Compounding Daily
Do you feel stuck? Uninspired? Stagnant? The Compounding Daily podcast hosted by Miguel Sanchez, aims to spark curiosity and drive. Each episode gives you deep insights on how to cultivate healthy habits, practice discipline, change your perspective of life, and restructure your mindset in a way that promotes small changes in your daily life that will compound to help you earn that 1% needed everyday to reach your goals, whether they be physical, mental, or both.
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EP126- Generational Blessings OR Curses. You decide.
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Have you ever caught yourself mimicking the exact behaviors you swore you'd never repeat? That moment when you realize you're becoming a carbon copy of family patterns that never served you well?
Breaking free from generational cycles is perhaps one of the most courageous acts of self-love we can undertake. In this deeply personal episode, I explore the delicate balance between honoring our family connections while refusing to become prisoners of inherited patterns that don't serve our growth. Drawing from my own journey, I share how I transformed from someone who blamed my family for my circumstances to someone who took complete ownership of my path forward.
We examine the concept of generational curses—those habits, beliefs, and behaviors that silently transfer from grandparents to parents to children—and how they manifest in everything from financial instability to health problems to limiting mindsets. But this isn't just about identifying what's wrong; it's about the profound freedom that comes from recognizing you have choices your ancestors perhaps never realized they had.
This conversation isn't about rejection or judgment of family. It's about standing in your truth while maintaining unconditional love. It's about creating a new legacy that future generations can build upon, rather than struggle to overcome. Whether you're contemplating a path different from your family's expectations or already walking it, this episode affirms your right to authenticity without sacrificing connection.
Your family shaped who you are, but they don't determine who you become. That power has always belonged to you. Listen, reflect, and consider: what patterns are you ready to break, and what new legacy are you prepared to create?
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Hello, hello and welcome back everybody to Compounding Daily. I'm your host, miguel Sanchez, and welcome back to another episode of short and straight to the point kind of episode today, another solo one. I'm slowly building up the list of the guests that I plan on having on the show, but lately I've just been finding pleasure in not having to worry about scheduling others and I could just sit here with myself, by myself, and have a conversation that provides you, the listener, with some form of insight, some form of value, maybe a perspective that you lacked before you listened to this show. So, with that being said, thank you for being here. Episode 126, we are here. I am immensely grateful.
Speaker 1:I have a topic in mind that I'm going to cover, but before we get into the topic, I want to always emphasize, if you are new to the page, there's a reason why I release episodes every Monday at 5am, and it's because, from my experience, monday was always the most difficult day of the week for me. It was the reminder that I wasn't happy with who I was, the things I was doing, the person I was becoming, the direction of my life. I just wasn't satisfied with it all, and Monday was that dreadful reminder that I wasn't doing anything about it, that I was just letting time pass me by. So if you are listening to this and you are listening to it early in the morning, especially in the beginning of a brand new week I encourage you to set some time aside before you step outside to really reflect on the goals this week, to really think about the things that you want accomplished from the action that you're going to take. To really think about the things that you want accomplished from the action that you're gonna take. To really sit down and ask yourself the important questions that will make a difference in how you show up. For example, what things can I do this week that will make me better by the end of the week? What things did I said I was going to do that I haven't done just yet? What conversations will I entertain? What foods will I feed my body? What foods will I feed my body? What foods will I feed my mind? All of those questions will lead you to a place where you can now reflect upon the choices you will be making and have a better idea as to the inevitable consequences that will come from them. So, with that being said, happy Monday and let's get right into it.
Speaker 1:Today's episode is going to be how do I say it? An episode where I ask you to have patience with me. I'm going to do my best to paint the picture. I don't feel like it's an episode that needs to go in depth. So, in regards to time, I don't think it's going to be very long, but I want to emphasize on something. I want to emphasize on something that I think about quite often, and I'll just start it with this you do not need to become a copy and paste of your family, and I'll say it again you do not need to become a copy and paste version of your family.
Speaker 1:Today's episode will be an episode about family and the understanding that, even though the blood is strong, just because somebody's there from your family doesn't necessarily mean that you have to repeat the things that they do, talk the way that they do, and I don't want to say look the way they look, because sometimes genetics play the part and you look the way they look. But when it comes to everything else, I like to give myself the understanding that I have the freedom to choose in the direction of my life. I get to choose the person who I'm becoming, and for a very, very, very long time what I would do instead of having that thought of freedom. I would instead blame my lack of effort on my family effort, on my family, and this episode is going to be emphasizing on the importance of being mindful that all families have good and bad, and it is up to you as an individual to decide which you're going to keep, which part of the good, which part of the bad. At the end of the day, you are an individual and I don't care what family you come from. It's your choose to fail, it's your life to live and you get to decide. So, to put it into personal development vocabulary, right, what I'm talking about is generational curses, and I'm sure that that's something that you've heard, but if you haven't heard it, let me emphasize on it a little bit.
Speaker 1:Generational curses, to my understanding, simply means that, let's just say, your grandmother picked up a bad habit of never really tracking her finances. She was just raised to just make money, spend money, and never really had a plan for her future. So she lived her life the way that she lived and, growing up, obviously, she fell in love, she got married, she got children, and now the children are being raised in that same household and they are watching what the parents are doing and they see the money coming, they see the money going and they are never reaching a place of financial stability, right. And now these kids are growing into adulthood and now they get their first job and now with that first paycheck, guess what? They go and spend it because why? They know more money's coming in if they just keep going to work. And now they pick up the cycle and then they fall in love and then they have children and then their children, etc. Etc. Do you get what I'm saying? That's a generational curse. It started with the grandma, it was passed down to the children, etc. Etc. Do you get what I'm saying? That's a generational curse. It started with the grandma, was passed down to the children, then it was passed down to the grandchildren and just it just keeps going down the line.
Speaker 1:And that doesn't necessarily only pertain to the bad right. There are generational blessings, something I don't often hear people speak about. But what I emphasize on today is the curse part of things. Right, because it's easy to watch your family live a certain way. Then you are now raised in that same way and then you convince yourself that the reason you are not moving forward is because this is just who I am, this is just what I was raised to believe. Okay, I understand that, but are you not a free individual now? Are you still under the chains and restrictions of your family's curses?
Speaker 1:This message, to me personally, always hits a little nerve, and it's not because first let me emphasize I love my family, but a lot of what I learned of what not to become was from my family, and I've spoken to them about this. So don't listen to this and be like, wow, what an asshole. Right, they know that this is how I once observed them, and for a very long time, when I was overweight, when I was in low income housing, housing, when I was just not doing anything with my life. I didn't have to look very far down my family line to see that I was pretty close to my mainly everybody else. You know I was overweight, money wasn't being saved. You know I had bad talking habits. Bad thinking habits, bad habits in general.
Speaker 1:You know I would get home from From school or work and all I would do is sit in front of the TV, just eat food, watch TV, entertain myself, play video games, you know, and when people would say, well, you need to do more, immediately in my mind I would see my mother just sitting there watching TV doing nothing after work. You know, I would see my stepfather just there after work, doing nothing, just eating, and I'm just like, well, why, why do I have to do more? I'm literally just doing what they did. I don't get what you expect from me if I'm literally just a copy and paste of my family. What's wrong with that? Well, what's wrong with that wasn't necessarily that there was something wrong with it, but in my own personal journey, what was wrong with it was the fact that I knew I wasn't satisfied with who I was and who I was becoming. I knew I wasn't satisfied with my life period and I kept blaming my family's bad choices on why I am now making bad choices. That's where the problem lies, and it wasn't until I told myself first of all, now that you're an adult, miguel, did they hand you a manual that says hey, you're an adult, now you have it all figured out? No, so why would you expect that from your family itself?
Speaker 1:You know, my mother's a human being, just like I am. She has difficulties, fears, anxieties and things that she has to overcome. My grandmother was raised a certain way and she had her fear, her beliefs, her anxieties, her ideas, her own perspectives, and I'm not anybody to say that they were right or wrong. Here I am now because of them. I am immensely grateful. But I also had to sit back and say okay, my family's overweight, I'm overweight. My family isn't financially stable, I'm not financially stable. My family doesn't have good thinking habits. I don't have good thinking habits. My family doesn't like to talk about the future around the dinner table because it always causes arguments, and neither do I. Oh, my God, I am just a copy and paste of my family and I'm not happy about that.
Speaker 1:And when I changed that perspective, when I realized that I didn't have to stay there, everything changed for me and it turned as last week's episode. It turned the finger from blaming my family to instead blaming myself, to instead blaming myself. And it took a lot of courage to start making decisions that didn't line up with the decisions my family have encouraged me to make my whole life. It took courage because now I'm choosing differently. If I'm choosing differently, guess what? I'm showing up differently.
Speaker 1:All of a sudden, I don't fit in. All of a sudden, oh, why are you doing this? Why are you doing that? That doesn't make sense. Well, I think you should do this. And now I'm sitting in a position where, like yeah, I don't want your opinion, I don't want your advice. Just let me make my own mistakes now, because I've already tried to become a copy and paste of your advice and it didn't work out for me personally. You know, and as you listen to this, you may think like damn, may think like damn, did your family not teach you anything? No, no, no, don't misunderstand.
Speaker 1:I wouldn't be who I am today without my family. They are still in my life, they encourage me, I have conversations with them about our life in general and our past, most importantly, all the time, because the person who I am now Is the exact 180 of who I used to be, and it started with the reflection of. The person who I am now is the exact 180 of who I used to be, and it started with the reflection of. I have a lot of examples in my life of misery, regret, pain and suffering, and I got to sit courtside seats and observe the consequences that stemmed from those decisions, and there I was getting ready to put my foot in the court and I wasn't happy about that. I wasn't happy with what I observed, I wasn't happy with who I've become to get into that court to play the game now called life. And I had to make a decision. And that decision said I don't want to be like my family and I don't care if I fit in.
Speaker 1:Oh, my grandmother must be rolling in her grave knowing that she grew up extremely Christian, always going to church, always reading the Bible, always emphasizing on the importance of having a good relationship with Jesus Christ. And here I am the exact opposite of that. I don't go to church, I don't read the Bible here and there. I don't believe in Jesus Christ. And those things are my decisions and my consequences to live with.
Speaker 1:And with that understanding I've accepted my family because I don't see their beliefs as wrong or right. I just see them as they believe, what they had to believe in order to live their life. And if they are happy with that, then who am I to question it and force change upon them? But the same is also true for me. Who is anybody to tell me that my beliefs are wrong and that I could be doing better, when, at the end of the day, the path that I walk is a path that only I know the outcome of, because it's the path I've chosen to walk. And if I look down my family line of generations, nobody's walked the same path that I'm choosing to walk now.
Speaker 1:So, therefore, the advice and the opinions matter little to me, because I'm creating a new path and the beauty of observing family relationships from this perspective, without the judgment or criticism right, unconditional love is at the very center of the things that I speak about, and I no longer fought my mother for being who she is. Criticism, right. Unconditional love is at the very center of the things that I speak about, and I no longer fought my mother for being who she is. I no longer fought my grandma for being who she is. I no longer fought my family period for the persons that they've chosen to become, but I know that if I saw anything within them that I didn't like, it was up to me to make sure that I didn't allow that to repeat within myself. And now, the most important part is that one day, when I have children with my wife, what do you think they're going to learn? What habits will I implement on them.
Speaker 1:If I come from a family of overweight people, people who suffer from depression and anxiety, people who don't feed their mind good things and I'm the one who said moving forward past me, that's no longer a thing. Moving forward, I want to be raising a household of healthy, strong individuals, people who feed their minds, the things that encourage a positive thought and conversation. I want to encourage a relationship with God that allows you to express joy and enthusiasm towards life, despite the pain and suffering that will inevitably present itself. All of those things now moving forward past me are the things that I can pass to my children and in hopes that my children one day will now be healthy, strong individuals and they won't look that far down our bloodline and say, wow, like we've always been in great shape, we've always come from wealth, we've always known. Instead, they say, how far down the line did this begin? And little do they know that they get to observe where it began. We've always known. Instead, they say how far down the line did this begin, and little do they know that they get to observe where it began.
Speaker 1:Because as a father right, which I am not yet, but as a future father, I will have a responsibility to emphasize on that. This is who our family used to be and this is who I became. Because of those consequences and realizing that that didn't work for me, I had to make some changes, which now led me to be here, the father who now stands in front of you now whether, as my children, you want to adapt and continue moving those things forward. The same way, my family gave me my freedom of choice. I give them the freedom of choice. I will give you the best, utmost value that I can as a father, but I don't expect you to become a copy and paste of me, because I am far from a copy and paste of my own family, and there is nothing wrong with that to force you in one direction or another.
Speaker 1:The next time you catch yourself wanting to do something and the thought that stops you is but what would my family think? My response to that is who cares? They don't live your life and you don't have to become just like them. Sometimes the things that they do serve them and they don't serve you. You're a different person, so their advice and their opinion may have worked at one point for them, but now it no longer works for you. What if the things that you want from life are some things that they've never had, how can they help you then? How can they give you guidance if they've never been where you want to go? It doesn't work.
Speaker 1:So in this scenario, in this perspective, in this topic, in this conversation I emphasize on this you are an individual and you get to live your own life. Family is a blessing. Sometimes it's a curse. How family affects you is up to you. If you are young and listening to this, sure, you are very malleable, you are very easily influenced. Because you are young, you don't know much. But if you are listening toalleable, you are very easily influenced. Because you're young, you don't know much. But if you are listening to this as a full-grown adult and you are not happy with who you are ask yourself well, where did I get these domestications from? Where did I learn to think like this? Where did I learn to speak like this and why isn't it serving me and how can I change it? Moving forward, a simple conversation like that will change the direction of your life, I guarantee it.
Speaker 1:I love my family. I'll emphasize on that. I love my family and it's only growing and getting stronger and better, and I am so grateful, but I got to observe a lot of things from my own family that I was not happy with. That I didn't like that. Until this day I disagree with and they know that because I've spoken about it. But in that, disagreement doesn't mean I cut off, doesn't mean I judge it, doesn't mean I belittle or embarrass my family. Instead, I took it upon myself to observe the things that I don't like and say that ends with me. If I don't like that, my family is overweight. I won't be overweight. If I don't like that, my family's overweight. I won't be overweight. If I don't like that, my family doesn't have a lot of financial knowledge. Therefore, they never reached financial freedom. I will do the opposite of that and I would do my absolute best to reach that so I can give my family, my bloodline, something to strive for when I'm no longer here.
Speaker 1:That's a responsibility that you have and too often I hear people saying things of this nature like, well, I'm doing this, but only because my mother wants me to, or only because my family wants me to, or I'm not happy doing this, but I'm still doing it, despite me hating it, because my family told me to and even though I respect loyalty, loyalty at the cost of being an individual soul is not worth it to me. I don't want to be loyal at the expense of losing my authentic self. Right, because now you'll just be presenting yourself as somebody who you know you don't want to be, but you've allowed yourself to be simply because your family told you so. That's not a way to live. That leads to one of my biggest fears, which is a life filled with regret. Sure, they may be your family, sure, they may have good intentions, but at the end of the day, that doesn't mean that you need to listen to them 100%. It doesn't mean there's a saying that goes like this just because somebody loves you doesn't mean they give you good advice, and that is true even with this topic.
Speaker 1:You have a responsibility as an individual to observe the things that have served your family, copy them and continue moving them forward. But you also have a bigger responsibility to observe the things that your family has done wrong and have not served them, and make sure that you don't repeat them moving forward, because, if not, you will just become another wheel in the cog, you will just become another generational curse, and then your children will be born and because you never made effort into becoming better, you now pass down those curses to your children and your children will pass it down to your grandchildren and your life, even though I'm sure it was meaningful, didn't serve the purpose of time in regards to because you existed. Moving forward, people will get better. Don't become a copy and paste of your family. You as an individual are better than that. No-transcript.
