Enneagram Communication: What Each Type Needs to Slow Down

How do you communicate better through your Enneagram type? Each number has one habit to slow down. Here is the breakdown for Types 1 through 9.

Kelly and Damon use James 1:19 (quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to become angry) as the lens for this episode, walking through one specific slow-down practice for each Enneagram type.

What each type should slow down:

Type 1: criticism. Notice the judgment and ask what is underneath it.

Type 2: their yeses. Every yes is a no to something else.

Type 3: everything. Rest is not optional, even when work feels energizing.

Type 4: comparison. The envy cycle starts here.

Type 5: hesitation. Share the insight before you have all of it.

Type 6: fear. Process feelings on the way to worst-case scenario, not after.

Type 7: reactivity. Borrow the gear before you buy it.

Type 8: intensity. Even when you are right, the volume can lose the room.

Type 9: agreement. Sure is not the same as actually agreeing.

Kelly also shares a real-time story about slowing her 8 intensity during a credit card dispute, plus a shoutout to friends from a recent Enneagram and Communication workshop at Morning Glory Christian Counseling in Moberly, Missouri.

If you have ever felt like your communication style works against you, this episode gives you one practical lever to pull, tailored to your number.

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