Beyond Affairs
Building strong marriages and relationships after infidelity is our profession. We help you cope with a spouse's affair and betrayal, while giving you the tools to learn how to heal and find forgiveness.
Episodes
83 episodes
Staying Positive in Affair Recovery When Everything Feels Broken
In this conversation, Brian sits down with longtime friend Tom to talk about one of the hardest parts of affair recovery: staying hopeful when healing feels painfully slow.Tom shares his story of living a double life for nearly 18 years,...
The Worst Way to Discover an Affair: Digital Disclosure Explained
What happens when you don’t hear about the affair… you read it?In today’s world, many betrayed spouses are discovering infidelity through text messages, emails, photos, and synced devices, what we call digital disclosure....
Honesty Is the Bare Minimum...And It’s Not Saving Your Marriage
“I just need you to be honest.” It’s one of the most common phrases after betrayal, but it often leaves couples stuck. Brian, Anne, and Tiffanie reveal why honesty is only part of the equation, and why transparency is what truly hea...
From Healing to Victory: 4 Traits Every Woman Needs
Brian Bercht shares a unique perspective after attending Anne’s Victorious Woman Conference—not as a participant, but as an observer. What he witnessed was powerful.Across different ages, backgrounds, and stages of healing, these women d...
From Devastation to Hope: Real Stories of Affair Recovery
In this throwback Anne talks with Melissa and Nancy about their stories of recovery. You’ll hear from two courageous women, who are in different stages of their journey. From the shock and chaos of early discovery to the slow, intentional steps...
Can You Be Wise?
After betrayal, every conversation can feel like a landmine.What do I say? What shouldn’t I say? And how do I respond when emotions take over?In this episode, Anne dives into what true wisdom looks like, and how it can compl...
It’s Not Optional: Why Every Husband Needs to Date His Wife Again
In this episode, Brian Bercht speaks directly to husbands about the importance of dating your wife again. Not as a quick fix, but as a powerful way to support healing, rebuild connection, and restore emotional closeness.You’ll learn why ...
Affair Recovery: How to Forgive Yourself After Infidelity
Forgiving yourself after an affair can feel impossible. But staying stuck in shame may be holding back real healing.Brian explores what self-forgiveness actually means in affair recovery, why self-punishment doesn’t lead to change, and h...
Before the Affair, I Would’ve Left. Here’s Why I Didn’t.
I meant it when I said I’d leave if my husband ever cheated.But when it actually happened, I found myself making a very different decision—and in this episode, I’m sharing why.Find out what really mattered to me in those early day...
Beyond the Surface: The Power of Soulful Connection
While it may seem that women connect easily, Anne pulls back the curtain on the "hidden" pressures women face...from the mental load of financial security to the struggle of finding a true "nothing box" to de-stress. They explore why many women...
How to Encourage Your Man When It Feels Like He Isn't Doing Enough
In this episode, Brian explores a powerful framework for understanding whether the struggle is a me issue, we issue, or he issue, and why couples who want the same goal (full healing and peace) often approach it in very different ways....
From Betrayal to Breakthrough: 4 Spouses Share Their Healing Journey
In this special Beyond Affairs throwback, Anne Bercht explores the question so many betrayed partners ask: How long does it really take to heal from an affair? She breaks down the phases of recovery and shares why healing isn’t a fixed...
Rebuilding Trust - From A Man's Perspective
Brian Bercht speaks directly to men working to rebuild trust after betrayal. Drawing from over 20 years of helping couples recover from infidelity, he reveals why trust often starts below zero, the mistakes men commonly make, and what it really...
Position vs Character
In this episode, Brian Bercht introduces a foundational recovery principle: separating the position the affair partner played from their character as a person. When character and behavior get confused, healing conversations turn defensiv...
Anger - From a Man's Perspective Part 4
In this fourth installment of Anger From a Man’s Perspective, Brian Bercht addresses a powerful and common question from a wife navigating betrayal recovery: “If he’s trying to clean up his act, why does he still walk around with a...
Anger - From a Man's Perspective Part 3
Do men truly realize the impact their anger has on their wives? And if they don’t, what do they actually believe about their anger and its effects?In this episode, Brian dives straight into a listener question that explores the often-mis...
Anger - From a Man's Perspective Part 2
In this second installment on anger from a man’s perspective, Brian continues the conversation by discussing the beliefs, behaviors, and biological differences that often shape how men experience and express anger.This episode div...
Anger - From a Man's Perspective Part 1
Brian gets real, raw, and honest about anger and how it can show up in a man's life. "My anger was responsible for some horrible actions resulting in damage to either individuals or property. The impact of these behaviors often but...
Dealing with Discouragements
Discouragement is an inevitable part of healing, especially after betrayal. In this episode, Brian sits down with Anne to talk openly about discouragements during their affair recovery.Sharing from their own painful journey, and over 20 ...
Hope for the New Year
What are the keys to success? In today's episode Anne and Tiffanie walk through 8 Keys to having success in life...especially after your life has been turned upside down by an affair. They revisit their own stories of devastation as...
Christmas Podcast Part 2
Jordan, a Pastor’s wife, is going through her first Christmas now as a single mom, post-affair. She honestly shares the struggles, what her church did right to support her, and the many strategies that have helped her to heal. She tells us she ...
Christmas Podcast Part 1
Encouragement for the holidays when infidelity has rocked your reality - Part 1A couple, Greg & Daphne, share their story of reconciliation & redemption, how they made it through that first Christmas. What were the struggles? Wha...
Questions You've Asked
In today’s episode, we answer questions from our listeners about healing after infidelity, and navigating the painful realities of betrayal trauma in marriage.Join Anne and Brian as they share expert guidance on some common...
The Role of the Unfaithful in Healing
What can the person who acted unfaithfully do to help their spouse feel? Where do they start? What's a betrayed spouse looking for in healing? In today's episode we dive into what the unfaithful spouse can do to help the brokenhearted spouse he...
How to Help Him Hear You Again
Why does he still get defensive, even after months or years of healing? In this episode, Brian and Tiffanie break down the hidden reasons men struggle to hear feedback after betrayal, and what actually helps them respond with openness instead o...