Emotional Healing + Resiliency with Victoria Rader (part 1)

This week, we explore the transformative concept of resilience with our guest, Victoria Rader. Her journey of loss and rediscovery is both inspiring and enlightening, showcasing the beauty of surrender in reconnecting with joy. 

• Victoria's personal story of resilience through significant loss 
• The importance of surrendering to life's challenges 
• Techniques for reigniting passion: energy clearing and emotional healing 
• Merging practicality with spiritual growth 
• The power of community and support in healing 
• Understanding the connection between grief and joy 

We hope you take the insights shared today and apply them to fuel your own journey toward resilience and joy.

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Transcript

Introduction to Reignite Resilience

Speaker 1 0:06

All of us reach a point in time where we are depleted and need to somehow find a way to reignite the fire within. But how do we spark that flame? Welcome to Reignite Resilience, where we will venture into the heart of the human spirit. Resilience where we will venture into the heart of the human spirit. We'll discuss the art of reigniting our passion and strategies to stoke our enthusiasm. And now here are your hosts, natalie Davis and Pamela Cass.

Speaker 2 0:41

Welcome back to another episode of Reignite Resilience. I am your co-host, Natalie Davis, and I am so excited to be back with all of you, and joining me, of course, is the co-host, Pam Cass. How are you?

Speaker 3 0:53

Pam, I am good Second time we've been together today, I know. Yes, it's been quite the day and I don't think I've stopped moving since we jumped on our webinar to record this morning.

Speaker 2 1:05

Oh my goodness, which is interesting because I have not left this spot since that time.

Speaker 3 1:11

I've been all over the place, so I'm glad to be done Exactly.

Speaker 2 1:16

Yes, just as a point of reference. I've been sitting in the same spot for nine hours now. It's okay, it's great, this is what we do. Nine hours now it's okay, it's great, this is what we do.

Speaker 3 1:26

Comes in spurts and it's a season, so it's all fine. It's a season and this is my favorite way to end my day is getting to meet a new fabulous person.

Speaker 2 1:33

Why don't we start off by letting our listeners know who's joining us today?

Speaker 3 1:37

Absolutely Well. I am honored to have Victoria Rader with us today. Phd, she is a possibility coach and founder of you to Shine. Victoria is a global recognized transformational speaker, featured in Forbes and seen on CNN, fox, abc and NBC. A pioneer of quantum personal development, victoria created innovative tools like mygiftoffercom, me journals, empower ME and Master ME apps, which I'm excited to hear more about. A multiple-time best-selling, award-winning author, she is also featured in the Zero Limits movie. Her work frees individuals towards fulfillment and prosperity. Her teachings have even reached the moon through the Lunar Legacy Project. Victoria's mission is to help others to quantum leap their life by remembering and shining their light through love, life originating vibrant emotion. An avid reader, traveler, tennis player and dog lover, victoria's greatest joy in life is her family Above all. Victoria is clear that all that has been accomplished by her has simply been accomplished through her, via God's infinite divine grace. Welcome. We are so honored to have you with us today.

Speaker 4 3:06

Thank you so much, pam. Thank you for having me on. Tell us your story. What got you to you to Shine? I'm sure that for all of us, when you say tell your story, a different version comes through, right. I mean, you guys have seen that and I'm almost, like always, equally as excited to hear which version will show up, tell us the story.

Speaker 4 3:27

I'm like, oh, the time has come and you know what's coming in is that it truly is the story of resilience. I haven't framed it that way, but it truly is the story of resilience. You know, without leading up to it, the U2 Shine, as the company, was born at the end of 2013 and launched in 2014. And the two things were happening in my life during those two years 2013 was the most difficult year in my life, practically. I was just submitted to audit because I had an incredible career in real estate Number one agent in US and Canada 1%, and the IRS loves counting your money, so they were doing their excellent job, asking me for every little thing in the beginning of the year. So that's kind of.

Speaker 4 4:12

The year started and it was overwhelming marriage and there was homeschooling my kids. I was an entrepreneur mom who homeschooled her kids full time. And then February came and thinking this is February and right about this time, I got the first call of the year of my aunt dying from a heart attack. It was just very unexpected, very healthy, just retired. She lived in Moldova, originally from Ukraine, lived in US at that time, and so my mom and I found ourselves in the middle of all of that audit and health challenges I was going through and leaving kids and flying to Moldova to a funeral and little did I know that that year, every month a different friend, client or family member would die for a different reason, and it was just an incredibly devastating year.

Speaker 4 5:01

And there were two moments in that year that gave birth to you to shine. The first moment was when my cousin drowned, who was two years younger than me, and I grew up with him as a brother. I do have a 12 and a half year younger brother, but also Alex. Both are Alex's, but my cousin Alex and I grew up together in grandma's house. All of a sudden, dad comes in and he says you really need to sit down for this one. I just heard from grandma that Alex drowned.

Speaker 4 5:29

And first of all, water and I have not been friends. I have lifetime of water, horror stories of a dead body washing into me when I was five, of drowning myself twice. So you have the trauma of water and you have a trauma of death, have the trauma of water and you have a trauma of death, and I'm at a point when I have no capacity to deal with it anymore. I'm at a zero capacity, and the beauty of a zero capacity is that that's when you lean into divine capacity.

Speaker 4 5:58

And I remember sitting in the chair and just closing my eyes and knowing that I cannot make it through and this meditating for healing and all of a sudden seeing the moment, his energy, his quantum field, his spirit, usual language, leaving the mortal body.

Speaker 4 6:15

I call it his big E, his eternal energy, the essence of expansion, leaving his body, which I learned to call little m, mortal matter, manifesting materially, and I feel the joy of the departure that he has. And I cannot shake the joy off. And amidst of this grief and pain, I'm experiencing the most profound joy and peace. And I'm sitting in this absolute moment of accepting death as this inevitable joy of life which prepares me for the rest of the year and which brings a very clear path that my job is to bring the joy of life to every person that I meet, using all the skills that I have. That moment, that year, is probably the beginning of you to shine as a company. The clarity doesn't come for another year, the structure doesn't come for another five years, truly, but the moment is probably that that's probably the story of the company.

Speaker 3 7:16

We don't talk a lot about loss on here. We've covered a lot of resilience. The way you spoke about the loss and the joy that came from the loss is so powerful and especially you were having it on a consistent basis and that's a lot for people. And so when you found yourself in that room sitting in the meditative state, was there a prayer? Was there something you said?

Speaker 4 7:43

You know, I said the words that I've been seeking to say for the longest time. I said I surrender. I fought with surrender as a concept. It felt fake to me. You know, my joke is that I'm Ukrainian. You see how well we're surrendering. It's not wired into our genetics. Surrender is not wired into my genetics. And so, being in one of the sacred places for me you know my temple I remember a spiritual experience sitting there and saying you got this whole surrender thing wrong. I mean, you know, it just doesn't make sense to me. And a very clear prompting came in. I was sitting on a bench and the prompting came in lift up your feet. And I'm like, okay, I'm already plenty weird. So lifting up my feet, surrounded by people, not a problem, you know. So I'm lifting my feet and the knowing comes in. You're now surrendering your weight to the bench and the knowing comes in. You're now surrendering your weight to the bench. That is the power of surrender. It's surrendering all that you are, all that you carry into divine support. So the knowing came years prior to the moment.

Speaker 4 8:45

Usually I work with subconscious mind and I tell people. First, you get a glimpse of information and it has to germinate and seep through a lot of subconscious programming until transformation starts. And so that piece of information oh, what a beautiful idea. Information and it has to germinate and seep through a lot of subconscious programming until transformation starts. And so that piece of information, oh, what a beautiful idea. Lift your feet and surrender. Yeah, I got it, let's go teach it. But it was at that moment where I surrendered, and just prior to that, I said I surrender, I can't do this anymore, I just surrender all of it. And that's when the light came in. And that's why you to shine, this is. The light came in with such power and ignition, so that would be decoding that moment.

Speaker 2 9:18

Victoria, it's so interesting that you say you share the relationship that you had with the concept and the word itself, surrender.

Speaker 2 9:25

I found myself to go through the exact same thing just here recently, within the last couple of years, really coming to enjoy and embrace surrender itself, not just from a conceptual but from a practical place, because I think when you are I'll make this an I statement, so I won't put this on you when I have found myself in the professional space as a entrepreneur, as a business owner, as a mom, there's really the weight of the world on your shoulders.

Speaker 2 9:55

Right, everyone is leaning on you and looking to you to support them, help move things forward, and so the idea or the concept of surrendering is well, that's lovely, except what else will happen? Right, what will people do? But it kind of puts things off balance, because I like to say we're in a position where we put our capes on and leaning into ourselves, where there's really an opportunity to lean into source, the creator, the divine energy. Fill in the blank with your belief. I feel that that's a challenge that many professional women unfortunately face is truly embracing the idea and philosophy of surrender, but when you do, it is so beautiful.

Speaker 4 10:34

I would even take it a step further. I loved that analogy that you've shared, and just recently I had an amazing offer that I took to open a Metro DC for Global Women Club, and it's fascinating for me. You know, women supporting women in a very healthy way, which is I'm excited to be able to do that one-on-one. The founder said how do you want to frame your expertise Because you do so many things? And I said you know, let's talk about the laws, because for any spiritual concept I seek a universal law. I understand it and then I empower people to apply it practically. And so the mechanics of surrender was fascinating to me because it took years to understand at least a few laws that support it.

Speaker 4 11:18

And one of those laws that I think most misunderstood is the law of magnetism. We understand it in physics. In physics, the magnetism has two poles. One pole will attract. The magnetism has two poles One pole will attract, one pole will repel.

Speaker 4 11:31

But in a spiritual world right now, especially in a new age wave, there is a tragedy of everybody talking about the law of attraction as a subcategory of the law of magnetism. But the more you attract, the more you become who you are, the more you attract what you are to you, but with the same equal power, you will repel and be repelled and thus rejected. And as women as women, being rejected triggers generational wounds, and what we are to accept with the same joy as being accepted is being rejected. I truly believe we, as women, when we grasp the joy and the gift of rejection because it is simply the other side of the law of magnetism that says, girl, you're finally becoming who you've come to be and we celebrate it energetically we will become unstoppable. And so I think that whole surrender is if I'm to surrender to it all. It means I will be accepted, I will be uplifted, I will be supported. It also means I will be rejected, I will be resented and I will be repelled, and then at the end to say yay me Exactly.

Speaker 2 12:47

It's a win. Yes.

Speaker 4 12:49

That's the mechanics, because translating it down to the mechanics of the law, I think, helps so much to decipher every concept. Yes, powerful.

Speaker 2 12:59

And talk to us a little bit about the process of getting to the company right. You had the spark that was created in that moment and you mentioned that about a year passed before it coming to life and birthing this new idea. Talk to us a little bit about that journey, because I'm sure that wasn't just rainbows and daisies in itself.

Speaker 4 14:16

Yeah, you know, I was born a very psychic kid. A psychic kid and a Soviet Union are two things that don't go together very well. I mean, you know, when you have to stand by the portrait of Lenin and cry and you're like, oh, he was not a good person. Yeah, exactly, it's not a good thing. Growing up, I had to really resolve those parts of who I am in many, many different ways. And so what was happening in that 2013,? Because of the track record I had in real estate, I'd never worked on Sunday, but here I was consistently number one agent in any office I am, and training the brokers and being asked to teach the principles of success. And so I had to understand the difference between practical steps and intuitive, psychic, spiritual. And so I threw myself into understanding all laws of energy. That's where the quantum mechanics and spirituality PhD came in as well. I wanted to understand what is the balance between energy and matter Like? Really, I was just so fascinated. How do the two work? Why are there people that are outperforming, people that are working harder? I had to understand those things. And so in the U2 Shine the two, it stands for a lot, but it stands for the dual nature of who we are as matter and energy, and we've got to honor both, and so I was really mastering the practicality of success for the 2013. I became a foundational partner for John Maxwell's leadership team. I went and met with Bob Proctor and was coached by him one-on-one Just all of these personal development gurus that I wanted to learn what they had to offer, while I was leaning into energy healing and studying different modalities and understanding metaphysics and quantum mechanics. And so because I think very often it's so easy to dismiss one or the other and just to see it only as grinding and daily discipline or intuitive, inspired sitting on a pillow thing and then saying something is off. I visualized for three years and nothing has happened for me. Something is off. I visualized for three years and nothing has happened for me. So that year was really for me a becoming of how do the two blend? And so when, in 2014, I launched you Too Shine, I launched it as a spiritual company with practical application for prosperity in all areas of your life, and what happened over the last 12 years is an incredible luxury of my students and my clients now becoming my leadership team and my coaches because they have walked to the path of this and they have their own, knowing of the power of bringing the two together and the power of not denying your scared me, your scared little self, but loving her by the sacred part of you right, and just knowing how to do that. And so that sounds smooth and beautiful.

Guest Introduction: Victoria Rader

Speaker 4 17:15

It's gone through a lot of partnerships and quite a few betrayals. But I have to say, when we betray our intuition, when we have a little tiny prompting and we choose to reason against it, then we leave reality no choice but to be betrayed by someone. That is the truth for all of us. When we are hurt, harmed by somebody, if we love ourselves enough to forgive the betrayal of intuitive feeling, we can track it back to the moment when there was an inkling and we squashed it because it made no sense to listen to the inkling. So, even as I say there were betrayals, I will responsibly own them, because my desire to be nice and to enable was higher than my capacity to love and to empower. And now I chose nicer with being kind and enabling over empowering, because it was easier. And so I've set people to betray me, not excusing their behavior but understanding my part in that behavior.

Speaker 3 18:14

That's powerful.

Speaker 2 18:15

And seeing that and knowing that, and I think that we're all capable of that we get those little nudges, the gut feeling, the intuition, the tap on the shoulder, but yet we choose I'm going to be nice in the situation or I'll be the bigger person and we can push through it. Yeah, the spiritual ego.

Speaker 4 18:34

She is the cutest.

Speaker 2 18:35

Good job.

Speaker 1 18:36

You self-righteous you Did?

Speaker 4 18:38

you have a good day? Yes, you did. Kisses and hugs.

Speaker 2 18:41

That's exactly right, and we don't think twice about it until we have, or we reach that moment that we're able to reflect and see, have the 20-20 hindsight right, because we think, well, we're doing the right thing and we're helping other people and we're not. No.

Speaker 4 18:55

It's a thin line, it's a beautiful line and you know, I think it's so important to remember. It's a humorous line. Yeah, I have two kids and so at this point my daughter's 27,. My son is 23. And I remember when he was two he would eat spaghetti with his hands and put it on his head until he'd fall asleep. And I mean it's the cutest thing. He'd be like really just all covered in spaghetti and, in complete bliss, fall asleep and my husband and I would just laugh so hard. And I think you know that's probably how God sees us, as we're like covering ourselves with spaghetti. It's like, oh, sweetheart, there you go, Let me dig you out from all of this pasta. And so if we remember that and we don't add drama to our choices but humorously move through realization and forgiveness, we can go to the very depth of growth. Otherwise, it's like, how could I, how should I, two years old spaghetti, come on, I mean, this is what we're here for.

Speaker 3 19:57

Yeah, exactly, I love that.

Speaker 2 19:59

And so the company coming out of that space really having a focus on marrying the two worlds right the corporate space and the quote unquote spiritual space where we're doing the introspective work. It's so interesting that your timeline and the story that you share because I started my company in 2015. So a year after you, and it's entitled Leadership that Shines, and that was the same focus is that there was a disconnect between the spiritual part of my life and the professional that was showing up in the boardroom at the meetings. What have you? But talk to us a little bit about the initial offerings, the focus, the work, the modalities. What have you? But talk to us a little bit about the initial offerings, the focus, the work, the modalities. Even that you helped to empower other individuals with.

Speaker 4 20:44

Thank you all. The first offer that I've had actually coming out of real estate was actually the energy clearing of homes for sale, because the homes have energy in them, especially if the home is being sold when people are having had a divorce or a death, very often those are the causes of a movement or tragedy and they would not sell and so we would clear the home and the home would go under contract within three to four days was the company's record average. I now have one of my clients who I've done it for. She took over that and she does all the clearings for realtors now for our company. So she has quite a story. Actually it's Kathy and she's our nature me coach and for Kathy and I have her permission to share. It's really cool. She's had tragic events happen to men that would come to the house and so when we scanned the energy of the house it had quote unquote a curse of an original white men because they took over native lands and the land carried a curse. I mean, I know it's way out, woo for somebody. But let me tell you, when you have people come and they get sick and all of a sudden I do a clearing that takes 10 minutes and there is none of that anymore. Kathy was a government worker. She was not into any of that at all and all of a sudden she gets the power. So that was the first offer.

Speaker 4 22:04

I came out of real estate. I knew all the agents. I was clearing that for them while parallel working on their limitation and shifting their subconscious beliefs from inability to thrive and prosper, and so the first offer was creating the subconscious list of beliefs that limited them from thriving. That core has remained with you to shine where we now call them quantum shift, where we identify what is the main subconscious limitation and what is the quantum leap to the freeing belief. And one of the most popular free offers we have is mygiftoffercom, where I take two decades of the most popular unpopular limiting beliefs and what you have there is those 50 beliefs with 50 beliefs to shift to and a 12 minute video recording of what now became our proprietary modality, which is Free Me FT, but now became our proprietary modality, which is Free Me FT. So I empower you for free to work on you to shift those beliefs. You do one. Your life will never be the same, and I can say that because thousands of people have done that and they know that it's true.

Speaker 4 23:08

And so the Free Me FT was one of the first techniques, that's kind of the beginning. Realtors shift them as a person, clear the energy of their product, and then we started expanding, from different entrepreneurs and different products, the relationship between the two of them. That was the path and the journey for the company. Now, I loved EFT, I loved theta healing, mastered both, got NLP, you name it, reiki. If it is a breathing technique, I have taken it, mastered it, loved it, endorsed it. No wrong way to heal, there's no wrong way to heal but developed. You know our own techniques. Some were combination of a few, some were deepening and some were brand new.

Speaker 4 23:50

So at this point, what we offer as a company is for a person that comes to our site is a path to freedom of their choosing.

Speaker 4 23:59

What we've identified is that people just want to be free, whether they want to be free to love and be loved, or free to have joy, or free financially or free spiritually. And so when you come to us, we ask you how do you want to be free? First, what do you want to be free from? And then, what do you want to be free to do. And then, who do you want to be free to become? And finally, as the highest ability, how do you want to free this world? Right, because and you have to go in stages you cannot free the world if you're not free yourself. So that's become. Every single offer that we have is an aspect of stepping into freedom through joy. Not through self-sacrifice, not through punishment, but freedom through joy, quantum leap to joy and freedom. That has become every single offer, every single modality seminar, book, journal, app, you name it. That's what it is Quantum Leap to Joy and Freedom.

Speaker 3 25:01

You mentioned that you have apps. How do the apps work?

Speaker 4 25:05

We have two apps and we have no plans of ever changing their prices. One is only $9 or $10, one time only, and that's master-me, and it is master-meapp. Actually, both apps are actually meappslove. If you go to meappslove M-E-A-P-SLO-V-E you see both apps. And so master-me is a daily energy activation.

Speaker 4 25:29

It is an affirmation that is charged with energy. When you listen to it, you feel a quantum shift, and it's organized through 52 virtues. Now, why is that? I don't run around educating people about that. So thank you for asking. It brings me joy. There are 52 virtues that open your mastery of universal laws. So, without naming the laws, the way you tap into working with the laws is by mastering virtues. So there are 52 weeks and every week you affirm a certain affirmation to open one of the virtues, and so consciously, unconsciously, competently, things start shifting for you, and the reason why is because you're developing mastery of the laws.

Speaker 4 26:11

Now my favorite product is our Empower-Me app and it is under $20 a year. It's $19.99 a year only, and that app is intuitively built, and what I mean by that. You would actually shake a phone and it tunes in and gives you an answer. There are different subcategories. There's my blessing, my freedom, my money, my answer, but the one that I feel right now is my grief. It also has mini meds, which are three-minute meditation that open your energy centers, but right now what I'm attuned with the most is the my grief. A lot of people want to manifest a powerful life, but we manifest through energy of joy and the energy joy is blocked through unprocessed energy of grief that is suppressed in our body and very often we don't know we have it because we carry an unidentified aspect of grief. Grief has a minimum of 99 aspects. So what the app does, I'm going to take that in and we're going to say what aspect would benefit our audience the most, our listener who's tuning in the most. So I'm going to click on that and take you through this beautiful one minute transformation.

Speaker 4 27:24

So what came up is feeling emotional. Validate I feel so emotional. You see, we've been taught that feeling emotional is wrong and we grieve over the loss of that. So first you validate I feel so emotional. Then the next part of the app takes you through visualization. You would read it and then visualize it With your eyes closed. Imagine currents of emotions through and around you, watch them flow through without either carrying you overwhelming. You Simply observe until you see a beautiful peaceful flow of your indescent energy of peace. Imagine yourself relaxing into this energy and floating on it as if it is a peaceful lake. And the third part is affirmation Affirm with your hand on your heart. I now observe my emotions. I'm inviting and receiving peace. I am hopeful, I am me and you actually feel the flow immediately. Love that every one of our products was created because somebody on the team was looking for a product. We couldn't find one, so we created one. I was like you know a lot of grief happening and with the war in Ukraine, and we need something that doesn't take 45 minutes.

Speaker 3 28:31

Yes, oh my gosh, I love it. I was just recently introduced to energy clearing and I did an energy clearing probably a week ago and I told Natalie. In it I got very tired and then I got a sharp pain like in the upper middle of my back that lasted 24 hours and then it was gone and then we did an activation activity like two days later and then I ended up getting sick. I feel like this is all related somehow, that it was so wild, because then we did it again this week in energy clearing and I was fine, I was awake and I didn't feel any pain at all. So it was very interesting.

Speaker 4 29:11

We're very unique beings. We all process in the best way accessible to us at any time, and that's just a beautiful thing to kind of observe, as you have, and not assign a meaning, because our brain goes crazy when we don't assign interpretation. But assigning interpretation will always be a limitation because you're training yourself to process it one way. And it's interesting that, of all things we could have talked, we talked about betrayal, because the thing in the back that was being released for you is being tired of being stabbed in the back. And the more I do and the more I trust and the more I pour into people, the more people take advantage of me and that's just came out in such a powerful way. That's. I want to validate that, because that's what the clearing probably has taken care of and it's no wonder it made it into the conversation.

Speaker 1 30:02

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