The Hardcore Therapist 102.5- Why Repair After Conflict Matters More Than The Confict?

Conflict in relationships is unavoidable — but what really determines the health and longevity of a partnership isn’t the fight itself, it’s how we come back together afterward. In this episode of The Hardcore Therapist Podcast, we explore why repair after conflict often matters more than the conflict itself.

Drawing on the work of John Gottman, Sue Johnson, and Harville Hendrix, we dig into the science of repair attempts, attachment theory, and how conflict can actually become a doorway to deeper intimacy and healing. You’ll learn practical tools for repairing after arguments, from CBT reframes to emotionally focused strategies, and we’ll unpack what happens when couples avoid repair altogether.

If you’ve ever worried that conflict means your relationship is failing, this episode will shift your perspective: fights don’t break relationships, disconnection does. Repair is where love, trust, and resilience are built.

Mentioned in this episode:

• The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman
  
  
  
• Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson
  
  
  
• Getting the Love You Want by Harville Hendrix