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The Narcissism Decoder
The Narcissism Decoder is a podcast dedicated to exploring the many dimensions of narcissism through a psychoanalytic lens. Each episode unpacks the intricate factors and behaviors that shape narcissistic traits, offering a deeper understanding of what lies beneath the surface.
Together, we navigate the tools and strategies essential for recognizing, understanding, and effectively engaging with narcissistic individuals. With a blend of compassionate insight, expert guidance, and compelling stories, this podcast aims to transform the way you perceive and approach narcissism.
Subscribe now to ensure you don't miss a single episode of this transformative journey.
Episodes
95 episodes
Entangled! Pathological Lovers and Malignant Narcissism
Why do toxic relationships feel impossible to leave? In this episode, Dr. Nae and I explore trauma bonds—how narcissistic abuse uses love bombing, control, and betrayal to trap partners. We reveal why hope for change keeps the cycle alive and w...
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Episode 92
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42:29
How Mindfulness and Psychodynamic Therapy Can Change Your Life
What if the real challenge in healing from narcissism isn’t just the big moments, but the subtle, often invisible patterns shaping your relationships and inner world? In this episode, Lindsey Miller and I reveal how narcissistic dynamics quietl...
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Season 2
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Episode 91
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22:28
Why Mindfulness and Containment Are Game-Changers in Narcissism Recovery
What keeps us trapped in toxic narcissistic relationships—and how can we finally break free? In this clip from my interview with Lindsey Miller, we uncover the hidden emotional forces and subtle dynamics that keep these patterns alive. Di...
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Season 2
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Episode 91
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22:06
Toxic Relationships: How I Learned to Stay Grounded
What if healing from narcissistic relationships isn’t about fixing or avoiding pain—but learning to truly sit with it? In this episode with Lindsay, she uses a beautiful metaphor of sitting on different benches in Central Park. If you’re ready ...
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Season 2
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Episode 90
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35:32
Healing the Wounds Narcissism Left Behind
In this episode clip from Lindsey Miller’s The Stress Nanny podcast, we unpack the hidden dynamics of narcissistic relationships. Discover why emotional availability matters, how mindfulness and psychodynamic therapy work togethe...
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Season 2
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Episode 89
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24:25
Why Can’t I Let Go of My Ex? I feel guilty for moving on!
In this episode, we dive into the quiet, tormenting force of unresolved guilt—and how it can entrap us in relationships long after they've ended. Through the lens of one man’s struggle to say no to an ex he no longer loves but still feel...
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Season 2
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Episode 88
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26:28
Inside the Narcissist’s Mind: Why Grandiosity Is a Shield
What does it really take to help someone with narcissistic traits heal? In this rich conversation with Lisa Taylor Austin, we explore how grandiosity masks vulnerability, why trust takes time, and how containment softens defensiv...
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Season 2
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Episode 87
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34:27
Healing Narcissism: What Follows the Collapse of Narcissism? (4)
What happens when the grandiose self begins to fall apart?In part four of our Healing Narcissism series, we explore the emotional unraveling that marks the beginning of real change. Through clinical stories and grounded insight, I show how ...
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Season 2
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Episode 86
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30:53
Healing Narcissism: They Finally Open Up—Now What? (3)
In this episode, we explore the fragile emotional terrain that follows the softening of grandiose defenses. From emotional regulation to the risk of collapse, I share how healing begins—not with insight alone, but with containment, timing, and ...
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Season 2
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Episode 85
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26:09
Healing Narcissism: What to Do When You Can't Win (2)
This episode dives into the hidden dance between grandiosity and vulnerability in narcissistic individuals. You'll learn how to recognize the shift from content to process, why timing matters, and how to intervene without triggering shame or ru...
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Season 2
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Episode 84
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30:54
Healing Narcissism: If You Want to See Change -Start Here (1)
In this episode, we look at the real work of healing narcissism—not by breaking the ego, but by understanding and slowly dismantling the defenses that protect it. You'll learn why emotional regulation and integration—not just insight—are key to...
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Season 2
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Episode 83
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31:07
Healing Narcissism: A Four-Part Series on Real Transformation
Get ready! In this trailer, we introduce Healing Narcissism: A Four-Part Series — where we take you deep inside the real, raw, and often surprising process of helping a narcissist heal. This series isn’t about surface-level advi...
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Season 2
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Episode 82
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5:45
How Hope Keeps You Trapped With a Malignant Narcissist
In this episode, I join Dr. Nae and her support group to unpack the deep roots of narcissism and the challenges it brings to healing trauma bonds. We explore how hope, projection, and hidden relational patterns keep people entangled—and why dif...
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Season 2
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Episode 81
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31:39
Are You Fixing or Folding? Jim’s Story
In this episode, we explore the fine line between genuine help and covert emotional demands. Jim shares his struggle with constantly trying to fix his daughter, revealing the emotional toll it takes when helping turns into collapse. Learn how t...
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Season 2
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Episode 80
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33:55
When Love and Helplessness Collide
In this episode, Jim shares the raw, emotional struggle of trying to connect with a daughter who feels unreachable. We unpack the complex family dynamics where love, guilt, and helplessness intertwine, revealing the hidden pain and unconscious ...
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Season 2
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Episode 79
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30:30
How to Help Someone Break Free from Narcissistic Fantasy
In this final clip from my interview on Soul Shaking Love, we dive into the tough questions about narcissistic change: How do you encourage someone to get help? Why is real transformation so hard for those with narcissistic traits? We ...
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Season 2
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Episode 78
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19:20
Can a narcissist actually change?
In this episode, you’ll hear another powerful clip from my interview on Valerie Greene’s podcast, Soul Shaking Love. We explore two of the most frequently asked questions about narcissistic relationships: Can a narcissist truly c...
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Season 2
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Episode 77
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26:42
From Codependency to a Genuine Connection
Valerie Greene dives into the roots of codependency, showing how childhood neglect can lead us to put others’ needs before our own. Through personal stories and practical insights, she reveals how building healthy boundaries and embracing...
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Season 2
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Episode 76
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31:49
How Can You Tell If You’re With a Narcissist?
Why is it so hard to leave someone who keeps hurting you? In this clip from Soul Shaking Love, we unpack the emotional confusion of narcissistic relationships—how to spot grandiose vs. vulnerable narcissists, why the fantasy of w...
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Season 2
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Episode 75
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28:14
Mastering Negotiation with Narcissists
What if being reasonable is the worst strategy with a narcissist? In this conversation with negotiation expert Rebecca Zung, we explore how to protect yourself when fairness and empathy are used against you. She shares her SLAY method—Str...
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Season 2
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Episode 74
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29:51
Healing from Betrayal: Insights and Discoveries
In this episode of the Narcissism Decoder, Dr. Anthony Mazzella interviews Dr. Debi, a leading expert in betrayal recovery. They explore the unique trauma of betrayal, its profound impact on trust and identity, and the healing process. Dr. Debi...
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Season 2
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Episode 73
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34:09
Is It Love—or Emotional Control?
In this episode, we dive into the emotional power struggles that define vulnerable narcissism, particularly within parent-child relationships. We unpack how covert control, dependency, and cycles of shame quietly shape toxic dynamics—and how th...
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Season 2
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Episode 72
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30:25
Breaking the Spell: Healing After Narcissistic Abuse
In this episode, Dr. Anthony Mazzella and Jin unpack the cult-like dynamics of narcissistic relationships—and the emotional aftermath survivors face. From trauma bonds and identity loss to the inner voice of the narcissist that lingers long aft...
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Season 2
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Episode 71
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32:38
I Know My Partner is Narcissistic – Why Can’t I Leave?
In this episode, I sit down with Jin from Narc Troopers—a writer, educator, podcaster, and narcissistic abuse recovery facilitator— to explore the psychological dynamics that keep people stuck in toxic narcissistic relationships and wh...
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Season 2
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Episode 70
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34:35
Can a Narcissist Ever Really Change? Part 2
This episode is Part 2 of my conversation on Dimming the Gaslight with hosts Mac and Phil, where we dive even deeper into the complexities of narcissism. We explore the motivations behind narcissistic behavior, the struggle with forgiv...
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Season 2
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Episode 69
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32:00
