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A Little Alignment
The Gift of Friendship | Shared Paths to Self-Discovery and Mutual Evolution
Have you ever noticed how the energy of the room shifts when a particular friend walks in? Our latest heart-to-heart delves into just how crucial it is to have friends who lift us up and bolster our goals, especially as we embark on a new year filled with fresh aspirations. We're peeling back the layers of friendship dynamics, celebrating the depth and diversity they bring to our lives, without putting the pressure on any one person to be our everything.
The truth is and I think you and I can both speak to this from experience when you open yourself up and let people in on your dreams, on your struggles and the challenges that you're going through, your heartbreak, on all of it, you just like in on you and who you are and what you desire, it's a total game changer. I mean, it's the support that does help us to go farther, to heal deeper. Welcome to A Little Alignment. If you enjoy what you hear today, if you gain some value from our episode, please leave us a good rating and review at the end. Every single review counts. It really does make a difference. We would appreciate it with all our hearts. We're so glad you all are here with us, helping us create a little more alignment in the world.
Speaker 2:Well, hello everybody. Today we're going to talk about something fun. We're talking about friendships, friends for dinner.
Speaker 1:For dinner, I don't know. Did you ever watch the Lamb before time? Yeah, that was like the second one and he was a T-Rex. Oh, I don't think I've seen the second one. His parents were like have your friends over for dinner. Wink, wink, wink. And he thought they were coming over to eat dinner, but so it's kind of a funny song because they're dinosaurs. For dinner and he's going to eat them, but he's not going to, Anyway this is not an episode about cannibalism.
Speaker 2:This isn't an episode about friendship, but it's an important one because it came to me at a time where I really needed my friends and it was so apparent to me how important these people are in my life. And it's also funny there's always themes between what's happening with myself or what's happening with my clients, and I feel like there are little pings from the universe saying this is important, it needs to be shared or just acknowledged more, so that's why we're talking about it today.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and it's now the new year and we were talking about something we could share, that could be supportive, because there is a lot of people who really capitalize this time of year on newness and starting new things and setting intentions and all that good stuff, and we were talking about how there's so many things to talk about as far as how you can be, just support yourself and set yourself up to achieve the things that you want. Become the person you want to become, and one thing that we just both feel hasn't been talked about enough in this arena is the people that you spend time with.
Speaker 1:Oh, yeah, and really aligning that really intentionally? Which sounds I think I hear myself say it sounds cold and calculated, to some extent Like I'm going to choose my friends to help me accomplish my goals, and that's not exactly what I mean or what we mean no, but it is important to be intentional about the people you surround yourself with. Right, because it makes a huge difference, exactly, and to understand how big of a difference. So let's talk about it.
Speaker 2:It's interesting because we all go through different phases of life, which we're going to talk a little bit about, the permission to grow out of friendships. But there's always a point in time where you might start to notice, oh my gosh, I really wish there were more people around me doing blank, or I just feel like nobody understands me. And those are the key moments that kind of are indicating to you that it's time to shift the people that you're spending your most time with, because you're just not getting that inspiration or support that, maybe, is what you need to continue forward in the direction you want. And we've said it so many times and people always talk about how you're the sum of the five people you spend the most time with, and it's so true because it shapes your perspective around what's possible, around what you feel is acceptable. What you're even just thinking about and talking about, like your experiences are just completely shaped by the people you talk to the most.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and what's time with? Also the energetic quality of this. You know just how a person is they're being, the way that they express and experience the world, just the way that they transmute life through themselves. You know you can be with people and not say a word, not do a thing, and you still can walk away like man. That was time well spent, like I feel better just being around that person.
Speaker 3:Or inspired.
Speaker 1:Yeah, they're energy, exactly, and so, yeah, it is important.
Speaker 1:And to your point about growing friendships, I think that there's you're not limited to a certain number of friends.
Speaker 1:It's not like OK, well, now you're not feeling which. I have a good friend who we became friends, closer friends, because her closest circle of friends were not really into personal development or spirituality and she was starting to get into that and she was finding herself like I don't have a friend that I can really connect with about this, and so we just started chatting about stuff really organically, because obviously this is my cup of tea and hers too now, and so we developed a really organic, authentic friendship because of having this in common and really valuing this in friendships, like this part of it. And she still has those other friends, right, she hasn't just been like oh, I've outgrown you in every single way because you don't feel every single need for me. Now I'm going to move on to someone else and treat it like that way, but more so reaching out, having different friends in different arenas, or realizing that there's not a person or even one group of people that is meant to fill every single one of your needs 100%.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's kind of like how we know that there's that one friend that you can go to who's just going to have your back, no matter what the dead body friend.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:Can you help me out a dead body and they'll be like yes.
Speaker 1:Where do we need to go?
Speaker 2:Yeah, or like oh my god, someone's pissing me off, like, OK, let's go get them yeah.
Speaker 1:I'm already taking earrings off and rolling my sleeves up. Let's do it.
Speaker 2:As if we would ever, but in our heads we're really really hard asses, Definitely in my head.
Speaker 1:I am, oh, me too, for sure.
Speaker 2:There's the other friend who will give you the news, like the perspective you need to hear, whether you like it or not. Like they'll give you the real talk, and I really appreciate those too. There's the friends that you go to to just support you regardless of what's happening. There's the friends who are going to give you the perspective that you need. And then there's also, like, the friends who support certain hobbies that you're doing or things you're trying to get into that might be completely different than something else you have going on in your life. So I think it's asking too much of any one person to be that one and everything for you and really, really nice to have people who are different in your life and can provide you with different perspectives.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and it just happens really organically. Like I don't think that it really is the right move to say, ok, well, I want someone in my life who's like this, so I'm going to go find someone who's like this. It's you and I were talking, before we started recording, about how this is so similar to dating. Yeah, in a lot of different ways, but in this respect, it's the best way to attract the friends that will be the most inspiring to you is to do the things that inspire you and to become a good, inspiring friend and to just kind of follow that. Like my friend who we connected over spirituality and personal development, she just continued to fall in love with it and we would send each other TikToks about on the topic of all that and we'd just chat about it. There was no like I'll tear your motive of like I want to be friends, right, like that was the mission.
Speaker 2:That was the mission. What do we do now to become friends?
Speaker 1:Yeah, no, it was just just live your life in a way, doing things that inspire you and open yourself up to the people who you rub shoulders with when you're doing those things or when you're in those places.
Speaker 2:Yes, yeah, I think that's like such a good point to make, because immediately, when we say, make sure that you surround yourself with the five people that are that you are the sum of the five people, people's thoughts are like oh God, okay, so then where do I find the ones that are right for me? So this is how, like, just do the things that you want to do and you will find other people who are also doing those things. And I think, like this is also where the law of attraction is like very real and the energy plays a role in just like bringing you towards the people that are aligned with you. So this also is like a little shout out to being the best version of you, so that you can attract what it is that you want in a friend, you know, and same thing happens like with a partner. If you're trying to reestablish those five peeps in your life, just be really intentional about where you're spending time and what you're doing in your own energy, and it's going to happen, yeah.
Speaker 1:And I think, too, you know the concept of the five people. You know the sum total of the five people that you spend the most time with. It doesn't necessarily mean that you have to have new people or rearrange, but just to recognize how you're showing up in your friendships and how your friendships are showing up for you, or like maybe it's. You know you're like hey guys, I'm not really interested in talking shit about people anymore, like if that's all you do with your friends is just like gossip and talk shit. And you're like I, you know, maybe let's read a book together. I don't know that's. You're probably not going to tell your friends let's read a book together, maybe you will I would.
Speaker 1:I would say like just be be honest, like this isn't something that's working for me anymore and maybe your friendships can evolve with you. You could be the lighthouse in a friendship, or yes, or they'd be like oh or or just even truly naturally, you'll, you'll drift apart.
Speaker 2:That's what I think. I think that that's what kind of happens, cause I think back to some of, like, some friendships that I had that were really great, and it's not that anything ever really went wrong per se. Yeah, and it kind of naturally evolved into different directions and I mean, I have no problem contacting or getting back in touch with them. You know, our lives just kind of landed in different places.
Speaker 1:A great example of this is like our party friends oh yeah, we all had our party friends and we loved them.
Speaker 1:I mean I'm still friends with my party friends you know, but when I stopped wanting to like party as much and we hear this happening a lot when you stop wanting to drink every weekend or party and you really kind of clean up your life in that sense or whatever However you want to put it, um, then you may not hang out with those people as much because they may not have the same goal as you, they may not have the same intention as you of how to live their life and so naturally, you're going to spend less time with each other.
Speaker 1:but it doesn't mean that you're not friends. It's just evolved into a different type of friendship. So, anyway, I think the main point of this part of the conversation is it can be this kid. This should be organic, I think it just be, just be, Be and do your best and you know, have desires and open yourself up to them and put yourself in situations where you can realize them and everything will flow in and out of your life the way that it's meant to, to support you the best.
Speaker 2:Just be conscious of the fact that you have an opportunity to shift things for yourself, because I think a lot of times, too, people will feel guilty and like, oh well, what if I? If I don't do this, then you know, then they're going to think I'm this or that or whatever and it's like hey, this is your life. We're going to totally dive into people pleasing on our next episode, but this is like a little like a little path into that. But you're the owner of your life and if you feel like you're unsupported in some way, this is a really important place to look as the people you're surrounding yourself with, which is another reason why this episode is something we thought was important, because so many people really just do need support.
Speaker 2:And it's unfortunate, I think, that, like a lot of times, when you hear about really tragic things happening, with either someone experiencing like severe depression or even like taking their own lives and stuff, you hear about the fact that they felt unsupported or they felt really lonely or they just didn't have anybody to turn to, and that like breaks my heart, because I would do anything to support somebody. You know, and I think that's the most beautiful part of friendship is that you have someone to confide in. You know, and I mean, we're human beings and really one of the biggest and strongest of our desires is to connect with others. When you're isolated, it's so against just our basic needs that it really really impacts how you feel and how you perceive everything around you. So friendships are like, they're fun and you know you get so much out of just like you know, hanging out or doing things together, but they really serve such a deep and important. You know they are so, so, so important to like even your health and well-being.
Speaker 1:Absolutely. I mean, there's two parts of this isolation thing like and who you surround yourself with. Because, also, if you have big dreams or even just something that's so special to you and so important to you that you want to realize in your life, and or even just a way that you want to live, and you, the people that you're around, mock it, make fun of it, don't support it, that's going to affect your ability to you know, step into that life, oh yeah, it's totally going to hold you back.
Speaker 1:But then also, this is such a cliche. But the thing about cliches is I love them because they are cliche for a reason, because there's such there's like universal truth in them, and one of them is if you wanna go fast, go alone. If you wanna go far, go together. So it is, I think, feel, safer to do things alone, sometimes Right To isolate yourself in your, especially if you're hurting.
Speaker 1:Or if you are going after something that you're not sure is gonna happen. You know, like if I just do it alone, then I don't. I won't open myself up to feel embarrassed or to feel rejected. But the truth is and I think you and I can both speak to this from experience, specific experiences when you open yourself up and just let yourself be vulnerable a little bit and let people in on your dreams, on your struggles and the challenges that you're going through, your heartbreak, on all of it, you just like in on you and who you are and what you desire, it's a total game changer. I mean, it's the support that does help us to go farther, to heal deeper.
Speaker 2:Yeah, cause friends offer so much Like. I mean, even as you're talking about this, I think about this podcast, like starting it and doing it. I remember like asking you, would you wanna do it? Like would you be like maybe interested in doing it with me? It felt a little vulnerable, cause you could have totally been like. And then I was like I don't want her to feel weird if she really doesn't wanna do this with me or whatever, but there's so much more that we've created together. That has been really awesome because we have these two different perspectives and the same perspectives too. But it's way more fun, god, we have way more fun.
Speaker 2:I mean I don't like just. I mean even just when we recorded like our own little intros and outros and stuff by ourselves, I was like this is boring, talking to just a mic. But when I'm having a conversation with Kendra, this is amazing. But I tend to be somebody who's like very social and like thrives off of being without the humans. But, that being said, I think that still, even the more what's it called when you're not a people person but you go more inward? Oh my God, introverted yes, introverted which I can be that way. Yeah, I have introverted tendencies. There you go.
Speaker 2:The words are kind of hard today. Even still, I think for those people, connection is important because we all go through things as humans and just vocalizing or sharing those things is so key in your own process of healing or opening up some awareness. But then also hearing someone else's perspective Like there's been times where I'm like in my mind, based on what I've been thinking about, I'm positive, I know what's going on, and then I'll share it with a friend and they will give me their perspective and I'm like, oh, hold on, maybe I don't have this figured out. And that opens the doors for so much more growth and there's just so much value in that because you really also trust the opinion of those people. So I think that friends have the ability to help you really really grow and expand.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, here's the thing too Having friends that will challenge you, I think, is really that's a special friendship, that's a good friendship and getting to the point where you're open to that and know that they know you.
Speaker 1:I mean, that takes some time and some vulnerability and being open and just really sharing who you are and what you want, and all of it in your background. But once you get to the point where you have a friend who knows you and then is willing to challenge you and say, like, is that really what you want? Is that really how you feel? Well, kendra, last time you were in the situation, this is what happened. Remember that and you're like, oh, you're right, it's so valuable. I mean, especially if you are somebody who wants to grow, evolve, live very intentionally, live with very much on purpose, to have friends to help anchor you in that purpose and not just take your side on everything, which sometimes we do need.
Speaker 2:I think you need both friends.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I mean it's nice to have both. We can be both of those for each other. You gotta read the room for sure, but just knowing that you have a friend that will challenge you, I think, is so it's so important. Yeah, I have sidestepped probably some situations that would have been not what I wanted, I'll just put it that way Not at all what I wanted, because my friends were willing to challenge me and my own little inner dialogue that I was just like barfing out to them, Like I'm a queen of voice notes.
Speaker 1:And you know what's funny? Aside from you, all of my closest friendships are miles away from here.
Speaker 1:Like they don't live here, and so, yeah, there's so many options for facilitating deep, profound friendships. You know, going on my walks and I voice note and I pour my heart into these voice notes and just to be able to A, b, c, to be then understood and then also to be challenged, if I'm up for it, which you and I both will do this too, like, hey, are you up for reflection on this or do you just need me to listen? I love that.
Speaker 2:We ask each other that because there's very real times where we just are looking for one or the other.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like just hear me. Maybe tomorrow we can reflect we can reflect.
Speaker 2:Not ready, yet, not ready, I just need you to hear me on this.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I just need someone to be pissed with me. I need the dead body friend right now. And one more thing, too, on that not every friend is meant to fill every role for you. I remember Earlier on in my marriage I talked to I was talking to somebody for help with my mental health and my also goals and all that, and I had mentioned that I was having a hard time sharing absolutely every detail with my husband and feeling like he filled every role for me and she was like, oh, that's because he's not supposed to Like. Our partners are also included in this conversation.
Speaker 2:They are our partners.
Speaker 1:They are number one, but they're also not meant to fill every role and it's absolutely unfair to expect them to, or to expect ourselves to, and to get jealous when they go to a friend and open up to a friend about something that they didn't tell us Like sometimes.
Speaker 1:Sometimes we need that friend who we can just, like I say, barf everything, really get it out of my mind before I talk to my husband or to another friend or to a boss or to a colleague, so that I can really hear myself say it out loud and have my friend challenge what needs to be challenged and process it and, among other things, like my husband doesn't really. There's some things my husband just doesn't care about. He doesn't care about astrology, he doesn't care about you know, he's like all right, whatever. When I want to geek out about it, I'm like all right, well, I'm not gonna talk to you about this, yeah, so yeah, expecting somebody to fill every role for you, even your life partner, is unfair and it's unrealistic it is, and it's unfortunate because I think a lot of people actually have that, this expectation that their partner's supposed to be that.
Speaker 2:But you're setting yourself up for disappointment and you're gonna constantly think that the relationship is lacking because you have this really unrealistic expectation set for this person and it's just not fair.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and I think, even if they, even if you do find that your husband or your wife or your partner is your very best friend and you really do want to tell them literally everything, it is still important to have friendships. You know, I think there's something really special about female friends, like women with women friends and men with men friends. I'm sure there's something important about the other. I don't know. I'm not gonna speak to it because I don't really have a strong opinion there. But my female friendships, you know there's something about that that's important and so like vitalizing, revitalizing. That just fills something in me that I need, you know.
Speaker 2:Well, it's always because, like when you think about it, going back to connection, there's things that we experience that are just different. Right Cause I fully consider Rob my best friend, but also, as a woman, I experience all kinds of things that he's never going to experience, just you know, even physically and emotionally, and stuff that he'll be supportive. You know He'll always like have my back to the best of his abilities. But if I was to share that same information with you, you're like, oh my God, I've been there or I get it, and then this is what I do, and blah, blah, blah. Right, there's just a different level of connection there. So, yeah, you just have to appreciate what all these different people can bring to your life and not expect anything, everything from one.
Speaker 1:Well, on that note, I would love to hear from you, like a specific experience about how friendship really came in clutch for you, helped you in a way that is invaluable to you.
Speaker 2:You know, I feel like it's I mean, probably like many people, when you go through something really challenging, it makes you take a look at what you have and really really find the gratitude in it and like a really challenging time and I've talked about this a lot but was losing Toby, my dog, and he was like my little best friend, that we did everything together and he was my one constant in life. He's my baby, I mean, he was everything for me. And towards the end I had a friend, specifically her name's Bethany, and actually you asked me the same thing too, I think, and with both of y'all saying it, I was like whoa.
Speaker 2:Y'all asked how can I support you when he passes? And I was like, oh, you know, between like Rob or like my family, it's like I didn't wanna say like when he passes, like we all knew it was gonna happen, but we hadn't actually said like those words. And so hearing somebody ask me like what I was gonna need, and also allowing me to ponder that outcome in a way that was like, hey, there's gonna be this after point where you need something and how can I support you? In that I was like, oh my God, like this is incredible, because it's given me the opportunity to think past what's happening right now, you know, and like the pain of it, but also showing me that I have people who care so much that they just really wanna know how they can support me.
Speaker 2:I mean, it was like one of the hardest things I went through for a while because it was a process, but knowing that I had people that were gonna support me, like literally right there, waiting, was like the most amazing thing and that I could be honest about how I was feeling, because to some people who maybe don't have a dog or somebody, that's like an animal. You're like, oh, whatever, she's losing an animal or a pet or whatever. This was like losing my son. Okay, it wasn't like losing. I don't even call it, like I don't consider Toby or Bear pets. Some people consider their animals or whatever pets, but we consider them our children.
Speaker 1:Yeah, the relationship is different. I think that you can have a pet and then you can have a literal fur child, and if that's not how you treat your pets then you might not understand it.
Speaker 2:But there's a real oh, there's like a crazy bond there A familial love. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:Also, knowing that I could be vulnerable and sharing, like the depth of my pain and it not being judged, was really important To speak to grief, because that is really something we'll all experience multiple times in our life and it's something that we really need support in to get through, yes, and to not only have the friends that will let you just grieve as long as you need to and not ever feel embarrassed about like I still need to keep talking about this, I still need to be sad and I'm happy right now and it's okay that I'm happy, and then tomorrow I'm not happy and I need to be sad again.
Speaker 1:and for them to just flow with you, but also to be that friend, right, let the people around you just grieve the way that they need to grieve. They might not grieve the way that you grieve, it might take a long time, but be the friend. Be the friend who can really hold that space of grieving. It's a hard space to hold. It's really uncomfortable.
Speaker 2:Yeah, because you have that for me, knowing the value of somebody accepting me, going from ah, we're laughing, Like even like you came over afterwards and we're laughing, but then it's like I get hit with a wave and I'll just start crying again, but being accepted for the fact that I did both within a matter of minutes, you know or just being like, okay, I wanna talk about this now and, like you can, in my mind there could be a moment where I'm like, oh God, I'm gonna sound like a broken record or she's not gonna wanna hear about the time that Toby like pulled all of the beef jerky out of the bag.
Speaker 3:Yes, I did yes, I do.
Speaker 2:She just wanna hear all this stuff, but then like being able to sink into it and allow for yourself to become vulnerable and just show up. However you show up is the value of friendship, because I knew I was gonna get that support, regardless of what it was that I was experiencing in that moment, which is such a beautiful thing, like not being afraid of allowing what's real for you to be something that holds you back from just fully sharing.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I feel like you've been. You've inspired me in that way. I feel like you are really good at that. You're good at allowing people in the ones that you trust to like really see what you're going through and that can be really hard, but there's really no way to fake that. There's no way around developing deep, meaningful relationships without letting people in.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:You have to let them in, you have to give them the chance to support you, and that could be emotionally, it could be physically, it could be mentally, but allowing people to help you is part of what develops these friendships that we're talking about, these ideal friendships.
Speaker 2:It's true that it can be really challenging to want to allow yourself to be that vulnerable. Like I know, I've talked to a lot of people who have felt like, oh no, that's not safe, it's just not who I am, it's not what I do. But I think that, like, I invite you to just try it. You don't have to go all in, just dive into the deep end or anything, but start testing the waters to see what happens when you start to open up to people more deeply, because the more vulnerable you are with someone, you will see that they see you doing it and they will then be that vulnerable with you as well, and that's what builds a really, really strong connection.
Speaker 2:And I think I mean to what you're saying, like you admire me for being vulnerable, but I admire you for creating the space for me to do it. You know what I mean Cause that's part of what it is too is like making somebody feel safe enough to be able to share those things. So, again, it's just like Be intentional about the people you surround yourself with, because if you're feeling like, okay, there's nobody that I could really do that with right now, number one, maybe you can, you know, and you might actually have a better friend and somebody close to you than you even realize because you haven't Really opened up to the full extent that you could. Or just like we're saying, just start living life more in alignment with the way that you Want to become and you're gonna start to attract the people that will create that kind of space for you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I mean, developing and maintaining Strong friendships is a skill and, just like anything else, you have to get a little bit uncomfortable to grow right like and it's just Uncomfortable enough, like it might start with, you know, not apologizing for being human with a friend. That might, that might be just like one tiny little uncomfortable enough, like I'm not gonna Apologize for asking for help, I'm not gonna apologize for looking like a hot mess today. I'm not gonna apologize. You know what I mean. I'm just going to show up and trust that they're gonna love me. It might, you know, you might take a bigger step and say, hey, there's something that I've been really keeping to myself, that I really need someone to just help. You know, be a witness to Either way, it's it, you know it will require some level of uncomfortability, but it's like, like anything else, it was right on the other side of your comfort zone or what is what. You know, what feels safe is everything that you deeply want.
Speaker 2:Yeah yeah yeah, there's a lot of beauty on the other side of fear.
Speaker 1:There is Fear and friendships too. I love when I came over today, she's like what are we recording again? And I was like friendships. And she's like oh yeah, the same way I love. I think you and I are both very lucky If that's the word, that's what I'll use for this lucky that we have always had really good friends.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 1:I think we've both always been really good friends. I think we also both operate really well in Friendships and something that we rely on and just kind of organically, naturally, and I'm really grateful for that, and so, oh, yeah, me too, I hope, and I've seen in my life so many ways like I can't even think of a single Example to share because they all feel so equally important, but so many ways where I've had friendships to support me, friendships to push me and challenge me, friendships to, like, help me literally pull my head out of my ass, more friendships to remind me that I'm perfect, exactly how I am, you know, yeah, there is something. So not just valuable, because we're talking a lot about the value of friendship, but just beautiful and pleasurable, about experiencing this friendship and and being able to participate in that, and so yeah, anyway, to have a friend, but also to be a friend exactly.
Speaker 2:Yeah what a cool, cool part of this human life Exactly.
Speaker 1:I know, and something that we talked about Before this was if we were here to do all of the things, like the learning and the growing, alone, then we would be having this experience alone. But we're not. We're here together, which implies a necessity of togetherness and doing this as a collective right. In fact, there's a song that I love that just came to my mind, so I'm gonna just read the say the lyrics I've listened to so many times. I sent it to you. Yeah, I sent it to you. It's a beautiful song by Ben Platt, who's just stupid. His voice just makes me want to just never sing again. No, that's not true. I'd like he makes me want to sing more because he's such a beautiful thing. But the song it goes. Who says it's true that the growing only happens on your own? I don't think you have to leave. If to change is what you need, you can change right next to me, when you're high. I'll take the low, you can ebb and I can flow, and we'll take it slow and grow as we go.
Speaker 2:Oh.
Speaker 1:I love that. I do too, and I think that that is is such a sweet element of friendship. But, like yeah, do it alone. You don't have to leave, you know, you just have to.
Speaker 2:Let me grow with you and that's the, the allowing of the vulnerability, yeah, and it strengthens everything, but it's so cool and I like. What I like about that those lyrics too is that so often I think that we're afraid to change Because we think we're gonna Leave somebody behind or someone's gonna leave us behind. But who's to say that you guys can't change together?
Speaker 2:Yeah or who's to say that maybe you guys do just need to kind of go in a little bit of a different direction. But it doesn't mean any last of the time that you did have together, right or your friendship or relationship just shifts, right. Yeah, oh love that Bring that in. I think that's so sweet.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'll put um, maybe for fun. I've never we've noted in this before, but this song is so gorgeous, maybe I'll put it on the end of this and people can listen to it at the end of the Ben Platt and he's so beautiful.
Speaker 2:Oh, really, yes, okay my first game and I've been in love with. Oh no, I mean, there's so many gorgeous ones that would never be the first, hello.
Speaker 1:OK, ok. Well, while we digress, I love you friends, I love you.
Speaker 2:Thanks for being here with me, thanks for being my friend.
Speaker 1:Yeah, ok, we're going to just cry and hug now.
Speaker 2:OK, bye, bye.
Speaker 3:You say there's so much you don't know you need to go and find yourself. You say you'd rather be alone Because you think you won't find it tied to someone else. Ooh said it's true that the growing only happens on your own. They don't know me and you. I don't think you have to leave. If the change is what you need, you can change right next to me, when you're high. I'll take the lows, you can ebb and I can flow, and we'll take it slow and grow as we go, grow as we go. You won't be the only one. I am unfinished. I've got so much left to learn. I don't know how this will ever end, but I'd like the company through every twist and turn. Ooh said it's true that the growing only happens on your own. They don't know me and you. You don't ever have to leave.
Speaker 3:If the change is what you need, you can change right next to me, when you're high. I'll take the lows, you can ebb and I can flow, and we'll take it slow and grow as we go. And grow as we go, grow as we go, grow as we go, grow as we go. I don't know who will become. I can't promise. It's not written in the stars, but I believe that when it's done, we're gonna see that it was better that we grew up together. Tell me you don't wanna leave, cause if change is what you need, you can change right next to me. When you're high, I'll take the lows, you can ebb and I can flow. We'll take it slow and grow as we go. Grow as we go, grow as we go. Grow as we go.
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