A Little Alignment
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A Little Alignment
Are You Sleepwalking Through Life?
Have you ever caught yourself merely existing when you could be vividly living?
When was the last time you truly listened—to the world, to others, to yourself?
And what of the sweet spot between embracing now and sketching out tomorrow? This episode isn't just a conversation; it's a gateway to savoring the cookies of life, making sure that presence becomes your most treasured companion.
If you want to be somebody who totally subscribes to this belief that what is meant for you will never pass you by, do it, embrace it with all your heart. But part of embracing that I'm coming to understand on a deeper level is not letting it pass you by. Yeah, you better pay attention, right, just keeping your eyes open. That's literally your role. It's not always about being so focused on creating your life, but seeing how life has been created for you.
Speaker 2:Speaking from my own experience, I could get really caught up in the control of it. Yeah, you've got a plan and you've got to get ahead of things, but you've also got to be willing, Like you were saying earlier, to like go with the flow. There's so much magic that can happen there that also releases you of this false sense of control and allows you to live more consciously in the present, to create something so much better, because it's actually born of presence and more intention.
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Speaker 2:Hello, welcome to today's episode. We're excited to talk about something that I think is actually like a huge game changer for living life, and it's about presence, but more so just about living life actively rather than passively. And I think it's a really great question to ask yourself pretty frequently because it can shift so quick but am I actually living life actively or am I just passively going through the motions? And it's it's a good question because, like as much as like I'm the one we're the ones here talking about this today, I know that there's plenty of times that I've just kind of started going through the motions and there's a very big distinction between the version of me that shows up and how I experience life when it's just passive, versus me being an active participant in my life and choosing things more consciously. So that's just a little question to kind of like get the juices flowing and start thinking about this for yourself.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I was.
Speaker 1:I was actually so excited I mean you and this happens all the time this way but you messaged me this morning, literally at six in the morning um, podcast idea, the power of presence and I was like, okay, cool, and we started talking about it.
Speaker 1:And what's fun is that yesterday I was on a walk by myself, as I often am, and thinking about all of the ways that I have been sleepwalking through life. Really, you were actually thinking about this yesterday, yeah, and I really was, and I thought, wow, and you know there are different signs that show up for me, like I know the ways in which I escape and numb out or just allow sometimes it's allowing your routine to run the show. Yeah, because you know what Routine can actually be really supportive to living more presently, because you kind of you take all the thinking out of all the things that have to get done, right, right, or like the details and whatnot, so that you can show up more presently in your life. And I was realizing that I was just stuck in my routine, I wasn't actively choosing into things like I like I love to.
Speaker 1:And another sign like I said, is numbing out, and I find myself recently, over the last few days, really going to TikTok and Instagram and just scrolling, which I love to do, I love to laugh, yeah, and your algorithm is made for you, so of course you're going to get on there and just get like excited by whatever it's hitting you with.
Speaker 1:Exactly that's what it's made for All the pets all the cutie dogs, all the funny things, all the spiritually, you know, inspiring things, astrology yeah, I eat it. It knows you, it knows me. It's terrifying and also awesome. But I've been getting stuck in it and like doom doom, scrolling Right and I was just thinking about it on my walk. I'm like how much have I chosen my life this week versus just, you know, been sleepwalking? I mean, that's really the term, yeah. And so I'm really glad you brought this up, because there is a lot of power in present but let's, talk first, about the things that we're missing out on.
Speaker 1:And you know how, what it looks like to sleepwalk through life, because I mean, I just kind of painted a picture of for me. But what about for you? Like, when are some moments where you recognize oh wow, I've just been. It's kind of the feeling of when you're driving somewhere. You've driven a million times and you don't remember how you got there.
Speaker 2:You just like oh my God, I'm here.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you literally black out. Yeah, holy crap, and it's like you know, I'm like. I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm just like life can become that way.
Speaker 2:Yes, and that's actually like a pretty scary thought when you think about it, because there's so much of our lives that I think we probably all hold really, you know, like as precious moments that I mean we just came out of the holidays and talking about like experiences and times that we have with family that are so limited. So to think that there's the potential that you could just be going through the going through the motions and not fully experiencing those few moments is actually really like whoa, like that should be a wake up call right there. But there's even just like like for me, one of the things that came to mind when we started talking about this was like an example of a time. This was actually over the holidays.
Speaker 2:Rob and I were in Florida and we were in I think it was CS Tequi, walking down like the main little drag of like shops and restaurants and stuff, so there's people everywhere and we were walking on the sidewalk and there was a lady coming towards us and she was just looking down at her phone and she was getting closer and closer and moving pretty quickly. So she was either gonna like Notice she was gonna run into us or just straight up run straight into Rob and I and Rob was like, should we let her run into us or should we like move?
Speaker 2:I'm like, no, let's not like run into us, because a legit wake-up call yeah the face like look up, like Get here with us, like be present, like you're literally walking and you don't even see what's in front of you, and so it just like that's like a physical representation of like Just being so removed from the present moment that you might just run straight into someone, and so like, how often does that happen more like figuratively.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm. Yeah, I think that's such a good object lesson. It made me think, like when you first told me that story, I had this whole vision in my mind of Somebody asking and begging and praying and trying to manifest something they want, or trying to create the life that they want. And you know, believing deeply as I do that what is meant for you will never pass you by, mm-hmm, I mean, I think we both really believe that, yeah, sure, yeah, whatever is meant to be will, will be, we'll find you.
Speaker 1:But here's the thing is Even if it finds you, will you see it if you're not looking? No, right.
Speaker 1:We won't exactly. Yeah, I think about that woman walking, looking at her phone, and you know she could pass all these opportunities where her angels are literally showing up for her right and her being Me and you and all of us, sometimes right like who knows. Another story that comes to mind is and this was something taught in church A lot where people will pray for chocolate cake, pray for chocolate cake, pray for chocolate cake really yeah, and so then God sends flour, and then God sends eggs and then. God sends butter.
Speaker 2:Where's my chocolate?
Speaker 1:really, people, really just pray for chocolate cake. I mean, who does the want some chocolate? Good, I mean, I do, I'm down. But yeah, that's the object here and this I think that applies as well that we're like, we believe some of us deeply believe we're conscious creators and like we can really Make things happen for ourselves powerfully and and even just be able to feel love deeply and all that stuff. But how are we going to access all of that and even see it coming, see that it's there, if, if we're sleepwalking, right right, we're so absorbed in whatever?
Speaker 2:it's like how they say or like for me anyway, like when I feel like I'm really tapped in and I'm into the routine, into the routines and things that really work for me. I Also noticed so many more synchronicities, and I think that's because those are the times that I'm living more Actively or I'm more present to be able to notice those things happening. I think that they're always happening, but it's I'm just not always recognizing it. And Another place where this really shows up a lot and and the reason why I think this conversation isn't just about being present. You know, it's not about just like hey, at the dinner table, put your phone down or let's turn off the TV which those are all good practices but also like actively listening and and actively engaging and Like a deeper level of presence in your life that will bring so much more, not only to you and your experience of life, but also to the people around you and their experience of you, which enables so much stronger of a connection and this particular topic comes up a lot with With work. So for me, I'm supporting a lot of people who are stepping into like a new coaching business.
Speaker 2:One of the biggest sort of like fears or worries that they have is Well, how am I gonna like know exactly what to tell somebody, or how do I know how to guide them? And my go-to in those situations is that if you're present and you're actively listening, you will hear what this person needs from you. You will hear what it is that maybe they need more attention drawn to or a reflection about right. And that only can happen when you are actively listening to this person. But if you're in your head Thinking about oh my gosh, I don't know what to say next, what should I do? Should I, should I bring in this other exercise? Or, you know, maybe I should just, you know, give them this different assignment. But I don't know, I'm not sure. Do they need this or do they need that? Right now You're, you're removed. You're now Passively listening.
Speaker 1:You probably hear some of the words coming out of their mouth, but you are missing maybe some like the Visual cues or certain words that they're saying, and some of the energetic things like really can start to feel a person as you, you know, open your heart and empathetically connect with them, really feel what they're saying, you know and you miss that like connect with them.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I miss that when you're in your head, so then you actually don't know what to say anymore. Right, you actually missed it and you're not going to provide as much value as you could have if you would have just been actively listening and very present in that moment. It makes that in that in interaction Flow so much more naturally. There's so much more quality there in that conversation. Yeah so that I think is like a huge example of like Active listening versus passive listening is the same as like active living versus passive living.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's like actively listening to life, right? Um, in fact, just this morning, natalie our friend Natalie, who was just in the last episode actually she said something about flowing with life. And then how did she? I told you what she said just like going with. Oh, she said Going with the flow and she said, actually it's just going with life. Right, part of this is embracing what is. You know what I mean?
Speaker 2:like what actually is right in front of you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like bloom where you're planted, or, you know, stand strong where your feet are planted.
Speaker 1:Well, you know all these phrases that we hear that are like oh, that's so cute and I love it, and let me draw a picture of somebody rooted in the ground and flowers blooming out of their head. But I mean, the truth of it is, it's so powerful To really, instead of trying to be somewhere else, to just be where you are and like radically accept this moment. I mean and I'm let me be a little more clear here, because sometimes we're unhappy in our present circumstances and so it's easy to get stuck in, maybe dreaming of what could be, or regretting what happened, or, you know, trying so desperately to get yourself out of it by clinging on to what Isn't happening right now, that you want to be happening, or something you know. It's similar to what we're talking about last time of not. You know what's the word Resisting, what is Similar to that, whereas the answer almost always I don't wanna say always, because it makes me, I don't know why I feel like it's all or nothing thinking Too much of an absolute, too much of an absolute.
Speaker 1:But I want to say always the answer is right here, right now, and the answer is being in the here, right here, right now, really accepting what is, embracing what is. And then to your point that you were making earlier you don't know that you're gonna get a tomorrow.
Speaker 2:No, I mean, the only thing we actually have is this moment.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:I think that's also part of being really present is that it allows you to not be worried about the future or not be dwelling on the past, and especially like I mean I've said this multiple times especially when we talk about, like meditation or Dr Joe, but when he talks about 90% of our thoughts being the same as the day before. That just shows you how quick and really like our brain is. It is wired to be energy efficient, so falling into those patterns of just like thinking about the same things over and over again. And if those patterns are worrying about the future or thinking about the past, it's natural that you'll fall back into that loop, just based on the way that our brain functions and trying to be energy efficient. So it takes a really conscious effort to choose differently and make new decisions and it really like it takes work because you'll notice, you'll go back into a pattern. But I have like.
Speaker 2:So my little sister, she got this tattoo and it says describe the moment and it's meant to be a little reminder right there on her arm of hey, like what's going on right now, right here, right now, like. What does it look like outside? What does it smell like? What does this blanket feel like Just describe everything about this moment, because then your thoughts aren't wandering all around but instead you're focusing on what actually like, what you're saying, what actually is in this current moment, and your experience of everything totally shifts. It's kind of like what we've talked about too, where the novelty of things can really help you get more out of an experience, I think which is why people love going on vacation to a new place because they're so submersed in taking in everything in the moment that they're actually forced in some ways to be present in an exciting way, because when we go home, like you're saying, the routine is like totally take you through.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so, but and that's a Dr Joe thing. Right, like, because it's familiar, you assume it will always be the same. Right Like you wake up and immediately. This is why it's like waking up and immediately getting into your inbox, or waking up and immediately getting on social media can really take us out of the present moment, because we're just immediately going into autopilot and we're immediately like okay, today's just another day, like every other day, instead of waking up and being like today is a new day, anything is possible. Like it doesn't necessarily have to be the same as yesterday.
Speaker 1:It might be very similar, but you can also, you know, wake up a little bit more. And I did this thought exercise one time. I remember I worked in a more corporate setting and it was very much routine, Like every day was very similar, right. And I heard this exercise I was introduced to this exercise of when you're driving to work, try to find one thing you've never noticed before.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And I was like, oh yeah, let's see. I mean, I've driven so many times to the same route. They're back every day. You know, we'll see if I find anything and I did. I found this cute little shack looking thing. I don't know what it was, but it was like it wasn't like an ugly shack, it was really cute.
Speaker 1:And I thought that is the cute, I mean, I don't know it just was. So I was so enamored by it because it was so quaint and so pretty and kind of in the middle of this like typical, you know, industrial looking place. Yeah, and it was really quite alarming to me, a little jarring, because I had driven by that shack so many times and I'd never seen it and I loved it. It's wild I was like it's so pretty.
Speaker 2:I was like flowers are around it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I took a picture of it and I was like, wow, this is a good reminder. Like what are we missing by just kind of clocking out of our bodies and out of our minds and just kind of going into the past or going into the future or even going into our insecurities, and you know what I mean. Like thinking about all the things we need to be and all the things we need to do and just getting lost in space.
Speaker 2:Yeah, more like when this would be pertaining to a relationship.
Speaker 2:I think, this is a really slippery slope, because what can happen is like I mean, how often have we been like, oh my God, I'm not gonna say this to so and so, because if I do, I already know she's gonna say blah, blah, blah, and so I'm just gonna like try not to do that, right? Or then you actually get into this conversation with the person and you're already thinking you know exactly what they're gonna say, so you're in your head about what you're gonna say and response right, right.
Speaker 1:So then and then it just, you perpetuate the repetitiveness of Right. And so what was?
Speaker 2:the point of even talking If you've already, if you're already so sure you know exactly how that conversation is gonna go and you're more concerned with what you're gonna say. You know where's the value in that, and so it's like this can really like spark up a lot of trouble in relationships if you're not actually present and open to Like actively listening and participating.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm something that is so Potently available in the present moment is a lot of pleasure, like I'm, you know, reading this book about pleasure, specifically Female, feminine pleasure. Is it called pussy?
Speaker 2:Yeah, pussy, a reclamation it's so good, I'm a Gina right.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm. Okay, it's so good, you guys. I mean, that's a whole different conversation, pleasure in and of itself is something that's just gorgeous, and I would love to talk about it sometime, but Something that really stood out to me is how much, how much pleasure we have access to in the present moment that we just. Don't take advantage of like yeah, we're constantly feeling, I am constantly feeling like I need to go create my life, when really life is being created.
Speaker 1:For me. That's so true and I don't look around and see all the ways that I can participate it more fully, even in Like I'm. I sat down and made myself a salad, like I like I do many, many days a week. Right now it's not salad because it's cold, but this was when it was cooler and I made myself a salad and I thought how can I make this moment more pleasurable? Right and all I did was just anchor more Into the present moment.
Speaker 1:Yeah and I tasted every bite, yeah, and I smelled it and I didn't have my phone out and I wasn't distracted, I wasn't anywhere else but right there at my kitchen table and it wasn't like the best salad of my life. I mean, it's just a pretty standard, one of the most solid, yeah but I enjoyed it and I was like, wow, how much food have I just eaten without really?
Speaker 2:Oh my god, I think that all the time, especially when I'm eating something I really like you know how like I mean I have this joke where I'm like who ate my pizza. Right, I think it's gone all of a sudden or I do that with cookies all the time. Yeah, where's the rest of?
Speaker 1:my cookie you like can you like that? I'm like no, I didn't. Yeah, I thought I had half a cookie left. I'm so sad.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but it's like this is a perfect example, because the people talk about conscious eating and stuff and like don't snack while you're watching TV, because who knows how much you're actually gonna eat you're not paying attention. I mean that's a perfect depiction of what we're talking about here.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you could be. You could be actively engaged With something that it really brings you a lot of pleasure. But if you're just not paying attention, then you don't get the pleasure.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I miss the pizza. You could miss the cookies of your life.
Speaker 1:You could. Let's take this on a bigger scale. Let's go back to the lady walking around on her phone. She could miss. She could miss meeting the love of her life.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, you know what I mean. Like she could, or she could miss a bus coming or miss her life in general.
Speaker 1:Just it couldn't yeah, but truly yeah.
Speaker 1:I mean if, if we really, if you want to be somebody who totally subscribes to this belief that what is meant for you will never pass you by, do it, embrace it with all your heart. But part of embracing that I'm coming to understand on a deeper level is Not letting it pass you by. You better pay attention, right, just keeping your eyes open. That's literally your role, right? Because, again, it's not always About being so focused on creating your life, but seeing how life is being created for you and taking advantage of it or like just being in it really yeah, you know, yeah, there's, um, there's this other side of that too.
Speaker 2:That's interesting because I feel like when you are so in that sort of like planning mode where you're just thinking, thinking, thinking into the future which I've gotten caught in a lot because I used to be in Like the advertising and marketing space and we also did a lot of like events and planning so it was my job to think into the future and every potential thing that could go wrong, everything that we wanted to go right, you always have to be, you know, ten steps ahead and Obviously, like in the planning phase of events and stuff, like you do have to be thinking about, you have to be forward, thinking it like about what you need to prepare for. But the thing is is now, if we're so caught up and okay, this needs to happen, this needs to happen, this, you know bubble-blah you, what you could be missing is a magic of things falling together more naturally and you get really I mean again, speaking from my own experience, I could get really caught up in the control of it and I know for me that creates a lot of stress and a lot of tension. I mean to the point where, even before we're started recording. I was getting stressed out about thinking about some events that are coming up that I need to plan, because I get so like, oh my God, well, I need to think about this and that, and I'm a very process oriented person and so all of that process like like going through my mind, it's taken me out of the present moment and it's creating a stress.
Speaker 2:But there's been times where I very intentionally been like you know what? I'm gonna release this and I'm gonna allow things to happen more naturally and trust that everything is going to work out and wildest thing, it does, because it allows space for creativity and, like other people, to step in and things to fall together naturally, better than I could have even planned for it. So it's like, yeah, you've got a plan and you've got to get ahead of things, but you've also got to be willing, like you were saying earlier, to like go with the flow, because there's so much magic that can happen there that also releases you of this false sense of control and allows you to live more consciously in the present, to create something so much better, because it's actually born of presence and more intention than just feeling like, okay, I've got to just make sure X, y and Z is done and like bringing that other energy into the mix.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and there is a yes and situation here. Like yes, being present and going with the flow and letting things unfold naturally is powerful and sometimes creating structure and taking time to plan can allow that to happen more so right.
Speaker 1:So there's just as with everything, there's a shadow and a light to it, Like when something is more controlling you rather than helping you to be more powerfully in your life, then there's the imbalance there. But it's not that planning is necessarily a bad thing. Right, right, right. And you know that. And even like thinking ahead, I think there are some ways as people we could do better at thinking ahead, like I was just reading this morning about how Chinese cultures and different cultures used to plan seven generations ahead and think seven generations ahead when raising family and thinking about the environment. And you know we don't do that anymore, now we're.
Speaker 1:So it's so funny because we live in this like counterfeit presence of instant gratification and what is right now, and we don't have any energy left to give to who's coming after us, right To give back to the planet, to give back to our future generations. And so it's really interesting because I think that we can get caught up in this. I don't know what to call it fake presence, when it's really just a numbing out or a instant gratification. I don't know exactly what it is, but it's not true presence, because true presence includes the whole.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's so true. I think that's actually a really good point. Is that, like, probably the main point we're trying to make here is it's not just about like being present, like I'm paying attention to what you're saying, but like actively engaging. Yeah, yes, because it's the difference between actively engaging and numbing or just kind of going through the motions.
Speaker 1:Or being so stuck inside your own head that you're not really actively engaging.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like you might not be on your phone, you might not have the TV on, you could be sitting at the dinner table with your family, but you're so stuck in some thoughts that you're still not present, you know, and that's. There's so many ways that this impacts us. We've already talked about relationships, but I mean, as somebody who struggled with anxiety and I still do from time to time I know that a lot of my anxiety comes from the thought patterns that are never rooted in the present moment. So it's like there's so much of like our health and wellbeing that is also dependent on the quality of our presence.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I love that. So describe the moment and be where your feet are planted. Yeah, I think those two things describe the moment is a beautiful exercise, I think, to bring us back into the now and get us out of our head and back into our bodies which are our anchor into the present moment, because they literally cannot exist anywhere else.
Speaker 1:But then, right now, and then and then, yeah, instead of wanting to be anywhere else, to just be where you are and be that powerfully, and that could be, you know, planning for future generations. What can I do right now to make the world a better place for the future generations? Or it could be hey look, there's my sister across from me at this coffee date. That I I've got to say. Over the holidays we watched these family home videos.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and it was the wildest thing, I mean it just it became so. It just a deeper understanding of the fact that this life is not forever.
Speaker 1:right Like this version of life is not forever and time does just keep going. You know, I'm really close to my siblings and the time that we had together was so special as kids and I was just like reminded that's not ever coming back, I'm never going to live with them again as kids and it was a gift. It was really sad, it actually was really heartbreaking. I went through like an actual grief process, like just letting that settle more deeply in my heart, and yet it woke me up a little bit more, to sleepwalk a little bit less and to be able to look at people and be like you're not always going to be here with me, but you're here with me right now.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And I'm going to, I'm going to live in that yeah.
Speaker 2:Oh there's so much there because it's like you're never going to get those moments back. There's never going to be a situation or a circumstance where everything is exactly the way it was and deeper than that is also like the version of you that was present for those interactions. It's like either, like I'm imagining, like the, you know, when you can edit a photo and you either like turn up the contrast a lot, or like turn it down and it really like sharpens and clarifies the image, or it just kind of like dulls everything out. That's how I'm imagining we show up in life. Either we can really turn up the contrast, you can see all the differences and we can show up as a vibrant version of ourselves or you can turn it down and it's just kind of like we're just like this muted version of what is possible.
Speaker 2:And that's the person that you are presenting to the people that you love or to your friends or whoever, and which version of you do you want to show up to your family and your loved ones. So not only will you not get that experience back, you're never gonna get a chance to be in that experience with somebody having that experience of you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, it's a both and for sure. The contrast of your memory will be turned up too.
Speaker 2:Like really take it in like taking a picture of this moment.
Speaker 1:Oh, I remember the first time I heard the phrase sleep walking through life, and it was really drawing to me because I was like ew, because, I think, because I had been.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And just that idea of being in a car and getting from point A to point B and not remembering how you got there, and how terrifying that can be.
Speaker 2:Right, I hate that.
Speaker 1:I know. And how are we doing that in our own day-to-day lives, when there's so much to be lived and so much to be taken advantage of, even if you don't like your situation? The more that you wake up to what is and really be in it and use and do what is presently available to you, the quicker you will shift into what you actually want. Not by sitting and dreaming and wishing it was different, but by actually being actively engaged in your own life.
Speaker 2:Right, yeah, it's like the difference between being numb to something, so it never changes or like being so present with something that you have the awareness to make the change.
Speaker 1:Yeah, right.
Speaker 2:Man, there's a lot we could say to that alone, I know, because it actually calls for you to be willing to be fully present for the things that are uncomfortable, which is obviously uncomfortable. It's not easy, not fun, but sometimes those are the things that need attention in order for things to get better.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Which, you're right, is a completely other episode, right.
Speaker 1:But, at the end of the day, this is our life. You know, this is it. We are here, we want to be here, we chose to be here, I believe.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:But you know, by not choosing into every day, we're throwing that gift away to some extent or we're undervaluing it.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:And you know there's a book out there called Loving what Is, and I had a difficult time with that title because you can't, like I said, you can't always the idea of being in love with your life and being in love with every moment. I think it's better to say being in love every moment Because, like I was telling you, you can be in a relationship with somebody and love them, but not really like them in that moment.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:So I think we can look at life that way. I might not like my life right now, but can I be in love right now and what does that look like for you and what does that feel like for you and how would that affect you and the decisions that you make and the environment of your like, within yourself and without?
Speaker 2:And like, when you say, like can you be in love? It's like, do you mean, like be in the energy of love, like come from a loving place? Yeah, yeah, I think that right there is so powerful because that shifts everything, everything. And that's such a good pointer because obviously there are, like you said, interactions and times that you have with loved ones where you, yeah, you're like annoyed or pissed off or whatever, but you know you do love this person deeply. So what better serves that relationship, you being upset and unhappy which you can be but if you can shift into the energy of love now you're looking through the lens of love and it'll help you approach what you need to from a completely different place it's going to be so much more supportive and productive for that relationship because you do care about them. You're just a little bit mad right now, and that's okay, exactly.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so this is like a little love letter to life, a love affair with life. How can we, even when we don't really like it, all the time remember that we love it and appreciate?
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Speaker 1:Yeah, that's such. Oh, I love that. All right well feels, complete Me too. Okay bye, okay bye.
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