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Bare Minimum
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We’re talking about what separates basic relationship stuff from true effort. It all kicks off with a story about football tickets gone wrong, and turns into a deeper convo about expectations, emotional support, and everyday relationship habits.
We play a quick game where we call out the difference between “bare minimum” and what we’d call king or queen treatment—and let’s just say we don’t always agree.
Plus, we weigh in on two stories that had us shook. One’s about setting boundaries with family, and the other takes a wild turn at a swingers club.
It’s one of those episodes that’s honest, funny, and probably a little too relatable.
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The Ruined Surprise Gift
Speaker 1I was so excited to do something nice for him, had this whole thing planned out tickets to see his favorite football game and he completely and utterly ruined it because he's like I don't want to see them play the Raiders, I don't want to go to.
Speaker 2Oakland. I didn't want to go to Oakland and I was like it was a freaking gift.
Speaker 1It was supposed to be a surprise it was a weekend away together and all you did was shit on my surprise.
Speaker 2And I've never done it again. Here's the thing I didn't share your surprise. You absolutely shit it on my surprise. Going back to my last question, I was protecting you okay, no, we're not doing what it's like you're not gonna do that. You don't know what it's like to be at a football game in oakland. We were not I know. That's why I wanted to go to experience it no, you experience a football, football game in Oakland if you're cheering for the Oakland team, not if you're on the opposing team. No, you don't do that.
Speaker 1Hey everyone and welcome back to another episode of the Life After I Do podcast. You're going to be hanging out with Bois, okay, when he's done, not you trying to like put a little woo woo on there? Ooh, yeah, okay.
Speaker 2Ooh, yeah, okay, jojo, had me saying.
Speaker 1Okay, anyway, you're gonna be kicking it with Mo Lethal and Nisha G. For the next hour or so On the Life After I Do podcast.
Speaker 2I really want to meet you girl.
Speaker 1Your favorite place to be on a. Wednesday I really want to know your name. Oh gosh, when he's done, I guess, come and talk to me.
Speaker 2I really want to meet you girl. I really want to know your name.
Speaker 1Okay, sorry, are you done? Where's the button? I'm done. Where's the button? I'm not hitting it. No, hit the button. Are you done? I'm not? Are you done? I'm not?
Speaker 2You know why I'm not done? Why? Because you look so sexy.
Speaker 1You really turn me on Blows my mind every time I see your face, my mind every time I see your face, break it down. You look so sexy. You really turn me up.
Speaker 2Okay, that's enough. Are you done?
Speaker 1Really, and then you wrote me into the mess. Hey, booskies, hi.
Speaker 2How you doing. I'm good how you feeling.
Speaker 1You look good. Thank you, thought I'd do something a little different. Yeah, you know.
Speaker 2This is why I said being married to a black woman is like being married to 12 different women, because you never know who's going to step out the room.
Speaker 1You don't know who you might get. You know, thought, I'd give you a little curl action today. Spice it up, spice up your life.
Speaker 2Oh, no, no, we're not doing Spice Girls.
Speaker 1Oh, I'm happy that you realized that's what I was about to say.
Speaker 2You started with spice up your life. Oh, it started off very scary.
Speaker 1Okay.
Speaker 2Did it there yeah it did Well.
Speaker 1Hey, Boosie, how was your week? Did you call me Boosie? I said Boosie. You said hey, Boosie, how was your week? He said hey, Boosie, my week was good. My week was good Did you wipe yourself down. I always do. It's on my playlist. I wipe me down. Yeah, it's on my playlist. Yeah, I mean it was. Yes, it was a good week.
Speaker 2Are you sure? I did not realize that I had a hater in my corner.
Speaker 1Who's a hater? I'm not going to point elbows. Oh, okay, so I'm the hater. I didn't know. I didn't know I had somebody who was plotting on my downfall. So, aside from finding out that my husband has been plotting against, against me, plotting for my downfall, you know it was a great week.
Speaker 2Go ahead, Go ahead and it was a good go ahead and tell the people your lies.
Speaker 1It wasn't lies. I'm just trying to figure out if you're supposed to spot me to help prevent me from hurting myself. I'm not sure how I hurt myself.
Speaker 2And you were standing right there.
Speaker 1And your only response to me was oh well, it looked like you had it.
Speaker 2Okay, you hurt yourself because I didn't want to stop your rep, because one arm was locked out.
Speaker 1The rep was done. No, it was not, and it was already racking. No, it was not, and you were supposed to grab the bar and continue racking.
Speaker 2And see, the thing is, had you known, had you been an experienced lifter, you would have just slowly set it on your chest, instead of trying to.
Speaker 1Why would I do that? First of all, I finished the rep. Okay, you were supposed to. You're supposed to be there also to help me. When I look back at the footage, how is it that you helped to unrack and re-rack other other sets, but that one particular one? You looked at me like nah, I think I'll let you hang. I didn't feel like you locked it out.
Speaker 2I was like I'm not giving a great for you.
Speaker 1It's crazy work because it's on film, but okay, it's fine. Um, I couldn't lift my right arm today and doing my upper body, but I managed to pull through and my my mental strength helped me to push through. Um, you know, but I mean other than that, I'm good. I was still able to crank out my workout today, so it was good. How was your week Really? How was your week?
Speaker 2I guess I had a week of plotting against my wife.
Speaker 1So how did that start? Like, were you making notes of it, like how you were going to plan on doing it.
Speaker 2I think it must have just hit me in the moment.
Speaker 1You thought of something and it was like I know how to get that bitch back.
Speaker 2I said today's the day.
Speaker 1Today's the day. And you said in your head gotcha bitch.
Speaker 2I would never call you that in my head.
Speaker 1Well, it's the only place you can call me it. You sure I'm positive. Wait until we stop recording.
Speaker 2You sure?
Speaker 1I'm positive. Okay, wait till we start recording. Okay, bye.
Speaker 2I don't want to hear that. They hear me say it.
Speaker 1Okay, goodbye, demel, how was your week?
Speaker 2It was cool, I guess. Okay, dog stressing me out Outside of that.
Speaker 1The dog keeps tearing up All the damn water sprinklers. Outside of that, I'm doing pretty good, okay, this is what I don't understand, though. You went to Lowe's right and you bought the replacements.
Speaker 2I bought the solenoid Right, okay, and I did fix everything, whatever, I don't know what the hell a solenoid is.
Speaker 1You bought the replacement piece that you needed.
Speaker 2I bought three of them.
Speaker 1Okay, you bought three of them because she destroyed three of them and she's killed she's killed half of my grass in the backyard. So you, you bought them and you're what you told me was. I'm gonna buy these, I'm gonna replace these and I'm gonna build something around it so that she can't hold on.
Speaker 1I wasn't dead so she can't get to them. My response was you probably shouldn't change them until you build said fence that you're thinking about building to prevent her from doing the same thing, if you're not gonna segregate her to a section of the backyard so that she can't get to them. But that would have been logical and we all know how that goes are you?
Speaker 1done? No, I'm not, he replaced them. Okay, if you push the number, pinch you. He replaced the solenoids or whatever. I don't know. That's not my outside of the, it's not my job. He replaced them and then proceeds to put the dog back in the backyard, not separated I had them covered what'd you cover them with? I come with the tart, maurice gill she pulled the tarp out Maurice Gill. She's already like damn near 60 pounds.
Speaker 2Yeah, and she's a puppy and she's very hyper energy Did you really think a tarp, okay, that's fine, that's what we got today.
Speaker 1No, I want to finish here in your week. I'm just saying my week is done. I'm just saying Done. I just wanted to put that out there.
Speaker 2The dog is stressing me out.
Speaker 1Now I'm stressing you out.
Speaker 2My wife is stressing me out. She refused to cook me dinner today.
Speaker 1Really.
Speaker 2Refused After I worked all day. Oh my gosh. Refused. She said I can't, I can't, I ain't got to do my hair.
Speaker 1Wow, damel, that is really not what happened. So tell me what happened. You called home and said I'm in the mood for burgers. I said okay, that's great. You proceeded to say I think I'm going to stop and pick up some beef patties. I said Ooh, those sound good. You said we still have keto buns. I said okay. Then you thought about it and said oh dang, I don't think I have calories for beef patties. What about turkey patties? And I was like, okay, but the meat is frozen. Mind you, this conversation took place at like a quarter to seven. Okay, yeah, a quarter to seven. The meat is in the freezer, frozen, sir, uh-huh. And then you're like what about the turkey patties? I said I can, I can take out the meat right now. You're gonna have your patties about 9, 9, 30, but I can take it out right now, yeah, because that sound good and then, after that, you proceeded to say how you wanted a mcflurry and then after that you wanted oreos.
Speaker 2And then after that, you all right, you're right, I'm wrong. But you said you make me a burger.
Speaker 1I didn't get a burger that's all the meat just thawed out so I didn't get a burger you didn't get a burger because you asked for a turkey burger a quarter to 7 pm before he was due to be home. Before he was due to be home.
Speaker 2What we got today, we're done Now we're done when I speak logic we're done. I have been working nonstop around the clock for this family. You really should stop. You really. I get you really should stop.
Speaker 1What do I get in return? You really should stop. You really should stop. What do I get in return? What do you get in return, babe, nothing.
Speaker 2Nothing but more expectations. Oh, my dad's going to do this for me. Oh, my husband's going to take care of this, but daddy's going to take me here and no one takes care of dad.
Speaker 1No one takes care of dad.
Speaker 2Wow, the fact that she called me with a whole itinerary of what she expects me to do for her tomorrow.
Speaker 1Well, that's because you wrote on the family calendar Family Fun Day.
Speaker 2Who said we got to go somewhere for Family Fun Day?
Speaker 1We got to have fun at home. She knows that she eats at her favorite restaurant once a week. That's already a given. She's just letting you know what she would prefer to do on Family Fun Day.
Speaker 2We're not doing nothing because I don't feel appreciated around here today.
Speaker 1Okay.
Speaker 2All this could have been avoided if I would have just got my goddamn hamburger.
Speaker 1Okay, I mean, you can still get the hamburger. I can make the burger.
Speaker 2It's too late now.
Speaker 1No one ever does anything for dad.
Speaker 2I had to eat some cold cuts.
Speaker 1I guess I'll have to just take what I had on the menu for later off too, because no one ever does anything for you. Don't take that off, that might save the day. No, no, no, because now you've put me in a sour you played yourself, played myself Look at you. Played yourself. Let me rub your leg and get you back in the mood. No, no, no Girl, don't be trying to rub on me. No, you got a new foundation. No, no.
Speaker 1Is that new blush? Really Get the hell out of here. Is that new blush? What's the difference with your eyeshadow?
Speaker 2Mm-hmm, oh yeah, oh, your lip is popping.
Speaker 1Uh-huh, stop rubbing on me, goodbye.
Speaker 2I got to get back in your good graces.
Speaker 1Mm-hmm, yeah, good try, though Good try. So so what? You're so cute?
Speaker 2Oh cool. First of all, monkeys are cute.
Speaker 1And you're cute, so Wow. Darn I do Damn, my statement still stands. Damn, my statement still stands.
Speaker 2Damn still stands.
King Treatment vs Bare Minimum Debate
Speaker 1Damn, my statement still stands anyway. Uh, babe, king treatment or bare minimum? That is the question for you today. Okay, so I'm gonna ask you some things and I want you to let me know if that is me giving you king treatment or don't ask me stuff you ain't never did is it the bare minimum? Okay, let's get to it. Okay, and then you can ask me one princess treatment, nah let's just focus on me.
Speaker 2I like that. Let me feel appreciated. Let's focus on me.
Speaker 1Let's just focus on me, so is this gonna be an opportunity for you to give me notes and feedback? Okay?
Speaker 2take your time. What's the rush? Okay, baby, I Take your time. What's the rush? Okay, baby, I'm a dog.
Speaker 1I'm a mutt, maurice. What? Stop Take care, okay, me cooking your favorite meal without asking Is that king treatment or bare minimum?
Speaker 2Bare minimum. Think about it Bare minimum.
Speaker 1Bare minimum why?
Speaker 2I'm going to have to ask you why?
Speaker 1Because I still have to ask you all this and you should be like you know what? I didn't do nothing special for him. Let me cook something.
Speaker 2I know he going to like. You want to know what I have on the menu for you. That's coming up. What's that? Is it red beans and rice? Red beans and rice, because I really want some red beans and rice.
Speaker 1I don't know why you said it today over the phone. He mentioned and I immediately put a note in my phone and I was like I am making my husband red beans and rice because that's what he wants.
Speaker 2You can't make it how I want it though.
Speaker 1Okay, see and see, then he does shit like this.
Speaker 2But you can't make it how I want it. Let me tell you why. Now it's off the table. Let me tell you why I say that before you cut me off Because the way I want it is the way I was going to make it.
Speaker 1I want it with the ham bone. That's the way I was going to make it. Either we make it the right way or we don't make it at all.
Speaker 2I want to eat it with cornbread.
Speaker 1I was going to make it with blueberry cornbread, though.
Speaker 2See, here we go. I like it you take stuff that work and always got to throw something in there. I like blueberry cornbread so, and this is why people say what?
Speaker 1you got a little caucasian in you, okay, okay, stop it stop you've been watching josh's mama too much okay, absolutely, absolutely not absolutely, not, absolutely. Not, by the way, I love their content, but josh's mama, ok, side note. So he had recorded a video when they went to the beach, a day at the beach, and all the snacks that mama packed.
Speaker 2Oh Lord.
Speaker 1Maurice, hot dogs like from the pack, and then she put ketchup in there, so they've been marinating in ketchup, ok. Then she ate raviolis from the can. Just crack the can open, ate the raviolis from the can. Just cracked the can open, ate the raviolis.
Speaker 2Then she ate potted meat from the can with some Ritz crackers. I don't want to hear no more. This is bad. I said how is she eating? The sodium content on all of that, let me ask you a question.
Speaker 1I thought we was focusing on you, no you know I'll do that.
Speaker 2You know that's not the type of man I am A good bot, except never mind Except for in the bedroom. Yeah, I'll be tired, oh.
Speaker 1Wow, I just want you guys. You just got a glimpse into my life. You hear what he said I'll be tired.
Speaker 2Don't act like I don't reciprocate. We're not going to do that Because I will get played by place.
Speaker 1I'm just saying. I mean, you know, there's a such thing as three play.
Speaker 2Okay, you know what. This has been another episode. Okay so is this bare minimum? Or princess treatment? Queen treatment you a queen. Thank you when I put gas in your car.
Speaker 1Oh, that's bare minimum, that is bare.
Speaker 2I'm sorry, that's bare minimum.
Speaker 1Because you don't feel safe at the gas station. Statistics show no, I feel like that's bare minimum.
Speaker 2Oh, that is bare minimum, it is.
Speaker 1I feel like pumping, getting my gas falls in line with opening the car door for me.
Speaker 2Because you feel like you know what, I'm going to agree with that, because you shouldn't be pumping anything. I should be the one doing the pumping High five.
Speaker 1I agree with you, high five.
Speaker 2I'm talking about sexual.
Speaker 1I know, high five, I'm not high fiving. Yes, that's bare minimum Okay. Yeah Is it. It is Damn.
Speaker 2I better stop doing it then.
Speaker 1Goodbye, let me see Waking up early to pack your lunch.
Speaker 2Bare minimum or king true, bare minimum, because you don't do it.
Speaker 1I feel like.
Speaker 2I'm. You don't wake up early to pack my lunch.
Speaker 1You wake up when you want to get up and pack my lunch. Oh, I mean no, your lunch is packed by the time you're ready to go though, yeah, but there's no reason for me to get up extra early.
Speaker 2Look not to pack your lunch, but I get up early to make you breakfast Before I changed my shift, when I was going in earlier, you would literally pack my lunch the night before oh, absolutely. And you would tell me don't wake me up. You would make me overnight oats. You said here's your breakfast, don't wake when.
Speaker 1I knew I did not want to get up the next morning. I prepared everything at night. But what's important Is that you did it.
Speaker 1No, what's important is that you had breakfast and lunch. Okay, he don't eat dinner because when he works late he don't like eat late. So when we eat dinner it's just leftovers and then I'll pack him some for, like, the next day. But what's important is that I make sure that he leaves this house in the morning with something on his belly and that he has something to put in his belly while he is at work. Okay, that's what's important.
Speaker 2Okay, you just. That's what's important. This is the episode. You just want to try to beat yourself up Is it?
Speaker 1is it true or not true? It's true, Okay.
Speaker 2That's all I want to know. It's my turn right um. Is it bare minimum?
Speaker 1or is it queen treatment when I run errands while complaining bare?
Speaker 1minimum, that's bare minimum I know some people might be like no, that's queen. No, that is bare minimum. Why do you need to complain about running errands? The question is why am I running errands is bare minimum. Why do you need to complain about running errands? The question is, why am I running errands? Because sometimes you might have to run errands and when you do them I kind of expect them to be done without you complaining. Like, why complain? Especially if you're doing something for the house? Why?
Speaker 2complain about it. I work for the house. I do too. I go to work. Good damn bye I make sure the house is in good financial standing.
Speaker 1And that also includes having to run errands. Sometimes it also includes doing dishes on the weekend. Let me tell you right now. We appreciate all of your double duties.
Speaker 2sometimes I only consume of things I want to do working because I have to, and sleeping.
Speaker 1If only it were that simple. That sounds good, right, that sounds really good. I would love that for you. I'm working hard for that for you.
Speaker 2Really.
Speaker 1Yeah, giving you uninterrupted gaming time. You bet not say it, because I know what you're going to say. Giving you uninterrupted gaming time, is that king treatment, or?
Speaker 2bare minimum.
Speaker 1I knew you were going to say it. I knew you were going to say it. I knew you were going to say that.
Speaker 2Because I'm a gamer. When I game, which is not often anymore, I game often.
Speaker 1I just no, I'm just saying I don't game often. So, since you don't game, often the time that you do game, you expect it to be uninterrupted, abso-freaking-lutely. Why do I feel like most of these are going to be bare minimum?
Speaker 2for the both of us, bare minimum.
Speaker 1I kind of feel like we put the fresh on each other. Now you gotta tell me, is it bare minimum?
Speaker 2or is it queen treatment, mm-hmm, when I protect your peace by handling conflict, scheduling or just any drama in your life?
Speaker 1That's bare minimum.
Speaker 2Okay, I want to say yes, that's bare minimum.
Speaker 1Okay, and the reason I'm going to say that is because I feel like that is something that a form of protection a form of protection, and it's something that we, like, can offer each other but you don't, let me protect you though I do.
Speaker 2Let you protect me, because my see, part of this is like the, the, the, the conflict and the drama. I come to you personally first. Hey, you might want to tell them this, especially when it concerns your family. I try not to say nothing directly to your family because you know how, when I say it, it's gonna be it just comes off a little bit more.
Speaker 1It's a little abrasive, yeah a little rough.
Speaker 2It's a little rough when I say it because, it's a little rough, you know, because you, when you're gonna say, when you're gonna get your family back news, you package it.
Speaker 1Well, oh, you know, we, we love you, we try, we, we really this is just isn't working what's funny is how you're saying that is that I had co-workers who would tell me that it's just like when you write me up, it's just right it doesn't feel like you know your what your action is just doesn't work with our dynamic no, that's not how you do it. You oreo them wow, whereas I'll be like, look here, pimp, this ain't working, you gotta go okay but see, and that's that's where the balance comes in at there, I feel like you know, life needs a little bit of both.
Speaker 1That's why okay um, let's see little bit of both. That's why, okay, um, let's see booking your doctor's appointments and your dentist appointments. Is that king treatment, or think about it, think about think about it, that's it's what that's funny, because I don't do that you don't know so I would think that would be treatment for you slipping.
Speaker 2No, first of all, you don't do it because you know you don't know where I want to go that's true too.
Speaker 1I'm very I'm very particular about when I go like, and also it's like because I don't yeah, you're particular when you go and sometimes I don't know what your schedule is going to look like, especially past thursday, just like today, with the whole dog and I'm like, okay, if I don't get this right, I could potentially end up taking her by myself and I would prefer to have you there.
Speaker 1I was like, let me talk to my husband and then that dog's the only, I'm the only person that dog will listen to no, you're not the only person that she listens to, but I would just prefer for you to like pick her up and put her in the car.
Speaker 2I like that dog in the depth of her soul and say if you don't sit your. I treat her like a black child.
Speaker 1That's the problem. She has a dog's brain.
Speaker 2She acts like a child when she's around me. I tell her to sit her ass down. She sits her ass down.
Speaker 1Okay, go ahead. So you think that's bare minimum? Yeah, bare minimum. So you want me? To start scheduling your doctor's appointments. No, you don't have to, okay, but you just said it's bare minimum. So that kind of insinuates. That's something you want me to do.
Speaker 2No I really don't. I don't like going to the doctor, so okay, so then is that king treatment?
Speaker 1no, oh my gosh I don't think you understand how this works, but okay, go ahead.
Speaker 2is it bare minimum or queen treatment when I make you feel safe, soft and have you take the lead?
Speaker 1Wait what.
Speaker 2Is it when I make you feel safe, soft and not have you take the lead all the time? Oh, and not make me take the lead, so like when I take initiative.
Speaker 1Oh, I think that's. I feel like Go ahead and say it.
Speaker 2Go ahead and say it Go ahead and say it. I feel as though that should be that should go manager here, go to manager, y'all go to manager here, go to manager, come on I feel as though that should be uh-huh, bare minimum, okay.
Speaker 1Okay, because I'm thinking in the dynamics of relationship okay, okay, but we're not. We're talking about you, however, oh for oh, for me personally, yeah, for me personally, that's bare minimum, okay, yeah.
Speaker 2And that's where we have an impasse, because my wife doesn't care if I work 20 hours or 70. That's not true. I have to take initiative. Yeah, even when I'm walking in off a 13-hour shift. Well, you didn't make no moves. I thought you was.
Speaker 1I do not expect the world of you after working 13 hours. Stop, not the world, just half of Saturn. Okay, me surprising you with tickets to your favorite event. Is that King Treatment?
Speaker 2or Bearment. That's King Treatment. Yeah, I said yeah because, first of all, my first question was like where do you get this money from?
Speaker 1Yeah, see, and that's why, after the first time I did that, I never did it again, because I was so excited to do something nice for him, had this whole thing planned out tickets to see his favorite football game and he completely and utterly ruined it because he's like I don't want to see them play the Raiders, I don't want to go to Oakland, I don't want to go to Oakland. And I was like it was a freaking gift, it was supposed to be a surprise.
Speaker 1It was a weekend away together and all you did was shit on my surprise.
Speaker 2And.
Speaker 1I've never done it again.
Speaker 2Here's the thing I didn't shit on your surprise. You absolutely shitted on my surprise. Going back to my last question, I was protecting you.
Speaker 1Okay, no, we're not doing. You don't know what it's like.
Speaker 2We are not gonna do that you don't know what it's like To be at a football game in Oakland. We were not. I know that's why.
Speaker 1I wanted to go To experience it.
Speaker 2No, no, you experience a football game in Oakland If you're cheering for the Oakland team, not if you're on the opposing team.
Speaker 1No, you don't do that. No, no, no he was like there's no way in hell. We're going to Oakland.
Speaker 2No, now you just said San Fran, shit Arizona. Yeah, we could have went Oakland.
Speaker 1Nah, he was like, yeah, you can go ahead and get rid of the tickets. He was like I'm not going to Oakland.
Speaker 2I Not going to do that again. I'm really invested in this question. Okay, okay, now is it bare minimum or queen treatment when I handle all the heavy lifting, both literally?
Speaker 1and emotionally. Literally and emotionally. Let's start with literally first. Okay, is that?
Speaker 2princess or queen treatment or bare minimum. It's bare minimum, but you deadlift four and a pound. It does not matter, but you can deadlift four and a pound.
Speaker 1That does not. Why am I lifting?
Speaker 2everything.
Speaker 1That does not matter, because, for one, my muscles are sore too. For one, like I continuously tell you, gym strength does not translate to real world strength. Okay, when he continuously asks me why I cannot bring up my laundry basket upstairs, it's because it's heavy. Okay, household lifting is heavy. It's a different mindset. When I'm in the gym and I'm dead lifting weight, it's a completely different mindset. When I have to get groceries and get groceries from Sam's Club and take the things out of the car, it's a completely different mindset.
Speaker 2Therefore, the weight feels different and it feels heavier.
Speaker 1It doesn't translate, so therefore I need you.
Speaker 2You're stronger. What about emotionally?
Speaker 1It don't matter.
Speaker 2Ask your question.
Speaker 1Okay, I'm just asking my question. No, ask the question. What was the question again?
Speaker 2Is it bare minimum or queen treatment when I handle all the heavy lifting emotionally?
Speaker 1I feel like that's probably queen treatment. I was going to ask you when do I do it? That's why I said it's probably queen treatment.
Speaker 2I do it from time to time. When I look at her I'm like damn, my baby, she down bad, fuck you.
Speaker 1Maurice, she down bad. What did you say when we were on the way to the gym last time and we both didn't realize we were like down bad. And you're like babe, I'm not doing good mentally today. And I was like that's funny because I literally just had the same thought. He said, damn damn, we played ourselves. He said, fuck, we down bad, damn bad, we both down real bad I said how how are we gonna, how are we gonna support each other if we both down here? That's why we were going to the gym.
Speaker 1That helped. It helps um. Let's see uhering you a back rub after work. King treatment or bare minimum.
Speaker 2It should be bare minimum, bare minimum.
Speaker 1I don't think I've gotten a king treatment yet.
Speaker 2It should be bare minimum, because I have to ask, I have to lay next to you and toot my back next close Babe.
Speaker 1Are you the wife in this situation? You got to toot next to me if you massage me first. He puts his butt, his butt, his hip, right up against me and he's like so like, can you rub my hip?
Speaker 2so if y'all don't know like I had, I had the motorcycle accident yeah, but what's like two years? Ago, but I had this spot from where I made contact with the ground. That is really always sore and I was like I need her to rub this spot to ease some of the tension. Oh my gosh, and she'd be asking, like you know what I want. Bye.
Speaker 1You know what it is. I do know what you want, is it? It's my turn? Oh sorry, oh see.
Speaker 2Bare minimum she can't even always trying to take. Now is it? Is it clean treatment or is it bare?
Speaker 1minimum when I notice your emotional state and adjust how I approach you, that should be bare minimum.
Speaker 2Okay, yeah, that should be bare minimum, I guess it should.
Speaker 1It should be bare minimum. You don't always do that, which is quite frustrating, okay, look here, because I and they like it hold on, let's sit here for a second dwell in it. Let's sit here for a second, because we've had this conversation before. Okay, like when I'm and when I'm in one of my moods, and I know, you know, I'm in one of my moods because you kind of like, like you do you know?
Speaker 1you the opposite. We've had this conversation before where, if he knows that I'm in like some type of mood where I'm really not in a playful mood, instead of not trying to be as playful where it's going to come off as extremely annoying to me or I'm just going to be like I'm just going to be just annoyed or upset, he he, he piles it on Like he thinks that's the time for him to like tickle me and he thinks that's the time to like to love on you.
Speaker 2Yeah, I'm loving on you, yeah.
Speaker 1But when I tell you I'm giving you my good vibes, no, we've had this conversation but when I tell you how you can love on me, that will help calm me.
Speaker 1That will you know that I can receive. I'm not receiving you being goofy, you hitting me, you smacking me on the butt, you tickling me. That shit is just going to irritate me because I'm already in a heightened, anxious, annoying state. But when you come to me and be like, oh dang, like my babe, my babe down bad, and you give me a hug and you give me a kiss, and then you'd be like I bought you a pack of red vines.
Speaker 1You was down bad. I took care of you. Bye, Maurice. I said what you need the male deal.
Speaker 2You didn't even, you didn't even, and I was the fact that I asked you how you felt every day.
Speaker 1When, when? Really what Since Monday?
Speaker 2No what since? Since monday? No, since monday. And then, look, you went back and say yes since monday, when you, when you had your little injury on monday, monday.
Emotional Support and Communication
Speaker 1On monday, your little injury oh, oh see, and now you just you see how you, you see how he do me.
Speaker 2That's because he was plotting, that's because he was plotting, and when you, uh, uh how do I say it without you being mad? When you went through your time of the month, I checked on you what I checked on you, baby, what you need.
Speaker 1Yeah, you always be like okay, yeah, baby, you good, you good what you need. You need some extra time, Okay. But we're not talking about that. We're talking about the emotional aspect. That's emotional, you go because you, you all over the place. And you know this right. This has been going on for how long? How long we been together?
Speaker 2And how many?
Speaker 1decades have you experienced how long we been locked in? How many decades have you experienced this and you still don't know how to catch the wave.
Speaker 2Cause I am the wave, I can't catch me.
Speaker 1I need you to go say some dumb shit. I need you to go say some dumb shit. I need you to go say some dumb shit.
Speaker 2I am the wave.
Speaker 1Bye, maurice, okay.
Speaker 2I'm going to catch the wave. Is it your turn or my turn? It's your turn. Okay, catch the wave.
Speaker 1Let's see Catch the wave. No, you're going to say bare minimum on that. I know that. Let's see, okay, me handling something that you hate doing Without complaining Bare minimum. So it's kind of like the errands thing, huh, yeah bare minimum.
Speaker 2Yeah, we ain't got to talk about that, how about? How about when I, when I post you on social media?
Speaker 1That's bare minimum. That's bare minimum bare minimum.
Speaker 2Yeah, of course I don't post it often okay, but you want to post you more no, you do post me.
Speaker 1Yeah, not a lot, though I don't need you to post me every day.
Speaker 2I post you, like I post you like on big, like big events, anniversaries, birthdays. Okay, that's it.
Speaker 1I don't really do all that's, and they know, I'm married and I hardly ever like the post, so damn damn.
Speaker 2You don't like the post about you. That's paul barton it doesn't like I'm not seeking for you to post me, if you, if you post me, you post me, let's dive into this.
Speaker 1It's not if you didn't post me at all. That would be kind of like different but you do post me so let's dive into this.
Speaker 2So what is it about you seeing yourself on my post that you don't like? Why do you hate yourself?
Speaker 1first of all, I don't hate myself. It's just that sometimes if I come across it like I'll see, there has been times where I'll come across and I'll just like see it, but then I'll scroll and then I'll go back and then I'll like it, but I don't like always like it initially.
Speaker 2Why are you delaying your gratification to yourself?
Speaker 1What are you talking about? That's not. What are you talking about? I'm not.
Speaker 2Why are you not?
Speaker 1It's not gratifying for me to see you post me like that doesn't do, so I'm going to stop posting then I mean you do what you want your newsfeed. That's not even okay. I'm not gonna go ahead and answer. I don't know what to tell you. Like I, I listen. Like I said, I'm not stressing you to post me, I do. I like it when you post me. Sure would I have a problem if you didn't post me at all? Probably. But you post me enough to where I'm like. How would you know?
Speaker 2how would you know? How would you know?
Speaker 1I do follow you but you don't like acting, I do. I like your stuff. Every time I see your videos, I like them okay and I share them sure whatever.
Speaker 2Oh yeah, um, let me see, um, yeah, you are gonna say bare minimum if I say that, not criticizing you after a failure bare minimum, because you, you are one of the, you, you have one of the slickest tongues of the west and you think you, and that's what I'm talking about, that's the problem why are you trying to make it seem like I just be dogging you out?
Speaker 1I don't like that. I got one of the slickest tons in the west. What does that mean?
Speaker 2and that's why I gotta be quick with it, because I gotta, I gotta be ready, because sometimes I don't know. I keep telling y'all, being married to a black woman, you don't know who you're gonna get, I don't know what version of kinesha I'm going to get. You do. Sometimes I get the soft, loving and caring most of the time. All the time I get the she's slick with it. So now I gotta be slick with it. So now, instead of so now, instead of supporting one another, we sitting going.
Speaker 1We're going back for a dog and one another yeah, but the only person that walks away with their feelings hurt okay because you try to get slick with me all, all right, here we go and then if I feel attacked we've discussed this in previous episodes?
Speaker 2Is it bare minimum or clean treatment when I prioritize your needs during intimacy?
Speaker 1No, it's a bare minimum.
Speaker 2See, it's a bare minimum. That's why I gotta get mine, because she gonna get hers.
Speaker 1I always tell you to get yours, just don't let it take forever. I still don't understand that. What do you mean? What? Why don't you understand it? What do you mean? So you want? You want it over quickly. I mean, now, I don't want it over like super quick, but it don't need to be like like a 30 minute session, why I mean it can be if it, if it's like that night where we were playing that's in the background.
Speaker 2That's that.
Speaker 1That's something that's something but if we but yeah, but if we are like, yes, okay, but if we if it's if, unless it's one of those kind of nights then yes, like but if it's one of those kind of nights, then yeah, like let's drag it out. But if it's something like we, we need to get to bed's.
Speaker 2Something like we, we need to get to bed. You want to leave your life all alone. You see, if we need to get to bed, can we, can we?
Speaker 1can we do this, Can we get this done? Smile and then go to sleep.
Speaker 2Sometimes sometimes that'd be my intention, and then I get in there.
Speaker 1I've been trying to give you the look like.
Speaker 2I want this to stop.
Speaker 1You got about 60 more seconds.
Speaker 2I want this to stop, so I'm going to be like.
Speaker 1so it's 11 and I'm ready to pull down my eye mask and, as y'all know from the last episode, once my eye mask comes down, that means I'm out of service.
Speaker 2I've been like this I'm out of service.
Speaker 1It's a different experience being married to me. What can I say?
Speaker 2A lot of times I'm like I wish I could be done this picture Cause she I say how you done, you done already.
Speaker 1We just started when we need, when we got, when there's business To attend to. But how you get that, what do you? What are you thinking about? I'm not going to give you my secrets. I'm not going to give you my secrets. What? What's the problem?
Speaker 2Go ahead and ask your question.
Speaker 1What's the problem? Go ahead and ask your question. Let me see Me supporting your hobbies, even if I don't care.
Speaker 2Bare minimum. Really, I support yours. I don't care Bare minimum. Really, I support yours. I don't care about them, I'll still I'll buy you cups. I think they're all a waste of goddamn money, but I'll still buy you cups. I supported you when you were on your nail color kick and we had 7,000 nail polishes in the house. I wouldn't have bought you a whole goddamn nail rack. You had your own little uh made up nail salon. Yeah, I built you a goddamn cover to keep your cuffs. I support your habits. Look how many goddamn printers you have how many cutters I feel.
Speaker 1I feel attacked right now. But did you see that video? I had sent you where she was like.
Speaker 2I called my husband and told him I think I'm in the mood for a new hobby, and he went around the house.
Speaker 1Don't forget about this one, this one and this one Right. Remember when you were into plants, right, and then you were into sewing.
Speaker 2And then you were into the part of that video that got me was the crocheting.
Speaker 1I said because I was buying $20 and $40 worth of yarn every other day.
Speaker 2I still crochet, I don't crochet nearly as much as. I used to.
Speaker 1No, you weren't crocheting all the time I was crocheting like you would turn on some charms or some golden girls. I would be sitting on the couch, just I literally would crochet like all day, like no joke.
Speaker 2I would polish my nails.
Speaker 1I would polish my nails. After my nails finished drying, I would sit down down, I would get a snack, I would turn on my golden girls are charmed. And then I would be crocheting.
Speaker 2Now that I say that out loud, it sounds very old.
Speaker 1Yeah, because that was, and that was in my 20s too but I supported you.
Speaker 2You did when you went through your whole and you even wore the beanies I made you right and it then, when you went through, when you went through, your oh, I need every makeup collection that comes out. I supported.
Speaker 1Well, that was different, though, because, like I was in in it but I supported you. Yeah, I supported I don't do that now, because I have to pay retail for it and that's just ridiculous. But when you getting shit like for dirt cheap and at a discount and for free, you know it's a different story.
Speaker 2Oh it's my turn yeah, go ahead, let's do like let's do what I mean. I won't, because I'm the king right here.
Speaker 1You are.
Speaker 2I'm not going to debate that Is it bare minimum or clean treatment, when I speak respectfully about you even when you're not around.
Speaker 1Bare minimum.
Speaker 2Are you kidding me? That's clean treatment.
Speaker 1Absolutely not. That is bare minimum, because if I talk bad, about you.
Speaker 2I want you in the room so you can hear it, okay, because sometimes I want to start the fight.
Speaker 1No, you don't, Because you always end up getting your feelings hurt. I want to fight for the makeup why I'm only gonna give you 60 seconds. What you want to make up for you need to work on your finishing game in 60 seconds first I can't even enjoy it I'm teasing guys, oh gosh. Now everyone's going to be like oh my gosh, I only have sex for 60 seconds. It's crazy work. Let's see Me dressing up for you when we go out.
Speaker 2That's bare metal.
Speaker 1You think so?
Speaker 2Yeah, you could do it more often, because when you came home today, what I thought you looked like- that's not fair.
Speaker 1It's because I just went to like really quickly run one errand and come home tell the people what I told you. You look like I was at the bottom of the staircase and he looks at me. He goes why do you look homeless? He was like you look so homeless right now and I was like why I said you look like I don't pay. Provide you no type of life well, because I was like I had to run a quick Erin Minimum effort.
Speaker 2I said this is how you got out in the streets like this.
Speaker 1It wasn't that bad.
Speaker 2It was bad, I wouldn't have said nothing. I was fully covered, but you weren't put together.
Speaker 1No, I was not put together.
Speaker 2At all.
Speaker 1No, I wasn't. You're right, let me see. Letting you rest while I handle house chores, is that?
Speaker 2key Bare minimum.
Speaker 1You know what? Pull your beard. That is king.
Speaker 2treatment Bare minimum, because you know I need my rest.
Speaker 1No, and what's one thing I don't like to do?
Speaker 2Do what?
Speaker 1When you home Clean. When you home Clean Especially if he's not like I don't know what it is, but sometimes when he's in his office and he's just like enjoying his time, and I'm looking at the house and I'm like, okay, like sometimes I'll be like let me just handle it, I'll do it myself, because cleaning also relaxes me. Sometimes if I put my headphones on, I have my podcast going and I listen to other podcasts and everything, and then some days, depending on the mood I'm in, he's sitting in there, he playing video games, he got a snack, he well, air conditioned ventilation, and I'm over here on my knees scrubbing the back of a toilet. Yeah, getting high off bleach in the comment. I do have to open a window and I do it every time and I don't understand. I said I've been cleaning toilets for years and I still don't know my ratio for bleach I'm definitely I'm gonna find you on the floor one day no, you won't, because I always make sure to open the window.
Speaker 2Oh okay yeah because it gets really strong in there sure okay, go ahead just a couple more is it bare minimum or queen treatment when I listen to you vent without jumping in, that's all the problem I mean go ahead, answer it.
Unwanted House Guests Dilemma
Speaker 1I want to say bare minimum, but yeah, that's what I want to say say what you're gonna say, that's what I said okay um, let me see asking your opinion before making a household decision. That's a requirement. What are you talking about? That's a requirement. That's a requirement.
Speaker 2What are you talking about?
Speaker 1That's a requirement, so that's king treatment. You have to run that by me, pam, so that's king treatment. Look Like I always ask Look here, yes or no. That would be considered a king treatment you have to run that by me, pam.
Speaker 2So that's king treatment.
Speaker 1Look like I always ask Right, look here, yes or no?
Speaker 2That would be considered a king treatment, then no, no, no, that's bare minimum, that's a requirement. It's like I tell all my friends Regardless, when you are in the role of leadership, regardless of whether you made the decision or she made the decision, you are responsible for the outcome of that decision. So, in this dynamic, you gonna run them decisions by me, because if I'm not like, if I Nah, I can't, I don't know.
Speaker 1Really, really.
Speaker 2I don't know. That seemed like Tisha been talking to you.
Speaker 1Bye, goodbye, goodbye. Let me talk about my mom. I can't do that one, okay, anyways. I can't do that one, I'm gonna do one more, but it's my turn. Oh, go ahead, sorry.
Speaker 2You see, sorry, y'all see how she treat me.
Speaker 1Go ahead.
Speaker 2Is it bare minimum? What happened there? I don't know. I'm tired. Is it bare minimum? Or clean treatment when I make time for your love language, Even when it's not mine.
Speaker 1Go ahead. For me personally that is the bare minimum.
Speaker 2Okay, so it sounds like we both right here Just doing bare minimum. That's what it sounds like. It sounds right here, just doing bare minimum. That's what it sounds like. It sounds like we're doing bare minimum right now.
Speaker 1Yeah, it could be. Okay, it could be. Yeah, that's what it kind of sounds like. That's why I was like, after like the fifth one, I was like I feel like he's going to say bare minimum to a lot of them, because I know how you are. All right, guys, let's hop right on into our new deeds. All right, am I the asshole for kicking my wife's family out after they kept extending their stay? Okay, we just bought a house two weeks ago. We're not even fully unpacked.
Speaker 1When my wife's parents said, hey, next month can we come stay three nights over the weekend? It would be her mom, her dad and two youngest siblings. Hell, no, the week they asked, they changed their mind, packed the car and they just drove here. They got here on a Sunday and said we're only staying three nights. Then, two nights into it, said we want to stay one more night. Now here her sister wants to come up here and spend the weekend.
Speaker 1This whole week there's a few people staying over. I want everyone gone. Me too. I'm working late to not come home. My routine is gone. I need to mow and do other house chores. They keep our toddler up all night and just sit at the table drinking beer. Yeah sure, they brought us some great house gifts and I feel twisted about it. I do care about them and I want my wife's family and I want to see them happy. Am I the asshole for telling my wife never to do this again and asking them to leave early? Also, never allow people to stay here during the week when I have to go to work.
Speaker 1You are not the asshole sir, you are not the asshole you have triggered me.
Speaker 2This is a pet peeve of mine.
Speaker 1The part that I really agree with him about is like his working schedule. If it's impeding on his working schedule, it is a pet peeve of mine.
Speaker 2I will tolerate the weekend yeah, when I have to working. Schedule. If it's impeding on his working schedule, it is a pet peeve of mine. Yeah. If I will tolerate the weekend yeah, when I have to work, yeah, and I need schedule and I need shit to be quiet, yeah you gotta go yeah, I agree, I agree, I agree staying up all night throwing the toddler off, like I agree, and as in our dynamic, in our history, here, here in our residence, as we have had numerous extended stay house guests.
Speaker 1But never been like loud.
Speaker 2Look here it don't matter.
Speaker 1No, I understand what you're saying. At a certain point.
Speaker 2I was like I love you, but don't let the door hit you where the good Lord's pushing.
Speaker 1No, I do understand and I have done the work.
Speaker 2You know I'm going to just work later. Yeah, so I ain't got to come home. Yeah, because there used to be times I'd get the phone. I would be irritated. I'd have a good day at work, get off work and be irritated about what I'm about to drive to. Yeah, I would get home, sit in the driveway like I don't want to go to the goddamn house. So, no, sir, you are not the asshole. And four people. Now her sister want to come too. Yeah, Shit, get out of my house.
Speaker 1I think the biggest thing, though, too. Like. So not only are you throwing the kid off, everybody's off, because it's not like they're just there and they're sticking to a schedule too, like they're going to bed on time, they're you know he's talking about. They're staying up late at the kitchen table, and if they're drinking beer, you know they're being loud, they're talking loud so of course the baby can't go to sleep. You know what pissed me off?
Speaker 2the fact that I'm working every day to pay for something that you enjoying. Bye, damel, that'sille. That would piss me off. Bye, bye.
Speaker 1Call me petty, you're petty. I already know that.
Speaker 2Yeah, I'm a board member. I've already said that, right, okay.
Speaker 1I'm a board member. I say this proudly.
Swingers Club Deception Story
Speaker 2I go to work and I bust my ass so that my family, the people with my last name, the people that I have either held birth or swore vows to, can enjoy the future of my labor. Not you extended motherfuckers. Y'all got to go.
Speaker 1Yeah, but that's not, that's not how that's not. That's not how that works when you marry. It works for me, it doesn't. It hasn't actually, so that's not true. That's not true.
Speaker 2Well, you, you know, we've got, we've had some arguments about that. Yeah, we're not gonna.
Speaker 1We're not gonna uh but that's not true, because that's not, because that's not how family works. So it that you know that's not how family works. But yeah, I totally agree with him about like impeding on his schedule and especially my biggest thing is the baby, because you're throwing the baby schedule off. So yeah, but I don't think you're the asshole, sir.
Speaker 2Because if you love your grandchild, I'm going to take him back home with you. Bye.
Speaker 1Okay, here we go. Now this one, brace yourself, okay. Last night my man and I were on one of our spontaneous adventures. We had talked about going to a swingers club before and last night he came to me and said get dressed, we're going to the XXX club. We discussed our boundaries on the way there and agreed that if we liked a girl it would be a green light for some fun. People kept approaching us but I wasn't interested. Then a girl came over and we instantly vibed and flirted a bit. I asked my man his thoughts and he said let's pass on her. We went to the next room and another girl sat in between us. She introduced herself and we all talked and we vibed. My man tapped me on the shoulder and said I like her, let's play with her. We went to a private room, had some fun and had a really good time. When we finished, she came over to my man, called him by his real name hugged him and thanked him for coming.
Speaker 1I said hold up, do you guys know each other? She said, yes, that's my ex and I invited, invited him here tonight. I had no idea she invited him or that she was his ex-girlfriend and I feel played. He thinks I'm tripping, but I think he was out of line. Am I wrong or is he wrong? He's wrong. He's very much. He's very. He's very much he is very much wrong.
Speaker 1I can't, I can't't. You didn't even have to finish the story, I knew where this was going. I can't. Okay, hold on. Of course he liked her. He had been in there, so she posted the text messages between her and her boyfriend.
Speaker 1So she texted him. I really feel played. He said did you not have fun that night? I'm not about to keep talking about this. Last night was perfect. She said you don't think taking me somewhere. Your ex invited you to then setting it up in a way. That way was out of line. I had no idea she was your ex and I would have never agreed to no BS like that. He said, babe, you're overthinking this. She's just my ex and I don't mess with that girl. I could have told you, but I know you would have said no, I just wanted you to have a good time and you did. I love you. She said it's just the fact that I vibed with that other girl more and you said you didn't like her. You really played it off and had the girl come over like y'all didn't even know each other. You played right in my face, she played right in my face. But my issue is with you. It's like you passed the girl. I liked to go be with your ex because you wanted to have fun with your ex.
Speaker 2He said answer the phone please so he started calling her look here.
Speaker 1He knew what he was doing he knew exactly what he was doing.
Speaker 2He knew exactly what he was doing.
Speaker 1He thought he found a loophole to still have a good time with his ex-girlfriend and then still enjoy his current girlfriend and play out the fantasy of having them both. He played her and in my eyes, you cheated with your ex-girlfriend, and now we're done, now we, I mean, and now we're done, but she now we're it now.
Speaker 2We're done now we're done. It's not like she had a good time too yeah, I did.
Speaker 1Yeah, I would tell me you know what I did. I sure did I bet and now I'm gonna find another man who can show me a good time, just like that. Who's not gonna?
Speaker 2you think that was 60 seconds.
Speaker 1You're funny. You're really funny Probably, but you're really funny, you're really. A lot can be done in 60 seconds. Okay, 60 seconds is quite a long time, okay, depending on what the end goal is, okay, 60 seconds can be a long time. I'm just saying I'm not going to argue with you, I'm just saying but yeah, he totally played in your face, played you.
Speaker 2Played yourself.
Speaker 1Played yourself. You heard me, you heard me.
Speaker 2And in the morning I'm making waffles.
Speaker 1Goodbye. Yeah, no, absolutely not. I think I would have to be like I'm sorry, babe, but you just ended our relationship. If you think you're lonely now, Now that I know that you guys still have a good vibe, go back to her.
Speaker 2Why'd you leave her?
Speaker 1Why'd you leave her? Because the way you guys were vibing in the private room it seemed like you had something good going.
Speaker 2She was crazy, but she did that one little thing I liked.
Speaker 1He just wanted to get it one more time.
Speaker 2Just one more time Make sure I made the right decision.
Speaker 1No, he wanted to make sure that the ex-girlfriend could teach the new girlfriend the thing he liked, so the new girlfriend can keep doing it. Are you free Saturday? Goodbye, good damn bye. I can't with you. Guys, this has been another episode of the life after I do podcast. If you're not doing so already, don't forget to like, follow, share all of the above um, all of our social medias, all all the things that life after I do podcast. You can follow us on instagram, facebook only talk.
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Speaker 2So we appreciate all the love, all you guys following me, but I don't want these problems because now my followers are like 80% women. I said I follow my wife.
Speaker 1Goodbye, goodbye. We appreciate all the love you guys. We really do enjoy doing this and spending time with you guys every week, so we love it. We just want to say thank you, but don't forget you can also write into the podcast at lifeafteridopodcastgmailcom If you have any questions, if there's any stories you like for us to read or want our advice on anything, don't forget to write into us and you get a new episode every Wednesday. So until then, guys, peace Booskies, peace Booskies.
