The Diary of a Discarded Daughter - Offering Hope & Redemption Where Pain Once Ruled
Welcome to Diary of a Discarded Daughter, a Christian podcast about healing from childhood trauma, abandonment, abuse, rejection, and discovering who God really is in the middle of suffering.
Hosted by Lisa Schafer, founder of Christian Drama Queen Solutions, this podcast follows her forty-year journey through childhood sexual abuse, abandonment, betrayal, and the painful questions that often follow deep emotional wounds.
But this isn't simply a story about surviving trauma. It's the story of a forty-year battle to understand God.
After being abandoned and abused as a child, Lisa spent decades wrestling with questions many Christians quietly carry:
Where was God when I was being hurt?
Why didn't He stop it?
If God loves me, why did He allow it?
How can I trust a Heavenly Father when the people who were supposed to protect me failed me?
The wounds of her childhood shaped not only how she viewed herself, but how she viewed God. Pain, bitterness, fear, and unanswered questions distorted her understanding of His love, His character, and His purpose for her life.
Through years of searching, studying Scripture, wrestling with hard truths, and experiencing the healing power of Jesus Christ, Lisa discovered that God had never abandoned her. Instead, He was patiently renewing her mind, healing her heart, and teaching her to see both herself and Him through the truth of His Word rather than the lens of her trauma.
Each week, Lisa shares personal stories, biblical insights, practical encouragement, and lessons learned along the way as she helps listeners navigate their own healing journeys.
Topics include:
- Healing from childhood abuse and trauma
- Overcoming abandonment and rejection
- Forgiveness and freedom from bitterness
- Breaking generational cycles
- Healing father wounds
- Trusting God after suffering
- Understanding God's sovereignty in pain
- Discovering your identity in Christ
- Finding purpose in your wounds
- Emotional and spiritual healing through biblical truth
With raw honesty, heartfelt conversations, biblical wisdom, and occasional humor at her own expense, Lisa creates a space where women can stop pretending, start healing, and get honest about the wounds they've carried for far too long.
Whether you're struggling with trauma, wrestling with unanswered questions, battling bitterness, or searching for God's purpose in your pain, this podcast offers hope that healing is possible.
Not because the past changes. But because God changes us.
Grab your Bible, bring your questions, and join Lisa each week as she shares how God transforms discarded daughters into women who are healed, restored, and walking confidently in His purpose.
Because your wounds may explain your story—but they do not define it.
God gets the final word.
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The Diary of a Discarded Daughter - Offering Hope & Redemption Where Pain Once Ruled
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Forgiven is NOT the Same as Forgotten
I love being in fellowship with other believers. I love worshipping in song and praising Jesus with all my heart. So—I DO attend church. But some days are just harder than others. And for Discarded Daughters like me, Father's Day can be tough.
It's not that I'm still angry. I'm not still bitter. But God gifts each of us with an amazing memory. Sometimes, recollecting a painful past can force us to re-live emotions we've already dealt with.
You can disagree with me. Maybe you believe the broken pieces of trauma can simply and easily be obliterated from our minds and hearts when we "hand them over to the Lord." It just hasn't happened that way for me. I find myself embracing my victimhood over and over through the years, and then coming back to my Spiritual senses over and over again, as well.
So, once again—on a Father's Day in church—I am reminded that my earthly father just didn't have it in him to love me, protect me—or even want me. I'm also reminded my Heavenly Father has proven time and time again that no one could possibly want me more than He does.
But I had to look for that revelation again. It didn't flash before me instantaneously when I woke up this morning. The mind is a battlefield of lies that must be battled by internalizing God's truths. I find the lies to be forced into the depths of my mind but not entirely vanquished.
He loves me when I feel unlovable.
He wants me when I feel discarded.
He desires fellowship with me when I can't even look Him in the eye.
I may never be able to fully ignore the pain of abandonment and childhood abuse. I can only tell you that my constant looking up and recalling His sacrifice for me, His gift of His Spirit in me, and seeing broken people with His eyes, equips me to move forward.
I can apply the "all things work together for good," even though I may never see the "good" come to fruition.
How did you make it through today?
Is it time to deal with all things bitter and cold? As you read my message today, are thinking there's no way to forgive those that have abused and victimized you?
What if I told you I already feel the rage that is building in you even as you think the thought,
"I don't WANT to forgive them! And YOU can't make me!"
Sister,...nothing changes unless you change it. Maybe it's time to do the hard thing.
Book the free Breakthrough call on my appointment calendar so we can at least pray about it.
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