The Aging Mask- A Lifestyle Medicine Podcast

Eyes: Someone's Reading Yours Right Now

Joanne Demers Episode 66

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When you meet someone for the first time, it is always the eyes you notice first?

I love eyes. I have always been intrigued by them, and  I love the saying” I could see it in your eyes” & I could see it in THEIR eyes.

You can tell a lot about someone by looking into their eyes. Some people have very bright lively eyes, some have tired eyes, and sometimes you see someone whose eyes look really sad even if they are smiling.

Your eyes reveal so much; they  reveal how you are doing mentally and physically. Your beautiful, unique, one of a kind eyes aren’t just there to help you see the world, but so the world can see you. 

Your eyes are the most honest part of our body - they reveal things you might not want to say out loud.

Very early in our development, while we were still forming in the womb, our eyes actually form on the side of our head (like a horse), before slowly moving towards the center of our face, and when they finally move forward, we become one of the few species with forward facing eyes. This placement gives us depth perception, the ability to judge distance, track movement, and the ability to read eyes. 

Your eyes are incredibly  unique & no two people have the exact same pattern in their iris (the colored part of the eye) The texture, the rings, and the markings are so distinctive that they are sometimes used in high security identification systems- just like fingers prints-your eyes help identify who you are. They are your biological signature that belongs only to you.

Your eyes play a huge role in “first impressions, they are  not the only thing people notice, but your eyes are one of the most powerful signals people read when meeting you.

When you met someone face to face your brain naturally scans the eye area first, we do this automatically because eyes tell us important things very quickly:

*is this person friendly

* are they paying attention to me

* are they trustworthy

* are they confident or nervous

The eyes help the brain make rapid social judgements within seconds.

Your brains scan the eyes for micro expressions and emotional signals- genuine smiles even show up in the eyes first- which is why a fake smile can look convincing  at the mouth- but the eyes will give it away.

Your eyes help the world recognize who you are- and they also reveal HOW you have Lived.

The skin around your eyes is the thinnest skin on the body- this is why it’s usually the first place we see aging.

Those little lines at the corners of the eyes, what you know as crow’s feet, are really  just evidence of expression .

Years of smiling

Years of squinting in the sun

And years of laughter.

The eyes record our life in small ways which is interesting because while our eyes reveal so much about us, we also spend a lot  of time trying to hide them.

We humans have a built in way to hide our eyes; 

Our eye lids.

Closing our eyes is one of the most natural protective behaviors we have.

We close them when we:

Feel overwhelmed

Cry

Or when we experience a deep emotion we close them-

And unlike the movies most people close their eyes during intimacy.

Your eyes are more than just organs for seeing, they are:

Emotional signals

Social connectors

Identifiers

Protectors

And emotional release valves

Your Eyes really are the window to your soul so try not to cover them up so much, be vulnerable, and  allow yourself to be seen.


Enjoy!

Joanne 

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