Compounding Daily

EP153- Emotions Don’t Get To Drive

• Miguel Sanchez • Episode 153

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The difference between a good week and a spiraling one often comes down to a single decision: react, or reflect? This episode breaks down emotional control as a real-life superpower—not something to perfect, but something to train. A tense payment dispute from the plumbing business could have turned ugly, but instead became a lesson in communication, boundaries, and long-term thinking. A small financial loss turned into a filter for who gets access—and proof that calm logic beats hot reactions when things feel personal.


The conversation digs into habits that build steadiness: pausing before responding, writing to process triggers, and owning what’s actually in your control. It exposes the hidden cost of impulsive decisions—burned bridges, missed chances, damaged reputation—and shows how de-escalation protects trust and creates opportunity. If bad moods, rude people, or online noise ever hijack your focus, this is a roadmap back to control. Blame gets replaced with ownership. Conflict becomes feedback. Boundaries protect both kindness and standards.


The takeaway is simple: thoughts will come, but reaction is the lever. Choose observation over explosion and better choices follow—at work, at home, and online. Clarify expectations. Document agreements. Step back when someone shows who they are. Progress beats perfection, and small wins compound.


So the real question is this:

When emotions show up, who’s driving—habit, or intention?


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Welcome back everybody to Compounding Daily. I'm your host, Miguel Sanchez, episode 153. We are here, and today I want to get right into it. I always cover the things that are important to me. So, first and foremost, thank you. Thank you for being here. Thank you for spending what I consider what are one of our most valuable assets with me, which is your time. And secondly, of course, and not in my own opinion, any less important. The reminder that a a good week is dependent on how you approach the week. And just because it's Monday morning, just because it's cold, just because you may not be where you wish to be, surrounded by people you may not want to be surrounded by doing things you don't want to be doing, that doesn't mean that you have to do it all with a bad attitude. So make sure that it's the beginning of the new week. And with that new week, you make sure that you are entertaining a positive conversation internally. So in reflection, you can spread that positivity to the people that come across you, and you don't become one of those miserable individuals that doesn't enjoy life simply because you are allowing your negative conversation internally to dictate your attitude and how you feel. And excuse me, ironically, today is is an episode exactly about that about gaining what I consider a superpower, a superpower that I don't think can be mastered, but I believe a superpower that if practiced long enough you definitely get better at. Understand something in this category, even I don't consider myself to be uh achieving the the level of success that I want to because uh it it's one of those things where you think you got yourself in check and then something else happens, and in that something else happening, your emotional state of being is always going to be tested, and I want to emphasize on that, right? Because uh I can't speak for you, but I can speak for my own experience. And at one point in my life, emotions is exactly the only way that I dictated what I was going to do with my day and my actions. If I woke up and I felt shitty and and my emotions were having a conversation reminding me of my incompetence, of my laziness, of my lack of success, of my lack of money, and and that is the the thoughts that were harboring my mind. Emotionally, how do you think I was feeling about myself, my day, my life, and everything in general? Not good at all. So emotionally, I allowed those thoughts to dictate my emotional state of being, and now because of those emotions, I am left in a sour mood, I don't show up for the things I said I was going to, I may ruin the day of somebody else, and and it's it's one of those things where the longer you go without being able to control, the more opportunities are going to pass you up, simply because opportunities cannot be taken advantage of if you are not cool, calm, and collected, if you are not in a uh uh observation kind of mentality where you observe things and you don't react to them, you logically think and you see step one, step two, step three. And I share this with you today because as always, I speak from my own life, and I uh at at my current moment as I'm working on getting the business established for my plumbing business, and as I'm uh going out into the world and meeting new characters, different kinds of people, listen, majority of the people are great, but I've run into some sour apples, I've run into people who have tested me, who have tested my emotional state of being. And I remember at once where my emotional state of being was only reaction, which means in this same scenario that I'm using here with lack of detail, so I'm not you know um uh diminishing somebody else in in this world, but you know, in this scenario, uh uh a my lack of communication led me to a point where I now was uh at a financial loss for work that was already completed. Um, and the conversation turned into one of well, you know, I just thought that that was too much and I'm not gonna pay, blah blah blah blah. The old me would emotionally react to that and immediately just pop the cover, right? Just lose my shit. Like, whoa, whoa, whoa, that's not how it works. Where's my money? I'm ripping the plumbing back off the wall, blah, blah, blah. That's not how it works, you know. And where do you think I would be? Where do you think my plumbing business would go? Should I be that kind of person? The kind of person that when things don't go their way, the kind of person that when it's a little things get a little, uh, what's the word that I'm looking for? Confrontational. Instead of uh de-escalating the situation, I just add fuel to the fire and I just start losing my shit. Well, where do where do you think that leads me as a business owner, as somebody who wants to help people, as somebody who is, you know, working on this platform? Do you think that leads me to a place of success, a place of achievement, a place of like, wow, look at what I've created? Or do you see how many opportunities would pass me up if I was the person emotionally unstable, simply reacting to the negativity around me and adding fuel to it? It would, I would be in a whole different perspective. But instead, instead of allowing my emotions to get the best of me, I look for the lessons in these things. I tell myself, learn the lesson, Miguel, and never repeat this mistake. What went wrong here? If what went wrong is within your control, the only negative emotion you should be having is towards yourself because you need to be held responsible for your lack of communication and or understanding in business. That's a lesson to learn. When before, uh the same exact scenario would have been a scenario where I'm now getting into an argument with somebody because I'm arguing about what's fair, what's not fair, what I thought was right, what I what I was expecting, when in reality I didn't communicate these things. It's a far-fetched example, but it's a real example that I'm literally experiencing as we speak. This this happened last week. And it's easy for me to say, like, well, you know, just think positive and emotion, you know, positive emotions will stem from that, which then means you make positive decisions. It sounds so simple, and I hate to say it, it's simple to say, but it's one of those things that is harder to do. But it's just like everything in life, everything that you repeat becomes easier through time. So why not make it a priority to understand that you don't have to be a slave to your emotions, you don't have to wake up and say, I'm thinking shitty, so I feel shitty, so therefore the rest of my day is shitty because I'm gonna act out shitty decisions. That doesn't need to be the case. You sometimes, most times, cannot control a thought that comes into your mind. But what you can control is your reaction to it and whether or not that thought starts uh manifesting a seed, and then you start watering that seed, all of that is within your control. So take it from somebody who at one point was threatened to be sent to anger management in my time in service, right? And and take it from me that it's worth the hard work that it's required. I did it through the form of journaling, I did it through the form of acceptance, and by acceptance, I mean I accepted that I was just out of control. I accepted that I was not in control, I accepted that when things went bad in my mind, I had to vocalize that. I accepted that when somebody would push a button, I accepted that when somebody would say something negative about me, I wouldn't think and then react. I would only react. And in that reaction, I lost friends, I got into arguments, I got into discussions that led me to build resentment towards people, and as I got older, I understood, wow, what difference could I have made in all of these different circumstances if I simply acknowledged that my emotions were not serving a better me, and instead of allowing them to dictate decisions, I thought a little bit cooler and calmer, a little bit more logical, a little bit more understanding, a little bit more accountable of my own decisions, and I would promise you right now be in a completely different place in my life. It's something that I don't regret, but it's something that I hold at one of the most valuable lessons I learned as I continue to grow, especially because listen, you're never gonna get to a point where you are uh never being tested. The only way you're ever gonna do that is if you isolate yourself in the comfort of your four walls, put yourself in the corner, and have everything delivered to you, and you just don't step out into the world. And even then, through social media, you can still be pushed and uh uh tested. So make it a priority in your life, or don't, and just allow your emotions to dictate what you do with your life, which in my opinion is just gonna lead you to a life of regret, right? So don't do that. And what I recommend is set some time aside. Buy a journal, talk to yourself about yourself. When you are angry, don't go to Facebook and post a status about it. When you are angry, acknowledge the anger, observe the anger, ask yourself like a therapist would, where is this anger coming from? Why am I so angry? Why am I so hostile? And the initial thoughts will maybe like, well, because so and so said this, well, because so and so expects this and wants this and the right again. As long as you're having those thoughts, guess what you're doing? You're fueling the fire, you're pointing the finger, right? You're not taking accountability. At the end of the day, you can't control others or their negative circumstances, you can't control others or their negative attitudes. You can control your reaction to those kind of people, and you can control how much time you spend around those type of people, and most importantly, what you can't control is your reaction when inevitably those forms of people start pushing your buttons and tarts testing what they consider weakness to be uh what they consider a weakness to be your kindness, right? Because that's how I feel. Sometimes I'm like, man, maybe being too nice is putting me in positions to be walked over. But do I really look like the kind of person that could be walked over? Well, listen, sometimes in this scenario, in this specific circumstance, I took a few hundred dollar uh to a few hundred dollar loss, right? And maybe in the different perspective, oh yeah, he let me get away with it. He you know, I got I got I got out of it and and I I was able to save money. But from my perspective, you know, I learned a lesson. A three hundred dollar lesson. And in that lesson, I learned that owed me would have emotionally just blew a cap. I would have been pissed. I would have been showing up to the house, knocking on the door, yo, where's my money? Blah blah blah. And now as I'm thinking, I'm like, why would I do that? For$300, I was able to discover a human being who I want no part in my life whatsoever. In my opinion, a good lesson to learn early, right? Instead of going deeper and deeper into a relationship that wouldn't be turning into anything fruitful for me or the other individual. So that being said, that's all I have today. Um I've been planning on getting more people onto the show, uh, new faces, new stories, new perspectives, uh, and life has just been getting ahead of me. The last thing that I considered myself was a business owner, and now as I'm working on operating and opening one, and everything's going very slow, by the way. So don't listen to this and be like, wow, like he's doing it. Believe me, I'm a human being, and what I'm learning every single day, especially with the decisions I've been making lately, is that I have so much to learn. And what I do is I always go back to the foundation of things. And the foundation of things is very simple. The foundation of things is focusing on the things that are within my control that can lead me to make better decisions despite the negativity that I may be experiencing because of others. When you focus on those values and that perspective and the things that are within your control, without a doubt, even in the face of temptation, even in the face of difficulties and anger and a lack of emotional control, guess what? You make good decisions, don't underestimate or take for granted the powers you have within your control. And at the top of that power is your emotional reaction to things. Sure, you can't control a negative thought that comes into your mind, but you control what comes after it. And if your emotions tell you to go do something bad, and you don't even think about it, you just go and do it. You, my friend, don't have emotional control, and you will not get far in life if that is how you operate. So instead, observe yourself, think before you act, and make better decisions physically, spiritually, and most of all, emotionally. Thank you, and until next time.

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