The Hardcore Therapist 97.5- The 80/20 Trap being with an Emotionally Unavailable

Today, we’re diving into a relationship pattern that so many of my clients — and honestly, me in my past life too — have found themselves stuck in. It’s being with someone who is emotionally unavailable… and somehow finding yourself doing 80% of the work to hold things together while they coast at 20%.

Now, if you’ve ever been the one chasing texts, planning dates, initiating deep talks, and being the emotional glue… only to realize they’re just kind of along for the ride… this is going to hit home for you.

And here’s the thing — this pattern isn’t just about them. It’s also about why you stay, why you keep over-functioning, and what needs to shift so you don’t get pulled into it again. So today, I’m breaking down the signs of emotional unavailability, why we fall into the 80/20 trap, and what you can start doing differently… starting now