Beyond Your Number
You’re not just a type — you’re a whole story. Beyond Your Number is a conversational Enneagram podcast where Damon & Kelly explore real-life growth through personality. From relationships to team dynamics, we help you go deeper than the label. New episodes every Wednesday. Formerly EnneagramU.
Episodes
123 episodes
Lost in Translation: What a Type 8 hears when you say “Calm down.”
When you tell an Eight “calm down,” they often hear “you’re too much,” “you’re out of control,” or “I’m censoring you.” In this episode Kelly and Damon unpack why protectors (8s) lead with intensity, why that phrase lands as a threa...
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Season 3
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Episode 123
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25:06
Lost in Translation: What a Type 7 Hears When You Say “Be Serious.”
This week we unpack Enneagram Sevens, the joy-bringers who can feel shut down when they hear, “Can you just be serious?” Kelly explains how that lands as “You’re too much,” “Your joy isn’t welcome,” or “We can’t take you seriously,”.We’l...
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Season 3
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Episode 122
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23:35
Lost in Translation: What Type 6's hear when you say "Don’t worry about it".
Damon & Kelly break down how well-meant reassurances land for Enneagram Sixes (The Loyalists). When you say “Don’t worry” or “It’s fine,” a 6 often hears “You’re on your own.” We cover why that triggers alarm (not trust), what it communicat...
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Season 3
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Episode 121
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20:35
Lost in Translation: Type 5 “We Need to Talk”. Without the Ambush!”
Type Fives value space, clarity, and time to think, so “We need to talk” can sound like “prepare to be emotionally mugged.” In this Lost in Translation episode, Damon and Kelly break down what Fives often hear versus what we mean
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Season 3
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Episode 120
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21:56
Lost in Translation: What Type 4 Hears in Your Silence
In this episode of Beyond Your Number, Damon and Kelly unpack how silence, quick responses, or even well-intentioned pauses can land painfully with a Type 4. For Fours, depth, authenticity, and connection are everything and when we don...
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Season 3
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Episode 119
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27:55
Lost in Translation: What Type 3's Actually Hear
Threes often hear praise like “you’ve got it all together” as “you’re a fraud.” In this episode, Damon and Kelly unpack how seemingly harmless comments can trigger imposter syndrome for Enneagram 3s, and what to say instead. Learn phrases that ...
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Season 3
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Episode 118
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27:27
Lost in Translation: How to Say “No”, without wounding a Type 2
We’re back from break and digging into Type 2 (The Helper) in our Lost in Translation series. What you mean as a simple boundary,“Thanks, I’m good”,can land as rejection to a Two. Damon and Kelly unpack common mi...
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Season 3
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Episode 117
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21:16
Classic Replay: Understanding the Enneagram Triads (Gut, Heart, Head)
We’re dipping back into the archive with a foundation episode on the Triads—Gut (8-9-1), Heart (2-3-4), and Head (5-6-7). Damon and Kelly break down what each triad prioritizes, the core emotion it wrestles with (anger, shame, fear)...
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Season 3
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Episode 116
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22:53
Classic Replay: Unlocking the Harmony Triads
Today we’re revisiting a deep-dive conversation from our Enneagram U days, all about the Harmony Triads.Damon and Kelly unpack this advanced Enneagram teaching, showing how each triad (3-6-9, 2-5-8, and 1-4-7) holds a uni...
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Season 3
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Episode 115
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23:11
Classic Replay: What Really Motivates Each Enneagram Type
While we take a short break from our Lost in Translation series, we’re re-releasing one of our most loved episodes: Motivations.In this conversation, Damon and Kelly lay the foundation for understanding the Enneagram by e...
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Season 3
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Episode 114
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21:24
Lost in Translation: How to Speak So a Type 1 Truly Hears You
We’re kicking off our new Lost in Translation series, all about how what you say isn’t always what the other person hears. This week, we focus on Enneagram Type 1: what they hear, why it happens, and how to sp...
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Season 3
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Episode 113
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24:43
Speaking vs. Listening: The Roles That Make or Break Conflict Conversations
Ever tried to resolve a conflict only to end up in a verbal boxing match? This week, Damon and Kelly wrap up their 4-part conflict series by exploring the critical roles of speaker and listener, and why most of us play both badly.<...
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Season 3
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Episode 112
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35:38
The Self-Regulation Path: How to Calm Down Before Conflict Blows Up
This episode is the third in our conflict mini-series, if you missed the last two, definitely go back and catch them! Two weeks ago, we walked through six steps for healthy conflict. Last week, we hit the self-sabotage pitfalls that derail it. ...
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Season 3
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Episode 111
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25:16
What Gets in the Way of Healthy Conflict (And How to Spot It)
Last week, we laid out a six-step process for navigating conflict, but let’s be honest, sometimes the real struggle is what happens before the steps even start. In this follow-up episode, Damon and Kelly unpack the emotional landmines ...
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Season 3
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Episode 110
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26:46
Constructive Conflict: Turning Differences into Connection
Conflict doesn’t have to mean shouting matches or broken relationships.This week on Beyond Your Number, Damon and Kelly dive into a topic that touches every relationship—conflict. They unpack how different Enneagram numbers experi...
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Season 3
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Episode 109
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26:46
How to Speak a Type 9’s Language (And Why “Sure” Isn’t Always Yes)
We’ve made it to the end of our Enneagram communication series—and it’s Damon’s turn in the hot seat as we talk all things Type 9!In this episode, Damon wrestles with “Nine doubt,” shares why he’s skeptical about gentle communication sty...
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Season 3
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Episode 108
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26:34
How to Speak a Type 7’s Language (And Say ‘Wow’ Before ‘How’)
Double-booked calendars, fast-talking optimism, and more ideas than minutes in the day…welcome to the world of the Enneagram 7!In this (slightly turbo) episode of Beyond Your Number, Damon and Kelly explore how Type 7s approach ...
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Season 3
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Episode 107
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20:20
How to Speak a Type 8’s Language (Without Getting Run Over)
What’s it like to talk with a Type 8? Passionate. Direct. Powerful. And sometimes, intense. In this episode, Kelly shares from her own experience as a Type 8—what works, what doesn't, and what eights most need from you in communication. Damon h...
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Season 3
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Episode 106
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27:25
How to Speak a Type 5’s Language (Without Forcing Small Talk)
Type Fives are thoughtful, observant, and incredibly insightful—if you give them the space to speak. In this episode, Damon and Kelly unpack how Fives approach communication, why they avoid surface-level conversations, and what it really takes ...
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Season 3
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Episode 105
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22:36
How to Speak a Type 2’s Language (Without Losing Yourself in the Process)
How do you talk with someone who’s always giving, always helping, and always putting others first? In this episode, Damon and Kelly dive into the warm, people-focused world of the Enneagram Two — and why communication with them can feel like a ...
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Season 3
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Episode 104
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26:33
How to Speak a Type 6’s Language (Without Spinning Out with Them)
How does an Enneagram Six communicate? In this episode, Damon and Kelly explore the loyal, thoughtful, and cautious communication style of Sixes — and how trust, safety, and preparation shape their voice. Whether you’re a Type 6 or tryin...
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Season 3
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Episode 103
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23:11
How to Speak a Type 3’s Language (Without Judging the Hustle)
How does an Enneagram Type 3 communicate — and what’s really going on beneath the polish? In this episode, Damon and Kelly dive into the world of the driven, adaptable, and image-conscious Three. Discover why communication for a 3 is all...
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Season 3
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Episode 102
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24:29
How to Speak a Type 4’s Language (Without Getting Too Deep Too Fast)
How does an Enneagram Four communicate? In this episode, Damon and Kelly explore the creative, emotional, and deeply authentic style of Fours — and what it means to truly be with them in conversation. Whether you are a 4 or love one, t...
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Season 3
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Episode 101
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25:29
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Ep 100: How Each Type Handles Change — and What We’re Changing Too
How do you respond to change? In our 100th episode, we explore how each Enneagram type handles change — from resistance to adventure — and why it matters. Plus, a big shift is coming for the podcast (and we finally reveal it).
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Season 3
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Episode 100
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32:40
How to Speak a Type 1’s Language (Without Getting Frustrated)
In this episode of EnneagramU, we explore how different Enneagram types communicate, focusing specifically on Type 1. We discuss the strengths and challenges of Type 1 communication, including their tendency to be precise and honest, but also p...
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Season 3
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Episode 99
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29:22