How to be present as a high achieving Latina woman: Redefine success and celebrate your wins! / Episode 6

We’ve been wired to survive, not celebrate. And it’s time to change that.

If you’ve ever said:

“I’ll save that dress for a special occasion” 

“I’ll use the fancy plates when guests come over” 

“I’ll rest once I finish this next thing” 

this is for you. 

If you’ve found yourself holding off on celebrating a win because it wasn’t big enough or THE win you were hoping for… you’re not alone.

We’re no longer going to be quiet about our joy, delay rest, or dance with survival mode. 

I know that you’ve been the hardest worker in the room for so long, and it’s practically your personality now. 

But lately, something feels off. You’re a high achieving Latina woman who’s done everything right—and yet, you find your mind wandering into the thought of… is this it?

Today we’re talking about how to be present without guilt, how to redefine success in a way that actually feels good, and why celebrating your wins might feel harder than it should.

If you’ve ever felt ready for more—not more pressure or hustle, but more joy, more ease, more YOU—this is the permission slip you didn’t know you needed.

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Transcript

[00:00:00] You deserve a full life now. Not when you lose weight, not when you buy the house, not when you get the promotion, not when you make six figures a month. You deserve it now because let's be real. How often do we move that goalpost? We convince ourselves that we're finally gonna feel enough once we check off the next big milestone, but then it becomes the next one and the next one, and then deep down, part of us still believes that we still haven't earned the right to do things easy because we saw our parents do double the work for half the pay.

So we were always taught be the hardest worker in the room, and that's a pattern that we didn't choose, but we're now responsible for. We didn't see rest modeled to us.

For a lot of us. We really didn't see, especially our mother's rest until they were in complete exhaustion and they just had to collapse and rest and then wake up and do it all over again. Our moms in Aela Ts. Nobody sat down until every dish was washed, every child was fed, every chore was done. And then we inherited that belief of , you get to feel good after everyone else is taken care [00:01:00] of.

Then you can focus on yourself. But who has energy for that at that point of the day? So we became women that just push ourselves and through burnout, guilt, constantly proving ourselves, not because we don't want joy, but because we feel like joy is something that you're supposed to earn.

It's something that's not tangible. Yes, it's a choice, but you have to position yourself to be able to live it, to receive it, to enjoy it.

And what's the real cost of delaying joy? And let me give you some examples because I've lived them and so have my clients. You don't take the beach trip until you fix your body. Now, this hits for me because as I record this, we are going to Dominican Republic and I ain't doing beach stuff, honey. I don't like the beach Anyway, I love it.

It's beautiful, but I don't like the sand. I don't like the mess, I don't like the aftermath. And I'm sure my kids are gonna have meltdowns. So I'm low key panicking about that. But. I'm not buying no two piece. I have never had a two piece in my life. Oh my gosh. I never have. , I think I've barely had one bathing suit that I liked, and that was when before I had kids.

Any who,

we always [00:02:00] delay our gratification. We always look for the next thing before celebrating, the moment . Where we are now is something that we worked so hard for five years ago, 10 years ago, six months ago. But we don't enjoy it because we're looking towards the next thing. Like people who say, oh, let's not put too much into this apartment because it's not a house yet.

We're just gonna be here for a year. We're just gonna be here for five years until we save up. And so you don't enjoy , that you have that apartment that you once couldn't imagine you could even have, and now you're just putting it off to the side for the next big thing.

Or you say, once I make six figures, once I make multi six figures in my business. But now you're at 80 5K and you still feel like you're behind I.

Or like if you're the first one to graduate in your family and you feel like, okay, I got the degree. I'm the first one, but is it still enough? And we're always waiting for permission to be happy, but what exactly are we waiting on?

And it could almost turn into that. As a Latina, you kind of feel like you're living a double life because. There's a silent pressure to do the most with a smile to make it look easy. Carry the weight, stay humble. Keep [00:03:00] family close. Always be on call. Always be expected to climb mountains, but never complain how hard it is.

But then that creates a dangerous loop because you work twice as hard to prove yourself, and then you feel guilty for wanting rest because there is a part of you that craves this life of not ease, like you're just sitting at the pool all day, but you don't wanna have to struggle through these things anymore.

You don't wanna have to do triple and still feel like you're not doing enough. That's the part that you need to untangle. That's the mindset and the pinpoint and the root of why this is happening.

And it's like those moments that I just talked about, where you get what you prayed for, but you can't even enjoy it because now you feel selfish for wanting more.

So I'm gonna tell you the truth that most of us weren't taught. You don't have to wait for the hard parts to be over to enjoy your life. Now you can build while you get to breathe a little bit. You can dream and still enjoy your $5 latte on the porch. , like if it's luxury living, you can want more and not use that as a weapon against yourself.

I'm gonna say that again. You can want more [00:04:00] and not use it as a weapon against yourself to feel guilty and ungrateful because it's not about. Settling. It's about expanding your capacity to receive now, because if you can't feel worthy at level five, you're not gonna feel worthy at level 10. It starts now.

You've already broken so many rules just by being who you are, just by conquering all the things that you have.

So I wanna remind you, you don't have to earn joy or prove your worth or wait for some invisible finish line because life is happening right now. Light, the expensive candle Use the expensive perfume. Use the good makeup, eat the good food. Celebrate the wins that you already have.

And take those pictures, man. Even if you don't feel beautiful sometimes, even if you don't feel your best, your kids are gonna look back. And this is something I always remind myself of. Your kids will look back and you will too. And you're gonna say, wow, those times are so fast. My kids are two and five.

And I feel like the five years that I've been a mom has flown by. I look at her baby pictures when she was a little baldy. She was so cute. And I'm [00:05:00] like, wow, it feels like yesterday. But when you're in it, it feels like eternity and girl days with my 2-year-old definitely feel like an eternity now. But take the picture, .

Do the things.

Because the version of you that's always striving to be better, she deserves to arrive to a destination. The version of you that is always striving to be better, to do more. She deserves to arrive to a destination.

If this episode resonated with you, I am in my car, I'm in Walgreens, and I pulled over and I'm like, let me record this. It's just something on my heart. If this resonated with you, then let's work one-to-one together. It's not about fixing you, it's about freeing you from the pressure from the guilt loop that I talked about in a previous episode.

I think it was episode one and these patterns that we have seen modeled and that we are repeating, but we want to stop. We want to stop the generational pattern of guilt. We wanna stop the generational pattern of being a martyr. Just because you're a woman, you don't want that for your daughter, you don't want that for your son.

You don't want that for yourself, but you feel guilty about that. But I'm telling you [00:06:00] now that you can. Strategize your way to success. When we work together, we create a plan that works for you, that feels practical, that feels doable, and feels exciting because it would really suck to have a phone call with someone.

And then you have this whole plan and you're like, well, crap, I don't like any of this. So we always go based on what you wanna do, what feels good to you. There's never a copy paste. When I work with. My clients because it's always so different. So look in the show notes to book your strategy call, and I hope to see you on my calendar.

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