Loving Me Before I Love You Podcast with Tammy Nicole and Friends
Welcome to Loving Me Before I Love You, the podcast for women who are ready to stop losing themselves while searching for love, validation, and belonging.
Hosted by Coach Tammy Nicole, this show is where healing meets honesty, self-discovery meets transformation, and women learn how to reclaim their voice, their worth, and their power.
Each week, Coach Tammy Nicole sits down with therapists, relationship experts, life coaches, authors, and everyday people with extraordinary stories to explore the conversations that help us become healthier, more whole versions of ourselves. From self-love and emotional healing to relationships, boundaries, confidence, mother wounds, childhood experiences, mental health, identity, and personal growth, no topic is off limits.
This is not about becoming someone new.
It's about becoming the woman you were always meant to be.
If you've ever struggled with people-pleasing, abandonment wounds, emotional unavailability, unhealthy relationship patterns, low self-worth, or the feeling that you've spent your life taking care of everyone except yourself, you're in the right place.
Through meaningful conversations, practical tools, and powerful insights, you'll learn how your past shaped you, how your patterns were formed, and most importantly, how to create a future that aligns with the woman you're becoming.
Because healthy love doesn't start when someone chooses you.
It starts when you choose yourself.
So grab your journal, take a deep breath, and join us each week as we do the work of healing, growing, and becoming.
Welcome to Loving Me Before I Love You.
Your journey back to yourself starts here.
Loving Me Before I Love You Podcast with Tammy Nicole and Friends
That Ain’t Love, That’s Attachment
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Welcome back to Loving Me Before I Love You, where we stop romanticizing survival bonds and start telling the truth about what love actually is.
In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Ibbie, licensed mental health therapist and social psychologist, widely known as The Attachment Doc. Dr. Ibbie specializes in attachment theory and relational trauma healing, helping individuals and couples understand the patterns that keep them stuck, anxious, avoidant, or emotionally starving in relationships that feel intense but unsafe.
This conversation gets real about:
• the difference between love and attachment
• why chemistry is not compatibility
• how childhood wounds wire adult relationships
• anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment patterns
• what secure attachment actually looks like in real life
• how to stop mistaking emotional intensity for love
If you’ve ever stayed because it felt familiar, chased because it felt urgent, or tolerated because leaving felt unbearable, this episode will put language to what your nervous system has been screaming.
Connect with our guest:
Social Media: @dr.ibbiearo
If today’s episode cracked something open and you’re ready to heal intentionally:
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This is Loving Me Before I Love You. Attachment will keep you bonded to pain. Love will never ask you to abandon yourself.
