Karin Walker - Family Lawyer - How to leave a Narcissist - the Practical Podcast
The term 'Narcissism' has been used increasingly to describe someone who is 'difficult' or 'unpleasant' - who treats other people badly. Narcissism is however a very real condition. Those who suffer from narcissistic personality disorder are very low in empathy and therefore particularly bad at maintaining long term personal relationships. As a consequence, those who work with couples who are separating are much more likely to encounter this particular pattern of behaviour during the work that they do. And it is most definitely a pattern, which, when properly understood is quite easily identifiable. Once identified it becomes possible to plan a strategy intended to minimise the impact of narcissistic abuse and achieve an outcome based upon informed decisions.
Taking the step to leave a toxic, abusive relationship requires a great deal of courage and support. It is vital to understand exactly what you are facing. You need to recognise that a narcissist is not likely to ever change. The only thing you can change is your reaction to their behaviour.
Family Lawyer, Karin Walker and her guests, all experts in their field, talk through the various issues you need to consider with numerous practical tips and pointers, providing invaluable help at an extremely difficult time in your life.
Karin Walker - Family Lawyer - How to leave a Narcissist - the Practical Podcast
How to prepare yourself for Court as a Litigant in Person (LIP) - a discussion with Richard Uridge
As we know, Narcissists thrive on the drama of the courtroom - especially post separation. When they are low on 'narcissistic supply' they are likely to try to take you back to court - especially in connection with child arrangements (particularly in the run up to Christmas) or ongoing financial support - the purpose being to cause maximum upset and distress, and, of course, to try to force you to incur further legal cost.
Many people in this situation have no choice other than to represent themselves - a prospect which can be daunting to the point of terrifying.
In this podcast Richard Uridge discusses how to represent yourself in this situation to your best advantage - removing the 'fear factor' and providing 'top tips' to help you focus on achieving the best possible outcome.
Richard is a poet, journalist and broadcaster I Media and presentation skills trainer.
Richard's fascination with the business of presenting can be tracked back to an unfortunate incident involving a toilet window and a bed of nettles! Spectacularly misjudging an after-dinner speech he had been asked to give (and spectacularly misjudging the strength of the complimentary wine), he decided leaving through the window during a drinks break was a safer option than ploughing on. And so it would have been but for the stingers lurking the other side of the frosted glass.
He learned from his mistake (research the audience, don't drink, always carry a pair of leather gardening gloves) but never quite escaped his rural roots and went on to present programmes such as Farming Today and Open Country on BBC Radio 4. His audiences as a broadcaster regularly topped the million mark although he'd be the first to concede that a live presentation to an audience a fraction of that size is way more nerve-wracking when they are in the same room.
Richard has been passionate about communication - and words in particular - since he landed a job as a cub reporter on the Reading Chronicle in the days of inky-ribboned typewriters and hot metal printing presses. He writes about it at blog.acmtraining.co.uk. And e stands up and talks about it at every opportunity, chairing conferences, giving speeches, contributing to podcasts like this one and, of course, delivering training.
These days, though the typewriter has been pensioned off, his fascination with words continues through his poetry which you can read at richarduridge.com
This podcast is equally informative for Litigants in Person and legal representatives.