Middle Fingers Up
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Middle Fingers Up
EP.147 - Grief Coach Shri-"Getting Support Isn't a Weakness, It's Wisdom"
Before we get into this episode, I want to name something real: there’s a moment in life when grief meets growth. Our guest Shri lived that moment. And today, she’s helping us understand it.
Grief has a way of interrupting your life—
but life never stops interrupting your grief.
My guest today, Shri, knows this intimately.
Within 18 months, she lost her father and sister… all while she was pregnant with her daughter.
Imagine grief and life entering the room at the same time. That collision changed her. It made her choose something most of us avoid:
To stop functioning.
And start truly living.
Before you listen, I want to ask you one thing:
“When was the last time you told yourself the truth about how much you’ve been carrying?”
Sit with that. Because this episode is going to meet you right there.
We talk about the things people don’t say out loud:
*Is it okay that I’m still crying?
* Why do I feel guilty for slowing down?
*Why does grief feel like I’m failing at life? * How do I grieve when I’m a mother, a partner, a daughter — all at once?
Shri and I unpack the myths we inherited — “be strong,” “move on,” “don’t feel too much” — and how they keep us stuck and disconnected from ourselves.
We dive into South Asian conditioning, the guilt that comes with choice and privilege, and the embodied ways grief stays alive in us long after the world thinks we’re “fine.”
Some of Shri’s words you’ll hear:
“Grief is a life force.”
“You already have everything it takes to heal.”
“There is no timeline to grief.”
This episode is your reminder that you’re allowed to be human.
You’re allowed to feel.
You’re allowed to slow down.
And you’re allowed to heal without performing strength for anyone.
If you’ve been running from your grief… let this conversation be the moment you turn toward it — gently, honestly, and maybe for the first time, supported.
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