Compounding Daily
Do you feel stuck? Uninspired? Stagnant? The Compounding Daily podcast hosted by Miguel Sanchez, aims to spark curiosity and drive. Each episode gives you deep insights on how to cultivate healthy habits, practice discipline, change your perspective of life, and restructure your mindset in a way that promotes small changes in your daily life that will compound to help you earn that 1% needed everyday to reach your goals, whether they be physical, mental, or both.
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Compounding Daily
EP95- Compounding Daily Roulette #4 W/ Samer
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Is it possible to break free from the shackles of past traumas and truly embrace self-love? Join us alongside my insightful co-host Samer as we tackle these pressing questions in our latest episode of Compounding Daily. We explore the idea that our past doesn't dictate our future, and that accountability and therapy can be transformative tools for personal growth. As we prepare to step into a new year, we focus on shifting our perspectives to become resilient, emphasizing that self-improvement isn't just for those with specific issues, but for everyone looking to enhance their lives.
Self-love isn't just a buzzword—it's a powerful force that shapes our interactions and relationships. We discuss how understanding and loving oneself is crucial for attracting positive and supportive connections. By sharing our journeys, we highlight the importance of being comfortable alone and how this foundation of self-love can naturally lead to fulfilling relationships. Embracing authenticity, we become magnets for inspiration not by trying to impress, but by being true to ourselves and fostering a positive outlook.
Lastly, we journey through the concept of self-image and gratitude, reflecting on what truly makes a good person. Character and values outweigh physical appearance, and as we share our personal stories, we discuss the significance of trustworthiness, patience, and effective communication. Cultivating a positive self-image enhances personal growth, while daily motivation and gratitude keep us grounded in reality. Even amidst life's unpredictability, we find humor and humanity, emphasizing the importance of expressing love and appreciation. Join us for this enriching conversation, as we aim to inspire and uplift your journey towards self-awareness and personal growth.
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Hello, hello and welcome back everybody to another episode of Compounding Daily. I am your host, samer.
Speaker 2:How was the anxiety Not bad?
Speaker 1:not bad.
Speaker 2:I had to force him to do that at gunpoint. No man. Welcome back everybody to another episode of Compounding Daily. Yes, I'm here with one of the OGs, samer, my boy, my friend. Welcome back, thank you, you know.
Speaker 2:And we're here and we're going to do another Compounding Daily Roulette episode.
Speaker 2:If you haven't been listening to these, this is the fourth one that we do and essentially I just have a long list of ideas, quotes, different perspectives and a long list of them, and I've shared those with Samer and he's been adding his own thoughts to that whenever he gets inspired to, and the roulette is in the form of instead of just sitting here and talking about a specific topic for about 30 to 40 minutes, instead, what we're going to do is just cover different topics probably we usually get like between five and six, depending on the time, and we speak about it as quickly as we could, with the goal always being remaining the same, which is simply to provide you with value, a change of perspective, a different idea.
Speaker 2:Maybe you're sitting with some some sorrowness and feeling bad for yourself, and the topic we speak about may be just what you need on this Monday morning to get inspired. You know to not treat it as just another day to understand that, yes is the holiday season, of course, but that doesn't mean that you have to get your foot off the gas and start regressing for the sake of the holidays. If anything, now is the time to make sure that you're getting better, because the year is coming to an end and what you should be aiming for is to arrive in this upcoming year as a better version of yourself. So, with that being said, welcome to Compiling Daily Roulette with your host, miguel and Samer. Samer, miguel, miguel and Samer.
Speaker 1:All right, let's get it. Okay, I'm trying to find one already.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, I think I've added over probably like 10 or so over the last few weeks, so it hasn't been many. So those are near the bottom right, yeah, but there is still plenty that we haven't covered, because there's a lot. I haven't counted them, but I'm pretty sure there's over 100 easily. Oh yeah, okay, so them, but I'm pretty sure there's over 100 easily.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, okay, so the first one. This is pretty good. Your past doesn't need to define who you become.
Speaker 2:It's pretty simple yes, you want me to go for it first, or you want to go first? You can go first. Uh, I I feel that what we believe to identify with essentially leads to the actions we take, right. So if you've been through a traumatic past or your past was difficult and your upbringing was difficult which, in my opinion, I feel like we all experience difficulties Then sometimes it's easy to blame your future circumstances on your past. You know you're letting your past, whatever it may be. You know you didn't have a dad. Your mother was never around, whatever the case may be.
Speaker 1:Some sort of trauma?
Speaker 2:Exactly. Yeah, you've allowed that to become this weight on your shoulders that you've carried with you for years. And now, here you are, a decade later, and people are wondering why you're stagnating, why you're not growing. And you're like well, 10 years ago, my dad wasn't around when I needed him and you're just like, all right, like you know, at a certain point it sounds like it sounds so harsh to say it does, but after a certain point you have to realize that you're just wasting time being stuck on something.
Speaker 1:That it happened it happened.
Speaker 2:You know, I spoke about this recently, a few episodes ago, and I just said, like a time machine hasn't been invented. So to sit with the thought of I wish things were different, you're wasting time, you're wasting energy. Why entertain a thought that it's not even possible? You know, there's almost fantasizing, in a sense, because you can't change the past.
Speaker 1:Well, yeah, it's probably this also sounds kind of fucked up, but it's easier to just look back and say, oh, I'm like this because I went through this, instead of actually just taking accountability and just taking the steps to fix it. Whether that means you need to go to therapy, which I'm sure everybody can use therapy, even me, but I refuse to go, yeah, I'm the same way.
Speaker 1:And I know it's a really stupid thing for me to refuse to go, because I'm sure it's gonna open my eyes to a lot of things that I don't know. I suffer from because of, maybe, what I went through.
Speaker 2:Well, sometimes therapy, to my understanding, doesn't need to be to fix something, it could just be.
Speaker 1:No, it's just open your eyes.
Speaker 2:An introspective conversation with somebody who doesn't know you, so they're able to tell you some truths. Maybe other people don't know Exactly.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you don't ask yourself, you know. So it's like kind of like you don't know what you don't know, exactly Because you're paying for somebody to tell you what you don't know.
Speaker 2:Exactly, yeah, yep, yep. So that's how I mean it. So it is.
Speaker 1:That's a form of taking, you know, control of your life.
Speaker 2:Accountability.
Speaker 1:You owe it to yourself, to take the steps necessary and face whatever you went through, that you're claiming is changing you or holding you back.
Speaker 2:What do I speak about the most? I speak the most about a perspective to choose the lenses in which you see the world through, and you said it earlier. Right, you can say, because of what I went through, this is who I am right. Do you feel the energy behind that sentence? The negativity? Right, but in my case, right, I told you recently about my past, so you know what I'm talking about. It's a personal story, but because of what I went through, this is who I had to become. It's totally different. You get what I'm saying? Yeah, it's completely different.
Speaker 1:You took everything that you didn't want to become and you morphed into a person that you do want to become a person that I'm proud of instead of just intermingling, like the, the bad qualities that you experienced as a child or whatever you become those bad qualities. Well then, where does the cycle break?
Speaker 2:exactly. Children are going to suffer from it and their children are gonna suffer from it. You could?
Speaker 1:be the person to say.
Speaker 2:Dude, and that's such a honestly like a sad perspective, Because think about that, because your grandmother did this to me. You are now suffering because I never worked on myself.
Speaker 1:And I'm sorry, this is all I got for you and this is like come on man. No, they didn't face their own problems, so they just pass it on to their children. It's the most selfish thing you can do Generational curses Sure you can feel bad for yourself if you really want to, but I always say, feeling bad for yourself doesn't accomplish anything.
Speaker 2:Yes, it just stops wallowing in self-pity Because I tell people I've been speaking about it a little bit here lately when I tell people that I just reached a point where I was so tired of myself, I lied to myself so much.
Speaker 2:You're pathetic, literally I would just look in the mirror and I'm like you're disgusting. And people are like, oh my God, you can't talk to yourself like that. Well, it's what I needed and nobody was telling me that. You know what I mean. Nobody was there whenever and this is gonna sound like a joke, but nobody was there when I was taking off my shirt at the pool and I was so insecure like I was I was making, I was trying to cover my tits with my arms, like, oh, don't look at me, people it's just torture I, I.
Speaker 2:At all times the water level had to be up to my shoulders. You get what I'm saying. Like it was a way of life for you. Exactly, exactly. It sounds loud it sounds loud, but it's not when it when it gets translated into the, the, the platform Cause. I had a loud guess not too long ago my boy Tom, and I want, and I want.
Speaker 1:Tom's calling you out dude.
Speaker 2:I thought he was screaming, but the episode came out and he sounded perfect, so I think it's just the adjustments that we got to make on the keyboard, probably, you know, uh, but I feel like we uh, we definitely diverted a lot into that, but that that's the purpose of this. This is authentic, is on the spot. So if you want to hit another one, that was a good first one. Yeah, absolutely, absolutely. I'm grateful to be able to have conversations like this man.
Speaker 1:They always allow for reflection if you don't love yourself, how can you expect others to love you deep?
Speaker 2:that's almost so mean what the hell man you want me to explain it?
Speaker 1:from my perspective, yeah, Right.
Speaker 2:So if you don't love yourself, how can you expect others to love you? Because I feel like you can't receive what you want, right? So I feel like everything starts with the self. Right, in order to be loved, you first need to love. Right? In order to experience joy and happiness, you must first create joy and happiness. Right so? Because think about it, if you're a happy person and I'm a miserable person, I don't just become happy because I'm around you, right, maybe temporary, but then when I'm around by myself, again I'm miserable, again, you know. So for me to constantly experience that joy and happiness, I either gotta be constantly around you which you don't want to be because I'm miserable or I work on myself and work on creating joy and happiness first within me, to then give to others. Damn, if that makes sense.
Speaker 1:That pretty much explains the whole quote.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's how I wrote it. In that perspective. That's pretty much what it is.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and the same thing goes for love Like you can't if you don't love yourself, and then you expect someone else to love you like you got. You got nothing to love you, suck.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's how I feel, because some people, because some people we spoke about this not too long ago Last time we worked out it was like the person that can't be alone. Why can't you be alone? What are you trying to escape from within yourself at that Like? To me that's, that's almost like scary like. Within yourself at that like. To me that's that's almost like scary like.
Speaker 2:But I understand it because I've been in places where I've I've been wanting to not be alone with my thoughts because I wasn't in a good place mentally, for example. You know what I mean. But that's almost like an incentive to work on that, you know, to eventually get to a point where you know, for me, you know, I envisioned myself surrounded by positive, happy people. You know, for me, you know, I envisioned myself surrounded by positive, happy people, you know, who took their health seriously, who entertain conversations as such, you know, and I read the books about how those people succeeded and I read the characteristics that all those people had and I understood that, should I remain who I was, I could never be around those kind of people.
Speaker 1:It just wouldn't work.
Speaker 2:They don't want to be around me Because at one point they were me and they worked hard on themselves to level up. So why would they surround themselves with somebody who's lesser than them and not in a demeaning, humanizing way?
Speaker 1:It's just natural People gravitate towards people who are similar to them Exactly exactly.
Speaker 2:So I took that personal and I said I'm going to work on myself so hard that I don't have to try really hard to be surrounded by those people. They're gravitated to me. You know why? Because I'm the always cheering good morning, happy Monday, like when people come up to me and they say things like oh man, is it friday yet? And my response is what's the rush man? We're only heading towards death.
Speaker 1:and you get what I'm saying and they're just like oh no, that's, that's good perspective.
Speaker 2:Man, you get what I'm saying and it's just like it's all about the perspective.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, because you're not going to be wanting to do something all the time yeah, you're not going to always be enjoying what you're doing at any given moment during the day, but you can choose to just be okay, look at it, I'll give you the last example and then we can move on to the next subject, right? So, uh, imagine the perspective of this. The average conversation is based on current events. Lately it was the, the political, you know, presidency candidate and all of that, and, uh, sports. And now the holidays are here, so it's thanksgiving. So, uh, the, the normal chit chat happening at my construction job site is about those events, right? Um, so isn't it wonderful that, because of the person that I am and I'm not carrying a fucking sign with me that says ask me questions yeah, you know what I?
Speaker 1:mean like I'm working, I'm walking around.
Speaker 2:You know what I'm saying and randomly I'll get a conversation like hey, miguel, uh, if I wanted to lose weight, where would I start? You get what I'm saying. I didn't advertise that I'm selling anything like that. You get what I'm saying uh, uh, I didn't advertise that I'm selling anything like that. You get what I'm saying. I can tell you at least two, three times a week. I get a hey man, tell me something motivating. Okay, why they're not going to everybody else and saying that they're coming to me? Why, because of the person that I chose to become. You get what I'm saying. So now I'm bringing different. I'm not talking about sports. I'm not talking about how I hate my life and how I have regrets and how I wish things were better and how it's too cold, even though I got a heated vest on. You get what I'm saying Because those are the conversations you can have with your average individual out there. I don't want conversations like that, even though I'm part of them sometimes.
Speaker 1:Sometimes you have to be yeah, you're still socializing, yeah.
Speaker 2:Right, you know. So that's the message behind that one. Gotta love yourself, mm-hmm First. First this coffee is amazing this one's in bold.
Speaker 1:In what in bold bold?
Speaker 2:it's massive. I don't know.
Speaker 1:I don't know if you had a seizure.
Speaker 2:No, I think I copied it. Sometimes I take the notes while I'm driving, like in regards to like I call the Siri up and I tell her like hey, take note and she'll write it in a separate one and then I copy and paste it and it's just like that okay. I'm just going to read the bold one.
Speaker 1:Yeah, just read it when you think of a good person, what do you see? And does this not encourage you to become the kind of person if you can see what you are lacking?
Speaker 2:I love that. I wrote that. That's one of those. You probably said it while you're driving yeah to siri.
Speaker 1:Yeah, most likely. That's amazing. You must have. You must have been a peaceful drive. Huh, peaceful, must have been a really peaceful drive.
Speaker 2:If that happens while I'm driving, I'm listening to a book or a podcast, or sometimes I'm in my own head, but that ties in directly to the imagination. If you're listening to this, chances are that you are a capable human being, right, you're understanding the words we're using. We're not using big words here. This isn't a science-based podcast. This is just a talk about life, right? So when I tell you that you can use your imagination and ask yourself that question, if I could envision a good person and you're in the position of God and you get to create a good human being, what attributes would you give him physically, what body would you give him? And after you're done creating that in that individual in your head, in comparison to you, what does that compare to you got, I mean, and that doesn't mean give yourself unrealistic expectations, like the perfect human being is six feet and I'm five, five no way, no well, when you think of a good person, not the perfect human being, oh, oh, no, and that is well, a good person.
Speaker 1:So a good person in the sense of character values, yes, right, yeah, and in that sense yeah, like I don't think being a good person has anything with the to do with the way you look.
Speaker 2:At all actually.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like at all. What attributes would you give a person? A good person, yeah. What attributes If you were creating a human being, like you said? What attributes?
Speaker 2:First one probably would be trustworthy, right, trustworthy, it's like honesty. Yeah, honesty is a big one. Patience, that's like honesty. Yeah, honesty is a big one. Patience, that's a good one. Yeah, you give somebody patience. I give him the attribute of not talking so much, being more of a listener than a speaker. I feel like you learn a lot more about the word in that way. It's just like I'll give him skills with vocabulary so he can properly express his emotions.
Speaker 2:So, communication, communication you know what I'm saying, so as you're putting this, this character, together, and this is a good person. Why? Because, uh, this is the kind of person that is charismatic, he's passionate, he's enthusiastic towards life, he's encouraging to others. He doesn't carry the weight of the world on his shoulders in a sense, where you feel his negativity.
Speaker 1:You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:And I'm sure not everybody words it like that, but essentially we all in our minds can create such an individual right and imagine creating an individual like that and then you look at yourself and you see that you are lacking some of those things Does not encourage you to say wow. There are some things I need to work on Because, like, why could you know people like the one you just described exist? So why can't it be you? So why can't it be you? So why can't it be you Exactly? Why can't you just make different decisions? Everybody can be a good person. Everybody can be a good person.
Speaker 1:It's never going to happen.
Speaker 2:The beauty of it all is that a good person is dependent upon what you consider a good person to be.
Speaker 1:Yeah. You know, but chances are, here's my definition of a good person.
Speaker 2:A good person is somebody who's continuously chasing after their goals, achieving their goals, becoming better in the achievement of those goals, all while not impeding the growth of others yeah, that's a good person.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it basically has everything to do with how you treat others.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like if I'm becoming better at the cost of Samer's life becoming hell. I'm not a good person.
Speaker 1:Even though you reach the goals Exactly.
Speaker 2:But if I'm doing everything that I can and Samer's in my inner circle, and in my own way I'm trying to uplift Samer to do greatness in his own life. Our goals don't need to align, but you're achieving, I'm achieving, and we're not hindering each other, and every time we see each other we're thriving, we're becoming better. Life is challenging us. We got difficulties, but we're still moving forward in life right.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and not robbing others of their energy.
Speaker 2:Exactly.
Speaker 1:Exactly, that's the way I put it. It's exactly, that's a good way to put it. It's all about energy. It's a good one. Take this off a little bit.
Speaker 2:Yeah, tight headphones they fit me perfect, because I'm bald, this guy doesn't have hair.
Speaker 1:This is not the next quote, it's just something you just have. There's a quote in here. I don't think you've finished it, it just says the ultimate depressor the ultimate depressor that's it, and it just keeps going. Damn, the ultimate depressor going through something. That's all it is that's it, the ultimate depressor period period period, something that's all it is.
Speaker 2:That's it, the ultimate depressor Period Period Period. There has to be something about regret, that's the first thing that comes to mind.
Speaker 1:Hmm, knowledge is pointless without action. Yeah, I could read some of these, even if we don't want to talk about them.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:It's just so when I go through them, I could say what I'm going through and now spit on it.
Speaker 2:That'd be the quick.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's funny, Bro what. Yeah, you can do your thing, dude. How strong is your self image?
Speaker 2:That's ironically, the same thing we just spoke about. I'm dying. The reaction was funnier than what you said. You were so shocked.
Speaker 1:All right, how strong is your self-image?
Speaker 2:That's essentially what we just spoke about. It's like, instead of creating an outside version of another person and then comparing it to yourself and seeing what needs to be worked on, instead you work on your image, like how do you see yourself? So I mean, I guess, that is self-love right, because if you like.
Speaker 1:If you like your self-image, then you should love yourself so well if your self-image is like one of confidence and everything.
Speaker 2:Because, like, if you see yourself, if you see yourself as a shy person, uh, a person that's not good at talking to others, if you see yourself as just a naysayer of life, for example, then that is who you portray yourself to be, you know. But if your self-image, if worked on consistently, you're able to get it to a point where your self-image is one of confidence, enthusiasm, positive thinking, eventually that's who you start becoming, because your self-image is that of that person. It's essentially, how do you see yourself?
Speaker 1:Yeah, I think it's really closely tied to self-love, because you've got to give yourself something to love, right? So you have to have a good self-image which comes from doing things you don't want to do, probably a lot. You have to develop things, develop skills, go to the gym, you know.
Speaker 2:Go to school everything that's gonna give you positive benefits from life requires you to do things you're not gonna want to do.
Speaker 1:That sucks that's so true, though, it's just life. I feel like that's why life is perfect. Isn't that amazing?
Speaker 2:It's a balance, oh you want to be great, you got to do difficult things. Yeah, it's kind of like you can't have like it can't be sunny every day.
Speaker 1:It has to rain some days, everything's about equilibrium. So if you want to be like really really happy, then you got to work really really hard.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:You know, it's usually some of the best gratitude, some of the best happiness someone can feel is delayed gratification, without a doubt yeah because you know, if someone buys you a car you're like oh nice, you know, it's a good, nice, expensive car yeah and you drive it and you're not really appreciating it, I mean, I got this for free, bro.
Speaker 1:This is a great car, whereas if you work for it now, you're gonna start reading about the car. Once you get the car, it's like wow, you know you appreciate it a lot more because you worked your ass off for it for a couple of years or something.
Speaker 2:Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 1:Some things you just can't buy with money, and that's delayed gratification. You're limited by what you believe yourself to be. Observe the conversation, the one happening in your mind. Observe the conversation, the one happening in your mind. Observe the conversation, the one happening in your mind. Yeah, um, this is a very.
Speaker 2:These are very introspective quotes today yeah, they're all about the stuff, how they are. It's almost like a theme yeah, um, uh, the the conversation. So whether I feel like the better you become at being a good listener of yourself, the better choices you make Right, because I observe my conversations I can't tell you I'm so grateful.
Speaker 1:From a third-person point of view. Yes, why are you talking to yourself like that?
Speaker 2:Yeah, or you say something that pokes my ego and instead of the ego reacting reacting. I'm already listening to the conversation and while I'm observing whatever it is you just said, internally I'm having the conversation of like, why did that offend you? Like what? Why did that just trigger you a little bit? You? Know what I'm saying yeah, so like the, but that's if you really think about it. That's difficult to do because that means you're going from emotional, foundationally speaking, to rational and and that is a hard switch because you gotta always be observant, you know, and sometimes you know that's what I meant.
Speaker 2:I went from being the guy flipping people off in the highway to to like, just chilling on the right lane. Go. If you're in a rush, go past me, I don't go, fuck. And I did something happen that changed my life.
Speaker 1:No, I just know that I was just like why am I so angry? Driving dude like yeah, like I feel everybody can ask themselves that exactly you know, especially in connecticut. Why am I so angry?
Speaker 2:so that conversation happened and the more you have that conversation, the more you realize that it sometimes's too emotional, it's too anger-driven or maybe too envious of another person Like I can't tell you how many times I see. I'll give you a real example. You know, I'll see somebody at work or somebody in general, maybe it's even the guy pushing the car at Walmart. The point is, I see somebody complaining about their health, like, oh man, dude, I don't feel good, oh man. And then they start drinking the milkshake they just got from McDonald's.
Speaker 2:And immediately the conversation happening in my head is like you, fat fuck, look at you. That's why you look like shit. But instead of verbalizing it and expressing my body language towards that person, I catch that. And now, almost immediately, the conversation is like miguel, did you forget where you started? Did you forget that that was you at one point? Why are you so hateful towards that person? Wish him, wish him, wish him luck, wish him blessing, like you know. Are you gonna go up to him right now and tell him that, oh oh, stop complaining, because look at what you're drinking. No, because now he's going to just hate you.
Speaker 1:Well, to be fair, he shouldn't be drinking that, exactly. But some people don't respond well to you. Fat fuck, exactly.
Speaker 2:So I don't say anything and instead I get better from that scenario that he doesn't even know what's happening because I'm working on the conversation happening here. Instead of being judgmental and hateful towards a stranger, I'm more understanding and compassionate and I don't even need to talk to the motherfucker at all. Thank you, you just made my day better because I worked on the conversation happening. Does that make sense? That?
Speaker 2:does make sense, yeah, so every day, I always work on that conversation. That's literally why I always, by the time I show up to work, I'm good, good. That's literally why I always, by the time I show up to work, I'm good.
Speaker 1:Good morning everybody. Your smile is on my face. That's really hard. Yeah, I'm not like that.
Speaker 2:I get up, I go on that 20 to 45-minute walk in the morning After my morning messages. It's me and myself at 4 in the morning with thoughts so am I going to be on my walk like man? It's cold. Man, I want to go to work today. Man, it's bullshit. Yeah, that's how it starts. But by the time I'm back, it's like yo, I'm awake, I'm like why am I complaining about it being cold?
Speaker 2:I got a heated shirt, a heated vest, a Carhartt thermal jacket. You got winter boots, bro, you're spoiled, shut up, you're not cold. You get what I'm Absolutely. Is my body healthy? Yeah, bro, I had a good day. You get what I'm saying. That doesn't happen until you start observing the conversation, because most people's default conversation is one of negativity, one of lack, one of I wish things were better. And since that's the main focus of I don't want to be here right now. I'd rather be in mexico on a beach drinking margaritas. You're focusing on the bad and just since you're not being mindful of the conversation, the conversation is constantly like this could be so much better, we can do so much more. I wish things were better. And now you're back home at the end of the day like yo, today sucked dude, and today didn't suck.
Speaker 1:you sucked that conversation sucked, you know you know, that's I feel like number one. We should end on this, because this was really good, yeah, what you just said. But, um, that ties back to something I saw and it made perfect sense to what you're saying about basically how good of a day you're having is. It's all in your head, right? So say you have work tomorrow, right, and you say you're working all week, whatever. By friday you're excited it's the weekend, but you're still at work, whatever. Now say you have a vacation scheduled for wednesday, monday and tuesday at work are going to be really good days you're gonna have. You're gonna be in a really good mood, why nothing?
Speaker 1:that day changed, right? Nothing in that moment actually changed, but because you were looking forward, so you're going to be in a really good mood. Why Nothing that day changed, right, nothing in that moment actually changed, but because you were looking forward to, you were focusing on the positive. You had a good day today. You could do that every day. Yep, you don't have to be going on a vacation just to be just to be excited. You just find little things to be excited about. It really is Cause like gonna be able to focus on the good. So that's my conversation in my head all the time because, like you know, I'm not pessimistic, I'm realistic. So I'm not excited all the time and sometimes I'm like this sucks, but I've been working on reframing that to just be like it's not that bad.
Speaker 2:It could be worse, ironically, not ironically like it's not that bad. Well, it could be worse ironically not ironically, that's not the correct word. But over time I've seen you become a lot better with that right and I feel like, I feel like you understand, I I feel like, well, we're really close, right, you're like a brother to me, dude, so I feel like you, being around me as much as you have, you realize what most people don't. When people ask me the question because you would never ask me this, miguel, how are you motivated all the time? Because you know I'm not, you're not. No, you've seen me and I complain, just like you.
Speaker 2:I tell you about my drama and my problems and my insecurities in life and the things I'm dealing with, and you realize that, oh, miguel, is majority a good, a happy person, but you wouldn't say I'm overly enthusiastic all the time, and that's because I just have gotten good at figuring out who I am, what I want, what I'm willing to do for what I want. How far would I go? I know my limits, where I would quit?
Speaker 2:I know, the things I gotta work on. So everything begins with I know this about myself, like I know myself. So the better I've known myself, the less the outside world stresses me out. Yeah, because you're good just by yourself.
Speaker 1:You don't need anybody else.
Speaker 2:I'm realistic, like you in regards to like I accept my reality. Am I rich? No. Am I where I wish I was? No. Is it going to be cold tomorrow morning while I'm walking? Yeah. Is it going to be cold at work? Yeah, there's no heat, but now you can reframe it completely Like you could walk tomorrow. Some people can't walk and a lot of people think, oh okay, but that's such a distant like.
Speaker 1:No, it's not. It could happen to you any day. You might not be able to walk when you wake up.
Speaker 2:You never know.
Speaker 1:You get in a car accident you're paralyzed. You'll start after you wake up from your car accident and you're paralyzed, you're going to start thinking about yesterday when you were going on a walk. Oh my God.
Speaker 2:What do I say? I say it message. Now to the point where it's ingrained in my head the the um slipped my mind as I look at the time. Right, no, but I've been saying it every morning message, and it's something along the lines of like, uh, you get to decide the outcome of your day, and what I mean by that is like every day. This is exactly what I say, and I quote every day brings with it an opportunity for you to become better.
Speaker 2:That's a perspective and it's that, tied into the fact that tomorrow's never promised, put together, that gets me out of bed every day, right? Because you don't know, the minute you step out that door, what life has planned for you, right? Most people. That's why I don't tell you Juliana, I'll see you later. You don't for you, right? Most people like that's why I tell you, I don't tell you Liana, I'll see you later. You don't know that, right? I never just give her a peck on the lips and bounce. I make sure the love is there, the affection I love you. Have a great day. You know, call me, because I don't know if that's the day a pipe is going to fall on me on work, on me on work. I don't know if somebody's going to T-bone her in the highway.
Speaker 2:You don't know these things when you entertain that perspective so much every morning, you don't?
Speaker 1:got shit to complain about. You're just like. You know what I mean. Just focus on the task at hand.
Speaker 2:Every day that I close that door upstairs for the last time and I get in my comfy clothes. I'm like Made it another day. What a good day. You get what I'm saying. That's my favorite part of the day too. Yeah, me too, Me too.
Speaker 1:It was, you know, nothing bad happened. You know, it's just, it could be a lot worse.
Speaker 2:That's it.
Speaker 1:And you know, sometimes little things happen in life, Not little Bad things happen in life that force you to remember that.
Speaker 2:Like when I got into my car accident earlier this year year I was fine, but I lost the car all of a sudden. Yeah, I was like man, like today, something did happen that sucks.
Speaker 1:But then I still came home and I was extra grateful that day. I was like wow, I got out of that, yeah you, unscathed. I walked out of that as a chill in the cop car. We're sitting here talking and shooting the. I'm like dude, my car is. He's like yeah, man, that was bad, like you know what I mean.
Speaker 1:It's just like I was lucky, even though, yes, you lost a car, but it's a material object it's just like I was lucky, even though, yes, you lost a car, but it's a material object, it's not important, you're still here.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you're still here. You're still here.
Speaker 1:My mind is the same. You can't take things like that for granted, because people die every day.
Speaker 2:That's it, and yeah, yeah, I could spit on it. Here I go, dude, listen, you're the one dude, you I was no, because Because it's your mind that goes to the negative place, because I just say like I'm going to spit on it.
Speaker 1:You know how? You never heard a rapper say like no.
Speaker 2:Yo throw a beat and I'm going to spit on that beat. No, bro.
Speaker 1:Okay, yes, you didn't say I'm going to spit on that beat. You said You're not doing the beat. I'm going to spit on it Like whatever you say I said I'm going to say a quote. I said I'm going to say a quote.
Speaker 2:I'm deleting this whole segment.
Speaker 1:I'm going to spit on it. Yeah, you do have to delete this whole segment. No, I'm not. That's hilarious.
Speaker 2:Dude. After so much value, this is how it ends. I'm so sorry, it's okay, we're human dog.
Speaker 1:That's hilarious.
Speaker 2:Yo, but let's end it with that. Man, um I, I can't express enough gratitude. I'm grateful for everything. I'm grateful for our conversations, for our friendship yeah, I'm grateful for you guys, the listeners. Thank you for being here, thank you for being a part of this conversation. Uh, this conversation, as I always say, is not a comparison thing. It's not for you guys to say how can I be more like sam or miguel, it's, it's just so everybody wants to be like just so you can see the things that we've worked on right, because what we've worked on doesn't separate us from the masses.
Speaker 2:What we've worked on are the little things that everybody should work on, and those are personal. Literally almost every topic covered today was introspective. It's about personality, accountability, character, values and the things you want to pass on because of the character that you choose to be. So, with that being said, thank you for listening. Thank you, samuel, for being here, absolutely.
Speaker 1:Thank you for having me Until next time.
