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39. Redefining Relationships in Midlife

• Jules and Michele: Midlife Mentors • Episode 39

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Are you tired of being the "Peacekeeper" or the "Fixer" for everyone in your life? In Episode 39, Julee and Michele come to you from the Emerald City with a "no BS" guide to redefining relationships in midlife.

We discuss:

  • Romance Reality Check: Why tolerance and playfulness replace the hormonal "butterflies" of our youth.
  • The "Let Them" Theory: How to stop letting family drama steal your peace.
  • Role Reversals: Navigating the shift to being the Matriarch with aging parents.
  • The Strike: Michele shares her story of stopping all domestic duties to prove a point.
  • Communication Wins: A text message so good, Julee thought it was AI.

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SPEAKER_00:

Hey, all you spicy women out there. Jules and Michelle here from Seattle, Washington, what I also like to call the ML City, coming to you with our real life stories and no BS conversations that we can share with all of you about midlife.

SPEAKER_03:

That is right, everybody. I just want to point out Julie's shirt for those of that you can see on YouTube. Look at those. Yep, yep, yep. And uh by the time you're listening this, we will have won the Super Bowls. That's right. That's right. And the dog, she has hers on too.

SPEAKER_00:

See, see her Seahawks.

SPEAKER_03:

What does it say on the bottom? Fuck around. Fuck around and find out. Oh, and find out. Yeah. Back says, bitch, I'm a Seahawk. So there's some of these down at the stadium, and it's like everybody is doing it.

SPEAKER_00:

I love it.

SPEAKER_03:

I love it. But yes, we are here to help all you midlife women redefine your relationships, ditch those toxic cycles, and reclaim your power one episode at a time. And that's why we are here because we're going to do that right now.

SPEAKER_00:

That is right. We are excited to talk yet again about relationships. We're really trying to dig into this a little bit deeper and make sure it's sticking with some of you guys because as we get into our community and a lot of the discussions we're going to be able to have, there's going to be so much conversation around relationships, not just romantic, but obviously relationships with yourself. And life is full of a man. It's all about it unless you're a hermit, right? And then you have a relationship maybe with your UPS driver or your or Amazon driver. Yourself, which is probably the most important one. Yeah. And the TV. Can you imagine? Okay. We're we're getting into something that doesn't matter because I'm never going to be a hermit. I'm never living off the grid. No, I might. So just hang in. I'll be bringing Michelle um earth that is organic or something so she can plant her peas. And then I'll eat the peas. Anyway. All right. Well, Michelle, what are we getting into today?

SPEAKER_03:

Well, uh again, relationships, but we're we're gonna touch on all relationships and the changes that happen as we uh move through. Well, first as we evolve into midlife, and then as we're moving through in midlife and what some of those things are. This is gonna be high level, overarching, uh, you know, bullet pointed, so we can cover kind of a lot uh because later on we're gonna dive deeper into sections of this.

SPEAKER_00:

So I mentioned before it's not about romantic relationships in particular, right? But let me just say, remember when those romantic relationships made you have butterflies and you were just like all excited and stuff? Okay, it's not all about that now.

SPEAKER_03:

I think it's like, well, yeah. I I mean it it's so interesting because don't you think that when you're talking about that and that type of relationship, that it's hormonal?

unknown:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03:

I I mean, a lot of that is the hormones of that age, right? And you just look at somebody and get wet. Okay. Like if you're attracted to somebody, you're like, oh geez, I still do that on occasion. But but specifics. I'm just I'm I'm just saying. And then as you like evolve and you're moving through life and now it's midlife, and now she has to use lip bullets. Related to those hormones still, and gosh darn it, that doesn't really happen as easily as it used to. No, it just takes you a little longer, right? Might feel those butterflies, but unless you have the pellet, but that's another topic.

SPEAKER_00:

Anyways. Yeah, but anyway, now it's more about you know, honesty and vulnerability and boundaries when we're talking romantic relationships and you know, any other kind, really.

SPEAKER_03:

Because we've changed. Yeah. We we've changed and our needs have changed, our wants, our desires have changed.

unknown:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00:

And uh, you know, you you start getting into things a little bit differently with people when you're interested in really learning more about them. Or maybe their quirks still freak you out and bother you, but um you have to remember do you have them too?

SPEAKER_03:

Well, and I and I think too at at this point, um pretending can be pretty exhausting. So if you like pretend not to, or that it doesn't bother you and and things like that, whatever it might be, that can be exhausting. So I I know for me, realizing in midlife that it ain't nobody changing really at this point. And there are things that you can be more tolerant of. It doesn't mean that it doesn't bother you or things like that, but you recognize, like Julie just said, you've got your own quirks. And to communicate and be playful about those things, I think is helpful or can be when it comes to these types of things that we're talking about.

SPEAKER_00:

Because it's like, okay, people are they can be 25 years old, they can be 60 years old set in their ways. And I don't you think? And so, but I do really oh I do. I I think a lot of it has to do with the way you're raised, and if you're like raised in a box, you might sit in a box. You know, if you're very, you know, rigid with how you look at things, it might be difficult for you to look at things.

SPEAKER_03:

Everybody's different, but I I think being set in your ways at 25 looks very different than it does when you're 60.

SPEAKER_00:

Yeah, it's because they don't necessarily have the experience, right? Right to go along with some of that. So I agree, but I guess my point that I'm trying to get to is we talk about evolving and changing in relationships, and we're planning to do that. We've done that, we're continuing, we will always be evolving and changing, I think, because we've kind of embraced that. And all of these women that are out there, they're in the position where they have the choice to evolve and change in regard to their relationships as well. Um, and their relationships could be with a variety of different people who don't choose to evolve and change, but everybody has the capacity to do that. You can't just you can't just make people though. You know, it's like you have to accept them for the place they're at. That's right.

SPEAKER_03:

You can't make people they gotta want to change.

SPEAKER_00:

If there's changes to be made, they gotta want to do that themselves. And it might be dependent upon how much they really want you in their life or really want you at that level in their life. Yeah. You know, whether it's a family member or whether it's, you know, a really good friend or, you know, even a romantic partner or whatever. It's it's uh it's something that people have to make a conscious choice to do, you know, more of an intentional choice if they want to, you know, have a harmony, have harmony with you and as a friend. And it's not saying that you're in control and you've got all of the, you know, you're the one that dictates everything, but um, you know, if you're making a change, you kind of do because you're putting up your boundaries. You know, so um I don't think midlife is about breaking relationships, uh, discarding relationships necessarily, but it's definitely about exposing the things in relationships that don't bring you joy or that leave you with a feeling of emptiness or frustration or guilt or you know, whatever whatever emotion you're feeling.

SPEAKER_03:

Well, I think at that point in I think in midlife, we have less tolerance for that, which is part of what you just said. And and that's the reason when you talk about that exposure. And I I think because those things will be drawn out as part of those boundaries, as part of there being a less of a tolerance for things, you know, and communicating about those things. Um, there's less performance of tolerance, if that makes sense.

SPEAKER_00:

I think well, uh there's the peacekeepers, right? The what people that are really just more peacekeepers, and I would say that kind of ties in a little bit to um pleasing, you know. I think I I mean I know people that are peacekeepers. It's like they're the Switzerland of the group, you know. They're the ones that are, come on, guys, everybody get along, you know, that sort of thing. But they never really share their ideas or where they feel things are in regard to maybe a circumstance happening because they're the ones that are trying to just make everybody happy. And so you might be that person, people that are listening, you might be that person and you might be just freaking tired of it, of being that person, you know. So if there's an emotional imbalance in a relationship that is uh in any capacity in your life, you have to really evaluate. It's like if you're putting all of this energy into try to make things work and you're fucking exhausted about it, maybe that emotional imbalance is kind of giving you a red flag that you need to look at.

SPEAKER_03:

Mm-hmm. You know, you gotta pay attention. Pay attention to that. Uh because I th I think and I know we opened up, you know, kind of joking and talking about romantic relationships, but really this this is all encompassing of family relationships, can be when we're talking about these things, uh, you know, family relationships, um friendships, even, you know, to a certain degree. There's there's all those types of relationships are are the relationships we have with our children, yeah, right, and them with us, those, those types of things. And I think um when I talk about less tolerance, uh, you know, I think we at this point are craving more depth with things than drama. We've lived through plenty of drama, I know in relation in all of those types of relationships that I just mentioned. There's always throughout life has been plenty of drama for me anyways. Well, I can't speak for you all.

SPEAKER_00:

As we talk about this, I'm thinking about like extended family, like my extended family, and not to name anyone in particular, but it's like the drama is built in to the extended family to the point where that is pretty much what those relationships look like to, in in my opinion, some of the things. And so I just kept kind of chosen to like remove myself from some of those things because I don't need that shit in my life. I don't need drama or to worry about so-and-so talking about so-and-so behind their back. And I just I'm like, I am not in grade school anymore, and I just don't, I I have no tolerance for a lot of it. So I think that kind of resonates maybe with a lot of people with family in particular, because that seems to be where it continues to happen over and over again because they're your family and you know, you didn't choose them, but you're stuck with them.

SPEAKER_03:

Well, and I just I I really do love the whole Mel Robbins let them. Yeah, you know, that's so huge. Especially, I I mean, it's huge for everybody, and it's a great learning no matter what stage you are in life. Um, for for us, we're in midlife when we, you know, when when I first heard about that, and it's so easy. It I mean, it's like literally two words, let them. But I think it is because we crave more depth in our relationships. I think being able to just, yeah, being able to just let them. I mean, we're talking about drama here, so that's that's what made me think of that. Um, I I think it's going to be able to bring a sense of safety within yourself when it comes to those things and peace.

SPEAKER_00:

I think the big one is peace because when you say, you know, like I and I have that book, Jen, my friend, my friend Jen got me that book, and she got it for a bunch of us girls and stuff, and I actually got her the shirt to go to go with it, yeah. Because it's it's very, it's really more for you. It's kind of like when you are so angry with someone or resenting someone or just really hurt by somebody, and you hold on and harbor that anger, it's not hurting them, it's hurting you. It's kind of the same principle. It's like when you say let them, it's like you're just kind of like Jesus take the wheel, you know? It's like I am, I am, I'm just not gonna worry about it. It's not my it's not my circus, you know, kind of a thing. I'm just letting it go because I'm putting too much energy into something that's creating all this anxiety for me. And I'm like, and it's not doing me any favor. So it's just let them, let it go. Yeah. And it's about just releasing judgment and everything, too, I think.

SPEAKER_03:

Yeah, because it can keep hold on you. Yeah, oh yeah, and and really uh make you harbor a lot of uh interesting feelings and uh that don't don't do you any emotional well-being, it's not good for your emotional well-being, it's not good for your physical well-being. So just let them and let it go.

SPEAKER_00:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03:

That's a whole other episode, though.

SPEAKER_00:

I know. Let them and let it go. Yeah. So talking about again, midlife and relationships, kind of what we've been obviously speaking about. Um, if we're choosing ourselves now, we're choosing the people that we have become, you know, and there are uh a lot of people that want the old person in their life. Maybe there's someone that you knew when you were younger and you know, you were a crazy party girl, and maybe you're just not a crazy party girl anymore, but they want the crazy party girl in their life. Yeah, it's like they want the old person, and you have to be okay with just be letting them want that, yeah, you know, and just letting that go.

SPEAKER_03:

Yeah. So just like the episode we we had just recently, you know, who benefits when you stay the same? Yeah. You know, that is that is so true at this point in life because um we get to choose who we are now. We've moved through all so many experiences, and we're not that person that we used to be. It it's part of us. Well, it's we are the sum of it. Yeah, yeah. It's it's part of us, and it's part of what made us who we are now. Yeah. For for whatever we learned through it and and however we moved through it, and however messy it was, who knows?

SPEAKER_00:

But well, and I I wouldn't say all of it comes out smelling like roses either. You know, it's like you you take things just like anybody else, you know, going through uh any kind of relationship that has hardship in it. Maybe it's a death, maybe it's you know a breakup, maybe it's um, you know, the family drama that tears everybody apart when someone passes away and they, you know, the will everybody fights over it. That's stuff that happens all the time. You know, and uh it doesn't make you feel, you know, very good, you know, when those things are happening, but they do, and they do create part of your story. Yeah. Um when you are married or in a long-term relationship and you break up, it's like there's baggage, you sh there's all this shit you take with you. And the person that broke up you and broke up with, they take all their shit with them. And it's like if you don't do something with that baggage, it's part of you, but it's not necessarily the best part of you, you know?

SPEAKER_03:

Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_00:

So those are things to think about. Um, I know I've thought about that a lot because coming out of divorce, I thought, oh, I'm piece of cake. I got it. You know, of course I'm perfect, right? Whatever. Oh, I was yeah, so not really having a clue about anything. You know, it was like basically being 24 years old again, trying to figure things out, you know.

SPEAKER_03:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00:

Anyway. Um the desire that we have, I think, is more about um being wanted for who we are and being accepted for who we are and not necessarily questioned, you know, because of the experiences that we've been through. We may have a very unorthodox way of looking at something and people don't get it. They haven't had the experiences, so maybe they just don't get it, you know. Um, so it's more about kind of being able to feel comfortable in the place that you're at.

SPEAKER_03:

I think that's that's the key right there, being comfortable in the place that you're at. Because people, there is gonna be judgment. There, there, there is gonna be judgment because uh, you know, from family members, again, with all these relationships, even in a partnership relationship, um, there will tend to be some some judgment placed um with regard to different things. And you do have to be confident and comfortable with who you are, yeah. And and what this outcome is looking like.

SPEAKER_00:

Yeah. No, that's very true. So now, you know, we are in the present day. Um, who are we now? We've talked about that. Um, what is our connection? You know, we have become the women that realize we have been the fixer, we've been the glue, we've been the peacekeeper. I talked about earlier. We are really in a matriarchal role in some capacity, even if you don't have children, you're in a matriarchal role.

SPEAKER_03:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00:

And uh people look to you for guidance and advice on how to fix things and and what to do. And it's like sometimes you just want someone to tell you what to do.

SPEAKER_03:

What's happening? What's wrong?

SPEAKER_00:

So it sounds very um echoey.

SPEAKER_03:

Oh, I'm not getting that in your name. Okay. Yeah. Where are we at about 17 and a half minutes? Okay.

SPEAKER_00:

Um go on. So you don't want to shrink to stay connected with people anymore.

SPEAKER_03:

It it looks different, you know. You you do want to stay connected, obviously, but you don't want to have to change and be less of who you are to continue and to keep that connection.

SPEAKER_00:

So maybe you don't end up staying connected though. That's what I'm saying. Well, yeah, yeah. I mean, if they're if that that that could be an outcome. If you have and this is the tough one where families are concerned, because there are definitely people out in this world, every one of us has a family dynamic of some kind, yeah, where they do shrink to, you know, keep the peace or whatever the case may be and kind of become not themselves in order. That's why you have so many people that just hate going to family gatherings. It's kind of sad, really, because your family really should be your foundation for everything.

SPEAKER_03:

I I think it's important that you explore ways, though, of trying to it it depends on the the connection. It depends on the family dynamics. I I know for me I've had to explore different ways of uh what that looks like to keep those connections because trust me, I have some family dynamics that are going on. Um I've had to navigate and and come up with different ways to to continue with and to keep those connections. So sometimes creativity, uh depending on the family dynamic or you know, what there is going on, you know, it it's it's gonna be worth that exploration. Yeah. It doesn't mean I'm shrinking or being less, but still being that uh matriarch of the family, if you will.

SPEAKER_00:

Well, I mean, I'm thinking, like, for example, we both have aging parents, but ours our realities in regard to our aging parents is very different. Yeah, it's like the relationships have been very, very different. Yes. Now I'm starting to see that a little bit differently than I did before. And a lot of that is probably growth and maturity. Yes, I still gain maturity at my age, um, on my part, uh, because I've come to learn and understand things differently than I did before. So instead of being so frustrated and so exasperated all the time, you know, when I have to deal with my mom, um, who I adore. I love my mom, but but she's a pain in the ass. I mean, truly, sometimes we we Michelle knows her. Um, but now I'm seeing her differently, you know, it's like the relationship has changed where you know, this matriarchal thing that we were talking about a minute ago is now I'm the I'm the person. My sister and I are the people that are the roles reverse role. The roles are reversed. So you automatically will start looking at things differently and maybe with a little bit more patience and grace because it is what it is, you know.

SPEAKER_03:

Well, and there is negotiation. You you know, you were talking about, you know, frustration and stuff too. And I think that's where sometimes you gotta just kind of flip that and realize that there is negotiation that has to come to play, you know, with our relationships. And and that is all relationships. There's gonna be negotiation because some some of those connections as a result of negotiation, they'll deepen. And and some of them might feel tighter and feel better, and that connection is even stronger, but then there are those two through the negotiation that might go the opposite way. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00:

So it either levels up or it levels out. Yeah, exactly. Yeah, it does. Yeah. I guess it depends really how important it is to you. I mean, we're we are at a place where I I mean, I don't know about you. Well, I do know you we don't have a lot of free time in terms of just having this, you know, abundance of time to be able to just navigate all these new friendships and I don't I mean, I'm not really if I really connect with somebody, I totally want to get to know them. But it's like I don't really see those kinds of connections in the same way as I used to. Yeah, I always think about people as like, oh, they're my friend, or they're though that person would be such a good friend or whatever. But it's like I don't have time to really dig in and and get to know them, you know, so it doesn't turn it turns they stay acquaintances basically. Um because we have uh a core group, I would say, where we will invest our energy and our time.

SPEAKER_03:

Yeah, nothing wrong with that. That's very yeah, that's very true.

SPEAKER_00:

Yeah. Um, so it isn't about losing people, it is really about kind of changing the rules of engagement, and I'm saying level up, as I mentioned before, or level out, because you know, some places, some people just aren't meant to stay in your life in the same way. They might be in your life, but maybe they're more on the periphery, or they um you just don't give them as much of your energy.

SPEAKER_03:

So what do you think some of um some of the things are that can that can help us have uh practical and empowering relationships? What do What does some of that look like? Especially like now in midlife where some of these can be, I don't want to say awkward, but you know, well they can they're changing and they're and they can be different.

SPEAKER_00:

Yeah. I would say um I would say getting honest about the way we approach things versus being uh a drama queen about it. Yeah. And it's not not everybody has that. That might even be kind of construed as maybe slightly immature, but there are s there are plenty of people that it's like it turns into drama. Instead of dealing with a problem, it turns into drama. And that's the way they end a friendship or end a relationship of some kind.

SPEAKER_03:

And I think that just like what you were just saying, I I think it's part that can happen if we are um if we are not apologizing. Sometimes we have to do that. I I and I think if we're not apologizing um and just, you know, demanding, that's where those, that's where that drama can come into play. If we speak what we're needing, if we say those things, you know, then I think that's going to be more helpful.

SPEAKER_00:

And putting thought into that because not every it's like when you're coming at somebody with something that may be an uncomfortable, awkward kind of proposal or concern or whatever, it's like be really careful about using the I, I, I, I, I. It's not all about you. It's, I mean, obviously it's about how you're feeling about something. Um, but when you're talking about something important with someone else, it's how they're feeling too.

SPEAKER_03:

I was gonna say you have to let them react. Yeah. As you're expressing or speaking about those needs. Uh you have to let the other person react to whatever that is.

SPEAKER_00:

So I have a I have kind of a funny example of this. That um, so Mary and I, you know, I'm the little I'm the social butterfly at work, right? She's not as much of a social butterfly, or she's just more particular, I guess, about the things that she gets involved in. And I want to show our face and make sure people know they're supported, you know, and being my little Pollyanna self. And so I had asked her about this event, and I had said, Are are you gonna go to the event? No, I'm not going. I'm like, you you don't ever show your face at anything, you don't ever come to any of these things. I go by myself and whining about it, right? And it was like a five-minute thing that I could see the bubbles on the text messages, like she'd been she was playing with it, thinking about it, probably you know, deleting stuff and rewriting it, and then she sends me this the cutest response. And I replied to her and I'm like, Did you just put that through chat GPT? And she's like, No, that was all me. But what she was trying to convey was what her need was. And I mean, I'm sitting here imposing on her what my need was, or it's like, I want you to be a part of this, so I'm not doing it on my own, but really it's nothing that was important to her, so it didn't really have value for her.

SPEAKER_03:

And I know you guys are friends, but I mean, therein comes a working relationship as well. So this stuff has to do with, you know, there's there's all aspects.

SPEAKER_00:

Yeah, and I certainly couldn't, I certainly can't be mad at her for that. I mean, I kind of appreciate the way she responded to it. She didn't get angry, she didn't get snappy, or you know, which you know she can do. We do that back and forth all the time. But it was just a very poignant response, and I was like Okay. I I was like, that sounded like a Chat GPT response, but do you girl? It's fine. Sounds funny. Yeah, it was pretty funny. She said, I swear to God it wasn't, it was all mean.

SPEAKER_03:

Isn't that funny? I know everybody now like if something sounds eloquent and you do a good job job at something, everybody now just automatically assumes it's you know, AI or chat GPT. We are smart people.

SPEAKER_00:

We are smart people, but most of us haven't gone through language classes in a while or punctuation or you know, whatever. So Yeah, yeah. Anyway, I know. So do we need permission slips though? We really don't. Permission slips to change our uh approach on things or um permission slips to want more? No.

SPEAKER_03:

You don't need yeah, you don't need those.

SPEAKER_00:

Oh, I just answered that for you.

SPEAKER_03:

Yeah, yeah, yeah. You did. You're allowed to want more. Yeah, you are so yeah, the listeners right now, you are allowed to want more. You are allowed to want different, and you're allowed to, you know, take up space within your relationships. Yeah. And you know, they can be healthy by putting some of these things that we just were talking about into play if you aren't already. Yeah. Just contemplate and and and think about that and maybe think about something that you would change if you stopped managing everybody else's comfort level. You stopped being a pleaser, like changing the things you do so that everybody else is comfortable. You know, what what what would change if you stopped doing that?

SPEAKER_00:

Yeah. So I've thought about that a lot with with different relationships and stuff. It's like if I just didn't do anything, what would happen? If I stopped doing the things that I'm doing, what would happen? And the answer in my mind is a lot of nothing. Nothing would probably happen. Then I know that if there's something wrong that needs to be changed.

SPEAKER_03:

I did that when I was married. I went on strike. Yeah. I did. I I like stopped cleaning. I stopped when when I started working outside the home, yeah, it's a whole other story. But yeah, I was like, you know what? I I'm realizing all the things that I used to do. And I I literally was like trying to keep up with it all as well as working and doing all the stuff. And I'm like, no, I'm going to go.

SPEAKER_00:

It's like we want you home because dinner is not ready or whatever, and like everything with dinner.

SPEAKER_03:

Hell in a hambasket.

SPEAKER_00:

Yeah. So anyway, I I think what's important to note that is um we've mentioned before about our community that's coming. We're really excited about it. The spicy collective. We're going to have the ability to um have people register and sign up for this, and it'll be starting March 1st. And it'll probably be in the next week or so. We'll have that link available. Um, but this is gonna be this is a great example of being able to have really in-depth, fluid, raw conversations with other women that are like-minded, that have similar issues that they want to address. And uh, and just it's just a really, I'm so excited about it, Michelle.

SPEAKER_03:

Yeah, it's gonna be a it's gonna be a great platform to uh really kind of dig into that and and talk to other spicy midlife women. Or if you're just a midlife wim woman and you're wanting your, you know, that spiciness intrigues you, this will definitely be a membership that you'll want to be a part of.

SPEAKER_00:

So yeah, more to come on that. We're excited. Yeah, we're super excited. So anyway, thank you everyone for uh joining us today to talk about this topic a little bit more. Michelle mentioned we'll be getting into more depth as we go.

SPEAKER_03:

Yeah. If you uh haven't checked us out on the socials, please uh go do that. We appreciate uh your support on all of them, TikTok, especially, Instagram and Facebook, and over on YouTube. Check us out there, please subscribe and fuck around and find out. Sure. Oh yeah, there's that too. Yeah. And uh we do um appreciate all the downloads. The downloads have been downloading and we definitely don't know. Downloads have been downloading. We see you. Yeah, thank you. Thank you so much, everybody.

SPEAKER_00:

Peace out, everyone. Stay spot. Bye.