Embodied with Anthea Bell
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Embodied with Anthea Bell
Dissolving Imposter Syndrome - Part 2 - Guided Practice
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Dissolving Your Imposter Syndrome - Part 2
Welcome dear ones to your latest Solo Episode of Finding Your Way Home - the Podcast dedicated to supporting your journey inward, your journey through, into a life so conscious, so connected and alive that it truly enriches you and those around you. It's beautiful to have you with us.
Today, we're diving into Part 2 of one of our most consistently requested topics - how to navigate and find our way beyond Imposter Syndrome. Tune into Part 1 to learn the psychological & emotional roots of this particular form of social anxiety and self-questioning. Our adult form of "Am I enough to belong". As you listen in, see if you can identify your own Imposter Syndrome blueprint - the narratives, physical safety / threat signals and emotional responses that arise for you specifically, when you find yourself in an environment that feels "stretchy". Spaces or relationships in which you desire to be seen, chosen, esteemed, included...
And as you tune into Part 2, prepare to take a deeper look at what this pattern reveals - about your view of yourself, and the parts within you longing to be embraced, loved, integrated and released. Together, through practical tools and a powerful guided meditation practice, we're going to work through your specific issues and create a baseline of calm, self-worth and non-attachment to the opinions of others. They were never really the issue, as you will discover...
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welcome to Finding Your Way Home, the secrets to true alignment. I'm your host, Anthea Bell, movement teacher, mind body coach, and lifelong spiritual seeker. This is a podcast about the depth, weight, and profound healing power of connection between mind and body, spirit and soul, and from one human to another. Together with an incredible range of inspiring guests, we'll explore just what connection and alignment mean. How to get there in a world full of the temptation to conform, and how great challenge ultimately can lead to life changing transformation. Get ready for groundbreaking personal stories, conversational deep dives, and a toolkit of strategies to build not just your inner knowing, but your outer world. Let's dive in.
Gorgeous creatures. Welcome to this week's episode of Finding Your Way Home. So I promised you a follow on episode to Part one of dissolving your particular brand of imposter syndrome, and that is our goal today. Our intention, it's my commitment to you is that by the end of this episode, you'll have a really beautiful both practice that you can come back to and additional layers of inquiry for the particular situations that you find yourself in where there's that tendency to shrink and be shy, and to be fearful of the watchful over watchful eyes of another person that might catch you out. But I also want to acknowledge that I'm leaving you this between the flurry of Christmas and the Promise of New Year. And because this is a podcast and a community that orients to what's really here, let's get a little bit real with what can be here in this period of time, which is both a lot of possibility and for some people really having to. Soothe and support themselves and reconnect inward after sequence, after sequence of family events and potential intensity revers into old roles, all of that jazz. So if as you listen to this. And as I lay that as a possibility, you notice, oh my God, that was me. Oh, I can't wait to get back to work. I can't wait to get back into my natural rhythm. Uh, it was a lot then. Please know that. I hear you. I see you. I'm with you. I think Christmas can be actually a really beautiful and really tough time and maybe the difference between whether it's tough but useful. Beautiful or whether it's tough and just tough suffering. Maybe the difference there is in the level of compassion and consciousness you're able to apply. If you know that this was a time of clarity because of what you experienced and were exposed to, then I really congratulate you on your willingness to see, to see truly. If it's a time where you've discovered some patterns of your own that might be contributing to any challenges that you're facing, then again, I am with you and I'm so proud of you for being willing to look at that. And if it's a time where the orientation has not been on you, then know that on one level that's very normal and natural and that the longer that you're on this. Process and journey of coming home to self, identifying what it is that you feel, you think, where you orient from, what you orient to, and the more that you can maintain that even when you're in space with others, then the more easeful all of these seasons become. We don't get swept up quite so easily, and if we do, then there's much more self forgiveness. And a sense of kind of, yeah, okay. That's how it is in these moments, I should say that this work is never done. So my Christmas was, interesting and challenging, and I find myself really grateful for the opportunity to connect with you all actually. To be in the earbuds of people who are committed to living in the same way that I am, to people who are curious and open and sweet and diligence. And so I really just wanna say thank you at this point. Before I go any further into the offering that I'm gonna give you guys today, I wanna say thank you for all of the ways in which unknowingly you keep me company. And give me something beautiful to focus my service on. I remember being told a very long time ago, and it's a mantra that I live by, that the areas where we most want to be of service are often not the ones where we are pointed to be of service. And I wonder if as you listen to that there's any resonance for you that there are people or circumstances that you would dearly adore to be able to change. To be able to help in, um, places where you can see exactly how something could be if only you were given an opportunity to help. And what I'm gonna remind you of, as I've always reminded myself of, is that life will give you those moments. It will. It will show you without any effort of yours, the places where you can be supportive and connective and compassionate and keep someone companioned. And in the places where you notice that your service is not required even as much as you might want to give it, please know that there are other places where you are better directed. Other people who have more open ears, other situations where your unique talent and skillset is perfectly matched. Just bear that in mind as you listen to the following, which is as an opening, a little meditative guide. To support you the next time you notice either that imposter syndrome has crept up and over you, or when you choose to sit down and really do some proactive work on this particular theme. So in the last episode, we really explored what is the nature of this beast of imposter syndrome, and in some ways I described it as a very natural adult version of the, please Like Me, please love me. Please include me, plaintiff childhood cry. And it is adult. The way that I'm describing it is adult, because what we've done is we've attached our, in theory, logical reasoning to that particular tendency. So we've identified a series of metrics that we think in this particular context or community will make us loved, will make us esteemed, will make us respected, will mean we are included, will mean we are finally equal or if not equal, that we have a place in the hierarchy. And I say that it's seeming logic because actually if you look around those circles that you're so desperate to belong to, what you'll notice is A, that there will be a lot of other people in those spaces that don't quite feel that they belong and are looking to be included even when they're in the circle. But B, if you look at their traits, their qualifiers, they'll very rarely be one or two or three uniform things. So it starts to pull apart this image that we have, that there is a degree of, uh, worthy quality that we need to have to be welcomed into any space. And I would argue that actually the greatest power comes when we realize that there's really nothing that that person or circle, or job or romantic partnership or business success can give us. That will really deeply touch us on an intimate level. It's where we see the mirage for what it is that it can't take the place of your own self inclusion. Ultimately, if you go into a circle or a relationship feeling that there is some major thing lacking in you and wanting the external group in their inclusion of you to disprove. For them, choosing you to signify that in fact you are intelligent or you are beautiful or you are strategic or you are successful. Any of those things, if you go in looking for that story, but feeling that you are not that you'll always feel the lack and you will always be looking for the moments where you are caught out, where you read something in someone's facial expression that says, oh yeah, but you're not quite good enough. And so I'm reminding you of that because we've gotta be really attentive to what we walk in with. And the benefit of knowing that is it points you to the place of healing within yourself that needs to be done in order for you to deload and liberate this person or partnership or friendship circle. From the burden that you're placing on them, because that really is the thing that will kill it quicker than anything else. Your need, and I say need because it has a quality of neediness, which I am far from criticizing. It's something that I have done all of my own work on, but it isn't something that the other person or people can come. Close to can soothe in you. It's a quality of early attachment wounding in a child, whatever, uh, psychological framework you want to use. It's a quality of inner innate need that has to be met in other ways than in the fragile hands of fragile people. One of the things that happens the older that you get. And I'm 38, so I'm hardly at a wise old age. But the older that you get, the more you see the people you used to think of as adults, as your age, if not younger, and I mean that without any level of patronizing this. It's just that you start to see people in their humanity. And ultimately, therefore, what you stop doing is giving them responsibility to fix things inside of yourself that only you have the power to include, dissolve and resolve. And nevertheless, we are gonna talk about those scenarios that you do find yourself in, where you find yourself automatically doing that. So the first thing that I would be curious about, and we touched on this a little bit last time, is identifying for you, what is the thing that you feel so deeply needful of them recognizing in you or not recognizing in you, depending on which side of the coin is the most accentuated for you. So as you think about the area where your imposter syndrome arises the most deeply. What is it that you're wanting, that you're wanting them to think, to feel, to confirm, to give you, to do for you? Just take a little moment as you listen to identify that. So if you're someone that gets, imposter syndrome or social anxiety in something like a business networking event, then notice, okay, what is it here that I'm wanting to hide? So often in those contexts, we walk in feeling profoundly visible and invisible At the same time, we are deeply desirous of someone or a multitude of people seeing into the specialness of us. But we are equally convinced that we are bland and uninteresting and have nothing to say. And I've talked about this before because a huge amount of that, momentary freeze is your nervous system response. It is a fight flight tendency, and of course, you can't flight because on some levels you feel that you are socially, Conformed to stay there. And so you end up with this really disconcerting, uncomfortable physiological emotional neurobiological response, which is that you're trying to have a conversation while simultaneously experiencing the sort of battle signals of retreat escape while maintaining a conversation, while hoping to seem interesting. And in all of those circumstances, the issue is that your orientation is on self. So in those moments, your desire to be seen in a particular way or not to be seen in a particular way is biasing your focus. No longer are you paying attention, really to the person in front of you who's going through all of their own things, but you're focusing on you. And that focus on you means you go back to the same repetitive stories that naturally you do when your nervous system is activated, which are all of the negative safety seeking self-protective stories that have tended to keep you out of exactly these scenarios. So if you find yourself in that space, if you stay in that, you're lost. The best thing to do is find a way of pausing and shifting that would be nipping to the bathroom saying a quick prayer. Or shifting your gaze. So there are two that I really commonly suggest for clients when I talk about shifting your gaze. So there are lots of ways of shifting physiologically. So we could practice a little bit of the psychological side. We could move into some deep slow, uh, four cornered breath. We could for a minute feel the stamp of our feet into the earth and just notice, oh, I have a body, it's sentient. You could take a little surreptitious wiggle of your hips. You could take a stretch. There are many, many things that you could do visibly and invisibly. You might begin to practice a little bit of havening with your hands that will immediately calm the nervous system and begin to separate out the relationship that you have between this particular scenario and the emotional trauma response. And it's a subtle version of that that's occurring. But there are also beautiful psychological ways of shifting. And so I mentioned before shifting your lens. And so what that would be is taking a moment even as you stand with the person that you are with to see them or to see yourself, or both in a different light. So let's talk about seeing yourself in a different light. The most effective for many people, especially if they're going into a work networking event, is to imagine for a moment how you would feel, how you do feel when you are the host. And I've shared this with particularly clients that find that they go into a social scenario where they immediately feel like they're on the outside, they're wanting to be included, they feel on some level not welcome. They feel on some level that quality of imposter syndrome that's there. And so for a minute they just drop back into the idea of, oh no, this is my space. I own this space. I need nothing from this person. They are here. By virtue of my selection, I have chosen them. In other words, rather than waiting for them to choose me, I have chosen them. And so when you shift into that space immediately you become much more spacious, magnanimous, generous, open, and you're shifting intentionally the power dynamic that has been inadvertently set up between you and the person you're speaking to. And you can do this in business meetings, you can do this in, uh, scenarios where you're meeting a partner's family. You can do this in any scenario where your tendency is to feel small and less than. What if I was the host? What if fundamentally it was on my terms? The other fun way of doing this is to shift the way that you're seeing the other person. I like to be quite specific about this because in many scenarios you'll be given a recommendation to see them in a particular way, and that way won't necessarily be generous to them. Generous to their humanity, generous to their complexity, generous to their adultness and wholeness. So my favorite is, could I see this person in the same loving way that I see my clients?'cause as a practitioner, my commitment to the people that I work with, especially when I work with them one-to-one, is to really see them as equals. So particularly in coaching, that's a very strong orientation and because that's a commitment every single time you sit down with your client, whether it's in person or online, every single time you hold space that you're seeing them and their fullness, their totality, their hugeness, what you stay away from is patronizing them. Power dominating them thinking that you have the answer for them. Coaching very much steers away from any of those tendencies by deliberate choice. And so if you're a practitioner in the way that I am, and particularly if you work through an embodied lens, that's always really attentive to the way that those signals show up in your body or in your client's body, then when I say view, this person I'm talking to as my client, immediately, it gives us an opportunity to be equals. What it also does is it switches on my filter to be curious, and as soon as I'm curious and as soon as I make it generously about them, then what that opens up for them is space to be, to breathe, to be explorative with themselves. And I wanna touch here a little bit on mirroring, particularly the mirror neuron science that says that when you're with a person to an extent, your body, your posture, your nervous system, your energetics, your hormonal pathways, your languaging, your facial mimicry, that will all be reflective of the person that you are talking to. So if they are in a sympathetic nervous system state. The likelihood is that you are gonna feel that, and you may be very likely to misinterpret that as being about you. Whereas actually what they're demonstrating is that they're just as nervous or just as guarded as you might have found yourself to be when you entered into that space. So immediately that I make this person in front of me, my clients. Then of course, also what I do is I shift where my body is in space into the role of space holder. And as I do that and I bring myself into therefore ventral vagal presence, I create for them an opportunity to do the same for them to shift. What's really beautiful also about the coaching space is that because we stay really present to what the other person is experiencing implicitly as well as explicitly, I'm gonna stay very gently, openly. Softly reading them. And so what I'm very unlikely to do is dominate even in my desire to know them as the client, I'm very unlikely to dominate them with that agenda, and I'll feel for the moments where they want to shift the conversation over to me and I will have the opportunity to be generous in allowing them to do that. What of course, that also allows for you by the time that you've established this little degree of rapport. Is you've stayed in that moment really interested in what they're saying, and that naturally gives you more conversational capacity because you're no longer going mind blank from your fear. You are actually involved in the dialogue between you and what it then gives you the opportunity, if they shift the conversation back to you, is to actually be present in considering the inquiry that they ask you. So you move outta the space where you think that there's a particular answer that you have to give. And you're actually just paying attention to, well, what is the most truthful, resonant, real answer that I could give here to this question that will establish the dynamic between you, the capacity for depth between you, the trust between you, much better than any pre strategized. Conversational topic, and that's why I generally don't advise, and I know that this is kind of going around a little bit at the moment, that you go into a networking event with conversations pre-prepped, and if that supports you to have that quality of practice inside of your body, then I really support that. What though I find is that a conversation that is rooted on prep's material is always going to be much more. Superficial and on some level artificial than actually being willing to be open to the conversational thread that's here. What I would say is that there are some foundational explorative questions that you can ask people that allow them to open up more, and again, they would be very similar to the coaching framework. You would reflect back. So you'd say something like, oh yeah, I can imagine how that might feel. You might share a little bit of your experience to be generous in your feedback. Yeah. I had a really similar scenario where.dot, dot immediately that allows the other person to feel seen, to feel connected with. You might gently, if the other person's open, inquire as to how that was for them. What are the experiences that they're describing or what's moving for them in their working life? Or how the experience has been that they've had over this Christmas season. And you might find that if you share with a tiny bit of intimacy about your experience getting into something of a little bit more depth and a little bit more realness, that they then feel encouraged and open to do the same either way. It's gonna be a really beautiful experiment, and if you can go into it knowing that there's nothing about you that this person can prove or disprove. If you can remind yourself of that even in the aftermath, if there's a quality of shame, really knowing, oh, that shame is not them shaming me, that's my shame. That's the place that I have the capacity to let go. If you can bear all of that in mind and in system, then this gets to be a really beautiful, evolving skill. So let me run you through then a little meditative practice. To drop you into a much deeper place, a self embrace, self-worth, so that when you choose to really look at the next instance that you have of imposter syndrome, you are armed with more softness, more resolution, more tenderness. So as you listen, I'm gonna ask you to close down your eyes. Find a position in which you can really be comfortable, a position in which you can settle your body able to root into the ground, into the floor, perhaps the back of your body's resting backward into the spine of a chair or the surface of a wall. I want you to feel as though you could rest and drop and breathe. And that that would be like the most beautiful, sweet permission statement for your system. And as you take those first few breaths, just remind yourself and congratulate yourself for arriving here, for giving yourself the time to sink in, for taking a moment to prioritize on one level, you, your insides. Your self discovery, your intimacy, and as you take those first few breaths, your first reminder is that whatever has been your experience with this particular topic, you are forgiven, that you get anxious, that you feel other, that you feel different, that you deeply desire to be included. Welcome all of that generously welcome your beautiful self in all of that vulnerability. It's there for a reason, and up until this point, arguably you just haven't had the framework or the tools to know how to navigate it better, to know how to dissolve your own suffering. And that's the game to notice all the ways in which in our human experience, in our emotional experience, in our relationships with others, we flourish, thrive, live, or suffer. Deplete, deprive. And gradually over time to work on that balance to take agency in the places that we can. The agency starts with self-forgiveness. It starts with not being in resistance to what your experience currently is. When you add resistance, when you add resistance, you stall progress. It's like placing a giant wall between you and the very growth or expansion that you seek. If you can dissolve into self embracing forgiveness, knowing that really there's nothing to forgive, then so much more becomes possible. So in this moment, please allow me and allow yourself to forgive whatever extent of this tendency you notice and trust that you're in exactly the right place to find a different way. And that that different way is largely as you might predict about coming home to yourself, becoming more full, more embodied, more aware of your beauty. Complexity. Completeness. Yes, you are a constant work in progress, but yes, you are also already whole. Valuable, rich, interesting. There is no one on this planet that is not interesting. There are many people that hide. That's a very different thing. There are many people who have not been given time or the right conditions to unfold their magic, and they are my people. So if that's you, as you listen, know that you are so welcome. It's a really beautiful thing. To apply patience to getting to know someone, to do it slowly over time and to recognize their capacity, their bandwidth for opening up, to really honor that that might've been challenging for them in the past. And so as you listen, know that that's you and that together through this podcast, we take the time to get to know you, that this whole thing is about the you that's listening. You just, you suck that in for a second. As I leave you this, my pure interest is in loving, connecting with and supporting you even if we've never met. And I mean that from the depths of me because I spent years. Darkness, feeling unseen. And of course, the only person that wasn't seeing me was me. And so know that that is a trajectory that's possible for you, that you can come to know yourself so deeply, so profoundly, that you'll always feel that you have a place in the world and you will always choose it. Drinking a deep breath, my loves. And as you drink in that breath, feel the quality of your own life. Feel the insides of your body. Feel your aliveness right here, right now in this moment, and see if you could just relax and release your body a touch more. Notice where you're gripping. Notice where your body has not quite dropped into grounding, heaviness. Release, surrender, and just give it the opportunity as you scan from the tips of your toes through your ankles, through your lower legs, through your upper legs, pelvis, back, shoulders, hearts, face, neck, head. Arms, fingertips your tongue, your cheeks, soft eyes. Let each and every part go please. All will be well if you're no longer managing, holding, keeping things upright and official. Hm. I wonder, as you scan the last couple of weeks, how much have you been presenting a front? And on some level, let's just honor that. That's a very useful strategy, but certainly here with me, the invitation is to take off the clothes. Hmm. Anyone that knows me well will know that whenever I have a moment of deep, deep psychological liberation inevitably layers come off, it's like the more naked my body is, the more free I feel in the most un sexual way possible. And so, on a symbolic level, my invitation for you just now is to allow yourself to unmask just here with me. And with all of the other beings that are listening that in this moment need permission to do the same. And as you unmask, I want you to drop right into the center of your being. So come into that place wherever you find it to be deep in your belly, right down in your heart. Maybe it's at the bottom of your pelvis that you feel today. Okay, that's my root. That's where I feel the most centered, the most grounded, the most me. Maybe it's somewhere else entirely. No judgment. And take a few breaths into that space, noticing the qualities of you, and it's as though consciously you're just gonna allow the walls. To soften the touch. Any final aspects of gripping or holding, anticipating could let go, and we are gonna sink together into a little bit of beingness, just in the experiencing of being inside of yourself. And you'll notice that naturally the breath begins to slow. Naturally, there's a feeling of ease that comes in, and you could allow also the thoughts, the narratives, even the emotions, to move into a little bit more of that spacious, open, almost liquid consistency. Just let it all go. Just here experiencing you. And as you take a breath deep into the lower portions of your belly, I want you to feel wholeness, and if that brings up anything in your mind, no problem. Soften. Smile at that. This old protective thought, maybe I'm not whole. What is this that we are doing, et cetera, et cetera. And just see if you could sink right back into your belly and to the feeling of wholeness, the feeling of love, and imagine for a moment that you were made of those two things. Plus one more wholeness love. Trust, like a triangle of support. I am whole. I am love. I am trust. I'm wholeness. I am lovingness. I am trusting. Feel how your system responds when these are your daily dose. Just imagine for a minute if I felt whole and complete then, and you might observe the relationships or the figures in your life. Who contradict that state of being? For some people, that is quite a vivid realization. Oh, it's my internalized projection of this. Oh, it's my internalized projection of this person that stands in the way of me feeling whole. And so for a moment, imagine that that person just doesn't exist. It sounds strange to be advised to let go of someone in this way, but just play with me for a minute. Imagine that whoever your naysayer is real or imagined, that they just hadn't quite come into being like a mirage, and that mirage is now moving away. No critique, no expectation, no judgment, freedom to be you in the world. And so I want you to feel, as you consider that, how freedom feels for you, that you get to be whole. Love, trust, breathe as that. Feel the qualities of those three traits flowing through your body. Notice any areas of contraction in your physicality that need to receive these three. Notice any stories. That might want to be dissolved here or laid down underneath the base of your body. I'm not enough. I need to be, do, do, do. I should be prettier, smarter, more charismatic, bigger, smaller, all of them at the same time. What if I could let go of thinking that I needed to be any other way than the way that I am? What if my one job was to live as the human that I am, and what if trust said that from that place, I would receive ample. Of what I need. Merit, deserve. What if there was no conditionality to your happiness or success aside from that, that I embrace me, that that in a sense became fact, oh, this is me. Every time I went into a scenario, a social circle, a new date, a family encounter. My job is not to fit myself to the scenario. My job is to continue to exhibit and embody me. And to see how the world around me reshapes. What if it was meant to reshape rather than me knowing that my love, my value, my quality is unquestionable. Because it is the majority of the time, you seemingly negative behavior comes from the moments where you self compromise. Where you betray or you contort till you manipulate or you deceive. Those are compromises of self, not embodiments of self. The embodiment of self stays, it shows up, and in some ways it stays still even when things feel like they're rocking around you. It isn't disturbed by disturbance. So what that means is that we get the opportunity in a sense to train your nervous system and your identity to really be okay with things that feel like are not fit, things that feel a little crunchy. And so as you hear me say that, just breathe into whatever the response is that comes up inside of you as you observe how you are when things feel mismatched, conflicted, confusing, what if you could still rest back in yourself, returning to your innate. Wholeness, loveness trust. Take a breath and really absorb that and picture whatever the scenario was that you came into this podcast episode. Reflecting on as far as imposter syndrome, and you'll notice then much more clearly what the story was that you had about yourself. In what ways you had made the way this person or circumstance responded to you personal to do with you, and I want you to see if as you picture that you can feel for a different response in you that naturally comes when you stay in this space of whole loving trust when you stay magnanimous. When you stay peaceful, open, and yet secure, this is the quality of secure attachment. To know that it's saved, to know that it's good to know that we are good to know that there's nothing to prove. Imposter syndrome is nothing else than desiring to prove in order to be loved. So I want you to really take a breath in and ask yourself, as I move into 2026, could I let that go? And instead, could curiosity and exploration come in? I want you to take another few moments and few breaths just to be here with this. And then when you're ready, connect to whatever vulnerable part was or is inside of you that most deeply felt that quality of not belonging, not being enough and inside of yourself. I want you to connect with that part and if it's willing, and if you are willing, come into, um, gentle embrace of this within you. Deepen and broaden your own self-care, your own self connection. Feel what intimacy truly is. It's not about the other person. It's about how deeply you allow yourself to be seen and held to be received, and you can't be received by another until you're willing to receive yourself. Give yourself one more moment here, just in relative privacy, and then know that there will be an invitation soon. When you're ready to peel, open your eyes to take a gentle stretch, to deepen your breath, to come back into your lived environment. And I want you to observe where could I use this? When might I listen to this audio again? When might I play with some of the reflections that were asked in the first part of the episode? And set yourself a goal. And if you can make yourself accountable for that goal by sharing it with another person, or even sharing this episode with another person that you think might benefit the intention of these particularly solos, although also with the interviews. It is to really give something of value to your journey. And so the more you can share this, the better from that perspective, the more we seed all of these inquiries and opportunities to self-heal.'cause we do have that power much more than we think. And so gorgeous creatures gonna leave you there for this evening. And I'm gonna let you know that we will have two more solos before the unveiling of season eight with a whole new title for the podcast, a whole new brand. A whole new suite of incredible speakers. It's a really, really beautiful juicy time for us as a broadcast. There is an incredible, diverse, stunning environment of podcasting to be involved in right now. It's an amazing space to be in, and of course, The stronger podcasting becomes, the more imperative it becomes that we really rise to meet the growth in audiences, the growth in need to really serve you guys and know that that is my deepest and most profound commitment. If you have loved this or if you have enjoyed any of our previous episode, please, please make sure that you follow or subscribe. You'll find us on Apple, on Spotify, soon to be on YouTube and a whole suite of other distribution channels. Your support means so much to us. If you have questions, please, please, please direct them to the team. Our address is info@ab-embodimentcoach.org. Uh, you'll find me on Instagram at abco embodiment. I love hearing from you guys in all of the ways, so just reach out if there are particular questions that you have, or niggly issues that you're facing, or you want to move deeper into one-to-one support. You know where to find me. And the other thing I will tease you with is that we have finalized our stunning retreat venue for summer 2026. It is going to be the most gorgeous, private, exclusive opportunity nestled into the waterside of France. It's gonna be absolutely gorgeous, uh, deep immersive. Uh.. No holds bars, no phones allowed. Really, really nourishing, nurturing space for a very small group of women. If that sounds like your bag, it is not currently on public sale, which means that if you send me a little message, I will make sure that our team reach out to you to let you know when the wait list opens and to arrange your interview to see if it might be the right thing for you. I send you so much love and I can't wait to connect with you probably before the turning of 2026, and if not, then definitely on the other side.
Anthea:Gorgeous listeners. I hope. You enjoy today's. today's. episode. To find. More about our. Featured guests. Have a look in the show. Notes.