Compounding Daily
Do you feel stuck? Uninspired? Stagnant? The Compounding Daily podcast hosted by Miguel Sanchez, aims to spark curiosity and drive. Each episode gives you deep insights on how to cultivate healthy habits, practice discipline, change your perspective of life, and restructure your mindset in a way that promotes small changes in your daily life that will compound to help you earn that 1% needed everyday to reach your goals, whether they be physical, mental, or both.
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EP94- Moving Past Excuses: Unlock Your Full Potential W/ Giuliana.
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Excuses—are they holding you back? We often justify our lack of progress with excuses, just like a single excuse can halt our advancement, as Jim Rohn wisely points out. In this episode of "Compounding Daily," I, Miguel Sanchez, along with my fiancé, unravel the power excuses have in life, from work to well-being. We reflect on how recognizing and overcoming these excuses can redefine our reality and propel us toward personal growth.
Instead of comparing ourselves to others or societal standards, why not find happiness in acceptance? By sharing personal anecdotes, my fiancé and I highlight the peace that comes from embracing life as it is, supported by friends who cheer us on without judgment. We talk about the courage it takes to start, whether setting fitness goals or making lifestyle changes, emphasizing that perfect conditions are a myth. Discover the transformative power of perspective and self-awareness in fostering a more fulfilling life journey.
Honesty plays a crucial role in personal growth, and with it comes the responsibility to replace excuses with action. I share my own experiences, from leaving a dissatisfying job to flourishing in real estate, showcasing the power of perseverance. Our discussion touches on the impact of daily choices and how they shape not only our lives but those of future generations. By showing up consistently and embracing the freedom of choice, we can create positive momentum and inspire change. Join us as we challenge you to move past excuses and unlock your full potential for personal development.
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Hello, hello and welcome back everybody to Compounding Daily. I'm your host, miguel Sanchez, and welcome back to another episode, episode 94. If you've been listening lately, then you know what I'm about to say. Thank you, thank you for being here, thank you for listening, thank you for sharing the show, thank you for giving me feedback, thank you for being a part of this community. I believe that I am working on a movement that isn't necessarily emphasizing on a massive movement that requires all of us to come together, but a movement that allows us to, as individuals, reflect upon who we're becoming, what we're doing and the impact that we're having across the people that come across our path in this gift called life. And you being here, listening to this, being here with me, is something that I express gratitude for, especially a lot lately, now that the realization of episode 100 is becoming real. I just always find myself in a place of gratitude and, with that being said, today is not a solo episode. I'm accompanied here once again, by my lovely fiance, welcome.
Speaker 2:Thank you. Thank you for having me again. It's always a pleasure. I'm glad I've been invited back.
Speaker 1:Yeah it's a reoccurring thing. I enjoy our conversations. I feel like with you it's always interesting because you know me better than literally anybody Right you.
Speaker 1:It's always interesting because you know me better than literally anybody you know, so you could, you, you you see me past what most people see on social media and things like that, and I always talk to you about the ideas that I'm running through and um to seek your feedback and all of that. So I always look forward to the episode of the unit because I already know I might hear something I don't want to hear or a perspective that I maybe didn't entertain before.
Speaker 1:So likewise um thank you for being here. This is going to be a short episode. We got, we got, uh, some time time managing things that we got to work on after this and, uh, with that being said, I'm I'll tell you what has been on my mind lately, um, lately, as the new year is becoming a real thing. It's there, it's right around the corner.
Speaker 1:Now, um, I don't know how, but I've been finding myself in the center of conversations that are stemming around a lot of justification as to why this year wasn't a good one. You know, I'm being surrounded by people who are constantly entertaining the conversations of if only this didn't happen, maybe this year I could have been better. And now that this year is coming over, maybe next year will be better for me. And I'm kind of over it if I'm being honest. And I realized that this show is based off my experience and the things that I'm going through, and I always seek to give value based off the real conversations and the things that I'm going through. And I always seek to give value based off the real conversations and the things that I'm going through. And lately, the theme of the week and a half or two weeks, I would say, is the theme of excuses, the theme of of of. Here's my reasons as to why I didn't even bother, and I know that's not how most people perceive excuses. But, with that being said, I know there's not much to go off on that, because I didn't give bother and I know that's not how most people perceive excuses but with that being said, I know there's not much to go off on
Speaker 2:that because I didn't give you a subject, but it's almost like yeah, I know I'm not doing what I should be doing to reach the goals that I told everyone I want to reach, but here's why. This is why. And then it just goes into a conversation of justifying it. It could be anything. It could be why you're not progressing at work, why you're not progressing in your physical health, your mental health. It could be anything.
Speaker 1:And that's what I want to emphasize on right. So this is going to be a short episode, so we'll get right to the nitty gritty, as I've heard before, right. And what I mean by that is like I always say it as a joke and I kind of regret turning it into a joke because now every time I say it it's perceived as a joke. But whenever I tell my close friends, you only need one and I'm mimicking my favorite mentor, jim Rohn, and what he is referring to is one excuse. You only need one reason why things won't work out for you and you won't do what you said you were going to do. You need one reason why to justify your lack of effort and that becomes your excuse. And all you need is one to fully stop the train. And it baffles me that week after week, I'm hearing the same things over and over. You know I'm trying everything. I don't have time. Oh, I tried that. Oh, if only this didn't happen. And I'm just like Jesus, like you only need one and you have an encyclopedia of excuses.
Speaker 2:Encyclopedia. Yeah, oh, you know what I mean. Like a ton of them, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:Like just too, many of them and it's hindering. And since the point of this show is to provide value, understand that there is value in not getting rid of excuses right, Because we all have them, Even I have excuses right but understanding that what you believe to be true for yourself is essentially what your reality becomes. And if you tell yourself that that and you may not see it as an excuse, but if you tell yourself that because of certain event, because of certain environment, because of certain circumstances, now you can't be a better you, then that is an excuse.
Speaker 2:And yeah, it goes. I've listened to the Jim Rohn speeches that you listen to and whatnot, and I think the one that stuck out to me the most was when he mentions oh, you know I, well, that is out of your control, that's not your fault. But then when you really think about it and you hear it enough and you think about it enough, you're like, well, I guess I could get a job that pays me better, or I guess I could put more effort into my job and get a raise. You know I, you realize that it is an excuse.
Speaker 2:The woe is me victim mentality.
Speaker 1:There's just so many scenarios where like and maybe it's just because training has been a little bit more extreme lately, but my patience for just such conversations is just running low, right, and I may be coming off asshole-ish, right In this sense, but it's just like. Do you not hear yourself? Like, yeah, you know, because I'm a very logical person, like, I'm a logical, logically thinking person, right, so I I try my utmost best and I do I want to say a five percent most of the time good with being aware of my emotions, right, so I don't allow my emotions to dictate the words that are going to come out of my mouth.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:For the most part, you know, I think before I speak.
Speaker 2:When you're human. Sometimes that's going to happen Exactly.
Speaker 1:But imagine, a majority of the time the conversation is you as an individual, justifying why you're not moving forward in life, right, and then when you come across a person like me, I'm going to ask you, like, what did you do about it? You know, and the answer that I get well, you know, I'm just going to let it be, because why bother, why would I even try? And I'm just like, well, then, don't complain about it, but that's the thing so it's like so why are you bringing it up to me? Right?
Speaker 2:and it's like when you give them a game plan. Like when you give that person a game plan, like clearly they're coming to you for advice, right, or maybe they're not.
Speaker 2:Maybe they're just coming to you to hear themselves talk to vent yeah and I'm not just or to justify themselves, right, and I'm not just saying you, I'm saying anyone, right? Yeah, um, I think it becomes a little more frustrating when they come to you again with the same situation and you've given them like kind of a game plan or you've shared your experience and what you've done to overcome that specific thing that they're talking about. And then they come to you two weeks later, three weeks later, a month later, oh yeah, I'm still like how are you? How's it going? Oh yeah, you know, I'm still like struggling with this and you know, nothing's working for me and it's like, oh well, did you do what we had talked about, like what I advised you? Did you end up, you know, watching that video? Did you end up taking that class, etc. Well, no, you know, no, I, I haven't, but you know I just haven't had time.
Speaker 2:Or oh, this has been going on. It's like, okay, so clearly you don't want change it. You're accepting it, yet you're still complaining about it. If that's what you've accepted, then accept it and move on. Stop complaining about it. Stop doing the woe is me card. Nobody wants to hear you justifying it anymore. It is what it is. You've accepted it.
Speaker 1:Well, if you surround yourself by people that are okay Because I used to be surrounded by people like that I'd complain about my life, they'd complain about theirs. Now we're complaining together, but that has to get boring after a while, man. And if there's something that I pride myself in in this show is that I'm never telling you to do anything like me or like Juliana here. I'm never telling you to to buy the book. Here's step one, here's step two.
Speaker 1:Like, the beauty of life is that you are a unique individual and you get to experience things through your own lenses. And and what I seek to achieve here is just to allow you to maybe entertain a different idea. Like, when I tell you to go read a book, I don't mean go read a book, close it and go become Miguel. Like, read the same book and maybe in reading the same book, you're going to see value that I didn't see before, you know. And then you implement it and then you grow from it. Right, but too many times I catch myself, uh, in the middle of a conversation, and the conversation is just about how life isn't going well, how and listen, we're human, right we're gonna have those moments.
Speaker 1:We always have those moments and nothing is perfect. But time and time again, when I hear the same problem occurring, when there's the same problem occurring, when there's the same problem happening over and over again, With the same person.
Speaker 1:Yeah, over time, it's no longer life happening. It's individual responsibility that is being left to hope and chance instead of putting into a place of responsibility and accountability. Yeah, and that's what I wanted. That's what's been on my mind lately, because because lately even I've been wanting to find an excuse. You know, now that I'm getting ready for the bodybuilding show and episode 100 is coming and I know next year, uh, is the year of expansion for me. So I, I, I have so many things running through my mind where I'm just like, oh, but it's gonna. You know, I got the wedding to plan and, oh, you know, we don't know if the next job site where is it gonna be? And that's gonna change my. You know, my mind's already making excuses for me. I'm not even trying and my mind's like, oh, look, just in case you need to use this. You know, and it's human nature, man, of course.
Speaker 1:But, I get to choose if I'm going to use it when the time for action comes, right, you know, and we get to decide how we're going to show up. And if the constant version of ourselves that show up is the version that's always looking for justification as to why they're not doing well in life, then eventually you're going to attract the people that are going to agree with you. And now you can just sit in a circle of losers, right, because that's what it is a circle of losers who aren't progressing in life, who aren't growing from life, who are, you know, these are the kind of people that justify their lack of initiative on their children and they'll say something like, oh, because everything was going great, but then I had my child and I'm like, okay, well, that sounds nice, until you think of the fact that you're blaming somebody who didn't even have asked to be here on your lack of success well, okay, let me, let me just pause you for a second.
Speaker 2:Okay, I can, I agree, I know, I agree with you, but at the same time, it's like there are some people who yes, aren't progressing. They're not moving forward with X, Y and Z. Fine, but they've accepted it and that's okay with them.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Those people. I have no issue with that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but what's the difference?
Speaker 2:They're not complaining Right the minute when they hold on a second, hold on a second.
Speaker 2:when the minute they start complaining and saying, oh, you know like, oh, I know I, I've gained weight and I need to lose weight, but you know, I just have so much going on, I can't do it yeah like you know, and then they start making excuses and the next time you see them it's the same thing and it's like listen, you don't need to explain yourself to me, you don't need to justify yourself to me, you don't need to complain to me. If that's who you are, that's what you're okay with in your life, then that's who you are, that's what you're okay with in your life, then that's fine, just accept it.
Speaker 1:I don't understand why that always has to be the cross to bear. I've rarely found an individual that takes accountability like that Right.
Speaker 2:It is rare to come by.
Speaker 1:I've never found a person who says I'm not happy with this, but I accepted it, so I find happiness in that acceptance yeah, but not many people think that way, not many people.
Speaker 2:Well then, maybe they wouldn't like that. You know what I?
Speaker 1:mean, but I, I've, I've met people right. Um, I, one of my best friends, who I refuse to name because I don't know if you'll find offense to that, but one of my best friends, whom I love talking to I talk to him literally every single day Sends me memes every day, has a wife, has his daughters, has a good career, and the dude doesn't go on walks, the dude isn't reading books, the dude isn't seeking entrepreneurship, the dude isn't trying to get generational wealth. He's literally just a good human being. The dude wakes up, he feeds his family, right, and I know he's a great dude because I can't even tell you and I promise you, it's been years since we've talked and the conversation has been about why he's unhappy, why things aren't working out. What he wishes was different.
Speaker 2:He never says anything like that, Never dude.
Speaker 1:And whenever I tell him about my big dreams and I'm like yeah, man, I'm still aiming for the Lamborghini, and not once does he tell me come on, man, be realistic, we're almost 40 now. None of that. He's like hey, dude man, I know you're doing your podcasting, I know that's good. I wish you the best. He's like you know, my daughter's now in third grade. You know like our priorities are completely different. And that's okay and I love being around him.
Speaker 2:Exactly, but guess what?
Speaker 1:He's not comparing his life to mine. He's not justifying his lack. Of you know he doesn't see me.
Speaker 2:He doesn't even work out.
Speaker 1:He doesn't know shit about tracking macros or anything, but he's not complaining, and not once has he looked at my body and said damn bro, I really need to get in shape, right.
Speaker 2:But he's not complaining to you either about how, oh man, I wish I had bigger muscles or, oh man, I wish I could lose this body fat. He's just accepting and happy of what he has Exactly, and he's okay with it. So someone like that.
Speaker 1:Where is that individual Exactly? But here's the thing I love you, bro. You'll hear this one day.
Speaker 2:But here's the thing that's so rare to come by, whereas if more people just accepted that they are the way they are, they are who they are, and didn't try to complain and justify it to people, it's your life. If that's what you want it to be, you don't need to justify it. Yes, that's it. Unless you're going to be around me long enough, all right. They could just tell you to kick rocks too, and I'll and I'll gladly take it.
Speaker 1:Okay, you know, and I've, and I've received that before. You know what I mean. Like I feel, like I've been, I've placed myself in a position where, if you know me long enough, you know that the words coming out of my mouth are not judgmental or or in a negative criticism way. I just seek to help you see your own problems right. So like and if you're listening to this and you're a close friend of mine, then you've probably heard me tell you something along the lines of like, did you hear what just came out of your mouth? You know what I mean. Or I might ask you something like well, don't you think that after a few months of failing at that, you might want to change something? And then what I seek from that isn't for an excuse, justification, it's just for you to walk away from me and with a different perspective of now you can go execute. Now you can go and be better.
Speaker 2:And now there's like a thought of difference.
Speaker 1:I just had a guy come up to me at work and he's like hey, man, to grow my legs, how many times a week do? I got to hit legs and this is a guy that a few weeks told me that he hasn't hit legs in years. You know what I mean. He doesn't like doing legs right.
Speaker 1:So I told him I'm like, well, based off the conversation we had, I can't answer your question to how many times a week you should hit legs to make them grow, but I'll tell you the minimum amount of times you should hit legs a week and that's once, just start. And he looked at me and he literally was like you're a motherfucker, you know that. So, before I lose this thought, okay that's like.
Speaker 2:so you know his response like you're a motherfucker?
Speaker 1:No, no, but it was in a good way, not a negative way.
Speaker 2:Let me finish. Okay, don't be rude, I'm not See. This is why I love her here.
Speaker 1:This is the kind of energy that's in the room now.
Speaker 2:So, with that being said, it's the people who come to you and be like how do I stay motivated? How do I get motivated? What should I motivated? How do I get motivated? What should I start eating? I need a plan.
Speaker 1:The reason I haven't started is I need a plan, but I know I need to start and it's like so just start.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I know, but no, you're looking for some kind of excuse. It's a validation, exactly, and it's like no, like someone very close to me you know will be like oh well, how am I supposed to like lose weight if you guys won't help me write a diet plan? And it's like bro, bro, you don't need to, you don't need a diet plan. Eat whole foods, stop eating junk, drink more water and walk. Like start there. You know what you need to do, so just start. Stop coming to me and saying, oh, but I can't, because I don't have X, y and Z plan.
Speaker 1:I don't have this blueprint. Anything to justify a lack of initiative and it's like you know what.
Speaker 2:Honestly, if you want to be overweight, that's fine. Nobody cares, yeah, Except for you. Clearly, because you keep coming around and talking about it.
Speaker 1:Well, it's like you care, but you don't care enough to do something about it. Exactly, and to me that's one of the most annoying kind of people I could be around right. And why? Because I was that person. I literally was the dude who would always complain about being broke, being overweight, you know you and me both.
Speaker 1:And maybe I wasn't always talking about it verbally out loud, but I knew that I was sick of it, you know, and again, like, the best thing I did was hire a 24-7 coach who slept in the same bed with me and woke me up at 4 in the morning and made my meals for me and made plans for me and drove me to the gym after work. And you know he did all that Yourself. Huh, sarcasm.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:Right, because no such thing exists. Nobody can do it for you I just had to put myself in a position where I was like dude. Either you want it or you don't.
Speaker 2:It's that simple and the minute.
Speaker 1:Just pick one right, just one little one, one little one as in like, I'll give you the dumbest one. That I've experienced too many times and I'm grateful that I've overcame it now. But when you tell yourself, starting monday, I'm gonna go on a walk before work, this really happened to me too many times. And guess what happened? Monday fucking morning tomorrow it was raining really hard and now all of a sudden I'm like tuesday morning yeah you get what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:The the mother nature provided an excuse for me, right? And if you believe in, in, in a, in a being of self-development, then that being gave me a test to see how bad I really wanted to do what I said I was going to do that.
Speaker 2:That's why I like the Live Hard and 75 Hard program too, not to make this about that. But it's like that is like no excuses, rain or shine, and if you mess it up you start back at day one. So it's like it forces you to face that inner demon, or whatever you want to call it.
Speaker 1:What I was emphasizing on with that is how stupid is that, how little is that?
Speaker 2:It's so small, you're right.
Speaker 1:It's like, oh, I was going to do it but now it's raining, and then it's just like okay.
Speaker 1:So if such a little stupid, if something as simple as rain, right, if we lived in a world without umbrellas and maybe the rain was melting your skin, I don't understand, right, but it's just water and you could go out in the rain, right? And? And something so simple just stopped you from making a decision. I was going to make you better, right, you know? And and I use such a simple one because imagine the bigger excuses right, because, uh, if we go back to last week's episode about the past, then you know the excuse of like well, what happened to me 10 years ago still haunts me. And it's just like listen, I hate to be the guy to tell you, get the fuck over it yeah, no, I like we've been through it, we've all suffered.
Speaker 1:Am I comparing my suffering to yours? No, is yours worse than mine? Maybe do I care. No, do you care? I hope not.
Speaker 2:Let's just use our stories, our journeys, and just keep moving forward why don't we use our journey and our stories as fuel to keep moving forward and to say I overcame this.
Speaker 1:Perspective is absolutely everything.
Speaker 2:I just, I think there's so many people who you know will use any excuse my genetics, so my job, this, that the other thing, you know the state I live in, whatever it is, as to why they can't thrive, and it's like, how about you? Yeah, okay, if you really believe in that, believe in that, but then overcome it and then look at the story you have to tell. Isn't that something to be excited towards? I don't know, I think it is.
Speaker 1:Well, it's a perspective we've chosen to entertain right. The world is forming and it is my playground that I get to step out into every single day and make things happen because of my presence and decisions. That's a perspective I choose to entertain right. I could easily wake up and say the world is against me and anytime I go out there, a challenge is put before me to hinder my progress. It's the same world. I'm the same person. It's a choice to proceed to see which way you know what I mean.
Speaker 1:And listen, man, when I tell you everything I speak about here. I've been right. I've been the overweight, I've been the excuse maker, I've been the complainer, I've been the angry guy, I've been the delusional one hoping things get better. I've been all of those things. And do I want people to be like me? No, but based off my actual experience, the things that I'm working on now have made me the happiest I've ever been, financially the most successful I've ever been, socially the most successful. I've ever been right, and things are only getting better from here Now. If you look at the years, then you'll see oh, you know, I lost my cat, my first son.
Speaker 1:And then and then my appendix went and I had to get emergency surgery. And then I went from you know, working at a raid job to the raid job ending and me getting kicked out of that job early, and then I was out of work for a little. You know what I'm saying, so I could easily look at that and say what a year man. I lost an appendix, my cat died. This is the worst year of my life.
Speaker 1:Spiraling out of control and no, all of those things happened while I was still doing the things that I know I was supposed to be doing to create the image that I know is going to be beneficial to me and the people in my life and the people who I'm gonna leave the impact for.
Speaker 2:And then it is what it is. You just move on. You move on. You use it as an experience, as a learning lesson, as the next step in your story to tell. I do understand why people get hung up and lose motivation and whatnot.
Speaker 1:Listen, an excuse is always good temporary. It always sounds good temporarily, right, but an excuse is usually a tied to. An excuse is usually attached to a lie that you're telling yourself, right?
Speaker 2:And the lie is what got you in that mess in the first place?
Speaker 1:And you know the saying like you can lie to others, but you can't lie to yourself.
Speaker 1:So when you're telling yourself something as stupid as this, right, something so stupid as this. Like you know, as you're staring at Miguel in the face and you're like, yeah, I'm doing well, I'm trying everything. In your head, you're seeing images of you sitting in front of the TV eating food that you're not supposed to be eating. As you're telling me to my face oh, I really am trying to lose weight, but I haven't had the time. In your head, you see that last weekend, you went out to another state with your friends to party. That is an example. No, yeah, I know, but you get what I'm saying. So, yeah, you can lie to me all that you want, because the second you tell yourself I'm full of shit and I mean that, right, because that's what I had to tell myself. You're so full of shit, miguel. Oh, starting this year, I'm going to lose weight. Miguel, shut up.
Speaker 1:You said that last year, dude, and you're fatter than you were last year. What are you talking about? Oh, I'm sick of this. I'm going to make a change, miguel. You said that so many times. Eventually, the conversation needs to start with instead, of, things need to change to. I suck and I need to change, and I'll start with that. You are full of shit, miguel. And the second you approve that statement to be true, that everything that you believe in is not serving you, and you just admit that you are full of shit and excuses. Then you start getting rid of them, right? You take some digestive pill and start pooping them out. All your excuses, get rid of them, you're sick.
Speaker 1:The acknowledging yeah, you know, and over time those excuses start being replaced with action and before you know it you get to a point where you're like damn, I was full.
Speaker 2:Well, when you continue with the excuses over and over again, you keep telling the same people the same excuses over and over again. Quite frankly, people are just going to get sick of it and stop wanting to hear it. They're going to be like okay, whatever.
Speaker 2:Well, if it's people that are not staying in their own lane, but if it's somebody that's like in your life and you care about them and you just keep like rattling off your excuses to them and like seeking more validation. It's just like at one point they're just going to be like if they're, if they're the right person, they're just gonna be like listen, save it and accept it.
Speaker 1:Here's the thing with me, right, and this is an advisory to everybody listening, if you are in my life, if you come to me for advice, then you are coming to me for the truth, right, the truth based off my opinion which could be wrong, right, but you came to me for a reason.
Speaker 1:Or if you're a part of my life, then you are part of my life for a reason, and I'll be damned if you expect me to be the pat in the back. Everything's going to be okay, nothing's your fault, kind of guy, because I'm not Like I'm going to ask for the facts, like I'm gonna be like well, how did you get there? Oh, you see that. So this is your fault.
Speaker 2:I don't know why you're upset about you know, like I want I I I'd rather be hated for telling the truth than loved for lying to people's faces all the time you know something, that, something that, um, I've heard I don't remember where I've heard it, to be honest but is everybody thinks they're a good friend or a good family member when they're lying to someone and saying, oh no, you're fine. Oh no, you know, you're fine with your job, you make enough money? Or oh, you know, you don't have to get that extra degree? Or, oh, you know, you don't have to try harder, you don't have to lose weight, you're fine the way you are. You're not nice, you're not a good friend or good family member or a good loved one.
Speaker 2:Honesty, obviously, saying it in a proper way, right, don't come off as a jerk but honesty is the true show of care, because you want what's best for somebody and you're telling them hey, listen, I care about you. I've heard you talk about this a million times. Maybe it's time to stop talking about it and making excuses about it and start taking steps towards correcting it, moving in a different direction, because I care about you and I want to see you happier and not upset about this anymore.
Speaker 2:And if they take that the wrong way, yeah then that's on them. Exactly.
Speaker 1:That's not my problem, you know, and. But the thing is like you got to be able and you know me and you are like this and I pride myself in this. I am like that because I want that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, of course that in return.
Speaker 1:My journey started by a woman whom I considered a stranger. Look at me in the face and telling you straight up like you're overweight, you're pre-diabetic, you are not doing well, dude, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2:And.
Speaker 1:I was just like damn fucking, tell me something nice first. You know what I mean.
Speaker 2:But at the end of the day, because that's what you've been used to, though.
Speaker 1:She's one of those few people who told me straight up, like dude, you're going to be diabetic next year. I'm giving you insulin.
Speaker 2:And I'm like damn, I know, I've gained some weight this year. And my mom, my sister's like no, I don't see it, oh my God, no, you're fine, you look great Really. And my dad's like no, I did notice you've gained some weight, like I did notice that you've kind of you comfortable with it he's like I'm not gonna say it to you out of being mean or being rude, but you know he says it out of care because he knows that's on the scale.
Speaker 2:So even you know that you've gained, but that's, that's what I'm saying I've said it out loud, like at a family gathering, and said yeah oh no, I'm not gonna have this dessert yeah, because you know I've packed on the pounds and I really am trying to get my weight back in check. And you know, back in check because I don't want to move further in that direction. And everybody's like, oh really, no, julie, you're fine. And my dad's like, no, you're right, and I've noticed it. But I don't want to come off as mean.
Speaker 1:Well, you know the most important thing with people in your life is. I want people to be honest with me, man. I don't want people to lie to me, but that's also based off what I consider to be great, right. So like, if my definition of great is exert all of your dreams until you have no more dreams left, which means, in reality, you're just gonna die still trying to achieve your dreams, because that's an endless list right?
Speaker 2:Yeah, of course it should be, anyway, I don't wanna be around anybody whom I'm.
Speaker 1:I'm like, hey, this is what I'm working on. And they're like, yeah, that's not gonna work yeah and it's just like okay, no, I want that, why not? Though?
Speaker 1:you get what I mean, because there's a difference between the opinions of others and constructive criticism of course you know, and, uh, it's just that that's what I want around me and that's what you're going to get. If you're around me, like, I'm going to tell you like, oh, that doesn't make sense to me, right, unless I don't know you well enough. If I don't know you well enough, then I know you'll take my opinion, throw it outside and it doesn't matter. But this episode was essentially created by the idea of like lately I've been finding myself and not just with friends, with strangers, right, and it's not excuses, but it's just been conversations as to this is where I would be if this didn't happen and if only things were better. And I'm just like get over it, man.
Speaker 2:Get rid of the excuses. You know, Get the violin.
Speaker 1:And it's rough, it's rough, it's rough to hear. I wish that I could tell like people like this, you know, that's why I don't understand this, these motivational speakers selling e-books now of like, oh, two years, three steps on how to get a better life.
Speaker 2:And it's just like.
Speaker 1:I'm like that is so subjective, like my better life is completely different from your better life, right? So, like, believe me, like, imagine if, if, if everybody was to be like me, then you're getting up at four in the morning, you're going on a walk, you're working construction, that you know what I mean.
Speaker 1:you don't gotta do those things, man yeah, no, everybody's path is different for a reason we're all individuals, like you said before, so and you can move your way towards your goals and your ambitions, or you can make an excuse as to why you're never going to get there and then you can just complain about it for the rest of your life yeah, but then, but not around us and then when it's too late and you know you're elderly and you're looking back, you're like damn, I wish I really pursued x, y and z yeah because it just gets so deep.
Speaker 1:I just don't understand how people don't get bothered by it, and maybe this is something that's been working against me, uh, personally, but I'm just so hard on myself where I, where like, I see myself becoming. Uh, what's the like? I even, I just imagine living a sedimentary lifestyle, right, like coming home sitting down and then. And then I go a little bit more in depth and I'm like okay, so am I going to be a father one day? Most likely, right? What do I want my child to see? And then it's like, oh, a fat slob sitting there ordering food all the time. That could barely run, or do I want-.
Speaker 2:And then they turn into that.
Speaker 1:That's what I'm saying, and then, and then.
Speaker 2:I I'll be damned.
Speaker 1:And then I widen the specs of the field that I'm looking at and then I see my friends and my family and it's like all right, how am I influencing them? As I'm getting older, am I becoming?
Speaker 1:a hindrance to them or am I becoming a pillar of support for them, because my decisions are either going to put me in a position of being able to help others or in a position where I'm going to need help from others at all times because I lacked an effort into creating a good individual life.
Speaker 1:And as I think of these things, I see people like having children, getting married, like making all these big life changing decisions, but never working on themselves and then just allowing, and I'm just saying they're like, uh, what, what's going to become of your journey? What's what's your story going to say? Are you going to get to the end of your life and sit around the coffee table with your so-called friends and talk about the quote unquote good old days when things were better and how you wish things weren't different. But now here you are, lacking energy, plenty of time, because you've done nothing with your life. That requires time at a later age, just waiting to die. I see that shit and I'm just like damn dude, no way I refuse. That shit pisses me off, dude, and that's literally why I'm so passionate about this show. Can you tell the difference in energy before recording?
Speaker 1:yeah, I didn't feel good at all. I didn't want to record this episode. I was just like dude, I got a migraine. I know I haven't eaten enough today. I'm sorry, trey, you know, but I told juliana. I'm like, hey, let's get 15 20 minute episodes. Here we are at almost 40 and and it's it's literally all from the passion of I want people to win at the individual level. Like if you could just look in the mirror and say I am proud of the person staring back at me. You've won right. Like people are not there, people are dissatisfied with themselves. There is no price that you can put on doing the work to the point where, when you get there, you look at the person in the mirror and you're like I love you, man.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and you're in. The best feeling is when you reach one of the many goals that you might have for yourself and you're like, holy shit, I worked so hard towards this, I put in all this work and look at it coming to fruition. I don't give a shit what anyone says. That is one of the best feelings in the world. That's one of the best feelings I've ever experienced, like for me. The last time that happened was, well, probably this year, after my first successful really freaking successful year in real estate, after hating my job for years and years and years, you know, and it's just like and that opens up the imagination to what can I do next? What can you exactly? And it's just like, holy shit, I did that. And that opens up the imagination too. What can I do next? What can you exactly?
Speaker 1:And it's so exciting and then, before you know it, you're spiraling out of control in a positive direction, because you went from limiting beliefs and excuses to believing in yourself and justifying not excuses but instead action, because you just keep showing up over and over again and guess what? You're going to get sick. You're going gonna stub your toe in the corner of the sofa. You're gonna trip. You're gonna fall it's gonna happen. You're gonna lose loved ones it's gonna happen. You're gonna get a flat. It's gonna be cold. You're gonna slip on the ice all of these things are going to happen. You're not getting out of it unscathed. Like Jim Rohn says, if you want to be that safe, we'll build a four by four room With padded walls, put you in there, close the door and I'll feed you Three times a day With water, lunch, breakfast. You get all of that.
Speaker 1:And now you have Safety and security and you'll be okay. But what a life. Kill me. I'd rather be dead Than live a life so so so. So sitting in comfort, you know? Yeah, I know.
Speaker 2:You know how I am. Nothing exciting comes from that. Yeah, I do.
Speaker 1:Don't get me started on that topic.
Speaker 2:No, we're good, we're good for today. We'll save that for another episode.
Speaker 1:With that being said, yeah, no, this is a perfect time to wrap up. Do you have anything to say before I end it?
Speaker 2:No, it's Sunday night right now when you're hearing this. It's Monday. Start the week, right. Do that thing that you've been putting off.
Speaker 1:I didn't do my Monday morning spiel in the beginning.
Speaker 2:You basically did.
Speaker 1:Okay, well, she's emphasizing on it, so I don't have to emphasize on it. You know, you can start Monday by saying oh, it's Monday.
Speaker 2:It's really cold now. It's getting dark at four o'clock.
Speaker 1:I'll start next week. Oh, thanksgiving is almost here, so what's the point of starting now?
Speaker 1:right, you know oh because every day matters, because, if you wake up and entertain, the perspective of every day brings with it an opportunity in the form of the freedom of choice, where you get to wake up and decide how your choices are going to influence you. And you may think to yourself my choices really don't matter. Well, look at who you are now. You are a direct reflection of the choices you've repeated over the last 20 decades or 10 decades, I don't know how old you are, but you get what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:No, I get it.
Speaker 1:So your choices may not matter from day to day, because you don't see the results from day to day, but you do feel the momentum building, and either that's building in the positive direction or in a bad direction. So, on this beautiful Monday morning, as you listen to this, what will you decide for yourself? An excuse or a plan of action? You get to decide. Let me know what you do.
Speaker 2:Choose a plan of action, Don't be dumb yeah yeah, I second that and with that being said, Until next time. There you go.
