The Hardcore Therapist 71.5- Love Mapping and Connecting on Intimacy

This episode answers questions about connecting a growing intimacy. 

Love Map Worksheet

Introduction

A Love Map is your knowledge of your partner’s inner world—their likes, dislikes, fears, dreams, and daily experiences. Keeping your Love Map updated strengthens emotional intimacy and helps partners feel truly known and understood.

Instructions:

• Take turns asking and answering the following questions.
• Be curious and open—this is about understanding, not fixing.
• If you’re unsure of an answer, guess and discuss.
• Use this worksheet regularly to deepen your connection.

Love Map Questions

Fun & Lighthearted

1. What’s my favorite way to relax?
2. Who is my closest friend right now?
3. What is my dream vacation?
4. What’s my favorite meal or comfort food?
5. What’s a TV show or movie I love?
6. What’s a hobby or activity that makes me happy?
7. What’s my ideal way to spend a weekend?
8. What’s one of my favorite childhood memories?
9. If I could have dinner with any celebrity, who would it be?
10. What is my favorite holiday or tradition?

Daily Life & Preferences

1. What is something small that makes my day better?
2. Do I prefer morning or night?
3. How do I like to celebrate special occasions?
4. What’s my go-to comfort item (blanket, snack, etc.)?
5. What’s a small gesture that makes me feel loved?
6. What’s my favorite way to spend a lazy day?
7. What’s my favorite type of music or artist?
8. What’s my favorite kind of weather?
9. What’s my favorite type of dessert?
10. What’s one thing I do daily that brings me joy?

Emotional & Deepening Connection

1. What is something I’m stressed about right now?
2. What’s a personal goal I have for the next year?
3. What’s one of my biggest fears?
4. What’s something I dream of doing but haven’t yet?
5. How do I feel most supported by you?
6. How do I handle stress, and what helps me cope?
7. What’s one thing that instantly makes me feel better when I’m down?
8. What’s something I’ve been struggling with lately?
9. What’s a recent accomplishment I’m proud of?
10. How do I define happiness in my life?

Love & Relationship

1. What’s my love language? (Physical touch, words of affirmation, acts of service, gifts, quality time)
2. What’s one of my favorite memories of us?
3. How do I feel most connected to you?
4. What’s a small thing you do that makes me feel loved?
5. How do I like to receive apologies?
6. What’s a romantic gesture that means a lot to me?
7. What’s one way we could improve our relationship?
8. What’s something I admire about you?
9. What’s a new experience I’d love to share with you?
10. What does intimacy mean to me?

Reflection & Next Steps

• Were any answers surprising?
• Are there areas where your Love Map needs updating?
• Choose one question to revisit in-depth for your next conversation.
• Make Love Mapping a habit—revisit this worksheet monthly or during date nights!

Bonus Activity: Create a Love Map journal where you write down new discoveries about each other over time!

Love is built on knowing and growing together. Keep mapping your love!