127. Time to Come Out of the Cocoon

Last week, we honored winter.

We talked about rest. About not forcing growth. About calming your nervous system so your body feels safe.

But here’s the truth: you can’t stay under the blanket forever.

At some point, you emerge.

In this episode, we talk about the shift from conservation to mobilization — what’s happening biologically as light increases, energy rises, and your body prepares for activation. But more importantly, we talk about the psychology that keeps you stuck:

“I’ll start later.”
“Who cares.”
“I just don’t feel motivated.”

Waiting for motivation delays momentum. Emergence isn’t emotional — it’s decided.

You don’t explode into spring.
You prepare for it.

Inside this episode, I’ll walk you through:

• Why comfort and growth cannot coexist long term
• How “later” is often fear disguised as patience
• Why action creates motivation (not the other way around)
• How to plan your spring intentionally with one simple anchor

Spring is coming either way.

The question is: will you drift into it — or decide into it?

🌱 The Spring Reset Challenge starts April 1st. This is structured emergence — accountability, support, and intentional planning so you don’t white-knuckle your way into summer.

Join us here:
www.sugarfreemd.com/springchallenge26

You honored winter.

Now we move.

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Transcript

Hey everybody, welcome back to the podcast. Last week we talked about winter, okay, and a little bit of rest and about not forcing growth. It was about honoring the season that we were in, right? Like winter, things slow down. That's okay. I wanted you to really release the judgment of that. And I meant it. Seasons where we push harder are there, and seasons where we don't are there, and it's fine. These are seasons our nervous system needs, okay?

The more safe we can make our bodies feel, the easier it is to lose weight, okay? So if you're like, why does she keep talking about this and our nervous system? This is why. Think about it. If you are in fight or flight, do you think your body wants to drop weight? No.

It does not. That is not safe, right? If we're running from our cave and we need to find new lodging, we might not find food anytime soon. So dropping weight is not even smart or safe. It makes sense that our brain thinks that. So the calmer we can make ourselves and the calmer we can make our nervous system, the easier it is to lose weight. I think it's good just for our overall health. It's not really great to be running around super stressed out all the time in fight or flight.

So we want to just recognize that if we don't honor these seasons, we can really mess with that whole system. So by honoring the season where we need it to slow down, now our body can be calm and we can start making plans, okay?

Sometimes winter turns into hiding, though.

Right? So instead of slowing down, we're hiding. We get under that nice electric blanket. It's nice and cozy, right? And that becomes the place we stay. So at some point we have to ask ourselves, am I ready to emerge? Am I ready to come back out? Or am I gonna stay in this blanket forever? You know I love butterflies, right?

We have to come out of the cocoon at some point. But what we can do during this time is be mindful and make the decisions ourselves instead of being forced out, right? Again, forced out doesn't feel very safe, does it? But if we make some good choices and we make some decisions, we can honor winter, thank our body for keeping us safe and for preparing us and getting ready for what we need to do in spring.

And then we can decide how we want to emerge out of this cocoon, because we have to come out. You can't stay under the blanket forever, okay? So we're either gonna drift into it or we're gonna decide into it. And I love being in control of my thoughts and my actions. So I think we should decide into spring. We should decide how we're gonna come out of that cocoon. We should decide how we're gonna emerge out of that soil.

Let's zoom out a minute. We'll talk about our bodies and what is happening, right? Our body responds to light, just like we talked about last time. So as we start to get brighter days—so all my friends in the Northeast understand what I'm talking about, right? The sun technically is out, but it's really gray, right? But spring and summer, it's bright. It's real sun, right? Then we get some longer daytime hours and increased light exposure.

And that's really good for us, right? Now we're shifting back our sleep pattern, our circadian rhythm, our melatonin. We're shifting back into more energy. So our light is now increasing. We're increasing our serotonin. We're increasing our mood stability. We are increasing our alertness, and it nudges activity upward, right? Just like the little plant coming out of the soil. Everything's being nudged up, nudged into movement.

Our body is wired for seasonal activation. So we can be ready for it. If we fight it, that's a different story. But that's why we're gonna decide into spring, okay? So winter was our conservation, and now spring is our mobilization, okay? We rested and restored and cuddled up, and everything was wonderful. And now we're gonna get ready to move a little bit and emerge and sprout, okay?

This creates opportunity for us. If we acknowledge this is what's happening and we listen to our body, our body's gonna feel a little bit more capable maybe. But this increase in momentum and motivation requires decision. And that's where most of us get stuck, right?

We're in this really old diet mentality where whatever we decided about our weight or our body in January kind of fell off during this winter slump, and we've quit. And we don't even consider that we still get to make some powerful decisions going into April. Or we wait even a little bit longer and then, my gosh, summer's here and I'm not ready. And we go into this crazy super deprivation, over-restrictive punishing thing, trying to build something in a day.

And that's not how sustainable things are built, right? If things are gonna last, they need to be built a little bit slower.

When we have thoughts this time of year like, I'll do it later—especially if spring has not really sprung yet and we're still kind of in the dregs of winter—it’s hard, right? Because we know our motivation's a little bit low. So we can have thoughts like, I'll start later. Or once things calm down. Or after this. Or after school gets out. Or when it's sunny out. Or just, I just don't feel like it. I'm still feeling a little blah. I really like being under my blankie. I'm not ready to get out.

All those thoughts sound harmless, but let's look at them.

"I'll start later" is advanced quitting ahead of time disguised as patience, right? On the surface, we think we're being gentle. We're being patient. But underneath it's, I don't really wanna start because what if I fail? So I'll say I'll start later so I can fail ahead of time and don't even have to start.

"Who cares?" Underneath that is discouragement. That's our brain saying we're gonna say that so we don't start because we're afraid to fail.

"I don't feel motivated." That might be true, but it's not complete. The motivation might be there, but we're afraid to tap into it because we don't wanna fail again. It's all fear of failure.

If we let that go, you can see what a different place we'd be in.

If we think things like, I'll give it a try or I'll do a little bit, then we act. And when we act, we get motivated.

Everyone thinks motivation happens and then action happens. Technically by thoughts, feelings, actions, sure. A feeling drives our action. But what happens when we act, even if we don't want to, and then we see a result? That thought gets much more motivating.

That thought of, it's working. Now I'm feeling super motivated. So maybe we get a tiny baby motivation, not real big motivation, but enough to act. Then we see results, and that motivation grows.

If we don't try, we don't risk failing. All of those thoughts—I'll wait, who cares—that's failing ahead of time so we don't risk failing. That's comfortable. Even if it's not comfortable in our body, emotionally it feels safer because we don't have to risk shame.

Comfort is not the same as growth. We have to be uncomfortable to grow.

We're not exploding into spring. We acknowledge winter. We forgive it. We decide into spring and start small actions. We don't go from seed to flower overnight. We don't go from caterpillar to butterfly immediately. We start small actions. It requires deciding and then action.

Let's talk about forgiving winter.

Whatever happened before today doesn't matter. Today we get to decide what spring looks like. If we let go of everything from yesterday, it's much lighter and easier to start. I love easy.

If I bring all that baggage from winter—I'm lazy, I didn't exercise enough, I ate comfort food—spring becomes harder because now I'm emerging from shame. That's not sustainable.

So let it go. Whatever happened up until today was perfect because it brought you to today.

Today we decide how we're going to start emerging.

This is not dramatic. Maybe the dramatic piece is letting go of yesterday.

Ask yourself: What do I need to give myself to be my best self come summer? What soil do I need? What nutrients?

Maybe it's picking one anchor habit and building on it.

Maybe you add better protein.
Maybe you add a 10-minute walk after dinner.
Maybe you fill your water bottle every night.

Consistency builds identity faster than intensity.

Maybe you declutter one drawer instead of the whole house.

It's structured emergence.

At some point we decide, not because we're ready, but because staying in the cocoon isn't serving us.

Comfort is useful, but if we stay there, we don't grow. Growth requires discomfort.

You have to decide to come out first. Then decide what you need to make it successful.

And you don't need to do it alone.

Our spring challenge is open. This is the last week because we start April 1st. We'll go over all of this more. You'll have accountability. Amazing guest coaches. It's going to be so much fun.

Come join the challenge. Or find a friend. Or do both.

We can't stay under the blanket all year. We cannot be comfortable and grow. It is time to decide our way into spring. It's coming either way.

You're gonna have to get out of the blanket anyway.

So let's take control of it and do it on our terms.

To sign up: www.sugarfreemd.com/springchallenge26

I’ll make sure it's in the show notes.

Can't wait to talk to you next week. Bye.