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The Diary of a Discarded Daughter - Redeeming a Painful Past
Welcome to the Diary of a Discarded Daughter (formerly titled "The Chronicles of the Christian Drama Queen") Diary of a Discarded Daughter is hosted by Lisa Schafer—a woman who has walked through forty years of abandonment, childhood s**ual abuse, and the long, messy road to healing.
This podcast takes a raw, authentic, heartfelt, and often humorous look at the deep wounds left by being unprotected, unloved, and unwanted. Abandoned and abused as a child, Lisa Schafer, Founder of Christian Drama Queen Solutions, shares the wounds that shaped her choices, her faith, and her understanding of God, as well as the healing and redemption Jesus gave her during her 40-year search for answers to painful questions. If you’ve ever struggled to "let go" of trauma or wrestled with bitterness, Lisa offers a seat at the table.
Through candid conversations, spiritual insights, and her signature wit (often at her own expense), Lisa creates a space for women to dig deeper into their walk with Jesus. Whether you're drowning in past pain or just beginning to confront it, she offers encouragement, truth, and an open invitation to get real about the hard stuff—without shame.
Lisa Schafer is the author of two Bible studies on forgiveness:
📖 DISCARDED – A Daughter’s Journey to Reclaim Freedom and Forgive the Father Who Left Her Behind
📖 The Christian Victim’s Guide to Forgiving the Unforgivable
(Both available on Amazon.)
Please note: Lisa is not a licensed counselor, pastor, or mental health professional. She strongly encourages listeners to seek professional care when needed.
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Episodes
71 episodes
Finding Purpose for a Painful Past - God's Sovereignty (Power Point Pres.)
In this powerful and deeply personal episode, Finding Purpose for a Painful Past, God's Sovereignty, we explore how God can redeem even the most difficult chapters of our lives. If you’ve ever wrestled with questions about why certain ...
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In Authentic Discarded Daughter Fashion, I share the attack of the enemy on the messenger.
What happens when you feel called to share a message—but everything seems to rise up against you?In this episode, Lisa gets real and shares the spiritual reality of being attacked for just doing the work God gave her to do. She realizes ...
Addressing the Myth of Self-Worth? What Does the Bible Say About It?
Modern culture constantly tells us to “know your worth” and find value within yourself—but does the Bible actually teach self-worth?In this episode, Lisa explores the biblical perspective on worthiness, identity, and grace. Whil...
The Gospel of Good Vibes? And Why Your Suffering is Not Welcome in the Church
In this episode, Lisa explores a hard but necessary question: Why is the corporate church so uncomfortable with hearing about your suffering?Many believers are still walking through chronic pain, trauma, loss, or unanswer...
Sacrifice is Part of the Forgiveness Process - Part 2
The last episode opened up this concept of not just saying we've forgiven our abusers, but actually infesting loving kindness into them, and setting aside our desire for retribution or even closure. We've seen biblical examples of showing love ...
Sacrifice is Part of the Forgiveness Process - Part I
Lisa didn't come up with this idea. A popular Christian author told her story on a popular Christian network and the message resonated. But is there a Biblical account of someone needing to forgive and seeing the importance of sacrificing to do...
What if the Discarded Daughter Doesn't WANT the Mind of Christ? - Humility's Absence
Ugh! The whole idea of "having the mind of Christ" is overwhelming to think about, isn't it? It's one of those "I know I should but it just can't be done...can it?" sort of things. In this episode, Lisa shares how difficult it was for her to be...
Beth Hanning: A Discarded Daughter story - Abandoned? Maybe. Redeemed? Absolutely!
When Lisa and Beth met for the first time, it was obvious they were sisters—not only in Christ, but also in experiences of abandonment and redemption. In this episode, Beth shares her story of being kidnapped by family at a very young age and h...
For Those Teachers that Gave The Discarded Daughter Purpose
A very special episode, indeed! Today Lisa discusses the value two amazing women imparted to her at a time when she felt she had no value or purpose. Like many discarded daughters, we don't see the hope and future promised to us in Jeremiah 29,...
The Church Has No Clue! Adoption, Trauma and Ignorance.
The church always has the best of intentions. But parents of children who have struggled with physical or emotional trauma can tell you, their ignorance can inflict unintentional harm. Kristen Brock is a speaker, coach, trainer/facilitat...
Is there such a thing as premature forgiveness? w/Pastoral Counselor, Stacy Echeverria
This is an amazing interview, if I do say so myself. Recognizing trauma and grieving our loss of relationships, our expectations, our plans, is crucial for the healing process to begin. In this interview, Lisa and Stacy talk not onl...
I CAN'T FORGIVE THEM and you CAN'T Make me!
As a victim of childhood trauma herself, Lisa is not being insensitive to the pain and shame that comes with suffering. But we can't avoid the command of the Lord to forgive. Would God command us to do something so difficult if He couldn't enab...
Rage and How the Discarded Must Deal with it. 072525
What a surprise to find out (during what was supposed to be the happiest time of my life, welcoming our new baby into the world) that I had terrible thoughts of rage, abuse and despair. But that's how many of us tossed aside or abused at a youn...
Finding Intimacy with a Heavenly Father You Don't Trust
Discarded Daughters struggle to see their Heavenly Father honestly, as protector and provider, as a safe place to run and hide. And make no mistake, good works and Christian activity are suppose to be a response to an intimate walk with the Lor...
Father's Day is Painful for the Discarded Daughter - How the CDQ "Celebrates."
Forgiven is NOT the Same as ForgottenI love being in fellowship with other believers. I love worshipping in song and praising Jesus with all my heart. So—I DO attend church. But some days are just harder than others. And for Discarde...
Interview with Aliese Halcomb from The Peaceful Mompreneur - Balance, Blessing and Business
If you feel called of God to ministry or business and still need to keep it "all together" on the home front, then this is the episode for you! Aliese is one of the first guests I've brought to the Chronicles of the Christian Drama Queen Podcas...
Forgiving the Unforgivable Guest Spot on Tapestry Network Wove-In Wednesdays
A few months ago, I was invited to share the Forgiving the Unforgivable subject on Tapestry Ministry Network with Stephanie Morin Sherwood during their live Facebook group broadcast called Woven In Wednesdays. It's a bit longer than my usual br...
Is It Really Okay for Us To Walk Away? Cutting People Out - What Would Jesus Do?
Lisa never claims to have all the answers. This became abundantly clear when she read through someone else's post on Facebook, expressing their comfort with cutting someone out of their life. We all deal with toxic relationships, and have proba...
Part 4 - What Keeps YOU Up at Night - Are You Worthy? A Surprising Answer
Scripture has provided a resounding "NO!" in answer to the questions of whether we are unloved or unwanted (see parts 2 & 3 of this series). But what about the question of whether we are worthy? Deserving blessing? When feelings of unworthi...
Pt. 3 - What Keeps You Up at Night? Feeling UNWANTED
This is part III of the series I'm doing regarding the emotional baggage that keeps Christian Drama Queens like me, abandoned and recovering from childhood trauma, awake at night. Am I as unwanted as I've convinced myself I am? Where is God on ...
Can You Homeschool? SHOULD You? The CDQ Was Interviewed Re: Her 25 Year HS Journey
This episode is a little longer and a little different from Lisa's typical Drama Queen excursions. This week Lisa talks about her 25 years as a homeschooling mom. What led her to do it? Was God really calling her to the chaos and blessing of ho...
Sometimes the CDQ Says, "Yes," for All The Wrong Reasons
Discarded Daughters struggle with the desire to be needed, wanted, loved, accepted...and often don't turn down opportunities to put out someone else's fire, when deep down they know they should. In this episode, Lisa shares her heartbreak over ...
Embracing Your "Muchness" - How the Enemy Wants to Shut YOU Up!
In this episode, Lisa recounts the weekend retreat when the enemy spent an inordinate amount of time trying to keep her quiet and convincing her that only "church mouse" personalities can truly be called by God to deliver His message. Discover ...
Part 2-What Keeps YOU Up @ Night? - The CDQ's Emotional Bondage-Feeling Unloved
The is the second episode in the series, What Keeps YOU Up @ Night? - The CDQ's Bible Study Through Emotional Bondage. In this episode, Lisa gives the Biblical ammunition to fight the deception many traumatized women believe; "No...
Pt. 1 - What Keeps YOU Up at Night? The Christian Drama Queen's Emotional Bondage
In this episode, Lisa shares a list of emotional bondage that haunts most all Christians at some point in time. They carry guilt, doubt, self-loathing, pain from a traumatic past, lack of trust in a God they've claimed to be devoted to, and mor...