Spicy Midlife Women: Real Talk, Raw Truth, and Bold Moves for Women Over 40

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In this heartfelt and fiery kickoff episode, Jules and Michele pull back the curtain on what it truly means to be a “spicy midlife woman.” With wit, warmth, and wisdom, they share the real-life experiences, challenges, and mindset shifts that have shaped them—and why this podcast is a no-BS, safe space for women navigating life over 40. From relationships and motherhood to identity, expectations, and reinvention, they set the tone for a show dedicated to helping midlife women reclaim their voice, rewrite the rules, and unapologetically own who they are.


You’ll learn:

  • Who this podcast is for (hint: it’s more women than you think)
  • Why midlife can feel both liberating and invisible—and what to do about it
  • How societal expectations shape (and limit) women in their 40s, 50s, and 60s
  • The spicy difference between expectations and standards
  • How to navigate changing relationships, dating, and identity in midlife
  • Why reclaiming your truth often ruffles feathers—and why that’s a good thing
  • What it really means to live unapologetically and define success on your own terms
  • How this podcast will serve as a supportive sisterhood and resource hub
  • The importance of reflection, healing, and humor on the journey
  • Why now is the perfect time to get clear, get empowered, and get spicy
Speaker 1:

Hey everyone, this is Jules and Michelle here, two spicy midlife women sharing our real life stories and having no BS conversations with you. Right, michelle, that's right.

Speaker 2:

Here to help all you midlife women redefine your relationships, ditch those toxic cycles and reclaim your power, one episode at a time. What?

Speaker 1:

are we going for today, Jules? Well, we're just going to get right into it because we want to chat a little bit about what that means. I mean, who is this podcast for?

Speaker 2:

Right, right. I think it's going to be for so many women, and I think also it's going to be for women that don't even know it's for them. I know, that's what. I'm kind of excited about, so I want to challenge those that are on the fence to listening Really just sit back and take a listen.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, because we're really focusing on midlife women, or women really over 40. And a lot of the things we've mentioned in the trailer and we'll probably be talking about throughout here are really things we've been through ourselves, you know. We've been married, we've had children, we've had careers, we've made a hell of a lot of mistakes along the way and we've learned a lot, you know, along the way too, and we can see definitely that, as we are in midlife, we really kind of consider ourselves spicy life.

Speaker 2:

We really kind of consider ourselves spicy. Right, it's so interesting, especially now and you know, you hear the cliche term hindsight is 20-20,. Right, but it really is being able to. And not that this journey is even close to being over. Right, it's never over. No, it's an ongoing thing that we just keep forging our way through, thing that we just keep forging our way through. But taking a look back and seeing where we are now and what got us here and some of the things that we had to go through to get us to this point, yeah, and some of that shit does make you spicy it absolutely well.

Speaker 1:

It can do one of two things it can make you spicy or it can make you complacent really or kind of feel like that is all that's out there for you.

Speaker 1:

And I mean there's definitely times in my life where I've been like, oh my gosh, it's like, is this what it's all about? And a lot of that has to go into, you know, parenting and the relationships, like we've talked about before, you have with yourself, but also with your family and your significant other, or even in the dating world, you know, if you're not married. I mean there's so many different components to it. So we're really trying to define what it is like to be a midlife woman and understand that in our day and age, being a midlife woman is really I don't know something where we don't really look at ourselves as midlife women. Right, there's no contain, there's nothing containing us.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, that's a really good way to put it, because I think that is when you think of spicy midlife women. That's exactly where we're at. We are not fit in the box. We're outside of the lines, right. We are not fit in the box, we're outside of the lines, right. Not that we intentionally push the norms or go against the expectations, but that's kind of what this is about is being yourself, right.

Speaker 1:

And not apologizing about it.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, and doing it unapologetically, realizing what some of the things are. That's what we want you to get out of this is to really gain clarity on what you really want with these things. What do you want in relationships? What do you want to do with the baggage that you're carrying? Do you want to haul it around and drag it, or do you want to heal and release it Right? What do you want to do with dating at this? If that's where you're at, you know?

Speaker 1:

which, of course, I have a lot of experience with.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, Julie's gonna be the expert on that topic.

Speaker 1:

I don't know about. I don't know about an expert, but I certainly have things to offer you know, because you hear about dating in midlife and how treacherous it can be, and that is not a lie by any stretch.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, it's not typical now in this day and age, and you know the whole feminism aspect of being a woman in this day and age, recognizing you know what you have to contribute while balancing the femininity. It kind of is a balancing act. Now there's all these expectations that you know a lot of people have with women and we put those expectations on ourself with women, feminism and the things you know like hear me roar, let me take on the world. I'm gonna do it all and really balancing that. And what does that? It looks very different now than it used to yeah, it's not like you have to choose.

Speaker 1:

You don't have to choose to be your authentic self and try to work your life around what other people's view is of you and what you're gonna find, ladies, is that, as you really start finding your voice, there are going to be people in your life who don't like it, who don't necessarily feel comfortable with you, you know, kind of coming into yourself, and so those are some of the things that we're definitely going to be talking about, because there will be moments when that's going to happen and you have to step back and say gosh, you know, I don't know how I feel about that. I think I'm going to not worry about it or I'm going to continue forging forward and not let the criticism of people that are in my life affect me and how I do things.

Speaker 2:

Might have to rewrite some of those rules that you didn't even realize you were following. Yeah, right, and you know it's going to have some of those aha moments, if you will, when you realize that something's got to change because you've got this anxiety within you, or the struggle, I should say, with going with the flow or going with what you know Right.

Speaker 1:

Right and going with the flow, or going with what you know Right, right and going with the flow is the path of least resistance, one sometimes we've taken and we've all been there.

Speaker 1:

You know when it's just been easier because we're tired or because we've got so many expectations placed upon us.

Speaker 1:

And you know, one of the other things we definitely want to get into is challenging some of those perceived expectations and you know, really correlating expectations versus standards to determine, you know where we're at. Are we following things that we are supposed to do or are we setting our own standards for things that we're okay with and not getting upset about it? You know, when it doesn't necessarily align with other people's goals and expectations, right? So the aha moment you talked about, I think, is a real key because as we go through our life and we go through the different stages in our life and you know anyone who's listening and you're in probably your 40s or in your 50s or even in your 60s it's like there's different segments of your life where you're going to run into these challenges. Provide information to inspire you, provide details and examples of things that we've done, where we did them wrong or where we did them correctly, or where we learned the hard way, so you can hopefully learn from some of the things that we've been through ourselves as well.

Speaker 2:

Just here to help you get through it, man.

Speaker 1:

And again going back to that whole thing about spicy. You know, when Michelle and I were talking about this, it's like we kind of chuckle about it a little bit, because there's so much that goes into being a woman, and a woman who is in the age groups that we're talking about here, Because there are views of what we are supposed to be doing, how we're supposed to wear our hair, what kind of clothes we're supposed to wear.

Speaker 1:

Heck, there's a lot of people who feel like they're completely invisible at this age because nobody really pays attention to women that are in their midlife. I mean, I've heard that for many years. I don't necessarily agree with all of that because I think a lot of it has to do with how you present yourself and the level of confidence that you have and the people that you surround yourself with. You know those sorts of things make a big difference in you know how you view yourself.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, your age. Yeah, your age is whatever you feel like it should be, right? Right, it's not. Julie always teases me because she's got me wearing an apron and pearls and cooking in the kitchen, right? You know, my mom at midlife looked completely different than what I look at it at midlife, yeah, right, and that's what we're talking about. It doesn't have to be the stereotypical woman that you know looks a certain way and says certain things and listens to certain music and, because it's age appropriate, fuck that, get that age appropriate stuff out the window. It's whatever you enjoy and it's whatever makes you feel good. And sometimes that's really hard to recognize. When you're in the throes of raising a family and trying to figure out if, you know, are balancing a career with all of that and, you know, going to church on Sunday and doing all the things that are happening in that time, it's really hard to lose yourself, or not hard, it's very easy to lose yourself.

Speaker 1:

And I would say that's definitely something that I did 100%. I did 110%. I totally did. But anyway, we'll get into all of that in our episodes, because there's plenty to go over.

Speaker 1:

So, as we mentioned before, really being unapologetic about your own truth and determining who you are is probably the one most wonderful thing you can do for yourself, and we again are just going to try to find different avenues for you to see that in your own life. It's all going to be different for different people, but hopefully there's a lot of information that will resonate with you and some of the stories and some of the hilarious things that we come up with will resonate with you and help you kind of get a little pep in your step and try something different perhaps, or go in a different direction or make really tough decisions that you have been kind of putting your head in the sand about.

Speaker 2:

You know, there's all kinds of things that we're hopefully going to be able to help you with oh yeah, we want you to be able to gain clarity, embrace newness, right, feel empowered and, you know, hold the ability to reject outdated expectations and create a life that feels good. Yeah, on your own terms, right?

Speaker 1:

Right, jules, that we have circles of friends that are close circles, and then we have wider circles of friends and people who are maybe in similar stages in life, but what we really are hoping to achieve with this podcast is providing you with a sisterhood and a supportive community that is dealing with a lot of the same things that you're dealing with, so we'll have more on that to come, but there's going to be a definite place for you to be able to ask questions and for you to be able to chat with other women. There's just all kinds of exciting things coming up that we're really happy to share with all of you.

Speaker 2:

So exciting, so exciting, and you know we are happy to say that we are out on all the podcast platforms. Whatever you enjoy listening to Spotify, amazon, all of them you will find us there. Spicy Midlife Women and yeah, and we, spicy Midlife Women will be dropping episodes every week. So every Monday you'll get something new. Episodes every week. So every Monday you'll get something new. And we can't wait to share all the information with you, with our experiences and conversations, and grow our community, saving a place for you.

Speaker 1:

And until then, until then, we will look forward to chatting with all of you ladies, and I guess we will be staying spicy, won't we?

Speaker 2:

Until then, yep, stay spicy sisters.