Wrapped up in the "should" of it

During the check-in this week, Shadoe is at a 4/10 since she still has a lingering cold. But, her Cause For Applause is that she is getting better! 

Victoria is in much better spirits and her Cause For Applause is Ben and James from Tori's Bakeshop. One day, Shadoe and Victoria will visit this cafe together and both drink Heavenly Cream tea. 

To skip the check-in, please jump to 9:46

Shadoe continues her 3-part series of releasing regrets asking for help on the things she should know how to do.  Last week it was her job title, this week it is keeping her house tidy. 

Victoria then gives great feedback and asks important, challenging questions. Shadoe does not have all the answers but is ready to re-evaluate why the judgement of others is more important to her than her own judgment. 

From there, Victoria shares that she can feel "the wall" coming back in her interactions with other people. This leads to a conversation about wiggling in hugs being a sign to check-in with yourself! This part of the episode also explains the difference between BIG T Trauma and little t trauma. 

As always, the episode ends with 3 breaths of letting go.