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33. Midlife Identity Audit

• Jules and Michele: Midlife Mentors • Episode 34

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We explore how to run a midlife identity audit with humor and heart, swapping rigid resolutions for reflection, redirection, and intention. We share signs your roles need a reset, simple tools to loosen what drains you, and ways to lean into strengths without apology.

• ditching resolutions for reflection and redirection
• choosing a guiding word for the year
• closet metaphor for identity and joy
• redefining strength and releasing control
• signs of misfit roles like resentment and autopilot
• saying no without guilt and avoiding martyr mode
• journaling weekly to track patterns and energy
• leaning into values, strengths, and what feels alive
• making subtle changes that respect relationships
• a simple audit: feel most yourself, what drains, what to loosen

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SPEAKER_00:

Hey, all you spicy midlife women out there. Jules and Michelle here from Seattle, Washington, the Emerald City, on uh the new year 2026, and we are bringing you all kinds of real life stories and no BS conversations about life and love and relationships. That's right.

SPEAKER_01:

Thanks so much for explaining that, Julie. Here to help all midlife women redefine their relationships, reclaim their power, and ditch those toxic cycles. We're gonna do it one episode at a time. So let's get into it.

SPEAKER_00:

Yes, ma'am. Let's get into it. It is 2026 and we're at the very beginning of the year. And you know what? It's time to just kind of re-cleanse and rethink about things a little bit differently. Just gives us an opportunity to do that.

SPEAKER_01:

You know, I came up with this little saying no tricks in 2026.

SPEAKER_00:

Apparently, Michelle's not turning any tricks this year.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah, no, no tricks.

SPEAKER_00:

Even though we might run short on rent and she might have to go up to Aurora. Those of you that don't live here, it's kind of a joke we have because it's literally Prostitute Row not far away. Yeah. And if you're gonna earn some extra cash, they like blondes. Anyway, how do I know that? I don't know. I just watch what's happening.

SPEAKER_01:

But anyway, so what are we talking about today? You know, it's all about, which is a great New Year topic, identity and kind of that doing a midlife identity audit, I guess, kind of what is still fitting and what doesn't. We do that with our closets, right?

SPEAKER_00:

Yeah. Okay, so you all know who Maria Condo is, right? Do you know? Well, we talked about this before. Yeah. But she is the woman who helps you organize your closet, which really is a lot more about organizing your life to organize your house, your closet, whatever. And um, it's more about determining what serves you still, what doesn't serve you still, what you need to let go of, whether it's a toxic trait, whether it's something that you feel like you has not brought you joy. And that's kind of the Merikondo thing. Did it bring you joy? If it didn't, it doesn't bring you joy anymore than thank it for being there and then remove it from your life. Well, it's kind of the same thing, but we're talking about our lives not close. Lord knows I need to do with my closet too, but whatever.

SPEAKER_01:

Well, I think it's interesting because it seems like when the new year comes, people are doing this in so many facets of life, right? And particularly, I think in midlife, this is a great time to do some of that reevaluating and and see what is fitting and what's not fitting.

SPEAKER_00:

And this isn't really about New Year's resolutions.

SPEAKER_01:

No, it's not.

SPEAKER_00:

On a side note, how do you feel about New Year's resolutions?

SPEAKER_01:

You know, I I I think it's something that people do because we've always done it and it's the New Year thing and all of that. As I've gotten older, it's kind of somewhat been an evolution on how I look at what is coming in the new year. I don't necessarily set resolutions. I really do more reflection and redirection for the you know, going forth and how I'm gonna do things differently. Yeah. Or enhance maybe what I'm already doing, you know? Resolutions, goal setting. It's yeah, there's a million different ways of looking at it. But for me, yeah, I I just it's more reflection, redirection, and to go after what I want personally to happen in my life.

SPEAKER_00:

Right.

SPEAKER_01:

And the things that I need to do to make that happen.

SPEAKER_00:

So I think that's that makes complete sense. I know we've talked before about um instead of like resolutions, having a word or something that we can kind of use as our go-to when we're feeling like we're getting off track or not, you know, really focusing the way we had originally intended to. Did you choose one yet this year?

SPEAKER_01:

Um, I I did, and it's based on again that reflection and redirection that I'm wanting to do. And it's gonna be consistency for me. I like that. Consistency is gonna be my word, my life can stand a lot of that in so many different areas, and I'm pretty excited actually about putting some of that into play.

SPEAKER_00:

I like that. I like that. So I chose one, and I I there's so many that I could choose, and it's like I could even choose a phrase, right? But I just I think my one I had last year was listen. I need to be more focused and listen instead of talking. So I think I've done a better job of that. Um always something you can work on, of course. But this year it's really focusing on intention. Intention around the things that I want to have in my life, the things that I don't, and uh really kind of leaning into that when it comes to anything that's important, frankly, or you know, things that I want to do. So we'll see how that one goes for me. I feel like it's important for me right at the moment. So hey, I love it.

SPEAKER_01:

See, and that's the thing. It's like whatever you do, however it is you do it, that is what is what's right for you, not necessarily what the whole world and everybody else is doing. Right. So uh hence it kind of goes with what we're talking about today with uh what an identity audit actually is.

SPEAKER_00:

Well, okay, so when we talked a little bit about Marie Kondo earlier in closets, right? And you have to be in the right frame of mind, at least I do, to do the cleaning in my closet to get things out because otherwise I won't want to throw anything away. But I start I'm in the right frame of mind where I'm looking at it going, what the hell? Did I actually wear that? I'm like, yeah, I'm not wearing that again. You know, so it's something that served me, you know, metaphorically we're talking about at one point, yeah, but it's not really serving me anymore. And maybe there's some great memories that you have because clothes will attach to memories, just like music, that kind of thing. And that's okay. And you just kind of are okay to move on, you know, leave that and send it to somebody else, give it to goodwill, whatever you want to do. Because some things just don't fit anymore. And if you're looking at life metaphorically, I mean, if we're looking at this this example metaphorically, it's like some things don't fit in our life, right? You know, the same way they did before. And that's okay, right? Because that's okay. It's like things you thought did or you're trying to hold on to or struggling with. It's like it's just okay.

SPEAKER_01:

Well, it's the roles, the labels, yes, talking. We're not talking about the closed right now. I'm I'm referring to our our life, but looking at the roles that we've had throughout, um, the labels that are identified with the roles, the stories that have come from all the experiences that we've had through all of that, and the things that you've been living by, right? So looking back at some of those things, and one, are we still are we still doing them, reflecting on that? Why are we still doing them as far as activity based around that, right? And that's that's the part of really going in and having that awareness before taking action, I guess, on whatever that is looking like for you. Can you think of any examples for you, Julie, where you had to do that, kind of look at some of what the roles you had and the identity that was going along with that and um if it was still serving you and kind of what you did to move through that and shift and maybe change?

SPEAKER_00:

Well, I think more so I've looked at it like let's say I've always put myself in that role of being the strong one. I've got to be the strong one, I've got to be the one that's figuring things out. That's my role as a mom, that's my role as a wife, whatever it was. And I came to realize that I don't have to always be the strong one. I think I'm so it actually has someone had kind of likened that to a control thing. And I wonder if one of them goes hand in hand with the other about wanting things to be okay for other people, wanting things to be okay for myself, my family. And so I am the strong one that's gonna figure it all out. Well, you know, I've come to realize it's like part of being strong is knowing when you're not and being okay with that, you know, and allowing yourself to be, I want to say vulnerable, that's not really the word I'm looking for, but allowing yourself to be that person that doesn't feel like they have to have all the answers or provide answers. So that's kind of an evolving one, I think, that has happened for me over time. Uh a lot of it maybe had to do with the role that I held with work before and and those sorts of things, but yeah, I I feel like I don't have to do that all the time anymore. And I also know you call me on my shit when I think I do. And so that's a good reminder too.

SPEAKER_01:

I love what you said. Uh part of being strong is knowing that you're not. Yeah. That's I don't know why, but that just stuck out at me just now when you said that. I've never really thought about that before in that way. That I don't know.

SPEAKER_00:

That was that's so simple, but really it's such a girl thing, too, right? It's like women, we all feel like we got to be strong. We gotta be the ones that are the caretakers. And as we're talking to all of these ladies out there, they're going through different stages of this. I think we have the benefit of having made some of those mistakes early on. And they're not mistakes with ill intention, they're just in they're mistakes that we've made because we didn't really know what direction maybe we were going. Or we were in a in an environment where we had to be the person who figured everything out. And letting go of that, whether it be in uh romantic relationships or personal friendships or whatever, is okay. It's not like you have to be the person who's always strong. And I think men kind of get a bad rap because they are the ones that everybody just expects to be strong. And on the flip side of that, it's like everybody expects them to have the answers and be so stoic and strong. And it's really sucks. You know, we don't really have to, but in our day and age now, we are becoming more and more that way because we are living more independently, we have opinions, we uh we want to do things a certain way because it serves us better.

SPEAKER_01:

I guess with that, uh that that makes me think in my own life, uh, for an example, it's pretty much the same. And I think based it's gonna be based on your experiences, the the different things that there are that maybe change as you move through your your experiences or your story or your journey, however you want to look at it. Um, and and being strong, to Julie's point, that's that's kind of the same for me. Because we're used to being responsible and peacemakers and caretakers and all of those things. And then for me, same as Julie, divorce, all that, then you do, you become this, you have to be be strong. But at the end of it, and as as you keep on keeping on, there's the whole going into midlife, which is where we're at now, and you start having time to reflect on some of these things. And what is that identity? We've talked a bit about that in a few of the episodes recently, too, and and where we're at and what that identity looks like here in midlife. And um I I guess I say that with the realization that all of those things, responsible, peacemaker, caretaker, all of that being strong, it's not a lifetime contract. Like we don't have to always be those things. And so the identity shift and the the reason of doing that audit, I think is really important. I've never really thought about that before in an intentional way. There's my word. As a yeah, like as an actual audit of those things.

SPEAKER_00:

So, what are some things that can give you an indication that you are needing to change something or something is not serving you better? How do you, how would you maybe identify that in you?

SPEAKER_01:

Um, there's probably when in certain situations that you're holding resentment, I guess that would be a sign, you know. If you're doing and pleasing and doing, but you're holding resentment, that would be a sign, right?

SPEAKER_00:

And we've talked a little bit about that before, how we want to make others happy. And so we get into things that we're not necessarily excited about, and we start to feel resentment, maybe because people ex start expecting it, uh, or because you're in a position where you feel like you can't stop and because you'll disappoint people. I mean, it really depends on how you know you look at it, I suppose. Um, but I think resentment's huge. And I think in romantic relationships, you have to be really careful of that too, because resentment drills walls that are very difficult to pull down, you know. So it's important to have conversations about that, you know, and and know when you're feeling that way that you can express that with someone who you're in a relationship with. Yeah. Yeah. I think another one is when you know that you are feeling unheard, like you're invisible, you're knowing that you need to change that. It's never served you. It maybe it served you if you were in a relationship, family, whatever, that didn't let you have a voice. You just kept your mouth shut. I mean, I can say that's happened with me before where I'm just like, it's just not, it's not worth arguing about. It's not worth having a conversation about. You just kind of let it go. Well, you can't do that with everything. So there comes a time when you feel like maybe that's something that doesn't serve me in the same way. Maybe it didn't serve me in a really healthy way before. Yeah. It got me through the things I needed to get through, but it doesn't necessarily align with the way I'm moving into the next phase of my life. Awareness is awareness making.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah. I think too, if we there's times where I noticed, I've noticed with with myself where I'm doing things automatically, right? Yeah. It's more habitually. You're habitually doing things and not intentionally doing things. Right. So knowing the difference between those two things, what is, you know, when you're doing something habitually because it's habit and it's what you've always done, or try doing it with intention behind it. And if it doesn't feel the same, that would be an indicator.

SPEAKER_00:

Yes. You know, I would I would think that that the word keeps coming up, you know, intention because it does change the way you look at things. You have to you have to stop, like Michelle is saying, you can't be on autopilot and think about things being intentional because you're on autopilot. But if you stop for two seconds and go, really, what is the outcome that I'm looking for here? Or what is that, what is it that I'm I'm after? What you know, whatever it is, it's like you may do it differently. You may think differently, you may pause, pregnant pause, you may pause, you know.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00:

I think too, we talked about this a second ago, but saying yes when you really want to say no. And this was in an episode that we did um a few episodes ago. It's like, what the hell, people? It's like we are in a position where it's okay for us to say how we're feeling, yet we don't feel like we can a lot of the time.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00:

So saying yes instead of saying no is maybe something that doesn't serve you anymore, which means you gotta get your balls like wrapped up in there. Okay, maybe not balls, maybe not balls wrapped up. Um, you gotta get your big girl panties on and speak your mind about what it is that you are not feeling good about or what it is that you want to change. And it doesn't even have to be something like you profess to the world. It's just more like a uh conscious shift in your thought process and how you approach things.

SPEAKER_01:

It's just just silently prepare yourself for these things. I like it that you say that. It doesn't have to be this big, you know, announcement to the world that, you know, I'm gonna stop doing this because this, that, or the other. You can very internally do these things and just make a subtle change.

SPEAKER_00:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01:

Right?

SPEAKER_00:

People around you are gonna notice that are around you more often, they're gonna notice a subtle shift and they may not say anything, or they may say something because your subtle shift impacts them and how they how they do things.

SPEAKER_01:

Another, another sign, like we're talking about some of these things. If you're always like thinking about how you want to just like go back and start over, like disappear and start things over, that's an indicator too, that change, shift needs to happen. Um, you know, take a look at some of those identity things in your life. Uh I I just love the phrase identity audit. I think it's uh it's just it I don't know. It's I just have never thought about it that way before. But I think it can be very um have a very good outcome. Very good outcome.

SPEAKER_00:

It's so important for us to really state, though, that just because this was has been the way you've operated a part of your identity, doesn't mean it was bad. It means that it was something maybe that was necessary.

SPEAKER_01:

Necessary, absolutely in that point in time in your life. As is everything in life, right? And we need to recognize that and be okay with it. It's it's normal. It's it's not like it's not normal.

SPEAKER_00:

I don't think we give ourselves enough grace a lot of the time. We are pretty hard on ourselves.

SPEAKER_01:

I agree, I agree.

SPEAKER_00:

Yeah, but I mean that comes from having, you know, I would say expectations, but it comes from wanting to do better. It's like you you want to do better. So you put these expectations on yourself that aren't necessarily realistic. And some of this is like step-by-step stuff. It's like we're not saying, oh, it's January. Now you've got to have dry January and you've got to lose 10 pounds, you've got to quit smoking, and you've got to blah, blah, blah. You know, it's like the standard things that you hear people talking about, you know. It's really more about giving yourself the grace to know what worked for you, what doesn't work for you, and not apologizing about what doesn't work for you, but letting the things go that no longer have value to you in your life.

SPEAKER_01:

And and the subtle changes, I think, is huge. It doesn't have to be this huge purge where, you know, you're gonna do all of these things. That's where back to what you were talking about resolutions. I think that's where sometimes, you know, we trip and we fall, and it's, you know, then we feel like we're we're failing. It doesn't have to be this huge purge of identity things that we're doing, but just refine some of those things, some of those, some of those identities in in the areas of our life that need to be refined. Right. If that's what you're feeling is necessary.

SPEAKER_00:

So, like, for example, let's talk about there's strengths that you know you have that you want to keep, lean into that. Lean into whatever it is that's giving you that feeling of lean back. Lean back lean back. Google into that song, you know. Yeah, but you just lean into it. You know, you've got strength, all of us have strengths and we minimize them sometimes. Sometimes we make ourselves smaller or have it have made ourselves smaller because of the people that we're around. It's like give yourself permission to lead into the things that bring you joy that are the strengths that you have that help other people, whatever those strengths are. Um, the values that we still feel true to. It's like don't deviate from those things because those things are part of who you are. You know, it's not like you have to shift and change your values because you're shifting and changing, you know, things that you're choosing to remove from your world. And then also there's parts of you that you know feel alive, is the best way to for me to put it. It's like when you feel really alive, when you feel really grateful and happy and content, where are you? What are you doing? You know, who are you around? Who are you not around? It's like, is there some sort of ritual or practice that helps you get there? Yeah or that you can start. I was talking with a friend yesterday, and we were talking about uh New Year New Year's resolutions, but not really. New Year's resolutions, but just more things that he wanted to do differently in the new year. And he was telling me about he goes, I decided I'm gonna journal once a week. And I was like, okay. So tell me about this journaling. Is this like something? Of course, I asking all these questions because I'm very curious because I'm much very much a journaler. And um, I was asking him about it. And he goes, Yeah, just putting down my thoughts, putting down my feelings, putting down just expressing what I truly am feeling inside. This is all just for me, it's not for anybody else. And I was telling him how I've always journaled and I don't put down all of my thoughts and feelings and true things that are going on in my side. And he was like, Why is that? And I told him, Because I'm always worried someone's gonna find it and would like have all of my vulnerability and all of it. This is what I'm sitting here thinking as you're talking about this. Yeah. And so and he was like, I said, like, what if I died of something? And then like people have these books. And he goes, Why do you care you're dead? Just like that's a really good point. But I just I don't know why I worry about that. He goes, Well, you just put things in code that you don't want other people to know. He's giving me all these solutions, you know, of what I could do. But anyway, I thought that was kind of cute. But that's what he's planning to do. And I was like, you know what? I think I might do that too. I like that. Yeah. Because it's just such a great way of being able to just download and you can go back six months and go, damn, I've been feeling this way for a long time. Or just tell me where the journals are, Julie.

SPEAKER_01:

And if you do die, I will like be the first to grab them and nobody else will see them.

SPEAKER_00:

Okay, deal. Or maybe I'm gonna get a safe and I'll put them in a safe. I'm not kidding, because I mean, I might scare people with some of my thoughts. Not really. I mean, you're not that bad, but yeah. Some of them, some of them are inside the inside thoughts. Inside thoughts. We don't need those to sneak out. We don't need those to sneak out, exactly. So no.

SPEAKER_01:

Anyway, I guess journaling is a great idea though. I think I like your point, you know, the things that energize you and make you feel good. And and those are all things too that sometimes I think I don't want to use the word stigma, but I mean, there's there's so many things as women. Um, I know for me, I I'll say for me that do make me feel good. And they're all the typical women things that you think about, you know, compassion, right? Compassion for others, you know, leadership. We we have those leadership roles, whether it's in the home, in the workplace, out in the world, those kinds of things. Creativity, creativity, being dependable, all of all of those kinds of things, those are very fulfilling for me. I think for a lot of people, they are. And um, you know, those are things that, you know, maybe as you're moving through trying to figure some of some of the things out that are changing in life, those would be some of the things that I would lean into. Okay, that makes sense. You know, it especially if you're struggling with maybe some of the other things that you that aren't serving you that you're trying to figure out how to make some subtle changes with, right? Lean into the things that that are reliable within you that you know bring you joy and lean into those in the meantime while you're working on some of the areas that you're struggling with, if that makes sense.

SPEAKER_00:

It does. It makes a hundred percent sense. And the other point I wanted to make too is on the flip side, we've got things that drain the hell out of us. It's like, what the fuck? Why am I talking to this person again? I just walk away and want to bang my head against the wall, kind of stuff, you know? Yeah. And so, or a task or something that you've committed to that just drains the hell out of you. It's like I've no, I've noticed lately like conversations and things that I've had that have exhausted me. And it's not that I and I was telling Michelle earlier, it's like I have a tendency to want to run away from things sometimes, you know, or like I run away and I'm kind of like, I don't want to deal with that, whatever. I'm trying really hard not to do that and trying to process things differently. And I just think sometimes there are things that are sucking the life out of you that you are okay with letting go. Yeah. You know, but you feel obligated. Sure. Because you're responsible.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah, being a fixer, for example, uh, the good girl all the time, right? The martyr. The martyr. I mean, that's very, very typical. Being the peacemaker to your point, like you were talking about earlier, at all costs. So if that's, you know, then being silent and you know, not not getting to the resolve that you need to get to, um, that's where it the at all cost part is the draining part.

SPEAKER_00:

Right. Right. But if it means that's what you need to do for yourself, you gotta do it. So yeah. I think there's also fear to some degree about letting go of the things that we're saying don't serve you when we're talking about some of these identities. And truly, it's like with me, because I I am a person who can I concern myself with how other people feel for the most part. I mean, not all the time, I guess, but but it's like I would be worried about how, not worried, but um reflect on how my change is maybe going to affect another person. Now, one might say that's not my problem, it's their problem. And I I think that's a very black and white way of looking at it. I don't necessarily agree, you know, with that approach, but at the same time, it's like I can't necessarily deviate from what I'm doing because it will impact somebody else, because maybe they need to do something differently too. But I I just think it needs to be a part of the whole thought process because it's not like it stops when you make a change, whether it's subtle or whether it's really clear and you know, approach to the world kind of a thing, but your your change will affect other people. Um and it that's okay. Just understand that it's very possible.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah, well, and it might bring forth some communication that wouldn't have been brought forth otherwise. Exactly. Which uh puts things out on the table in a good way, whether it's you know, a romant a romantic relationship, familiar relationships, all of those things, um, it's gonna matter. And you know, just because things don't fit anymore, it doesn't, it's not like you're retiring these things forever. You're still gonna be a peacemaker sometimes, even though it's sometimes it's draining. It's it's the recognizing within that identity what is not serving you and when it brings you joy. So, you know, if we changed all the identities, we wouldn't be who we are anymore. Right? So it's it's more about shifting and redefining, maybe what some of these identities are in life and how they make us feel and and what it looks like to shift and maybe change. You know how we are as women. We're always fucking like shifting and changing and going with the flow so that everything else is okay.

SPEAKER_00:

Rocking and rolling, moving and grooving, moving and grooving, yeah. So so okay, so let's talk a little bit about this audit and like the exercises some people can have. So let's think about listeners, folks that are out there, identities you're carrying. Let's just have you think about what identities are you carrying, and then what fits, what doesn't fit. This is pretty simple stuff, right? Yeah. But you're not sure fits or doesn't fit. And then what are you willing to loosen or kind of let go of a little bit this month just to see how it how I like loosen?

SPEAKER_01:

I like that word loosen.

SPEAKER_00:

It's not, it's not, you know, cut out. It's you know, I'm just gonna look at this a little bit differently, maybe put put so much energy into it, you know.

SPEAKER_01:

That's well, just ask yourself ask yourself some questions. Feel when are some of the times you feel most yourself? Yeah. Really think about that. That that's the audit, man, right there. When what what are the things that I'm doing when I feel most likely myself? When is that? And then what's gonna happen? Yeah.

SPEAKER_00:

Am I I feel drained when I do X?

SPEAKER_01:

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_00:

So those are the things you'd want to look at. Or if I stopped doing this or I stopped approaching this, whatever it is, how am I gonna view myself and how am I gonna feel about it? Yeah. I think those are the kind of three, three key points that we want to get to get across and convey. Love it. Yeah. So it's not like you have a deadline that says, oh, by the 15th of the month, you need to do X, X, and X. That's not what we're saying at all. This is more kind of like an evolution. It's more about having awareness, bringing awareness to yourself and determining what brings joy to you, like you said before.

SPEAKER_01:

Maybe you turn in the side eye all the time, just keep doing those habitual things, the same, the same, the same. Uh, you know, the awareness is what will bring the attention, and and that's where you might see some some things shifting, subtle changes, loosening the reins on some things, and uh might feel pretty good.

SPEAKER_00:

Yeah. Yeah. You're right. So until you try it. Kind of, you know, in closing, just some thoughts. Again, we talked about not really, we don't need to announce anything to anybody. We're not putting this out on public display. You're not putting the neon sign on your head, okay? Look through the things that are what we've discussed and perhaps see if there's adjustments that you want to make. Um, you don't owe anybody explanations for things. That's a hundred percent. They're not even gonna know necessarily what's going on with you. And becoming how you're becoming and evolving, it happens quietly. It's not something that is necessarily uh projected to the world. So understand you don't have to worry about that either.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah.

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We're loving our we're loving our listeners, we're having the most fun with them. But I think what's really important, just in closing, then again, if this episode stirs something in you, then that's information, and that information can spark that change. So before we sign off, I'm just gonna say Maria Kondo that shit off, you know.

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Just go do it. If it doesn't serve you, let it go.

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Let it go. Say thank you and let it go.

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Let it go. I like it. On that note, all right, everybody. Yeah, peace out. We'll see you soon. Stay spicy. Stay spicy. Bye.