The Narcissism Decoder

Why Narcissists Lie and Keep Secrets: Shame and the False Self- part 1 | Epi 128

Dr. Anthony Mazzella Season 3 Episode 128

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In this episode, we explore why secrecy in narcissism isn’t primarily about manipulation or control, but about survival. We look at how shame, fear of exposure, and the need to protect a fragile false self drive lying and concealment — and why the very strategies meant to prevent rejection end up sabotaging intimacy and connection.

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