Let's Talk About........With Nicky Perfect
For over a decade, Nicky Perfect BEM served as a Hostage and Crisis Negotiator, working with people and families in moments of extreme crisis. She went on to become Course Director for the UK’s National Negotiation Course and has trained negotiators and leaders across the world.
Alongside her operational career, Nicky has studied psychology, relationships, human behaviour, personal development, and coaching. In this podcast, she brings those experiences together to show how the principles of hostage and crisis negotiation can transform everyday communication.
Because communication is at the heart of everything we do — in families, at work, in leadership, and in the toughest conversations we face. When relationships break down, it’s usually because communication has broken down first.
Each episode offers real stories, practical strategies, and powerful insights to help you:
- 🎧 Listen in a way that makes people feel heard
- 💬 Navigate conflict with calm and confidence
- 🌱 Build stronger, healthier relationships at home and at work
Learn the skills that save lives — and discover how they can change yours.
Let's Talk About........With Nicky Perfect
Latest Episodes
What If The Hard Part Of Step Parenting Is You
Step parenting can feel like walking into a story halfway through and being expected to know your lines. I talk candidly about what surprised me most when I became a step parent in my 40s, why good intentions are not enough, and how quickly eve...
A Single Conversation Sparked A Trip That Changed How I Communicate
A 14-hour bus ride, four hours along some very challenging roads and a village welcome filled with singing and dancing.It sounds like a travel story, but my trip to Tanzania became something much more.I came home thinking about co...
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Why Conflict Happens And How To Talk Through It
One small moment can light a fuse: a late sleep-in, a sharp comment, a meeting that goes sideways, a family gathering where you brace for tension. I’ve just come back from a life-shifting trip that left me feeling deeply grateful, and it also g...
Transparent Communication Builds Credibility Before You Need It
Trust is harder than ever to win, and easier than ever to lose. We sit down with Bradley Harris, a boutique strategic advisor with years in boardrooms and high-stakes environments, to break down what trust actually looks like in real communicat...
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You Cannot Control Others But You Can Control Your Response
The news can make your chest feel heavy in seconds. One brutal headline, one angry debate, one more “nothing I do will matter” thought and suddenly you’re stuck in helplessness. We wanted to sit with that feeling and ask a simple, uncomfortable...
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