of things. But gender does play a big issue in nutrition and working out, too. 

Erin [33:56 - 34:17]: Absolutely. Yeah. So too. Too much fitness is their whole personality and. Or I see this a lot because it's Los Angeles guys that, like, post pictures from, like, on top of a mountain. I'm like, good for you. But, like, I'm not gonna go hiking with you. So we're literally. 

Krys [34:17 - 34:22]: I mean, we're not person. We're so different, but we are very similar in our dating. Yeah. 

Erin [34:22 - 34:22]: Yeah. 

Krys [34:22 - 34:56]: Like, I'm like, yep, yep, yep, yep. Yeah. And so this is the other reason why. Oh, my God, I'm so excited for you. Because obviously that pool is really small. However, because I put my checklist aside, opened up my. Like, I didn't have any restrictions, so. So that's the part of love. Toned. You're not going to be able to have any preferences. Even though we're going to pay for it. You're not going to have any preferences. There's no height. 

Erin [34:56 - 34:58]: Even the kids think there's no age. 

Krys [34:58 - 35:05]: There's no kids. There's no. You could do a couple. Maybe we'll pick like, your top. Like, there's no point. 

Erin [35:05 - 35:05]: Yeah. 

Krys [35:05 - 35:32]: You know, I think for the kids one I put. Because my boyfriend has children, so it definitely wasn't. No, I think it was like, I'm not having kids kind of thing. Like, you can't want. If you have kids, whatever. Because that's looks so different if we're in so many different ways. But, like, distance. Like, there are some things that. But I just. I didn't even consider it because if I did, I wouldn't have had as many options. 

Erin [35:32 - 35:33]: Sure. Yeah. 

Krys [35:33 - 35:38]: Like, it's like, it takes the pool From a hundred people to five. 

Erin [35:38 - 35:38]: Yeah. 

Krys [35:39 - 35:40]: If I consider my checklist. 

Erin [35:40 - 35:40]: Yeah. Yeah. 

Krys [35:40 - 36:09]: So I was like. It was just like, I'm not gonna do that. I'm literally just gonna take it all away. And the point of this is there's power in numbers. And I'm gonna go on 20, 30, 40, whatever it is, dates, and then we're gonna go from there. And it didn't start off with the point of. It wasn't for me to find someone that, like, in my heart I was hoping to, but that wasn't sort of the point. The point was just to get myself to do it. 

Erin [36:09 - 36:09]: Yeah. 

Krys [36:09 - 36:42]: And I think that when you kind of approach it as I'm getting to know myself better, regardless of if I meet anybody or not, because that was the energy I had. Also going into dates, like, the energy was. And even setting up the dates, the energy was like, yeah, I'm down to get to know you. And cool. It wasn't like desperation or negativity or coming from a place of cynicism or. Because that energy, regardless of what you say, affects things. 

Erin [36:42 - 36:42]: Yeah. 

Krys [36:42 - 36:54]: So I think when the energy is. I want to get to know myself better. This is fun. I'm not doing this for anybody but me. It changes the way that you date. 

Erin [36:54 - 36:55]: Yeah, absolutely. 

Krys [36:55 - 37:35]: And it takes the importance and, like, because it is the most important decision you can make, I believe that the person who you're choosing to, like, share your space with your time, with your opinions, with your fears, with, like, that is so important. And. But if you think about that, like, in the dating process, it makes things almost impossible because no one's gonna check all your boxes. And when you remove the boxes, you're actually gonna find that someone is gonna check boxes you didn't even know existed. And you're gonna be like, I didn't even know I needed that because of the type of person I am. And that's gonna make the other box insignificant. 

Erin [37:35 - 37:36]: Right. 

Krys [37:36 - 37:39]: So your checklist changes depending on who you meet. Kind of. 

Erin [37:39 - 37:39]: Yeah. 

Krys [37:39 - 38:38]: Yeah. But the non negotiables are important, and those should be tied to your values. For sure. They're value driven. That's important. And moral driven. That's important. But there has to be other stuff. Stuff. And there doesn't have to be other stuff. You can do whatever you want. But during Love Toned, that other stuff is that that other stuff is just off the table. I. I'm not going to get into politics because it's just something I vow never to do. But when it comes to. Into dating, from personal Experience and in life and who has. I have my sister who is very into politics, like on a whole other level, who would not. Not consider that, you know, like, in her dating, that's something that I've been exposed to so many different types of people because I haven't taken that into consideration. And I've met people who have completely opposing viewpoints who I liked regardless of that. 

Erin [38:38 - 38:38]: Yeah. 

Krys [38:38 - 39:25]: So it's just like again, getting to know yourself through these meetings, essentially, they're like little meetings of getting to know yourself in mirrors. And sometimes those mirrors. I've also had people who I will never see or speak to again change my life because they said one thing to me that was a reflection based on their perspective. That was their perspective and no one else had that perspective. And I was like. And it wasn't that I took things to heart and changed myself because of what they said. It was just. Just like an interesting observation that I was able to agree or disagree with and be like, actually that's a really good point. You know, and I was able to bring that. It was like through the dates I kind of grew. 

Erin [39:25 - 39:26]: Oh, wow. 

Krys [39:26 - 39:36]: You know, like through dating. So you're gonna get to experience that too. And it's something, again, I think only someone would do if you literally set the structure to do it. 

Erin [39:36 - 39:36]: Yeah, yeah. 

Krys [39:36 - 39:39]: Because otherwise you just cancel and stay home with your cat. 

Erin [39:39 - 39:40]: Yeah. 

Krys [39:40 - 39:55]: Speaking of staying home with your cat, outside of working, dating, going to go on this love tone journey as we're in the new year, what are some things that you're going to do to focus on yourself? 

Erin [39:55 - 40:21]: Well, the big one for me is that right now I'm trying to figure out what the, what the next thing is now that like Medieval Times is out of my life. And because that was, that was like a performance outlet, that was a, A creative outlet, I don't really have that. So trying to figure out what that is in terms of actress life, either. Actress life or just finding a way to be creative, even if it's not for anyone but me. Like, I don't. I don't really have that right now. 

Krys [40:21 - 40:25]: Do you. Do you go on auditions regularly? 

Erin [40:25 - 41:05]: Not regularly. I kind of put that aside during COVID and then like, I went inactive with SAG aftra and without getting into like the whole business of acting side thing, like, because of how strongly I feel about unions and my, like, union membership, there's just kind of like some logistical things, but, you know, just trying to figure out, like, how that, how that will play out in this, like, new phase of my life, but also without getting, like, too much into it. I don't think he's listening to this right now. But I need a. I need a new job. So I'm trying to figure out how to get into the union world. 

Krys [41:05 - 41:06]: Okay. 

Erin [41:07 - 41:14]: Whether that's professionally or, like, if I can just get involved, like from an activist side or something like that. That's just. 

Krys [41:14 - 41:18]: That's cool. Have you looked at things like, what is that job title? 

Erin [41:19 - 41:23]: So there are a couple different. I mean, like, there are people who make their living as union organizers. 

Krys [41:23 - 41:24]: Okay. 

Erin [41:25 - 41:52]: I'm. I'd be open to it, but that's also like. Like a huge emotional expenditure and a roller coaster that. I don't know if I could, like, constantly be on that roller coaster all the time. But I'm looking into, like, maybe getting a job as a communications person, like for a union or being a business rep, meaning that I'd work for the union, but it'd kind of be like the first line of defense when something happens on the job. Then, like, so you really. 

Krys [41:52 - 41:59]: You just, like, really loved that, that you want to make that part of what you do. Would you move for a career. 

Erin [42:02 - 42:11]: Within California? Probably. But, like, I'm not. I'm not. California is huge, though. And California is a big union state. 

Krys [42:11 - 42:12]: Okay. 

Erin [42:12 - 43:04]: So, you know, there's a lot of opportunity. Is there? But I mean, like, between Orange county, which is where, you know, medieval times was Los Angeles county, and first of all, there's a million. Like, I wouldn't say a million. I mean, I'm kind of, like, seeing what's out there. But if it. If a union job doesn't appear, I want to maybe, like, somehow get into activism with a cause. That feels really important to me. So I've. I. Now that I'm sort of on the other side of the grief process. Well, I'm feeling better in the grief process, I'm feeling. And especially not to get into politics, but especially in light of what. What's coming, I feel like I'm feeling ready to fight again. And that's like a big. I've just kind of got a fire. Like, I need to put that energy somewhere. 

Krys [43:04 - 43:23]: Yeah. Yeah. And I encourage you to put that energy to yourself first, because that's going to then help everything else get fired up. And often people think about it sort of as the opposite. It. 

Erin [43:23 - 43:23]: Right. 

Krys [43:23 - 43:35]: But if you're fighting for yourself, then you have the energy to any. Anywhere you go. So, I mean, there's so much on the horizon for you. 

Erin [43:35 - 43:36]: Yeah. 

Krys [43:36 - 43:39]: Do you Have a word for the year yet? Have you picked your word? 

Erin [43:39 - 44:12]: I have not picked my word for the year yet. I actually like, I'm in, I invested in like a, they call it. It's like a manuscripting journal. So it's like manifesting but like journaling and stuff like that. So like I'm. I' on like restructuring my morning routine and trying to like so be working backwards. Yeah, it will reveal itself. Yeah, I think so. I don't know. I'm like some, the. I'm trying to think that. I don't know. I don't. It's a little bit pressure. Is it right now? 

Krys [44:12 - 44:13]: Is it going to sound bad? 

Erin [44:14 - 44:18]: It's going to sound bad. That's going to be like my mantra for the year. This is going to sound bad. 

Krys [44:19 - 44:25]: No, I think this year is going to be really, really epic for you. Yep, I'm seeing it. I'm just seeing it. It's coming to me. 

Erin [44:25 - 44:29]: Maybe may growth. Maybe that'll be my word for the year. 

Krys [44:29 - 44:30]: How about uncomfortable? 

Erin [44:30 - 45:03]: Yeah, I could do with that. From an astrology standpoint, Jupiter is moving into. Is it Jupiter? Yes, Jupiter is moving into cancer, which I'm a cancer rising. So that's my first house and it's like right before. Yeah, she got the houses. So the house of the self, the first house, it's moving into cancer right before my birthday and I'll be in turning 42 so that the meaning of life and everything is 42 just kind of like. So Jupiter is the planet of expansion and all of that. 

Krys [45:03 - 45:04]: When is your birthday? 

Erin [45:04 - 45:18]: June 26th. Okay, so my cancer, sun and cancer rising. So all of the cancer water. Yeah, well, yes, Cancer, sun, cancer rising. And then my moon is Capricorn and they're like diametrically opposed. 

Krys [45:18 - 45:21]: Do you talk about astrology on a first date? 

Erin [45:22 - 45:46]: I don't know. I think it would have to depend on if it comes up organically. It might, it would probably be a deal breaker for some people. But also in Los Angeles it's a little bit more like socially acceptable. But like I also don't know that I would want to tone down the, my, my wooness for someone. Yeah, like if you, if you can't, if you can't hang with me at my witchy, you don't get me at your majesty. 

Krys [45:46 - 45:49]: These houses. You don't know your house. But I'm going to tell you about my house. 

Erin [45:49 - 45:49]: Yeah, yeah. 

Krys [45:49 - 45:54]: And you're going to have to provide a copy of your birth certificate so we could establish what your houses are. 

Erin [45:54 - 46:14]: I think I might of. Did I put it on. Did I put it on Hinge or did I put it on one of the. Maybe it was like Facebook dating. I think I put something about astrology on Hinge. I don't know if it's still there, but I put on Facebook dating. One thing you should know about me is. And I was like, I'm going to ask you for your birth date, time and place. It's amazing. 

Krys [46:15 - 46:37]: And I will. And we have to wrap up this episode. But before we do, I just want to say that you are. Are a perfect person. You don't have to change anything about yourself. That said, I will say that similar to Bikini Boot Camp. I love using it as an example because marketing. That's called Bikini Boot Camp. But it has nothing, you know, little to do with that. 

Erin [46:37 - 46:37]: Yeah. 

Krys [46:37 - 46:45]: Like, who we are is so much that to explain it in five sentences on an app. 

Erin [46:45 - 46:45]: Yeah. Right. 

Krys [46:45 - 47:05]: It's impossible. So for me, it's like that stuff that makes me. Me. Instead of thinking about, like, oh, I don't want to change myself, or I want. I. I don't want people to not know this about me. The way that I think about that stuff is like, that person is not really going to have access to that part of me until a certain point. 

Erin [47:05 - 47:06]: Sure. Yeah. 

Krys [47:06 - 47:21]: So it's not really like I'm faking or I'm being something different. It's just like we are so layered and a lot of stuff. Stuff we can. It's better off to keep it to ourselves because it's so much. Especially if we're passionate about it. 

Erin [47:21 - 47:21]: Yeah. 

Krys [47:21 - 47:26]: Because then it's just, like, a waste. Then you're just, like, never gonna see that person again. What the. What was even the point? 

Erin [47:26 - 47:26]: Yeah. 

Krys [47:26 - 47:37]: So I think, like, part of the getting to know myself actually was through not talking about myself. I already know all that information. 

Erin [47:37 - 47:38]: Yeah. 

Krys [47:38 - 47:53]: It was actually about, like, listening to them, seeing how I felt in different situations. Right. Like, seeing how I felt, especially in a situation that I wouldn't regularly be in because I wouldn't be on this date if I hadn't been going through a list. 

Erin [47:53 - 47:54]: Yeah. 

Krys [47:54 - 48:03]: Right. So I think, like, all that stuff, I wouldn't worry about not being yourself, because that's impossible. You're always going to be yourself. 

Erin [48:03 - 48:04]: Yeah. 

Krys [48:04 - 48:24]: But be a little. Guard your heart and who you are on dates, because that's not even, you know, let people be them. And it's almost like having a. It's like a strainer. Like, let some stuff come through, but not all of it right out the gate. 

Erin [48:24 - 48:24]: Oh, yeah. 

Krys [48:24 - 48:56]: It's like those memes that. It's like I just over share. That's way too much, you know? So definitely be yourself, but save it, you know, save it for the people that are gonna appreciate it and not make you feel like. Like it's too much or you're dumb or you're stupid, you're too this or you're too that. Like, I don't even want to have that conversation, you know? Yeah, I think we're. We always tend to say a little more anyway, so practicing for me, practicing holding back and listening more was really helpful for me to get to know myself. 

Erin [48:57 - 48:58]: Interesting. 

Krys [48:58 - 49:47]: Because I was like, I was. I would be thinking about like, I would typically say something here and like, what does that say? Like, I just really was. Even though I was listening more, it helped me to get to know myself more. And in a relationship, like how I want to be a partner and what that person is seeing too. Yeah, right. Like sometimes it's when you're talking, it's hard to see yourself. You can't experience yourself when you're being right. But if you're aware of like the whole situation and you can kind of hear and see yourself, you can kind of see how the other person sees you and hear how the other person hears you and be like, oh, maybe I shouldn't have said that. Or like when you're about to say something, like, maybe I shouldn't say that. 

Erin [49:47 - 49:48]: Yeah. 

Krys [49:48 - 50:24]: Because you're so like tuned in. So in terms of like all of your views and your likes and your. When we do this love tone, that's not what we're doing. Right. There are going to be a few people who get to know you on a deeper level and then even on a deeper level after that. But for the most part it's you just showing up and being uncomfortable and getting to know people and dropping the judgment. Because that's what you want for you too. Yeah, right. Like you don't want someone to judge you because you know what your house, it, you know, your third house is. 

Erin [50:25 - 50:25]: Yeah. 

Krys [50:25 - 50:29]: Yeah. That's not who you are. Yeah, that's just like something, you know, which is really cool. 

Erin [50:29 - 50:29]: Yeah. 

Krys [50:29 - 51:43]: So same thing. Like, it's just. I think that's something that we all could do less of. And it's really hard because it's human nature to like judge so to notice when we're doing it and to be like, you know what? I'm just like, had one of the best practices I did. I can't remember what prompted me to do it, but it was to go on, like, a second date, because the first date, I just totally shut it down. I was just like, no, absolutely not. No, no, no, no, no, no, no. But then I had. I think it was just, like, literally a voice in my own head. Wasn't even someone else. It was just, like, a voice that was just like, who? What? What is. Because it was, like, almost a thing. Like, if anybody saw me with that person. Oh, but I'm like, who. Who am I to like, what? Like, this is a person. Like, I noticed myself being so judgmental and, like, what am I ins. That I can't be seen with this person or I can't, you know, be it. It was just, like, so dumb. But it also stemmed from. I. I didn't feel shame about it. I just noticed it because it stemmed from what I knew. 

Erin [51:43 - 51:43]: Yeah. 

Krys [51:44 - 52:21]: And, like, status and what the appearances were was a big part of, like, most of my relationships. So I was like, what is it about me that is making me say that? Like, nah, I don't want to be like that. Yeah, this is a human. And so it was just, like, dropping all my judgments again. Pros, cons, right, Wrong. And just allowing someone to tell me or show me who they were was a really cool process, and most of the time didn't turn out well. 

Erin [52:23 - 52:24]: But you are a success story. 

Krys [52:24 - 52:24]: You only need one. 

Erin [52:25 - 52:25]: Exactly. 

Krys [52:25 - 53:07]: You only need one. And what a success it was. So I cannot wait for love tones. I am so excited. I am so excited for you because of how you're going to get to know yourself. Regardless of how it goes, it's definitely going to change your perspective on dating and who you are as a partner. So it's going to be, like, a big growth opportunity, and all of you can follow along. Our challenge is gonna start not the first Monday in February, actually. Let me look at my calendar so I can give people the right dates. Our challenge is going to start. And the thing about love tone that makes it so awkward is that it's right in Valentine's Day. 

Erin [53:07 - 53:07]: Yeah. 

Krys [53:08 - 53:14]: Which is when everybody's like. And I remember, like, I went on a date on Valentine's Day. 

Erin [53:14 - 53:14]: You did. 

Krys [53:14 - 53:18]: I did. And it was. Was just so awkward. 

Erin [53:19 - 53:19]: Wow. 

Krys [53:19 - 53:22]: Yeah. This was two years in a row I did well. 

Erin [53:22 - 53:27]: I did bikini boot camp the first time. You did love tone, so I was not. I was not following along on that journey. 

Krys [53:28 - 53:39]: Yeah. So, yeah. Super awkward. But, you know, you do it anyway. But also, like, it's like, you don't have to. But, like, if someone asks you, okay, like, that's so awkward. But, like, you know, we're gonna do it. 

Erin [53:39 - 53:42]: Did he show up with, like, flowers and chocolates and everything? 

Krys [53:42 - 53:45]: Was it a flowers and. No, a card. 

Erin [53:45 - 53:46]: Oh, okay. 

Krys [53:46 - 53:46]: Sweet. 

Erin [53:46 - 53:46]: Yeah. 

Krys [53:46 - 53:49]: Yeah. It wasn't overdone. It was, like, fine. 

Erin [53:49 - 53:53]: It would have been really cute if it was like one of those, like, kindergarten Valentine's that, like. 

Krys [53:53 - 54:50]: And see, that's what you could do. Yeah, right. Like, as the. And that's also something I would think of, like, what I wanted someone to do. And then I started doing that and you could kind of create that own energy in your life and in your partner. So we're going to start start Monday, February 3rd. So it is coming very soon. So if you want to be a part of that. This is a behind the scenes for members only, by the way. You can't just follow along with this on Instagram. So not only is Love Toned for your own personal wellness and fitness, this is a 14 day actually. It's going to be more. I don't know any information about my own challenge. It's going to be a couple weeks and you're gonna have a checklist to help you feel like your best self. You're gonna have a set of workouts to get love toned. And we're also gonna have Love Toned behind the scenes featuring Erin. And also you're gonna be joined by Brittany. 

Erin [54:50 - 54:50]: Yes. 

Krys [54:50 - 55:00]: So you guys are. I cannot wait. I'm so excited. You don't even understand. And I know a lot of people out there are so excited too. You guys are gonna have fan clubs. 

Erin [55:00 - 55:01]: We're gonna have T shirts. 

Krys [55:01 - 55:06]: We're gonna have gang. Gang. We're gonna. If you weren't there. 

Erin [55:07 - 55:09]: Oh, I should have worn my. I'm a monster. 

Krys [55:09 - 55:16]: Oh, my God. Oh, the memories are just. And I cannot wait to make so many more new ones. 

Erin [55:16 - 55:17]: Love toned is forever. 

Krys [55:17 - 55:22]: Love toned is forever. Thank you so much for coming all the way here. 

Erin [55:22 - 55:23]: Thank you for having me talk about. 

Krys [55:23 - 55:33]: Your dating life and rehash and opening up a new chapter in 2025 with FLK method. Thank you for sharing it with us and volunteering. 

Erin [55:33 - 55:35]: Well, we'll see how it goes. 

Krys [55:35 - 55:36]: I love you. 

Erin [55:36 - 55:36]: I love you. 

Krys [55:36 - 55:41]: Thank you. All right, guys, thanks for watching, listening, and we'll see you next time.