Loving Me Before I Love You Podcast with Tammy Nicole and Friends
Welcome to Loving Me Before I Love You, the podcast for women who are ready to stop losing themselves while searching for love, validation, and belonging.
Hosted by Coach Tammy Nicole, this show is where healing meets honesty, self-discovery meets transformation, and women learn how to reclaim their voice, their worth, and their power.
Each week, Coach Tammy Nicole sits down with therapists, relationship experts, life coaches, authors, and everyday people with extraordinary stories to explore the conversations that help us become healthier, more whole versions of ourselves. From self-love and emotional healing to relationships, boundaries, confidence, mother wounds, childhood experiences, mental health, identity, and personal growth, no topic is off limits.
This is not about becoming someone new.
It's about becoming the woman you were always meant to be.
If you've ever struggled with people-pleasing, abandonment wounds, emotional unavailability, unhealthy relationship patterns, low self-worth, or the feeling that you've spent your life taking care of everyone except yourself, you're in the right place.
Through meaningful conversations, practical tools, and powerful insights, you'll learn how your past shaped you, how your patterns were formed, and most importantly, how to create a future that aligns with the woman you're becoming.
Because healthy love doesn't start when someone chooses you.
It starts when you choose yourself.
So grab your journal, take a deep breath, and join us each week as we do the work of healing, growing, and becoming.
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Loving Me Before I Love You Podcast with Tammy Nicole and Friends
Who Am I When Nobody's Watching
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Welcome back to Loving Me Before I Love You, the space where we peel back the layers and stop pretending for the sake of love.
Today’s episode is not surface cute. This one asks that question we avoid when the world isn’t clapping, the lashes come off, and the mask is sitting on the bathroom counter: Who am I when no one sees me?
I sat down with mental health expert Lenita Sanford, known across social media as @shanimentalhealth. Her platform ministers directly to the silent wounds of daddy issues, abandonment, and the impact those early patterns have on how we choose men, how we show up in love, and whether we ever truly feel worthy of healthy relationships.
Together, we unwrap:
• the identity we perform vs the identity we protect
• how father wounds shape the self-concept we carry into adulthood
• why love feels safer in fantasy than reality
• steps to break the cycle of pleasing, pretending, and performing
• what accountability looks like when healing becomes real work
This conversation will pull something out of you. No sugarcoating. If you’re tired of shrinking, tired of being strong, tired of being loyal to pain, this episode will invite you to see the version of yourself that deserves better.
Connect with our guest:
Website: lenitasanford.mysamcart.com
Social: @shanimentalhealth
If today’s dialogue stirred something in you and you want support on your self love journey:
Questions: questions@iamtammynicole.com
Coaching inquiries: Coaching@iamtammynicole.com
To sign up for 1:1 sessions or purchase digital products: stan.store/iamtammynicole
Sis, listen closely. Who you are when nobody’s watching is who you’re becoming. And she deserves to be seen.
